Family
December 25th, 2007 by Rose Rosetree
When the Holy Spirit makes you pregnant, what do you get? Family.
Well, yes, in Mary’s rather special case, you also get Christmas. In this blog, it is the 12th Day of Christmas, the biggest one, the perfect dozen completion-item that concludes our series of special readings. However you count it, today is a worldwide festival day. It is also a celebration of family, in Christmas guise.
Who else but the Holy Spirit brings you family, whether family of blood or family of choice? (The latter are what we call friends, usually, and I explore both types of relationship in Let Today Be a Holiday.)Free will matters, so we can try to say no or yes to any relationship. Nonetheless, I wonder if it is really possible to turn away the presence of any significant other. I also wonder if it really is possible to attract a really good friend on our own. Instead, the best friends (and teachers, and students) are gifts.
In Courageous Souls, Robert Schwartz mentions that some friends come into a life for a short time. That amounts to the full contract. Other friends are destined to become biggies.
Meanwhile, as residents of Earth School what do we know about contracts? Don’t tell that dating service about the massive role of The Holy Spirit. As human beings, we reach out. We put on our cutest clothes and our best manners. Still, at the end of the day, effort alone can’t make a friendship. The Holy Spirit must seal the deal.
Maybe you’re spending this holiday with extended family in a church. Maybe you’re seeing a movie with one close friend. Or perhaps you’re staying home, supposedly “alone.” Either way, the Holy Spirit is visiting, too. On this holiday, you have family, guaranteed.
MARRIAGE WITH MORRIE AND ARLEAH
Ryan suggested that I read Mr. and Mrs. Shechtman, authors of Love in the Present Tense: How to Have a High Intimacy, Low Maintenance Marriage. For photos, we have the head shot above, this
one, with their dogs, and the marvelous full-length portrait shown at their website,
Without knowing what they teach, I will read their relationship just as I might do a Relationship Reading for any client. Besides these short, mail-order reports, I also offer in-depth Face Reading sessions for couples, whether in person or by phone, assisted with photographs. And that is as close as I get to the couple’s work done by the Shecktmans.
BODY LANGUAGE SURPRISES
All three photos have this in common: Morrie stares right at the camera. Arleah doesn’t.
Arleah is always doing something that suggests an empathic connection to someone other than herself, then positioning herself in a way that supports this empathic connection. Even before reading her aura, it is so obvious that she is witnessing each interaction—in it but not entirely of it. With her big consciousness, she views the relationship and adds that special touch to show that she and this other, very separate person are, indeed, close.
Petting dogs is the more obvious pose. In the website portrait, Arleah angles towards her husband. Her body language is lightly protective. Notice how she extends the fingers of her hand over his. She isn’t covering his hand so much as posing in a manner that appears to protect him.
In the head shot at the top of this post, Arleah’s pose is eerily similar. Get out your protractor from geometry class in high school and measure the angle of her head. Could it be more identical to her angle in the portrait?
Although I couldn’t find a protractor, I did spend time comparing the two photos to see if the second was a cropped version of the first. Can’t be! In the website photo, she’s shorter than her mate. In the head shot, she stands next to him, with her larger face cropped to avoid showing as larger than his. Both times, she angles her head towards him… without angling her face.
This is a neat trick. Try it. With practice you, too, can position your head as if leaning toward someone, yet do it without moving a single muscle on your face. Your face peers through what, in theatre, is known as “the third wall.” Ooh, I can’t wait to read their auras to fathom more of what, clearly, is a very unusual relationship. But next…
Physiognomy shows that Morrie and Arleah share two marvelous similarities:
Down-angled eyes
With outer corners lower than inner corners, each of these eyes makes a statement: “Compassion is a way of life for me. I don’t flinch at problems. Already I have been through hell and back, so the trip no longer intimidates me.”
Because both of them have the same gift, neither will shock the other by seeming “negative.” I don’t know yet how I will finish their reading as a couple; nor do I know yet how much I might gain from what they teach, but I do give them credit as being problem solvers. Two folks with down-angled eyes in the same healing profession – that amounts to a lot of caring.
A sensory preference for hearing
Compare eyes to ears, via the nose, in order to learn about sensory preference.
First compare ear length to nose length. For both Morrie and Arleah, the ear is longer.
Then compare eye length (that same vertical view) to nose tip length. Eyes are shorter.
Thus, as a face reader, I would describe their ears as larger than their eyes, in this specialized way of reading for sensory preference.
