Consumer Smarts for Choosing a Psychic
December 23rd, 2007 by Rose Rosetree
Psychics and psychologists are tied in first place as the readers I had most in mind when writing Cut Cords of Attachment.
In the part of America where I reside, grotesquely cinched in with The Bible Belt, psychics are discriminated against routinely. If I only turn on my radio, I can hear “men of God” fulminate against the dangers of psychics and astrologers. This strikes me as especially ludicrous during the Christmas season. What were those Three Wise Men who found Jesus anyway?
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Traveling salesmen?
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Wandering minstrels?
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Just maybe, maybe, astrologers?
CONSUMER SMARTS
What if you are in the market for a Wise Person?
Psychic insights can be invaluable if:
You are stuck along your path. Sometimes a psychic is the best choice for revealing possibilities.
You aren’t quite ready for healing but want to start opening up to modalities in the mind-body-spirit field. (One of my clients was in therapy for 25 years but got far better results from consulting a psychic. And that, in turn, prepared her to work with me for Energy Spirituality.)
You want motivation to develop your gifts. Psychic development is one application of innate gifts. Spiritual growth is another. Deeper Perception can help with both. (Which reminds me… I would like to put in a plug here for my upcoming Aura Reading Intensive, January 18-20. It is specifically designed to help you succeed with either motivation, or both.)
My first consumer tip for working with psychics is to scrutinize your own motivation.
When Not to See a Psychic
Broke? In desperate need of a marriage? Otherwise desperate?
Don’t turn to a psychic. Head in the opposite direction, common sense.
My most disappointing experience of 2007 was the loss of my friendship with “Celeste.” For years, I sighed when her sweet qualities offset by irresponsible behavior with money, insistence on spending beyond her lifestyle, pinning her hopes on marriage.
In my experience, men do not like being stuck with pins.
Every time I visited Celeste, her situation was worse. Before each visit was over, as a seeming afterthought, she would ask me to read her aura in the present—as close as I come to doing psychic work. Then Celeste would ask for psychic-style reassurance about her future.
Instead, I would try to move the conversation toward practical ideas, such as employment. But Celeste would have none of it. There’s a fine line between being helpful and sending out psychic coercion. Sometimes I had to hold my breath for balance, walking that line while resisting Celeste’s need for reassurance from The Other Side.
During my last visit with Celeste, America was toying with “The Secret.” To Celeste, it was a godsend, extra confirmation that she could just wish and look pretty, then have all her problems in life fixed by woo-woo. Proudly she showed me her dream board. Triumphantly she announced that she had given away many of her remaining possessions to make space for the new, better ones that would inevitably be attracted to her now. (She believed.)
Being with Celeste had always been an experience of delight for me, an opening of my heart into love, and connecting with an amazing, pure, beautiful soul. But now I felt as if I was watching her walk, slow motion, into a street of moving cars.
Unable to stop, I turned away. It takes a lot for me to let a close friendship go, but could I bear this no longer. I’m also very aware of the spiritual law that governs sanctity of personal choice. Nobody has the right to turn a person away from her chosen spiritual path. If Celeste’s journey meant chasing dreams and psychics, it wasn’t my job to dissuade her.
READ THE READER
Read the psychic yourself—that’s my second consumer tip. Face Reading Secrets (R) is a system of physiognomy that could have been designed expressly for this, including my mentoring program. So were all the techniques of Aura Reading Through All Your Senses(R) and the skills for empaths that you can learn from my how-to book “Empowered by Empathy” or in person at a workshop especially for empaths.
My third consumer tip is to remember that psychic abilities can be expected to have many different skills, and expertise at one skill doesn’t necessarily assure other types of expertise. Many a superb psychic, being human, hasn’t received every kind of training. I find this often with cutting cords of attachment. Clients will come to me with a story like this:
“My psychic said I was limited by having some really bad cords of attachment. So she told me how to cut them. I was supposed to ask Archangel Michael to remove all my bad cords. Well, I tried it but didn’t feel that it made any difference.”
