For Abuse Relief, Cut Cords of Attachment
June 24th, 2009 by Rose Rosetree
Recently I was contacted by an abuse survivor who has just learned about my work. Some of my most grateful clients have been abused verbally, physically, and/or sexually.
Just today in Tokyo I facilitated six sessions for clients. One had been emotionally and physically abused, and it meant so much to “Maxi” when I cut that cord and helped remove STUFF that had been circulating aurically and subconsciously 24/7.
Even a little bit of abuse can recirculate unless the cord is removed.
One client asked me to cut the Cord of Attachment to her husband; they had been married for decades. I always request “No details, please.”In that particular cord were details about ONE incident that happened early in the marriage where he hit her. He stopped after that. But that incident was what recycled in that cord.
When I read out the cord info for validation, which I do as part of sessions like this, she cried and said that she had never, ever told a single soul about that incident. Yet it had been something she remembered quite viscerally every day of her life up until our session.
I did see her months afterward and she confirmed that the flashbacks were gone for good.
So, yes, I would love to help you if you have been through abuse and you would like to heal. Keep the wisdom. Celebrate the courage. But lose that toxic cord of attachment permanently! If you have any questions, add them as comments below.
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For those who may be new to Rose’s work and on the fence about having cords of attachment cut, I can say that it’s profoundly transformational work, having had several cords cut over a couple of years. It’s a fascinating and astonishing experience to feel the freedom from the STUFF. What a difference it made to be free of all the emotional energy of my mother that I’d been running through my system my entire life till the cord was cut. I instantly felt as if I’d lost 50 pounds! And that was just one cord….
I’m enjoying your tales of Japan, Rose.
Warmly,
Ann
ANN, how lovely to hear from you. Thank you so much for sharing.
Today, my big tale from Japan involves bowing.
Usually, as an American, I’m pretty clueless about bowing. There are nuances to it, I know, especially how much. My own bows tend to be extravagant and over-the-top because I want to make it clear to every Japanese person that (just in case they’re wondering) I have NO CLUE how much of an incline to make.
Rather than insulting anyone with the wrong bow nuance, I’d rather do a preemptive strike (as it were) with my bows by making it obvious that I appreciate everyone enormously. Even if it appears ludicrous or clownish, at least I won’t unintentionally insult anyone by seeming un-bow-like by a few centimeters, comparing what I give to Person A vs. Person B.
Anyway, today I had a client here today, Maxi-san, and the healing in our session was very moving for him. So, while saying goodbye, he did a Rose-like, from the waist, bow of enormous bend-quality.
Afterwards, Maxi-san did a slight incline-type bow toward our marvellous, talented interpreter, Yukari-san.
Then I got it. I’ve been big-bowed. And by someone who wasn’t being self-consciously foolish but by someone who meant every inch.
Between that and your kind words, Ann, I’m blushing.
So blushing and warmth backacha, Ann, from Rose.
Hi Rose,
I’m glad to hear you are having such a fun time in Tokyo! I have some questions about cord cutting when you have a minute.
I am very aware of the feeling when I have an (unrequited love) crush on someone that there is a cord of attachment between myself and the other person and that I personally can not keep my energy away from that attachment and easily become obsessed with it. There seems to be a comforting feeling about having that attachment, even if it is painful. Like a sore tooth, you can’t leave it alone. There’s a palpable connection! It might not be very fulfilling, but it’s there.
Now, supposing I cut that cord of attachment:
why would I not recreate it the very next day? And the one after that? Each time I interact with that person, if it’s my energy creating that cord (and I’m guessing that it is) then does it really help to cut the cord?
I guess it is just seeming like I must have a million cords and even if I cut them all I would just keep right on creating them.
Also, how is it possible not to create one, if you create a cord every time you are interested in another person?
Thanks!
Eloquent questions there, SUZANNE, about Cords of Attachment. You inspired me to write a whole post. Here I’d like to address the extra bit not included there.
You wrote: “I am very aware of the feeling when I have an (unrequited love) crush on someone that there is a Cord of Attachment between myself and the other person and that I personally can not keep my energy away from that attachment and easily become obsessed with it.
“There seems to be a comforting feeling about having that attachment, even if it is painful. Like a sore tooth, you can’t leave it alone. There’s a palpable connection! It might not be very fulfilling, but it’s there.”
You have described one of the key choices a human being has here at Earth School. Feeling sorry for oneself can be a fabulous source of entertainment. Plus there’s all the comfort you can get from friends. And let’s not forget all the drama that can result from staying more-or-less stuck.
On the plane back from Japan, I watched, “He’s Just Not That Into You.” Consider it Exhibit A.
Fortunately, people like you and me get to have all the lifetimes we want. So we can experiment with that “Poor Me” payoff.
Or we can choose to grow on purpose, to evolve quickly, to be happy and even self-actualized. It’s a different payoff.
When you choose to Cut Cords of Attachment, you’re opening up to possibilities of fulfillment. When you wish to wallow, life will always make that possible as well. Either way, Cords of Attachment can become part of your learning experiment.
[...] Suzanne recently send a great series of question about Cords of Attachment as comments to a previous [...]
SUZANNE, and other Blog-Buddies, I started to answer your great questions here:
http://www.rose-rosetree.com/blog/2009/07/02/one-cord-of-attachment/#more-490