When Can I Stop Suffering from Cords of Attachment?

When “Joyce” asked this question , it wasn’t just a matter of theory:

I have had several attachment cords removed, but I even got one after talking to somebody only 10 min, or NOT even talking to him, so my question here is how can I avoid getting new cords of attachment?

I noted that I was angry at some of those people I got attachment cords to, or that one of the two people involved had coercive issues.

Now tell me how I can stop getting new cords!!!!!! Please….

This question would be important whoever asked it, since a full answer brings up so many practical considerations. I’ll do my best to cover them all in today’s post. First, though, here’s background on Joyce.

This questioner is exceptionally smart, also kind, artistic, and resourceful, with a delightfully dry sense of humor. The Good Looks Fairy has been generous to Joyce, as well. Yet, for as long as I have known Joyce – seven years, perhaps – she has suffered from many problems related to loneliness, anger, and religious coercion. Joyce has worked hard at personal development, insisting on claiming her full potential in life. Over the years we have removed many highly toxic cords of attachment, and I’m proud of all the progress she has made

In a recent phone session, we dealt with a minor cord to someone Joyce had known only 10 minutes. You see, Joyce was clear enough to tell something was wrong, yet she hadn’t been able to do anything to prevent this problem. Although she gained welcome relief from removing that rather nasty cord, of course she wanted to know how to empower herself further. Coming from Joyce as it did, her question is poignant to me, so I’m going to give the full answer her question deserves.

Blog-Buddy, if you’re in a hurry, skip to the end. If you’re curious about cords of attachment, and how Joyce’s problem might have implications for you, stay tuned for the full answer.

CHILDHOOD CORDS OF ATTACHMENT 

Babies come fresh from God. They bring fresh bodies, super flexible. According to the knowledge that resonates for me, most babies have made Life Contracts. These include choosing every significant relationship and event for a person’s first 21 years (or, for some people, 28 years).

Yes, each majorly loving person and every stinker, every win and loss, has been planned. It’s part of that person’s curriculum at Earth School. Depending on how you use your free will to respond, consequences will be created and take on life of their own. Although some additional events and relationships will be pre-set by your Life Contract, increasingly your life will out-picture choices that you have made. It’s the Law of Attraction plus much, much more.

Although people like you and me voluntarily set up that Life Contract, many of us are unprepared for how it will actually feel. Once in the womb, that Earth School intensity hits us full force. My friend Narayan Singh Khalsa, Ph.D. (who wrote the introduction to The Power of Face Reading) introduced me to this fascinating concept: Most miscarriages, he said, happen because the soul says “No way. I can’t go through with this after all.”

I get to eavesdrop on the woes like these because I facilitate Energy Spirituality and Energy Release Regression Therapy. In this last week alone, here are examples of childhood misery that I lived through, via clients:

• An alcoholic father makes life hell for his sensitive child.
• An emotionally troubled mother never really listens to her daughter.
• A beautiful, bright baby, ignored by her mother, starts to think something horrible must be wrong with her.

As adults, we gloss over troubles like these. We summarize from an adult’s perspective: “Yeah, my dad was an alcoholic. Join the club, right? (How many millions or alcoholics are there?) Somehow I managed to survive it. You can be sure I moved away as early as I could.”

As children, we have no such perspective. Beautiful, bright beings — every one of us — we respond to the fear and pains of Earth School as if they have never happened to us, or anyone else, before. We respond in ways like these:

• Cords of attachment and spiritual ties, both, connect us to every important relationships. Through spiritual ties, we store learning and love. Through cords, for the rest of our lives, we replay the most disturbing patterns of every relationship, replaying them subconsciously 24/7 (unless that cord is permanently cut).
• Frozen blocks of energy become stuck within the body, deep as can be. Each frozen block contains unresolved emotions, often really upsetting ones, the full impact of every life trauma.
• From womb life onward, the frozen blocks require adaptations in our physical bodies, causing health problems — both major and minor.
• Over time, frozen blocks of energy and cords, both, can cause emotional distress to short circuit the body’s normal energy flows. Sub-routines develop in an aura, physical-metaphysical structures clear enough to be read by someone like me.
• What’s my technical term for all of this? STUFF.

Babies have extraordinarily flexible nervous systems. I’ve heard it said that teething is so painful that adults couldn’t stand it, while babies just cry a bit. I can assure you that the emotional and spiritual flows we encounter as babies are at least as painful as teething.

JUST COPE OR CHOOSE TO SELF-ACTUALIZE?

Dealing with the stresses of life, some of us are content to make the best of things, cope with external reality, and avoid dealing with internal STUFF unless it becomes life-threatening. Others feel a call to accelerate inner development, moving toward an ongoing experience of self-actualization. We want to wake up. We want to claim our full freedom.

Either way, you’re going to evolve here at Earth School. Because you’re reading this, clearly, I suspect that you are one of the ones who chooses to do more than survive. To help you, several different approaches can be effective ways to release accumulated energies of pain and fear.