Of course this won’t help, long term. As in by Day 2! If a psychic gives you advice like this, do that psychic a favor. Give this gift, whether it’s Christmas or not: Cut Cords of Attachment. The book explains in detail why that psychic’s cliché will not work and then shows how to use the 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment®. ( Those of you who prefer workshops, please note that I will supplement this book with an Intensive presented this March 14-17. )
Finally, must you be a trained psychic to do healing at the level of auras? Definitely not. What you need is skill. Deeper Perception can help you to develop exactly the skill set you seek, whether you are interested in being a psychic, hiring a psychic or downplaying psychic work in favor of developing as a spiritual healer.
Great post, Rose. The other thing I would add is that this field is highly unregulated. Unlike physicians who must meet a minimum standard of skill and knowledge in order to be Board-certified, anybody can hang a shingle on his/her door and advertise him or herself as a “psychic.”
Sometimes I’ve wondered if I might do this to earn extra income myself, but I decided I didn’t want to invite the bad karma it would probably accrue!
Awesome, Rose!
I came across Sonia Choquette’s work at a time when I was feeling pretty stuck in my life and in need of help in getting unstuck. I would describe the way I’ve related to her work as an undercurrent and helpful guidance through a big life transition. I’ve had a couple of readings over the years and they helped me clarify a direction for my life that I wasn’t able to see at the time.
In an interesting way, my connection with this particular psychic actually helped me to be more grounded and to focus on integrating the subjective/objective realities. There’s always work to be done to keep that balance, for sure, but I’ve been happy about being able to stay focussed in that way. Most of the people I met in that community have floated out of my life…just too up in the clouds for me to be able to maintain friendships with.
Hi Rose - I think you are raising an important point that goes beyond just choosing a psychic.
Here at Earth School, a very endearing term I have only heard you use, people don’t always come with very clear labels. Or, as I know a beloved psychiatrist likes to quip (usually to tease me), “Anita, you really want people to come with instructions, don’t you?” To which I respond, “Yeah, then I would know exactly what to expect and what I can and can’t expect from them.”
I’m always amazed at how little resumes reveal about the actual person - probably why so many cover letters sound so bland and why they generally all kind of sound the same. Aside from meeting minimum or standard criteria that all the people have to meet (otherwise they are automatically excluded), there isn’t much extra that is revealed. The way that we have tried to move past this in modern society is through letters of reference/recommendation. This helps, but even those can sound the same after a while. Besides, can’t everyone find at least three people who like them and would be willing to write them a decent letter?
When I was in high school, I still believed, naively, that everyone who went to an Ivy League school must be smart and a very decent person. Well, I gotta admit that President Bush has cured me of that myth. And many people who don’t have Ivy League degrees attached to their resumes are brilliant - they just didn’t have the opportunity to attend such a school because they weren’t born into the privilege of the Bush family. Or they dropped out of an Ivy League school (Bill Gates).
The only accurate way you can get beyond these Earth School “labels” is to read auras. Or get to know the person by working with them closely for 30 years. But who has that kind of time and energy? And, besides, when you want to hire someone, you need to have that information BEFORE you do the hiring, not after you’ve done several hirings and firings!
Hi Anita,
Your post made me laugh out loud when you mentioned the Ivy League…I, too, used to believe that everyone in the Ivy League must be brilliant. And then I got a job at an Ivy League university.
Oh my. I can honestly say, and I tried my best to have a very open mind, that I have never experienced such stupidity in my life!
The amusing aspect to that experience is that the Ivy League is where I began my education in metaphysics. After I was hired, my supervisor asked if I was open to her running my astrology chart, which was fine with me. That began a fascinating “underground” education. One colleague and I used to go for lunch and talk astrology. And we quietly used it to help us strategize on projects.
