More Requirements for Permanent Energy Healing

Let’s continue our consumer-smarts exploration about what it really takes for successful energy healing. You could also call this “Permanently moving out STUFF” or doing professional-quality spiritual healing or emotional healing.

I’m not going to include physical healing where energy is involved. Except to say this:

Many of my clients and students ARE physical healers, whether massage therapists or bodyworkers or Reiki healers or practitioners of Donna Eden’s Energy Medicine or Janet Mentgen’s Healing Touch or students at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing or acupuncturists or chiropractors.

And THEY tell me how exhausting it can be for them, doing energy healing where the focus is physical. Because many clients just come to be fixed. They must be fixed again and again.

Good for earning a regular income, perhaps, but frustrating for people who truly want to help people in a big way. Now, some of these healers are so talented that they come up with powerful insights so that the healing is permanent, and the components of healing listed here are fulfilled. Often, however, it’s hit or miss.

I would love if this article can inspire some of you physically-based healers to “hit” more often.

In my career, I don’t emphasize physical healing. The only sessions where the intention is healing a specific physical problem would be Energy Release Regression Therapy. Otherwise, physical help for clients is only a side effect, if it happens at all.

But, like all you healers reading this, healers in every discipline, I have a passion for helping people to move STUFF out permanently. And so that is the basis for the (admittedly controversial) ideas that follow.

Mind-Body-Spirit Principle #4: Permission

(If you’re looking for the first three principles, read this earlier discussion about energy healing.)

Clients must give permission for any healing to be permanent. And I don’t just mean well-intended workarounds like advanced Reiki, where you chat with the person’s subconscious mind.

The conscious mind of the client must be involved and, explicitly, give the healer permission. The client gets to choose, not the healer.

To attempt anything else “for the person’s own good,” is questionable. I have come to believe that doing this is like playing God with the client. It can create psychic coercion, a form of astral debris that nobody needs, either to be receiving or sending.

It’s certainly worth considering that you may not really know what a person needs or wants, even if you think you do, even if that person’s subconscious mind welcomes the intervention.

Here’s a story to back this up, not a story I’m really proud of but a useful one, nonetheless. Around 1987, I studied Reiki Level 2 with the great Beth Gray. “Zoe” was a friend who had taken Reiki Level 1 with me. After graduating, I offered a session to Zoe as a gift; I also offered to make a cassette tape recording and send it to her.

Making this invitation, I figured that Zoe would enjoy the gift of healing more if she heard the recording. Since she was halfway to Reiki Level 2, I figured that she would get a kick out of hearing the technical bits from the recording.

Was I ever wrong. Zoe hated that recording. She said she felt “raped” because I just did things to her after chatting away with her subconscious mind.

Discussing this “terrible” incident, as Zoe considered it, I believe I mentioned that she could hear me on the recording asking permission of her subconscious mind, then saying that her subconscious mind had given it.

Big deal! Zoe’s conscious mind didn’t believe that, not for a moment. She told me again that she felt violated by her healing.

Now, I wasn’t a very experienced Reiki healer, and maybe I wasn’t an especially good one. Had I been more experienced, I never would have shared that sound recording.

Otherwise, I would still be having conversations with a client’s subconscious mind, without conscious conversation as well. So why would that problem of non-consent, non-participation, have changed?

That gift to Zoe ruined my friendship with her but it gave me something worth thinking about.

Mind-Body-Spirit Principle #5: Consciously choosing an intention for the healing

Many a healer does volunteer work, helping people along the way. Sweet! But this doesn’t necessarily produce long-term healing. In fact, over the years I have become convinced that this DOESN’T happen. And, with all respect, CAN’T happen when the client isn’t participating consciously.

An everyday example may well concern you, if you have ever been an unskilled empath. If you are merely talented, not yet a Skilled Empath, you may often take on STUFF from other people in the room.

No conscious conversation takes place and even you, the short-term healer, may not be conscious of doing the healing.

Still, you are taking STUFF into your own personal aura, for however long it stays around. Which is the #1 reason why unskilled empaths become so drained.

Many a student of Empath Empowerment(TM) has asked me, “Doesn’t it help that other person, though?” Long-term, the answer is definitely “No.” Ask any enabler, doing any type of enabling.