Energy Medicine helps people to release the health problems caused by STUFF. I’m partial to Donna Eden’s Energy Medicine. She coined the term, after all. And I’ve been delighted to see the expansion of her work over the years, where she continues to teach at the leading edge and do it with full integrity.

Which other techniques are available to heal stuck energy with the physical body as the point of entry? Personally, I’ve studied Janet Mentgen’s Healing Touch and, of course, Reiki; also, I’ve found expert help from acupuncturists, chiropractors, and a great shiatsu practitioner, Susan Zell. Blog-Buddies, feel free to comment with your favorite finds in the area of Energy Medicine. Go ahead, plug shamelessly and supply links. You just might give a Blog-Buddy an important referral.

If something’s physically hurting, it’s especially important to go the route of Energy Medicine. Back at Joyce’s original question, one fine protection against difficulties is to make sure that energy flows properly through your chakras and meridians. If the physical system is strongly imbalanced, all cords of attachments and frozen blocks will have greater impact.

Energy Psychology is a second approach to self-actualization and wellness. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) stands out as a do-it-yourself method for reducing the impact of energies stuck in the mind-body-spirit system.

In my opinion, EFT is no substitute for cutting cords of attachment or removing frozen blocks of energy. Instead, it’s a brilliant workaround. Sometimes miracles happen with EFT, and that might include moving out frozen blocks. Typically, though, people just have good results by helping energy to flow again in normal channels, and that’s saying a lot.

It’s empowering to be able to tap your troubles away, and I have great respect for this method. However, no amount of tapping will remove a cord of attachment, nor will it systematically move out frozen blocks of energy.

Energy Release Regression Therapy removes frozen blocks of energy, held in cell memory. This is a very specialized form of regression therapy that falls into the category of Energy Psychology.

In my experience, other forms of regression therapy fall into the categories of psychology or psychic readings, potentially valuable but not direct methods of healing an aura. In Energy Release Regression Therapy, an aura reader can tell the difference with before-and-after. Emotions are the point of entry for this kind of healing. I recommend it especially for cases like these:

• You have removed cords of attachment but you keep making new cords that have similar patterns to the old ones. (Joyce, yes, this is part of the answer to your question.)
• You have a chronic health problem, especially a problem that has not responded to conventional medicine or Energy Medicine.

For example, let’s say you have frozen blocks, pulled in from many lifetimes, about the issue of being rejected by others. When you move out the cause, in the form of frozen blocks, you’ll be less likely to attract experiences where you seek out the very people who are most likely to reject you.

Energy Spirituality is my name for mind-body-spirit work where a person’s aura itself is the point of entry for healing. Cutting cords of attachment is the main technique involved, although there are additional forms of energy cleansing and protection.

Cutting cords is an excellent way to start to heal the mind-body-spirit because the results are quick and often huge. Sessions like these are convenient because you can make a quick, easy phone appointment. You don’t have to say or do much from your end of the phone but, boom! Out goes that cord.

Recently I had a client, ”Ruth,”  who was so upset by a cord to “The psychotherapist from hell” that she couldn’t function. After months of suffering, Ruth’s hope was that some day she might be able to go back to work. When Ruth called for a follow-up appointment, I asked how she was feeling. “Fine,” Ruth said. Casually she added, “I went back to work two days after our session.”

AVOIDING PROBLEMS WITH CORDS OF ATTACHMENT

What about forming new cords? Is there any way to stop this?

The short answer is ”You wouldn’t want to. But you do have good options nevertheless.”

Even if you could choose to avoid new cords of attachment, I don’t think you’d really want to. Why? Cords aren’t formed in isolation. Here’s what happens:

You meet a new person. Inside, you have a flicker of interest. That’s all it takes. “I’m interested in this person.”

Immediately TWO different energy structures are formed, physical structures that stretch between your aura and that of the other person:

• A spiritual tie contains all the love, learning, and other beautiful ways that two people can exchange information, aurically, verbally, emotionally, etc.

• A cord of attachment contains the most negative programming between the two of you.

Spiritual ties can’t be cut, and they represent a magnificent part of your evolution here at Earth School.  So, even if you secluded yourself like a hermit, you’d lose the (great) chance to gain spiritual ties.

But here’s what you can do, Joyce and other Blog-Buddies:

1. Learn to cut cords of attachment with skill. You can learn from my how-to book, Cut Cords of Attachment: Heal Yourself with Energy Spirituality. Or you could learn by taking a weekend Intensive. (I’ll offer it one more time this year, October 10-12. Click here for details.) Or you could learn over the phone with a series of personal mentoring sessions, where I coach you individually.

Yes, you can also learn from the Internet. For free! In about 10 minutes. However, this kind of learning is a fantasy. It is not possible to cut all your cords of attachment instantly and permanently, just because you ask Archangel Michael.

