Why the Confusion about Cutting Cords of Attachment?

Cords of Attachment can be removed quickly and rather easily, in a permanent way. It takes about one hour to do the job properly, cutting one Cord of Attachment.

By contrast, clearing up confusion about Cords of Attachment is taking many hours, and posts in this series. I hope you Blog-Buddies are having as much fun with it as I am. Especially Suzanne, whose questions prompted this educational series. Speaking of fun, the cover featured at the start of today’s post is the Japanese edition of CUT CORDS OF ATTACHMENT. The hilarious, cute style of graphic design is all the rage, perhaps one step up from “Hello Kitty.”

Anyway, let’s consider why so many people find it hard to accept that it is really, truly, possible to cut a Cord of Attachment permanently. Yes, permanently, as in “you will never have a Cord of Attachment to that person again for the rest of your life.”

CORDS OF ATTACHMENT VS. PSYCHIC TIES

Maybe these different names only seem like so much gobbledygook. But if you work as a professional in the field of Energy Spirituality, you must understand these two very different technical terms. Psychic Ties vs. Cords of Attachment are as different as bad, wormy apples vs. dried-up oranges.

A Psychic Tie is a tiny energy structure, like a filament made by a spider. Not a whole spider web, not a big deal — each one constitutes only a small energy drain. The nuisance does add up, however, so it’s good to know how to remove them. Plus there are certain situations in the life of a healer or counselor where you really, really need to cut Psychic Ties or you set yourself up for a lot of trouble.

The best way to learn about this is to take my Intensive on Spiritual Cleansing and Protection, or have me teach you the skill set via personal mentoring over several personal sessions. (See LINKS.)

That way you can gain a systematic understanding about Psychic Ties and other forms of Astral-Level debris. You can learn to diagnose which problem is which, because Psychic Ties are just one of many difficulties in life caused by various forms of Astral-Level debris. And, of course, you can learn a quality method of removing Psychic Ties.

Every time you think of a person, that’s when you get a Psychic Tie.

 CORDS OF ATTACHMENT ARE NOT PSYCHIC TIES

A Cord of Attachment is a very different kind of Astral-Level debris. Here are some obvious differences:

• You only get one Cord of Attachment per relationship per lifetime.
• A Cords of Attachment creates serious energy flows, perhaps as much as your losing or taking on a ton of energy every day, such as receiving a ton of someone else’s anger or losing a ton of your personal power.
• Every Cord of Attachment has unique significance.
• Every Cord of Attachment must be removed separately. Doing the job properly can take an hour.
• By contrast, once you know how to properly remove Psychic Ties, it can take just a couple of minutes to remove all of them.

When you do Aura Reading, the difference between Psychic Ties and Cords of Attachment can become obvious — provided that you actually focus on perceiving them, not just generalizing about them as “nuisances.”

RUN FROM THAT FREEBIE

Yes, many talented healers who otherwise do excellent work are under-educated about Psychic Ties vs. Cords of Attachment. But so are some shoddy practitioners who would never be able to charge for their services if mind-body-spirit healing were a regulated field.

Consider the popular method you’ll read about widely all over the Internet: Supposedly you can cut all your Cords of Attachment by simply asking Archangel Michael to remove them….

This is a watered-down method of cutting Psychic Ties. Except even for cutting Psychic Ties, rather than Cords of Attachment, this “method” is woefully incomplete.

Why would a practitioner confuse removing Psychic Ties with Cutting Cords of Attachment?

• Perhaps the healer isn’t paying much attention to actual results.
• Or he/she never received proper training.
• Or the healer is doing this “cord cutting thing” as an extra little goodie to throw in with the rest of the professional services. After all, Cutting Cords of Attachment has come to be fashionable.

Hey, my favorite supermarket will give you a little trinket if you spend at least $50 in one shopping trip. Maybe you’ll be offered a little green plastic bowl or a flowered plastic serving tray.

It seems as though some energy workers these days think of offering cord cutting like the same kind of bonus goodie. After doing the “real” work of Reiki, aromatherapy, massage, etc., they ask, “During the last two minutes of our session, would you like me to cut all your Cords of Attachment?”

Take my advice: Run from that healer. Because if that healer is so ignorant about cutting cords, you really can’t be sure that the rest of that healer’s skill sets are going to be competent, either.

CONFUSION IN COLLECTIVE CONSCIOUSNESS

Since we’re discussing confusions in collective understanding related to Cords of Attachment, let’s give illusion its due.

When millions of people believe something untrue, there’s a certain power in that.  Unless folks can summon up the strength to think for themselves, it’s tempting to think like the rest of the crowd.

Over the past 20 years, I’ve seen this a lot with Aura Reading. People are told “Auras are colors that talented people see. Each color has a set meaning.”

Even though this is a kindergarten understanding, even though the results produced by this sort of Aura Reading are dismal, the illusion persists. Thank the momentum generated by collective consciousness.

