Side Effects from Cutting Cords? Guest Post Dialogue
November 30th, 2007 by Rose RosetreeBlog-Buddies, I’m posting a series of interesting questions from “Mitzi” related to cutting cords of attachment. Originally, she sent one long post with a few parts to it. For clarity, I’ll respond with a comment, then post her next chunk of question like a comment, and so forth. I’m calling it GUEST POST DIALOGUE.
After this series of alternating comments, YOU will be invited to add your comments.
I hope this makes sense. I’m still learning how to use this communication tool called “blog.”
MITZI: I just found out about something that happened that I think must be related to one of our cord cuttings and wanted to run it by you.
You may or may not remember that in cutting the cord to my mother in October, the first cord item was ‘burning emotional pain’ and probably physical pain.
I’d been on the receiving end of a lot of that, along with all the other cord items that we snipped. I have been so relieved to not have that going on any more!
ROSE: Yes, sometimes physical healing is a side effect of cutting a cord of attachment. Congratulations.
BTW, when you refer to “cord items that were snipped,” I want to clarify for the sake of you Blog-Buddies who haven’t had a personal session with me or read “Cut Cords of Attachment.”
Just one cord was cut, but (like any significant cord) it contained a complex energy pattern.
My 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment includes researching these “cord items” and discussing them with the client for validation and discussing logical consequences of removing a particular cord.
MITZI: Well, the other day, my mother finally called the doctor after experiencing pressure on her chest for what she described as a few months. They put her in the hospital overnight for all kinds of tests, which she passed. Her arteries are basically fine and they sent her home.
I’m wondering if this is in part a response/reaction to the cord cutting.
To me, the whole thing smacks of an energy shift and eruption of the anxiety that she so often feels.
ROSE: When someone carries a lot of anxiety, it does erupt from time to time. To me, this sounds like the real cause of your mother’s experience.
Is there a connection between your removing the cord and having your mother feel worse?
Theoretically, this is possible, because everyone on earth is inter-related. However, I’m skeptical that this would happen. My reasons are:
(1) As someone who does a lot of healing with Energy Spirituality sessions that the other person, the “cordee,” doesn’t usually have a reaction.
(2) In addition, when I co-created the 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment, I was given the understanding that, due to Divine Homeostasis (a term introduced in the book), the cordee is not significantly changed during the process and, in fact, isn’t ever harmed. Period.
Personally, I also feel it is crazy making to start thinking that way. One could also investigate the effect of breathing on another person, or the sociological effects of eating meals with another person, etc.
One could. I wouldn’t.
MITZI: I spoke with her cousin about some of the details of the experience my mother had. I’m sure there’ s a huge cord running between the two of them, which makes it tough to sort through.
I won’t bore you with all the details. Partly, I also wanted to simply connect with a kindred spirit who gets the energy realm in this type of situation.
ROSE: Yes, of course there would be a huge cord. Still, I avoid speculating on other people’s cords, personally.
If a client asks me to facilitate healing, then I use the 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment and find out for sure what is in the cord. Then helping is involved, rather than adding more theory to life.
If you’re like me, you already have enough theories and topics for speculation. So it isn’t terribly helpful to pile them on voluntarily.
Connecting with a kindred spirit, though? Always a good choice.
MITZI: It is so incredibly challenging to try to talk to people who are so shut down emotionally, never mind not getting the energetic realm.
The woman is obviously, to anyone with an empathetic bone in their body, an avalanche of emotional pain, but apparently the cardiologist and nurses didn’t pick up on any of this or address it.
I will be talking to her doctor in the morning. It is so difficult to deal with, knowing that other types of approaches could bring her relief, which she refuses to explore.
I am trying to sort out what I can and can’t do in the situation.
ROSE: You will, I’m convinced, sort it out more clearly because that cord was cut.
Do remember that your mother has her life, her contract for this lifetime, her own journey as a soul, her own relationship with God.
Also, in the words of the great Coletta Long, “You will always be in some body somewhere.”
