LISA asked elsewhere:

A friend of mine alluded to the idea that cords of attachment are consensual and significant in that there is intent on my part about the kinds of cords of attachments I have, and what is in them… in the sense that the items in the cord are experiences particular to me (my soul??) to learn from and evolve as a human…

Perhaps this is something just in my cords, a pattern, but there has been a tinge of a victim mentality uncomfortably lurking for me around having cords of attachment, like I am victimized by that cord/person and what is in the cord.

That victim mentality doesn’t resonate for me and feels disempowering, so I am thinking there is something about how I have understood cords of attachments that isn’t on the up and up…

LISA, regarding discussion of what is in your cords of attachment with friends…

You’re in a good position to do it, since you’ve had so many sessions with me. But although you wouldn’t be lacking for cord dialogue to share, I would strongly advise against this kind of conversation.

When a cord of attachment is properly cut, there will always be detailed information available about what was in that cord at the very time it was cut. Accessing that information (if you’re healing yourself) or receiving that info. as validation (as happens if you are a client in one of my sessions) is a very important part of the healing.

Still, this is incredibly intimate information. These items come straight from your subconscious mind, after all (because the level of aura where this STUFF recycles within you 24/7 corresponds directly to your subconscious mind).

So discussing this with a friend is like going into minute detail with that friend about what happened the last time you made love. And I don’t just mean personal details like size and shape and how long and which position. I mean like the texture and degree of moisture in the sex organs involved.

Euwwwwww, right?

Hi Rose,

Thanks for these posts.To clarify, I haven’t discussed any cord items or the particulars about my COAs with friends!! The conversation I referred to that I had with my friend was a more more general one. I respect her opinions and experience as a healer and touched on the COA topic with her briefly at one point. Definitely, a topic worth mcuh more discussion…

I like to get different perspectives/views on spiritual/emotional healing and take from them what resonates most for me in my life at this time. This is what I find works best for me. I don’t follow or adhere to any one particular person or philosophy (that would feel kind of cult-y to me!!).

I have gotten so much out of your teachings and sessions!! thank you : )

many blessings to you, LIsa

question # 2 of 2.

Maybe not a question, but an observation. I have recently had two cords of attachment cut, the only ones permanently cut although I’ve received a lot of energy healing over the years. Both cords were huge and I’ve had them for about 40 years. Both were on the left side of my body.

During the last 30 or so years, my health issues had been getting progressively worse and I’ve tried a shocking and unbelievable number of modalities to address the problems. My health has been improving, but the left side of my body has always had the most distressing symptoms.

Perhaps that is a coincidence that these icky cords were on the left side and future cord cutting will show that they are more evenly distributed.

LISA, re your Comment #5, that is perfect.

Some excellent questions have come in from S. Here’s the first of them:

I wanted to know once a cord has been cut, what happens to the toxic thoughts of the other person?

S. asked, “Does the person’s negative about you affect you or your negative thoughts about that person affect him or her?

See previous answer.

S. asked, “Can a cord to a disease be cut?”

No, cords of attachment only exist between people.

Two: You and the cordee.

For S. and all who ask me about black magic, psychic attack, etc., here’s my answer:

Usually, when someone believes that black magic is affecting them, a cord of attachment is responsible and also possibly a feeling of lack of empowerment.

Which will be the best modality to use for this type of healing? In addition to cutting cords of attachment to people who trouble you, I can mentor you in empowerment issues as well as perform spiritual cleansing if that is necessary.

Okay, LARA, let’s take your questions one by one. These refer to my book, “Cut Cords of Attachment” (which I would prefer not being referred to as “COA.”)

DIVINE HOMEOSTASIS means that when a cord of attachment is cut, any energy that would come to the cordee or go from the cordee is arranged to stay the same.

It’s that simple. If you find yourself brooding over this, you might have other issues that relate to STUFF and the need for healing.

This arrangement is done by the Divine Being who did the heavy lifting during your session.

Re LARA’s question about “re-cording” at Comment 18,I would strongly recommend you check out the blog post about why there is no such thing as re-cording.

You will find it here:http://www.rose-rosetree.com/blog/2009/12/17/re-cording-cord-attachment/

Rose,

Thank you so much for answering all of that. You must get really sick of having to repeat, “There’s no such thing as re-cording”!