This brings them a wonderful sensory compatibility. Both pay attention to words, to voices. Both use clairaudience more than clairvoyance. Both favor the language of hearing, which makes it easier for them to communicate about intimate things as a couple, no translations needed.
Okay, normally I don’t include this type of technique in a Relationship Report, but I can’t resist “doing a quickie.” Empathic merges are the best way to read the interplay of two people’s auras, and I’m developing quite some curiosity about this.
In the photo with dogs, Morrie is separate, inspired and content. Arleah acts like a miniature ocean of love, splashing the first wave onto black dog, the second onto white doglet. Energetically she is constantly bathing her husband. It reminds me more of mother and child, rather than husband and wife, which makes this couple perfect to read on Christmas Day.
On to our head shot. What shows here?
In this picture, Morrie IS supporting his wife energetically. Howerver, he still fills himself first. Gee, I’m beginning to suspect that self-sufficiency for men may be a major theme in what he advocates.
Arleah still gives more, if you were going to compare. But who’s counting, right? And I’m beginning to suspect that, in their system of how to be a perfect couple, she advocates that the wife must give more yet mustn’t, ever, bean count.
In our final photo, complete with bodies, it’s almost uncanny how Arleah is watching over little Morrie. Clearly he is the tall one, physically, which makes this photo all the cuter.
Aura Reading Through All Your Senses(R)
For the final part of this Relationship Reading, I’ll use their home page photo. Join me, Blog-Buddies, as for any other aspect of this reading, and comment away with your insights.
“Connection to spouse existentially” at the Root Chakra
HE: Existentially this man is such an intellectual. Brilliant! Compartment upon compartment of analysis informs his contact with life. Of course, Morrie’s contact with wife will highlight much of the same. He uses his intellect to connect, and since he lives mostly from his intellect, this is the highest honor he could bestow on anyone he loves.
Many men will identify with Morrie’s dependence upon his intellect and, therefore, enjoy his auric modeling.
SHE: Existentially Arleah is such a lover. She lives from the heart. She is also exceptionally sexual for an older woman.
In our lives as celebrity watchers, we’re used to seeing men Morrie’s age choosing trophy wives young enough to be daughters or granddaughters. Yet the typical trophy wife isn’t nearly as hot as Arleah.
She brings great passion to this relationship. Emotionally, she’s a huge giver. Many women and men will identify with her auric modeling.
“Connection to spouse sexually” at the Belly Chakra
HE: Great sex, fondly remembered.
SHE: Great sex, fondly remembered.
Well, what hot couple wouldn’t want to enjoy this aspect of auric modeling?
“Connection to spouse emotionally” at the Heart Chakra
HE: This relationship has evidently taught Morrie a lot. Normally, with the configuration of STUFF in his aura, he would be entirely self-absorbed. But he has learned, through this loving relationship, to parcel out emotional giving. He’s careful to do some every day. Does he realize how much more he receives than he gives? I doubt it. What matters, however, is that he gives as much as he can. Every day, Arleah reminds him how this can be done.
Hey, sounds like a technique that would benefit many couples. Here’s how I’d put it as an advertisement.
STUDENTS WANTED
If you mostly live in your head, with sex as your main way of connecting…
If the other half of the couple is a huge giver emotionally, and you also like sex…
let Morrie and Arleah show you how to make your relationship work.
SHE: This is a Divine play for Arleah. She’s loving God in human form. She witnesses the play. Even if her belief system doesn’t include Hinduism, she might enjoy learning about that witnessing concept. According to her aura, she lives it more fully than many a yogi whose aura I have read.
Can Arleah teach witnessing in her seminars? I doubt it. I even doubt that she knows about witnessing conceptually. Still, I would enjoy sitting in her workshop for half an hour, regardless of content, just to hear her explain to others her version of marriage. Really, the subtext will be this: how to live with a very high level of spiritual consciousness.
“Connection to spiritual source” at the Third Eye Chakra
HE: Of course, Morrie worships a God of intellect. From what I can tell about Morrie’s aura, he doesn’t worship this God very hard, however. Instead, Morrie takes responsibility for making this lifetime good, using his own intellect. Those of you who have read Let Today Be a Holiday will recognize this as a classic case of what I call “broccoli in the meat keeper.”
SHE: Arleah connects and overflows, with spiritual devotion being her path. Of all her considerable empathic gifts, I’d have to say that the most impressive one shows here. Energetically, she models how to jump-start Spiritual Oneness in others. And this gift, ignited, could be enough to keep a couple satisfied.
