Underestimating the Sacred Art of Cutting Cords
March 16th, 2008 by Rose Rosetree
Today’s conversation about cutting cords of attachment is Part Three of a continuing series last seen here. It has been nearly a month since we’ve had this conversation collectively, and today is a great day to resume it since I’ll be graduating the latest batch of practitioners from an Intensive to Cut Cords of Attachment.
Cutting cords is a form of spiritual reading, a key technique for doing healing with Energy Spirituality. A cord links you, the client for this type of healing, with the person at the other end of the cord. My term for that person is the “cordee.”
Regarding the cordee, I have found a very common misunderstanding among otherwise skillful professionals at spiritual reading, intuitive reading, and doing aura readings. Ever hear this one?
“Before cutting a cord, you must find out: Is the cordee ready?”
Puhleeze! Let’s do some defining here. When you have an important relationshp with Person X, both of you signal the conneciton in your energy fields. Two types of energetiuc structures develop, spiritual ties, discussed here, and cords of attachment.
Do you have the right to remove a cord of attachment to Person X? Or for that matter, to Person Y or Person Z? Of course you do.
Do you have the right to remove anyone else’s cord to you? Of course you don’t.
It’s really expecting too little of the healing process to fear that you won’t be allowed to cut your attachment unless someone else gives permission. You don’t need anybody else’s permission to grow in life. That’s between you and God.
THE EXCEPTION THAT PROVES THE RULE
In my 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R), one of the steps is to “Ask permission.” But that isn’t asking permission of the cordee. Never!
As you know, if you’ve ever had a phone session where I facilitated cutting a cord of attachment for you, or you have read even part-way through my how-to book, Cut Cords of Attachment: Heal Yourself and Others with Energy Spirituality, one reason why my trademarked system works is that you co-create the healing along with your choice of Divine Being. I call this making an “Energy Sandwich,” and go into a lot of detail in the book about why, technically, this is such an important thing to do. (Easy, too.)
Here I just want to clarify that co-creation with the Divine is important for asking permission before cutting a cord. When you’re connected up to spiritual Source, it’s wise to double check that it is appropriate for YOU to cut a cord of attachment. The client may not really be ready.
Also, depending on other things going on in your mind-body-spirit system at this time in your development, under very rare circumstances, cutting a particular cord may not be appropriate for you to do.
For instance, consider the skill level of the person doing the healing. In Cut Cords of Attachment, I give the example of a time when I cut a cord that one of my students wasn’t ready to do yet. Given her skill level, working with a very troubled client, cutting that cord wasn’t appropriate. But I was able to do it because, over two decades of specializing in this type of work, I have had a lot more practice than someone who had taken one weekend Intensive and practiced for, perhaps, three months afterwards.
Yet many of my Intensive graduates and readers of Cut Cords of Attachment have turned pro, helping others. And the results have been just wonderful. Until you have had a great deal of experience, however, there may be times when you do not receive permission to cut a particular cord, just due to the nature of the healing situation and your present skill level.
I would find it hard to imagine a scenario, however, where an experienced competent practitioner of Energy Spirituality would be told, “You can’t cut a cord because the cordee isn’t ready.”
Sharing our stories, we can raise consciousness about Cutting Cords of Attachment. That includes conversations on the Net, where so much misinformation can be found. Today’s post invites you to share stories of times when you made the choice to grow — in any context, not only cutting cords — despite having others in your life who were stuck themselves. Maybe you even had someone who really didn’t want you to succeed at growing, actively sabotaging your efforts.
How did you handle that? Did you decide, “I’ll let others decide when I’m allowed to evolve”?
YAY! I found my way back to the blog! While it was under construction I didn’t think messages could be posted. I’m thrilled! And still digesting all I learned during Rose’s AMAZING Cut the Cords Intensive.
Having read all three parts of this series, I am still a tad confused why Face Reading is Energy Spirituality rather than Energy Medicine, as it seems like the point of entry is physical.
I once had cords cut by a competent practitioner, although I don’t recall her method including the homework, which is an essential piece. I do recall her informing me that the cordee would likely call in a day or two, as that person would notice an energy shift. What do you say about that Rose?
