FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What is an empath?
Every empath was born with an ability to directly experience the truth of what it is like to be a person other than oneself. You could call that "otherness."
I estimate that 1 in 20 people has at least one significant, trainable gift as an empath.
So being an empath isn't necessarily emotional?Correct. Important!
Depending on the nature of your empath gift, it’s an opportunity for certain kinds of knowledge, wisdom and service. The most common gifts are Emotional, Physical, Intellectual and Spiritual. Often an empath will have multiple gifts.
What difference does it make for an empath, whether you are skilled or not?
It can make a significant life-changing difference, when you make the leap from a natural empath to a skilled empath.
Every empath is wired with your gift(s) active since birth. It’s a kind of neuro-physiological wiring comparable to your IQ or sexuality.
Have you heard of Highly Sensitive Persons? (HSPs) About 1 in 5 Americans is an HSP, while 1 in 20 is an empath.
This kind of inner wiring is not a choice, any more than your being right or left handed, the color of your eyes, your sexual orientation. Being born as an empath is a really wonderful thing.
Wonderful though it is, having even one gift as an empath, there’s one catch. It seems that the only way God can make you an empath is for your talent to be turned on from birth. Learning to turn your gift OFF, or adjust the intensity of it, is where skill comes in.
So, to put it bluntly, if you are not yet trained as an empath, and are instead what I call "merely talented but not yet skilled," you are bound to suffer.
Every day of your life, whether you want to or not, an unskilled empath will take on STUFF from other people (fear, pain, depression, etc.), take it into your aura where it will hang around for an indefinite period of time.
This doesn't happen consciously but it still happens, which is why every unskilled empath suffers. I would love to help you to change that.
On a regular basis, I receive thank yous about what a life-changing difference it can make, becoming a skilled empath.
Whatwould I be able to do differently as a skilled empath?
You gain the ability to turn your empathy OFF at will. Then, you can use specific techniques to turn your gift ON, also at will, usually a great deal stronger than ever before. The insights and service available to you are often described as uncanny.
As noted in Empowered by Empathy, “The desire to have control over empathy is healthy. Just because you have an empathic gift doesn’t mean you must be a slave to it, on call 24/7. The solution is to learn to use empathy in a way that empowers you.”
On a regular basis, I receive thank you’s that illustrate the difference it makes, becoming a skilled empath.
For example, from a reader of Empowered by Empathy:
“For the first time, someone has spoken to me of my gift as a true strength, not a weakness. That affirmation has centered me back in myself in a way that nothing has ever done before. Your book has stood me up, honored me, given my abilities value, esteemed my deepest self.”
Another example comes from a student who took an adult ed. course, of the kind I have taught in public schools over the last decade through Fairfax County Adult Education:
“She’s the most outstanding
teacher I’ve had and that’s in high school, college and graduate school.”
How can I tell if I'm an empath?
An entire chapter of my book, Empowered by Empathy, is designed to help you assess your abilities. For a less comprehensive but quick, practical way to tell, ask yourself these questions:
If at least one of these statements is true, there’s a good chance that you’re an empath.
Is there any objective way to tell if I'm an empath?
Since your aura shows gifts of your soul, an additional way to receive feedback is to have your aura read by someone who understands empathic abilities.
You might request a personal session of Aura Transformation which can provide feedback about your gifts as an empath.
How can you teach me to protect and shield myself?
If you're seeking skill as an empath, you might have tried to put up a wall against others. And you will find teachers who tell you that is all you need.
I couldn't disagree more. What will you really accomplish with putting up an "invisible armor" or other protection?
I really sympathize when a suffering empath wants to just "fix the problem," but walls are not really a solution. It's no coincidence that people who advocate walls and shielding are not yet able to do aura reading.
If you CAN do aura reading, you can literally perceive a wall, then the STUFF inside.
What's the alternative? I recommend skills to help you to wake up from inside, be yourself better, feel more alive, become more present to your life.
It’s far easier to become skilled as an empath, than to remain unskilled. It's easier to spend five minutes a day, doing the Coming Home technique, using the First Aid affirmation as appropriate, understanding your gift(s), developing flexibility in how you hold a space.
Yes, once you learn my method of Empath Empowerment®, it takes very little time every day to protect yourself. And nothing you do will make you seem phony to others.
Rose, what is your opinion of protecting yourself as an empath by avoiding psychic vampires, narcissists, psychic attack?
Glad you asked! Anyone, empath or not, would be wise to recognize troublesome people and avoid them whenever possible.
Dr. Judith Orloff has really done people a service by pointing out these dangers, and it's not surprising to me that she does this as someone who DOES aura reading. Qualities like being a narcissist really do show in an aura.
In fact, you might enjoy reading my blog, Deeper Perception Made Practical, where there are many conversations about narcissists, psychic vampires, etc. (Use the SEARCH button on the top of the left-most column. And you do not have to do anything complicated, like signing up to read my blog or add coments. Just click on the link and go.)
However, becoming skilled as an empath is not about blaming other people ("Oh, my problems all come from that horrible psychic vampire.") or avoiding them. Let me show you how to wake up as a person, having more joy and strength.
Empowered by Empathy gives you a specific skill set that you can use to, well, empower yourself as an empath.
What if you still don't want to be an empath? Can you teach me how to get rid of it?
No. Nobody can, really. But is that really such a bad thing?
By analogy, let’s say that you have world-class taste buds—call it being a “natural foodie”. Until you know better, you might go through life feeling terrible about your refined palate. Imagine, you might complain to your friends, “I’m so spoiled, I suffer whenever I eat anything but the most exquisitely prepared gourmet food.” (Or the friends might complain about you!)
Comparable to wishing you weren’t empathic, you might decide, “Being finicky is awful. A normal person likes ketchup and fries.” And maybe you’d experiment by dumbing down your food choices. Would you be doing yourself justice that way?
What I suggests, as a teacher to you as an empath, is like telling the natural foodie, “Let me help you to fine-tune how you taste food, so that in some situations you’ll taste less acutely but enjoy other aspects of the meal more intensely.
"I’ll also help you to connect with other people who are foodies—because there are probably more of them than you realize; but a lot of them are in hiding, just as you have been. Finally, I’ll share some techniques you can use to take your flavor appreciation to new heights.”
That’s comparable to what happens when you become a skilled empath.
Is developing Emotional Intelligence, as described by Daniel Goleman, the same thing as becoming a skilled empath?
Not remotely. Emotional intelligence involves a kind of self-awareness about feelings, plus the ability to understand that other people also have feelings.
Although this is a good kind of training, being an empath (real
talent as an
empath) is an experience of true otherness. To quote from Empowered by
What is the highest level of training available from Rose if I would like to gain professional-level skills?
That would be my program called Mentoring in Rosetree Energy Spirituality.