THE RELATIONSHIP
Think about Christmas presents under a tree. By now the wrapping has been discarded and gifts stand just as they are.
How thrilling would it be to find two identical gifts? Contrast makes every present more fun.
In the marriage of Morrie and Arleah, there is a winning contrast combo. He does the intellect and the low maintenance. She contributes heart and spirit, the high intimacy. Between them, they model great sex.
What I look for in teachers is authenticity. This couple has it. They’re teaching who they are, how they live, and so they’ll attract couples on similar paths. Every bit of success has been earned, the congruence refreshing.
In the workshop made from their version of Holy Spirit Co-Creates This Marriage, the Arlene and Morrie Shechtman model is beautiful.
Thanks for an interesting and informative reading. I have learned so much from the Twelve Days of Christmas readings. What a treat!
Happy Holidays-
Lisa
Relationships are easy, especially if the female part knows how to give in, that’s what they seem to model.
Is this combination of man as intellect and woman as nurturer/giver common? Is it the most common combination?
Lisa
This is an interesting model for making a relationship work, but it is just ONE model and ONE way of making a relationship work. It may not be the chosen way for many others in partnerships.
However, I do respect Morrie and Arleah for modeling their style with integrity.
By the way, I found that fake advertisement absolutely hilarious!!
Whoa, what a can of worms I seem to have opened. I do know what the Shechtmans advocate for their own relationship because they say in their book Love in the Present Tense that it presents the relationship model they use both professionally (as psychotherapists) and personally, and they admit that any relationship model is the bias of the person/people who created it.
They do not (at least not publicly, as far as I know) advocate any kind of gender-specific behavior such as the woman being submissive to the man; their beliefs of what a healthy relationship involves apply to both men and women. Their beliefs ARE very unconventional and even shocking, several of which are mentioned briefly on their website under Products -> Books.
Ryan, these are tasty worms.
I didn’t mean to imply with my reading that they would model anything gender specific, but more that one of the pair is clearly high intimacy and low maintanace and the other one of the pair would appear to be small-giving and intimate mostly if sex is to be involved.
What are some of the unconventional and shocking beliefs THAT YOU LIKE? Do tell. If you’re willing. When using Deeper Perception, privacy is extra important. When blogging, all the more so!
I didn’t find expecially unorthodox ideas at the link you supplied, but I did find something that shocked me:
“Whether they realize it or not, couples get married for two reasons…. They also get together because they recognize a wounded soul mate—an identical pairing up of emotional and psychological familiars that lead them to reproduce painful, but predictable feelings from their past.”
Personally, I have never dated a man because he seemed like a wounded soul-mate.
Hi Ryan,
I think you’ve raised a lot of interesting discussion, actually, so bravo for getting people talking.
I’d like to know, when people write these things as above (”Whether they realize it or not… They also get together because they recognize a wounded soul mate…) - is that based on empirical evidence, their observations, or just their personal opinion?
Many things that are personal opinion are carelessly passed off as scientific fact when there is nothing substantive or evidential to support such an observation. It reminds me of the days when scientists measured the skulls of blacks and said that because their craniums and skull measuresments were different, it proved that they were less intelligent. It’s never been shown how they collected this data, on how many skulls, and whether it was ever statistically significant.
If Morrie and Arleah recognized a wounded soul mate in one another, that’s fine - and they can share their experience as such.
They could equally argue, as I have read others argue, that people look for someone who “completes” them in ways that they didn’t get from a parent, e.g., a man looks for someone who resembles his mother or for someone to mother him in ways that he didn’t feel nurtured when he was growing up and vice versa for a woman looking for a “father figure.”
We also know this in Freudian terms as the “Oedipal complex.”
Since I don’t have much training in depth psychology or psychodynamic theory, object relations, etc., I can’t comment any more. Nevertheless, many Freudian theories have been debunked - they were very revolutionary and useful for their time, but they have outworn their usefulness.
Even many men I know would agree that women aren’t genetically inferior or less intelligent. And I think men would find themselves in trouble if they argued that the only place for a woman was in the home (the same way that a lot of other people would get in trouble if they argued the only place for a black person was on a plantation!).
I didn’t find anything gender-specific in what this couple was modeling, actually. I’ve seen this dynamic work, regardless of which gender in the couple was more giving. While there is a generally more culturally normative stereotype that women are more high intimacy and low maintenance, that’s not true across the board for every woman (and, trust me, I know women for whom it’s not). Just like I know many Asians and Asian-Americans who aren’t good at math and science, despite the normative stereotype that they all are!