Once I had a fascinating example of this problem with Minnie, a student who flew to Virginia from Asia in order to take my Aura Reading Intensive. During this weekend workshop, everyone learned how to read auras in depth and detail. They learned how to do this on themselves, on other people, even on people in regular photographs. They all did just fine.

And all the workshop participants seemed to value their experiences, except for Minnie. On Saturday evening, she told me, “You know, I didn’t really read much about your Intensive on the Internet. I just signed up because I wanted to see the colors and learn about what they meant.”

Sighing, I reminded Minnie of all she had learned from my system of Aura Reading Through All Your Senses (R). I implored her to use HER personal gift set, and reminded her that the idea “Auras are colors” is not what I teach. Quite the opposite.

Minnie seemed to take all this in and understand it. She smiled, nodded, and thanked me.

But the very next morning, Minnie asked in the group session. “When are you going to teach us how to see the colors? And when are you going to tell us what each color means?”

Minnie is a bright woman. Really. But that power of the collective illusion just swooshed away her ability to think.

Similarly, you’ll read many stories on the Internet, and hear plenty in person, to the effect that, “My cords came back.”

In the popular mythology, “You can cut all your Cords of Attachment at once. Except they always  come back.”

THE REAL PROBLEM WHEN CORDS OF ATTACHMENT RETURN

What’s with that? The Cord of Attachment was never cut properly in the first place.

In the emerging field of Energy Spirituality, many newbies lack discernment. There’s a huge amount of magical thinking. I see it a lot with new clients.

• They expect everything.
• They expect nothing.
• Hey, they don’t know what the heck to expect.

And so they kind of believe they can have all their cords cut, having no clue what on earth that would really mean.

As just one practical example, there can be significant emotional releasing after doing a quality job of cutting ONE Cord of Attachment. To really cut all of them in one day would unleash a torrent of releasing that would make Hurricane Katrina seem like a puddle.

JAPANESE CRYING

One final problem stands in the way of accepting that healing really can be permanent, healing from properly cutting one Cord of Attachment. Some clients find it hard to accept the idea that they could have permanent healing of anything.

When someone is very attached to having problems, guess what happens? Despite the fact that the problem is gone, a client may feel as though the problem stays put. Otherwise a new problem will be substituted.

Some therapists and energy workers struggle with clients who don’t really want to change. The clients SAY they want to get better, but really they would miss the payoff of being damaged, wounded, victims, etc.

Such a client may find it hard to believe that Cutting a Cord of Attachment could, indeed, be permanent.

This reminds me of a particular kind of crying that I have noticed when working with certain Japanese clients. As I’ve done hundreds of sessions in Tokyo, I’ve had the privilege of seeing many Japanese people cry — both women and men. Given the depth healing some have received in personal sessions, it’s not surprising.

But what has surprised me is the phenomenon I think of as “Japanese Crying.”

This is a form of crying where the client — let’s call him or her “Maxi” — does a very polite version of tearing up that I have encountered only in Japan.

Maxi allows only one tiny tear to escape her eye at a time. She wipes it away delicately, with the wonderful refined manners that I have come to love in my Japanese clients.

Maxi won’t blow her nose, either. Instead, she’ll quietly sniffle.

First I thought, “It’s culture, that’s all.” Usually Maxi brings along a washcloth, pulls it out of purse or pocket, and dabs away. If a tissue must be used, it is used for so long that you wonder when this idea will be taken for future Bounty paper towel commercials. After such intensive use, the exhausted, soggy tissue won’t be thrown away but tucked into the client’s purse or pocket. (Otherwise, there would be horrid evidence that the person had acutally cried.)

Observing Japanese Crying, I always get the feeling that I am not supposed to notice any of this, doing what sociologist Irving Goffman called “civil inattention.”

But sometimes I will do a skilled Empath Merge with my clients who are doing this remarkable crying/non-crying behavior. And that’s how I learned about the darker side of Japanese Crying.

HOW DO YOU CRY, ANYWAY?

There might be some relationship between your ability to accept healing and the way you cry.

Most versions of weepiness are helpful for healing. You’ll let it all out, the grief, the anger, the hot flaming tears of old rage or the slim, cool tears as your heart opens up to the possibility of more love.

You’ll sob or you’ll hiccup or you’ll make no sound at all except for the splashing racket that pours out of each eye.

 Super!

You might even do Japanese Crying, very polite and neat. Yet your healing would be going just fine.

But sometimes Japanese Crying is the most extreme form of sulkiness imagineable. If the client could talk about what is being expressed through this style, complete with the stopped up sniffles and extreme washcloth wiping, it might go like this:

“Watch me and you’ll see what has happened because you have forced me to be so damned polite. I can’t even cry.

“And it’s all your fault. You have ruined my ability to ever release my emotions or heal. Instead I must be hyper-vigilant about keeping my manners perfect. So watch me not let myself cry. I sure hope you feel guilty.”

Different clients, different dynamics, different versions of tears. Unless you’re a professional healer, there’s only one person’s whose tears of release are your business: Your own.

If you can allow yourself to have a good cry, there’s an excellent chance that you will fully accept the healing when you cut a Cord of Attachment.