You wrote: “I am very aware of the feeling when I have an (unrequited love) crush on someone that there is a Cord of Attachment between myself and the other person and that I personally can not keep my energy away from that attachment and easily become obsessed with it.

“There seems to be a comforting feeling about having that attachment, even if it is painful. Like a sore tooth, you can’t leave it alone. There’s a palpable connection! It might not be very fulfilling, but it’s there.”

You have described one of the key choices a human being has here at Earth School. Feeling sorry for oneself can be a fabulous source of entertainment. Plus there’s all the comfort you can get from friends. And let’s not forget all the drama that can result from staying more-or-less stuck.

On the plane back from Japan, I watched, “He’s Just Not That Into You.” Consider it Exhibit A.

Fortunately, people like you and me get to have all the lifetimes we want. So we can experiment with that “Poor Me” payoff.

Or we can choose to grow on purpose, to evolve quickly, to be happy and even self-actualized. It’s a different payoff.

When you choose to Cut Cords of Attachment, you’re opening up to possibilities of fulfillment. When you wish to wallow, life will always make that possible as well. Either way, Cords of Attachment can become part of your learning experiment.

I’m glad to hear you are having such a fun time in Tokyo! I have some questions about cord cutting when you have a minute.

I am very aware of the feeling when I have an (unrequited love) crush on someone that there is a cord of attachment between myself and the other person and that I personally can not keep my energy away from that attachment and easily become obsessed with it. There seems to be a comforting feeling about having that attachment, even if it is painful. Like a sore tooth, you can’t leave it alone. There’s a palpable connection! It might not be very fulfilling, but it’s there.

Now, supposing I cut that cord of attachment:

why would I not recreate it the very next day? And the one after that? Each time I interact with that person, if it’s my energy creating that cord (and I’m guessing that it is) then does it really help to cut the cord?

I guess it is just seeming like I must have a million cords and even if I cut them all I would just keep right on creating them.

Also, how is it possible not to create one, if you create a cord every time you are interested in another person?

Thanks!

Today, my big tale from Japan involves bowing.

Usually, as an American, I’m pretty clueless about bowing. There are nuances to it, I know, especially how much. My own bows tend to be extravagant and over-the-top because I want to make it clear to every Japanese person that (just in case they’re wondering) I have NO CLUE how much of an incline to make.

Rather than insulting anyone with the wrong bow nuance, I’d rather do a preemptive strike (as it were) with my bows by making it obvious that I appreciate everyone enormously. Even if it appears ludicrous or clownish, at least I won’t unintentionally insult anyone by seeming un-bow-like by a few centimeters, comparing what I give to Person A vs. Person B.

Anyway, today I had a client here today, Maxi-san, and the healing in our session was very moving for him. So, while saying goodbye, he did a Rose-like, from the waist, bow of enormous bend-quality.

Afterwards, Maxi-san did a slight incline-type bow toward our marvellous, talented interpreter, Yukari-san.

Then I got it. I’ve been big-bowed. And by someone who wasn’t being self-consciously foolish but by someone who meant every inch.

Between that and your kind words, Ann, I’m blushing.

So blushing and warmth backacha, Ann, from Rose.

I’m enjoying your tales of Japan, Rose.

Warmly,
Ann