Over the years, I have encountered other people besides myself who teach how to cut cords with skill. I don’t claim to be the only teacher. But I do recommend that you use discernment as a consumer. (Incidentally, there’s a book that could really help you to do that. It’s called Cut Cords of Attachment: Heal Yourself with Energy Spirituality.)

2. Find a healer you respect and be in touch when you encounter problems.

This, of course, is what Joyce did with me. Many people today make weekly appointments with a psychotherapist, a massage therapist, a Reiki practitioner. None of my clients has a standing weekly appointment for phone sessions, year after year, because Energy Spirituality tends to produce strong results quickly. Still, some clients do book many appointments over the years.

When you have established a relationship with a practitioner whose work you like, it isn’t a bad idea to do exactly what Joyce did with me — notice when you’re out of balance, make an appointment for a session, receive expert help.

3. Choose your experts wisely.

Speaking of experts, you can save yourself a lot of grief — cord-wise and otherwise — by using discernment in your spiritual interests. Pay attention to the person, not just the promise. Don’t try everything that you read on the Net, just because it’s (supposedly) free.

Some of the most toxic cords I’ve encountered came from coercive or unbalanced spiritual teachers, channelers, psychotherapists, healers, etc.

Also, many people embark on trusting but naive experiments where they open themselves up to channeling or mediumship, welcoming “whatever angel would like to help me” or “seeing what happens if I allow entities to share my aura” etc. Over the past week, I’ve facilitated an exorcism for a client who had done this. In Japan last month, I facilitated half a dozen more.

Entities will not share your aura unless you give permission. Well, don’t.

It isn’t a fun experiment, long term. If you wish to experiment with psychic development, spirit guides, etc., pay for the services of a good teacher. Not just a teacher who comes cheap. Not just someone who is conveniently in your neighborhood. Find somebody with a good level of skill, a good teacher, a person who seems balanced to you, and somebody with whom you feel you have a good rapport. Read his/her aura if you can. Or have me give detailed feedback from your aura about the choice, called a Thrill Your Soul Reading.

If you intend to open yourself up to astral-level experiences, you need MORE discernment than if you were learning to change tires on a car. Most people use less.

4. Clear out patterns of distress that attract especially toxic cords.

What if, like Joyce, you have a long-term problem that keeps coming up in relationships, like feeling anger or attracting lovers who aren’t good for you? Consider the source. That would be you. So do something about it.

From my perspective, frozen blocks in cellular memory are the cause of patterns like these, and as already noted here, I can help you to release them. My teacher for this method, Dr. Coletta Long, is still actively helping clients. You might wish to fly out to Austin to work with her if that’s more convenient than flying to D.C.’s biggest airport, Dulles, to work with me. Also located in this area is Darshan Kaur Khalsa, and I can personally vouch for her magnificent work, as I can for Dr. Long’s.

Coletta might also be able to put you in touch with others she has trained. There aren’t too many of us, but there might be one closer to you those of us I have mentioned. Keep in mind that this work is sometimes known as Past Life Regression Therapy, but you don’t have to believe in past lives to receive benefits. (I have had clients who received wonderful results, yet they were devout believers in a religion that disallows belief in past lives, e.g., Mormon, Jewish.)

ANY method that makes you strong and whole would be fine.

5. Spontaneously avoid people who would otherwise involve you energetically

Please, please, please do not think I am talking about extreme personal vigilance. Or shielding yourself. Or any other form of elaborate protection. The bottom line with such precautions is that they do not work and can actually make an aura worse off than if you did nothing.

No, I’m referring to the state that you’re going to be in one of these days, if you’re not there already. After you’ve cleared out major STUFF from your aura, your choices will spontaneously change. An extremely gorgeous example of this is my friend Jeffrey Chappell. Read his description of life, from an enlightened state of consciousness, or re-read it, from the perspective of forming cords of attachment.

As another example, less exalted, consider a recent exchange of comments at this blog, where I was invited to read the aura of a famous psychopath. I wasn’t interested. It’s a spontaneous choice.

Back at Joyce, when she has moved out enough STUFF from her aura, she could be in the room with Mr. X and respond quite differently to the way she did last time.

What happened this last time, basically, was that she was in a room with Mr. X and had a moment of “Ooh, I’m interested.” Soon Joyce realized that he was not a good teacher for her and she backed away inside. But she still stayed in the room with him while he talked at her for 10 minutes.

That moment was all it took to form the cord between them. Afterwards, because he is a highly coercive individual, his energies took Joyce over to some degree and the result was unpleasant, to put it mildly.

While we carry intense forms of STUFF, we will keep being interested in “the wrong people” who are right for our current condition. When Joyce no longer carries her particular configuration of STUFF, she will meet people like Mr. X and spontaneously have zero interest in them. No cord then!

Isn’t that your story, to some degree? With all the ways you have become more whole over the years, releasing STUFF, haven’t your interests changed? Expect that to continue. Clutter attracts clutter. And wholeness in your mind-body-spirit system will attract further wholeness. Yes, the spiritually rich do get richer.