Objectively sorting out what is your responsibility is one way to proceed. Noncoercive prayer is always helpful. Beyond that, I would recommend putting yourself at the center of your life and making it work for you.
I’m curious what our Blog-Buddies feel is appropriate or helpful or necessary to do. Let the wisdom of the group ring out!
To me it looks like Mitzi’s mother drained a lot of her anxiety energy onto other people via the cord(s), to avoid decompensating herself. Maybe she herself has some cords to people who forced her to do this, she could be a victim of overbearing people as well. Anyway you just refuse to play the bin for her emotional problems.
I think that one also feels much less — or not at all — what problems another person is going through once the cord to her/him is cut. In some instance a person may even ‘profit’ of the creatiity or artistry of another person via a cord to boost a lack in those talents and make real money with it.
Rose and Mitzi - I enjoyed reading the back and forth information. As one who could speculate endlessly about why others do what they do (and I have spent way too much time doing just that), it helps me to ask myself “What is MINE to do in this situation?”. Rose, your answer about Mitzi’s mom speaks just to that.
I had similar struggles with my mom and while I could theorize about the whys and wherefores, I came to see that I couldn’t force her to see what I saw. Her work was her work and mine was mine. Did we influence each other? Certainly. But that didn’t mean taking on her pain or sadness.
Cord cutting is so effective in freeing that energy up so I could use it in taking care of myself.
A significant theme in my life has been people who do little, if anything, about even simple problems in their lives. That is why in Rose’s Nov. 20 entry (http://www.rose-rosetree.com/blog/?p=109) I said I would like to see a healing book titled “Do Something About It”. The things that are discussed on Rose Rosetree’s web site fall under the umbrella of personal development, and unfortunately many people, perhaps most people, have little, if any, interest in personal development.
I believe in reincarnation. One way I deal with people who do not seem to care about improving their lives is to remember that in previous lives I could very well have been just like them. I would not be surprised if I have had lifetimes where I had victim mentalities, mostly complained instead of taking any real action, was really close-minded, and so on.
Often I find myself thinking about how others can change and what things could help them. Occasionally I will remember that I can’t change them. When I make a conscious decision to let them be who they are, I get a huge energy boost. It feels so good to make this shift!
Well, again, I talk of simplicity.
When it comes to the attachments, I had in the past ever so many! When I personally learned to remove them I felt free, and when dealing with the questions of knowing I CAN help someone, and literally getting a wall when I try, I then learned what is said here, everyone has their path.
I remain open to help those who reach out for it, (including family relationships or just others) and instead of reaching so much myself I decided that if I did not like what or how someone is doing something or going about there life, that the change happens in the mirror.
NOW I get questions like.. how do you stay so positive, and I do not know how you do it.. and so forth, then in comes more people who feel the change in me and are more likely to reach for a little bit of the light.
Wow I look at the clock on my computer.. it says 11:11.. I get that a lot!!!
*hugs* everyone!
Oh yes, master numbers/number prompts. I see those a lot, too. Entire books, web sites/pages, forums, et cetera discuss those.
MORE FROM MITZI: Mitzi is just off the phone with her mom and a good part of the discussion was a straightforward with no emotional charge or interference conversation about the hospital incident, tests the doctor is doing related to some memory loss that has been concerning, and anxiety.
It was the type of conversation that wouldn’t have happened prior to the cord cutting. I feel completely different now, even since the blog exchanges. Many thanks to you and those who have commented!
My mom believes, also, that the hospital incident was really about anxiety and that she has suffered from it for years. And she sounds open to trying some energy work to deal with it, which is a big step.
I do feel so much clearer about simply wanting to be compassionate and responsible, as the only adult child in the family to step in should something serious come up. Not codependent, but responsible, clear and direct.
It is *infinitely* easier to behave in this way without that cord in the way! And I like the experience of simply being open and direct about what I’ve observed and the energy work that has worked for me in profound ways…not pushy about it, but experimenting with ways to communicate about it that might make a difference, which seems to have happened this time.