Unless the client learns something, there will be no permanent healing. If there has been no request consciously, permanent healing is merely the healer’s wish.

Mind-Body-Spirit Principle #6: Consciously learning something during the healing

Not every form of energy healing requires constant surveillance by the conscious mind. I’ve already mentioned Energy Release Regression Therapy, which is done in a deep state of hypnosis. But after I bring out the client from hypnosis, toward the end of the session, I make sure the client consciously knows what was achieved during the session.

And, of course, a session like this (or any other healing that I facilitate) gains direction because, at the start, my client is asked to set a specific intention. This means my client is speaking at a conscious level, making a personal choice for the purpose of the healing.

Conscious mind must be involved or there is no sticking place for that healing in the context of that person’s emotional and spiritual evolution.

About 30 years ago, subliminals tapes were all the rage. I bought three. It seemed like such a great idea at the time. “Affirmations go straight into your subconscious mind, working miracles,” that was the idea.

Only I’ve heard that, later, research showed that these wonderful-sounding tapes didn’t work. How come? Without the conscious mind hearing those affirmations, there can’t be permanent healing.

Mind-Body-Spirit Principle #6: Learning

Something must be learned for any energy healing to be permanent. It may come as a flash of insight or there may be many components to the learning.

Again, some healers do this spontaneously. Others don’t. If you have a choice, share those insights to support your good work!

One example of sharing insights is one of my 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R): Validation. After the cord of attachment is cut, I research what was there and then read it out loud to the client. We discuss it.

Another step, that we do together — conscious minds at the ready —  is to consider the practical implications of having particular cord items gone.

Both these steps bring learning. The validation part is especially crucial. I think of it as a kind of collision between the client’s conscious mind, talking with me, hearing the cord items. Because I have researched what was in the cord of attachment, at the time it was cut, these cord items are freshly pulled from my client’s subconscious mind.

The cord of attachment used to operate subconsciously, recycling its toxic STUFF 24/7. When it is removed on every level, it will no longer create this STUFF, and the healing becomes permanent.

Whatever technique you use for energy healing, of any kind, does the process include bringing out quality, personal insights that have to do with this particular client at this time? Otherwise, don’t expect there to be permanent healing until you have found a way to do this.

It isn’t enough to say, “Your root chakra was closed. But now the energy is flowing.” People need human talk, not abstract energy talk.

Here is how I work with this healing principle. When I say that “STUFF can always, always, always be healed,” I mean by using dedicated techniques of aura healing and transformation, regression therapy, or other professional-quality skills used in a way where the client consciously learns something important.

Mind-Body-Spirit Principle #7: Repetition doesn’t compensate for learning

How can you tell if nothing is really being learned? Healing doesn’t happen.

These days, you’ll see many people frequently tapping themselves or giving themselves Reiki. I have had students sit in my workshops while busily doing this. Since I wasn’t teaching EFT or Reiki, they were coming to learn a completely different skill set. Yet they kept healing away in the background, as if doing their knitting.

One way you can tell that a technique isn’t doing permanent healing is if you feel the need to do it daily. Yes, Emotional Freedom Technique can work. When it works, you learn something. And you release STUFF permanently.

When it doesn’t, a new practitioner will repeat and repeat and repeat. Or, as a Blog-Buddy recently noted, you mix it in with another technique. Then you hope for the best. (See Val’s Comment 2.)

Similarly, I’ve stopped counting how often people tell me, “I cut my cords every day” or “I’ve been working hard on my energetic cords.” This does nothing, of course. The proof of poor technique is in the need for repetition.

When you do a quality job of cutting one cord of attachment, it’s permanent. As in “for life.”

That’s what I call “permanent healing.” Of course you can do it.

Not everyone can do all kinds of energy healing, but everyone can do at least one kind. Of course, everyone is a healer. That means you have some natural healing ability. But responsible healing means talent + training.

When you combine quality skills with your innate talent, you can realistically expect to facilitate permanent healing. While developing as a healer (something I’m still doing every single day), do what you can to incorporate all these requirements for permanent healing. Your clients will thank you.