The first aid technique is Wakeup Call. (Gaa, I ought to read my books more often so I can refer to their contents properly.)

You’ll get used to using your eye muscles as desired. Remember, there’s a whole bunch o’ options in BECOME THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN THE ROOM. (And, Blog-Buddies who are wondering, Wakeup Call and Take It Technique are both in that book.)

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To clarify, this is someone who I am doing a short term paid job for cleaning/organizing. I debated with myself whether to take it or not but I felt like I could handle it by choosing to focus on the practical ways I can help (and am willing to help) and not to offer more than that.

Which book has the first aid technique? I don’t know that one. I have been using the Wakeup call and Take it techniques. And I felt like that helped. But I can see how there will be an ongoing need for empath skills. Sigh!

The hardest thing for me is not making eye contact. In the past, the only time I have not made eye contact with someone is if I was angry at that person or did not like them.

Yes, it is like learning to ride a bicycle!

“Say you have a session and cut that cord. The other person still has all of that heavy duty stuff, and you are still part of their life. Are you now immune to their stuff? Can you now make eye contact, for example, without empathically merging?”

Cutting a cord of attachment isn’t like planting a magic bean. (Or eating one.) Important though it is, cutting cords properly, this is not THE ONE THING TO BRING IMMUNITY FROM ALL PROBLEMS IN LIFE.

Okay, calm down, Rose. I don’t really mean to flame here, SUZANNE.

Yes, you can cut a cord of attachment to such a person, whether by having me bring my decades of experience to help you, in a phone session or by going through my how-to book, “Cut Cords of Attachment,” developing that skill set, and doing the job for yourself.

What that means is you no longer have a set of energies linking you to the cordee, replaying a distressing set of “Cord Items” that pull and tug you energetically, 24/7, until the last minutes of your life.

Cutting that cord of attachment will help you a lot. But that certainly doesn’t mean that all your relationship problems are magically solved. Or that you have magically become a Skilled Empath.

You’re just freer – which includes your ability to decide whether or not you want this troubled person in your life, and the degree to which you choose to be emotionally involved. (Hint, hint)

You’re freer, not given some kind of Superman powers courtesy of a magic bean.

You’re still an empath, so you’ll need to use empath skills for holding a space, etc. with this person for the rest of your life. You’ll need to use empath skills with EVERYONE for the rest of your life.

Sooner or later, you’ll become comfortable with them, just like learning how to ride a bike.

Will it help to use techniques from “Become the Most Important Person in the world?” if there is a cord involved?”

It’s great you are sorting through the various skill sets I teach.

Now, let’s be clear. Taking on STUFF from another person’s aura does not create a cord of attachment. That’s just living as an empath who is still developing skill, not yet a fully Skilled Empath.

But you described this relationship as “somebody in your life.”

That’s when the cord of attachment was formed, the first moment when you began to think/feel about this person as “somebody in my life.”

For information about cords of attachment, you would turn to the book on that topic, right? That’s “Cut Cords of Attachment: Heal Yourself and Others with Energy Spirituality.”

The book, “Become The Most Important Person in the Room: Your 30-Day Plan for Empath Empowerment” is separate. This is a book for empaths. It helps you to develop a completely different skill set.

“You mostly avoid making eye contact, and remain objective and focused in your own experience so as not to merge with that person’s suffering.

“But sometimes you slip up and make eye contact. You experience physical ailments typical of that other person, so you suspect some “physical oneness merging” is going on.”

Your assessment is correct.

So the practical things to do are to use the First Aid technique to clean yourself up and also to resolve not to slip up again. (Repeat as needed.)

The relationship with this friend sounds like an excellent practice opportunity.

“Supposing there is somebody in your life who has a LOT of stuff in their aura. You want to help, but NOT by taking on his/her stuff.”

Well, that’s smart. You would use common sense approaches to this, right? Such as having conversations out loud, making referrals, knowing when to stop helping because ultimately the person decides when to get better or not.

THREE CHEERS for getting the point that your job as an empath, or anything else, is never to take on another person’s STUFF. This is why a Skilled Empath keeps all her/his gifts turned OFF most of the time.

When you turn on your gifts, full force, using a dedicated technique, even then it is never a matter of taking on STUFF from another person.

The techniques to turn empath gifts ON in BECOME THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN THE ROOM and EMPOWERED BY EMPATHY are carefully designed to help protect you from taking on STUFF.

So why do these techniques? You gain information. Combining that information with your common sense as a person, plus any skill sets you have learned for healing, give you an advantage for making the best contribution you safely can.

Supposing there is somebody in your life who has a LOT of stuff in their aura. You want to help, but NOT by taking on his/her stuff. You mostly avoid making eye contact,and remain objective and focused in your own experience so as not to merge with that person’s suffering. But sometimes you slip up and make eye contact. You experience physical ailments typical of that other person, so you suspect some “physical oneness merging” is going on.

I assume this means a cord has been created.
Will it help to use techniques from “Become the Most Important Person in the world?” if there is a cord involved?

Say you have a session and cut that cord. The other person still has all of that heavy duty stuff, and you are still part of their life. Are you now immune to their stuff? Can you now make eye contact, for example, without empathically merging?

Thanks!

I have had a number of sessions over a period of a few years with Rose, and what I can say about her is that she truly cares and she does her best to do fit in as much healing as she can into her sessions. This, in addition to being a very gifted healer and someone who is obviously in alignment with her divine path. As if all that weren’t enough, she is really funny, having a session with her is fun, and she has one of the brightest most shiny auras I have have ever encountered. It is obvious she knows a thing or two about “moving out stuff”!

Many thanks, Rose!