I can say that I noticed a huge shift–two cords were cut in that session–and, indeed, both people called in about 3-4 days. The relationships are ongoing and my perspective and the energy required for them has changed for the better in my life.
SHARON, glad you have found your way back to posting. This first comment addresses your first question, about Face Reading.
It isn’t Energy Spirituality or Energy Medicine, in my opinion. Reading faces is a form of… reading, where you give information.
That information may be practical, may be inspiring, may set in motion a beautiful domino-effect of eating more pizza. (Just kidding about the reference to that particular brand of effect.)
By contrast, the 21st century healing modalities of Energy Spirituality, Energy Medicine, and Energy Psychology, all are jet-propelled ways to bring about mind-bodfy-spirit healing.
But, since you asked, there is another aspect to the kind of “intuitive reading” or even “spiritual reading” that takes place when you are reading faces. It is a way to develop deeper perception.
Even if the system of Face Reading Secrets(R) weren’t really, really accurate…
Even if it wasn’t important to counter today’s crazy, dehumanizing social pressures to go under the knife for vanity surgery…
Even if American women our age — and actually women over 30 — weren’t forced to interpret our soulful faces in terms of stereotypes that degrade us more with each coming year…
Even then it would be worthwhile learning about physiognomy. The very act of opening up the face for meaning is great preparation to read auras, which will reveal even more. And if you were born with talent as an empath, deeper perception is going to help you to become a skilled empath, both to do it and to appreciate that you have done it.
So, although reading faces isn’t a form of Energy Spirituality, it’s great training to DO it. With the wonderful growth of consciousness you have seen in your lifetime, people have been energetically prepared to read people deeper. For everyday life, that may be the greatest healing of all.
SHARON, about being contacted within three days by the cordee when a cord has been cut… I would call that an artifact of your healer’s expectations that were passed along to you.
You know how consciousness shapes experience. (Where would Heisenberg’s Uncertainty Principle be without that, I ask you?)
Because your healer and, subsequently, you, have believed the cordee would contact you within three days, you have been sending out a kind of call, through your consciousness, to the cordee.
My method of 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R) does not include any such call, conscious or otherwise. The method is energetically clear of any hooks, proddings, or calls to the cordee.
This is also related to the Divine Homeostasis and the Energy Sandwich components of this method (Blog-Buddies, if this part doesn’t make sense to you, just skip this last sentence. Or else read my how-to book, at http://www.rose-rosetree.com.)
I don’t consider it necessary or desirable to think in terms of causing the cordee to think or do anything. Cords of attachment come in pairs. You have one to Mr. X and then Mr. X will have one to you. (The exception is if you have a cord to a celebrity who has never met you.)
For Mr. X to be changed in any way, related to cording to you, Mr. X will need to have his own session of Energy Spirituality.
Maybe Mr. X, or your latest cordees, will call you now, as a graduate of the Cut the Cords Intensive, and you’ll be able to help them.
Thanks for that improved name, BTW. I’ll be using it from now on! And thank you for your praise of that Intensive, too. It was great having you there.
When Rose cut the attachment cord to somebody I had never even spoken to I noted that I knew things about the other person (from what came up in the attachment cord communication) that I didn’t know consciously at the time we met, for example I asked for a healing although I had no clue that this person is really doing healings.
This makes me wonder at what level the communication happens in an attachment cord, maybe at the level of the higher selves, since the higher self knows more than we consciously know. Or maybe at the soul level?
Just my two cents….
Hi Anonymous,
I think non-verbal communication happens all the time. In the mainstream/popular culture, people refer to it as “body language” or “facial expressions.” In this blog community, we might refer to it as “auric modeling.”
But I’ve read that the most important communication that happens between people is non-verbal, even as high as 95% of the communication. And not just through hormones or pheromones!
When I was a kid, I can think back to seeing pictures of smiling people and feeling creeped out or liking people who, on the surface, seemed rather unfriendly or even stern.
I even read somewhere that if you put someone on mute or if you watch someone speaking a language you don’t understand, you are more accurate in picking up information about that person. Our brains are not cognitively “tricked” by the information coming out of their mouths.
Here’s another reaction to your question, Anonymous. I equate the flows within a cord of attachment with a person’s subconscious mind.
Always grateful for your two cents, for Anita’s, for the chance to offer mine.