Yes, the conventional labels don’t mean much at all. I don’t tend to pay much attention to them any more.
Hi Ann,
Perhaps we should trade stories, but not on this forum. We could do it through e-mails. I would love to hear about your experiences and have many of my own that I could share with you, too.
Emailing is always fun. But, you smart A’s (AnnH and Anita) (and others), I’ll bet that you can find a way to share stories directly on this blog.
How about this as an attempt to keep the blog open and yet honor our civility rules. You don’t need to directly name (and thus, directly badmouth) a spiritual practitioner. But you can tell stories about what happened or didn’t happened with a person you name with quotes, as a pseudonym, such as “Babs”.
Deeper Perception is about finding the truth, after all.
Hi Anita,
As for tales from the Ivy League, if that’s what you’re referring to…well, I couldn’t help but make the general comment, but actually have chosen to leave that part of my past in the past, so I’d rather not get into telling too many tales. It’s just a broad brushstroke in my education in discernment and trusting my intuition and best not to give it more energy.
It’s a hard environment for outsiders to understand anyway. For those who are educated within the system, it’s not as difficult to understand or unravel if you go back to work within that system.
It’s very difficult for “outsiders” to break into the system, I find, and I’ve heard that repeatedly from those who weren’t educated within the system but then came to it afterward.
I word that carefully because I don’t want that comment to come across as elitist in any way or overly politically correct either. I’m not condoning or condemning the system either. Every system has its own internal set of rules and customs, whether spoken or not. The Ivy League is one of them, and each institution within the system is also different and has its own mores.
Aside from how strange it can seem, at times, the caliber of many of the people there is world-class. I can personally attest to that.
ANABELA writes:
Some thoughts about my experiences with psychics:
I pretty much stopped going to psychics. Many of the psychics used me when I was a young, shaken, and insecure teenager.
I was cheated tens of thousands of dollars. I am still carrying the shame from having lost so much money and for having been cheated so obviously and yet I couldn’t seemingly control it.
When it comes to spiritual practice, the most important thing (out of the many, many important things) Rose taught me is intention.
Why do I intend to do a reading? Why do I want any form of divination?
I have met many psychics - some Indian, some Chinese, many American, nd even one in Guatemala. It wasn’t all BS and at times there was some truth when the psychic intended to help.
But in the end I was giving my power to someone or some higher force, forgetting that throughout life I have to learn to trust myself, my own intuition, and to make decisions that *will* influence events.
If we reincarnate as human beings, we’ll all go through suffering (at the very least I haven’t met anyone who hasn’t suffered) and that causes us to experience time and space as well as cause and effect with anxiety, distortion, and trepidation. And hence the turning to psychics.
I think the longing for love and the uncertainty of loneliness leads people to psychics - no surprises there. I haven’t been in love for a very long time, and I might go gaga when I meet the next person I’m into.
I might be driven to go to a psychic hoping to hear something nice and get some assurance we’re perfect together or he’s my soulmate, etc.
But I hope that I will have the strength not to do that - to depend on someone’s prediction in order to follow my heart or not. I can tell if the person is good or bad for me. I can tell whether we are both serious. I can tell that we want to be together.
Anything short of that means there I can save myself the pain and move on. That’s enough to know - why need a psychic?
I can tell you I wasn’t rational at all in the past. With a lot of baggage,I was easily controlled and always wanted some cosmic blessing. But nothing would work if the blessing never came from myself.
I have a friend who has been a spiritual seeker for much of his life and recently he, spiritually advanced as he is, is obssessed with someone. He’s been going to psychics and wanting to know questions like, “Are we going to be together?”
These questions can lead to futility, and many evil psychics exploit them. Even couples who have been 50 years together can’t guarantee they’ll be together tomorrow. We’re to learn on how to cherish the present moment, and to go by our inner light and understanding as much as we can - that’s the best anyone can do, any time, anywhere.