As for Divine Homeostasis, I did understand the cordee’s energy dynamic would stay the same (hence ‘homeostasis’!) I was wondering what happened to the energy that I put into cords (its a two-way thing after all, not victimhood).

But I think I shall use this wonderful technique of questioning to find an answer, which would resonate for me more than being told something. I appreciate it’s pointless to brood over parts of a process that are not in my control; for me I do need to understand at least a little of a process before I feel comfortable with it.

Sorry if you were bothered that I abbrieviated the book title, I was being lazy, but shall use its full elegant title from now on!

Once again many thanks.

Inspired by LARA, Part 2

Every one of your cords of attachment, LARA, exists as part of the complex maya here, where everyone has a unique reality, down to the finest (and up to the largest) details.

As part of that, a person develops problems. Some of those problems show up in the cord items themselves, with energy flows back and forth between yourself and the cordee.

This is mainly about your reality, not the cordee’s.

Your healing is your responsibility, not the cordee’s.

The cordee’s energy flows, cords of attachment, STUFF, etc. is really none of your business. A small number of clients do become very, very concerned about cordees, or energy vampires, or psychic vampires, or psychic attack, or being victimized by narcissists. Some of these clients I have been able to help, moving STUFF out one session at a time.

Occasionally, I have had to recommend that a client seek psychotherapy or psychiatric medication. If you — or any Blog-Buddies — have persistent, strong worries concerning issues like these, there may be an underlying problem which could signal the need for that kind of professional help. Only you would know the difference between a fun hobby-type curiosity and a major fear.

Inspired by LARA, Part 4

In my opinion — and it is only my opinion, so disgree all you like — no human being has infinite time and resources.

Assuming that you do choose to venture alone into the sacred healing art of cutting cords of attachment, consider. IMHO, it is a better use of time to:

* Practice the skill, also gain healing, by cutting your own minor cords of attachment. Yes, doing this — not just theorizing about the process — you can gain real expertise at the skill.

* Having one cord of attachment permanently removed in a quality way, yes even a minor cord of attachment, is going to help you feel in control and good about the process much more than any theoretical discussion.

* Then you can go on to do a professional-caliber job of cutting your own major cords of attachment.

And, yes, although I didn’t write it this way in the how-to book, it is better to cut ALL your minor cords of attachment before doing the first major one. In “Cut Cords of Attachment” I ask the reader to cut at least 6 minor cords. This is very much a minimum, chosen to accommodate impatient readers. It is far better for your own quality of healing if you remove all minor cords before “going on to the majors.”

Hi Rose,

Is is posssible/probable to have more than one cord of attachment to a cordee?

By the way, you recently cut a cord of attachment to my mother. Since the cutting of this cord, I am much less prone to sadness.

In the past to keep myself from feeling sad, I would have to do a lot of EFT. I have not done EFT in some time, and the sadness has not crept back.

Also, I had no problem finding lots of good things to say about myself. I noticed feeling more confident in a situation that would have made me feel insecure. I’ve known for a long time that I was carrying my mother’s pain, but I thought it was a psychological.

Thank you!

RENEE, you noted:

“By the way, you recently cut a cord of attachment to my mother. Since the cutting of this cord, I am much less prone to sadness.”

That’s a great example of WHY a person would choose to cut a cord of attachment.

Cord items, such as sadness, recycle within the cord 24/7. With no effective intervention, these items continue to affect your aura and subconscious mind until the last minutes of your life.

This happens whether or not:
* You know there are such things as cords of attachment.
* You have a great relationship with the cordee.
* You have a lousy relationship with the cordee.
* You no longer speak to the cordee, and haven’t for years.
* The cordee is “dead.”

So it is a big step forward in personal growth and empowerment to remove every major cord of attachment.

Results like these are totally expectable. Congratulations!

RENEE, about Emotional Freedom Technique, incidentally…

I have a lot of respect for the healing power of E.F.T. when it is done by someone who really has professional-level skill.

One way to tell if there IS real competence at healing is if there are quick and permanent results. When people tap themselves on a regular basis, many times during the day, they may get some relief, as you did. Which is a fine workaround.

