Anger Management Opportunity, GUEST POST by Dianne
November 28th, 2007 by Rose Rosetree
Blog-Buddies, Dianne Eppler-Adams reads life deeper from a huge vantage point, the solar system. Yes, she’s an astrologer.
Dianne, pictured here, has guest posted here before. This time her inspiration was how Mars went retrograde (optical illusion from earth) in Nov 15. You may have already started to experience what she discusses in this Guest Post. Since this retrograde period lasts for 2 ½ months, her advice may help you now and for several weeks to come.
The “Red” planet, Mars, rules over ambition and action as well as conflict and aggression so there is a good news/bad news aspect to how it works.
In retrograde motion, we can expect less forward momentum or vitality, unexpected obstacles and resistance to our moves, unclear direction and goals, and actions having unintended outcomes or none at all. Frustration and anger are likely responses to such challenges.
Also, when Mars is retrograde we have an opportunity to revisit key moments of personal history when we felt blocked and helpless. Since Mars is reversing in Cancer and returning to Gemini, the issues revisited are likely to involve family and siblings particularly. Did your older brother push you around? Is your sister always emphasizing your failures? Or perhaps Dad dissuaded you from becoming who you wanted to be.
From mid-November to the end of January is your opportunity to both release the anger of the past and find new ways to deal with anger-causing events that might come up.
Either kind of anger is unhealthy and can cause potentially serious physical ailments - not for the person you are angry at, but for you if you have held this emotion in too long. The adrenal gland, designed to provide us instant energy under “fight or flight” situations, continues to flood your body with hormones when you hold onto your anger. Through time, it results in loss of energy and fatigue. Ask me. I know about this one.
A good strategy for using this time beneficially is to allow yourself to enter a time for downshifting from your driven lifestyle. Caution, thoughtfulness, and patience will help you accomplish any necessary activities. Delay the start of any new projects into February, making use of the intervening time for planning.
Then, consider any stored resentments or past angers with the idea that forgiveness and letting go is in your best interests. Revisit old friends or networks that may have fallen away due to petty disputes. You may be able to reduce the emotional charge that was left inside you, even if you discover nothing in common anymore.
If you feel your temperature rise or find yourself blocked and frustrated, don’t force matters. Defuse, relax and ponder whether what you are fired up about is really worth the energy. It just might not be the time to act.
When February rolls around, it will be the time for launching new initiatives, but not now. Join me in recognizing the gift of Mars retrograde - a time to downshift your energy and clear up the damage from the angry past, a time for anger management and resolution.
“Anger is a normal emotion if it is expressed when felt. Then it is over with. If one keeps a lid on it, it develops into resentment or hate. Sooner or later, resentment and hate explode, destroying others, or they are held in, destroying oneself.”—Bernie Siegel, Love, Medicine & Miracles
Hi, Dianne! This morning I was just re-listening to the reading you gave me last winter, and was getting lots of chills!
When you say, “Revisit old friends or networks,” do you suggest literally? Can Rose’s cutting cords process be done for groups which, as a whole, left us with a bad collective taste?
Thank you for submitting this guest post. I have not formally studied astrology yet, but I have learned a little about it here and there, and articles like this one are informative and increase my interest.
A question: How often are we in retrograde periods? Most of the year? Only a few months? Are some years filled with retrograde periods much more than others?
Although I do not fully understand most of the aspects of Astrology, what is said here helps greatly to understand the major unexpected and incredible shift that happened in my life recently, and the events do trigger much anger and resentment.
The situation revolves around a family issue that was not expected and does hurt to an extent of wanting to give up on the situation, although I struggle back and forth with it.
I do know that when an event or crisis comes about in your life over and over it is looking for a more positive action in dealing with it, and so this reinforces my attempts at utilizing as much patience as possible but also expressing and standing up for what I believe in, but in a positive constructive way.