But it’s like those Reiki practitioners who constantly feel the need to do Reiki. Or other mind-body-spirit practitioners who constantly are doing some technique or other to make themselves feel okay.

Enough is enough already! If you’re giving a technique your best try and it isn’t working very well, please consider doing something different. Maybe someone who is an expert at that technique can offer professional services that would make a difference. Or maybe it’s time to change techniques altogether.

Even when Reiki, E.F.T., Pranic Healing, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Hypnosis, Regression Therapy, and other techniques work properly…

they won’t (in my opinion) ever cut a cord of attachment. They are separate skill sets entirely.

Even when modified to, supposedly, cut cords of attachment, I have never encountered a case where this happened.

And why would this be surprising? None of these skill sets, or my 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment, is the set of skills to use to wash your car or deliver a baby. Different jobs require different skill sets.

Dear Rose

Thank you for all your responses! I am currently cutting away my minor cords and I just can’t believe that something so simple to do can be so effective and that you can really feel the results not take it on faith that something is happening.

Even though I have had success with them so far (8 and counting) I think that having you cut a major one (or two) would be a really great idea.

Having really experienced the effects I have started to think that I should maybe cut cords for others (like family and friends not professionaly), but while I am comfortable doing my own, just going by the book, being confident doing others I would like to take your course first, thanks for that suggestion!

Yes, LARA and others, it can work to your advantage to have one or more phone sessions with me, where I facilitate cutting a major cord of attachment.

Obviously, there’s going to be more experience since I have worked professionally in this field since 1986. And as all you Blog-Buddies probably know by now, you only get ONE healing opportunity per cord of attachment, at least if you use 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R).

Reminds me of a comment overheard once in a ladies dormitory. The woman at the sink next to mine was shaving her legs, doing a meticulous job. She announced, “I only do this once a week. So I’ve got to do it right.”

A personal session allows you to receive the healing results from someone who has devoted decades to developing this skill set. So you’ll gain better results than if you did healing of a really important cord while still having early-stage skills.

In addition, there’s the role modeling factor. It can inspire you, having a session with someone who has walked farther down this particular path — opening up a vision of where YOU can go in the future.

When I teach those 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R), it is my delight to have you become the very best healer you can be. Go ahead and surpass me! That would honor BOTH of us.

Suzanne, great questions!

I’ve always had the feeling, with Thrill Your Soul info, that things can only get better. I’m pretty sure, and Rose can confirm this, that yes, how you/your aura reacts to different life choices will change as you release more stuff. But why would healing cause an option that was once thrilling to become yucky? It seems likely that it would only work in the opposite direction. I suppose a new cord or new frozen blocks could make things worse, but that seems rare, and hopefully we’re all releasing a lot more than we’re accumulating!

I also know, to answer your second question, that Rose has said in the past that saying “the man who mugged me” or “my kindergarten teacher” is sufficient if you don’t know the cordee’s name.

For drugs, there’s also clearing out astral debris/entities, which she would have done for you right away if there was a problem (right?). I’ve cut cords to people I did drugs with in the past, but drugs/alcohol haven’t come up as the subject of any cord items – maybe because I’m pretty sure any abuse was basically self-motivated, not due to peer pressure. Drug & alcohol related frozen blocks are now at the very top of my regression therapy list!! Getting that stuff out is going to feel soooo goood.

Are certain types of people more likely to form cords with others? eg. Incest Victims, Children of Alcoholics? I guess I’m looking for an energetic explanation for Co-Dependent Behavior & Borderline Personality Disorder.

P.S. Are you on Facebook yet?

KATHY: Important question in your Comment 41. Who is most likely to develop cords of attachment? A human being.

EVERYONE develops them.

If someone has had a difficult life, as in Adult Child of an Alcoholic, that person will have lots of extra STUFF related to those experiences. STUFF that, in my work with clients, is removed through Energy Release Regression Therapy.

It stands to reason, doesn’t it, that if you have a lot of STUFF already clogging up your aura, it will be more noticable that you have STUFF from cords of attachment.

Most important thing: STUFF can always, always, always be healed. My 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R) is one way to do permanent healing of STUFF.

Finally, KATHY, a last bit about your Comment 41.

No, I am not on Facebook and do not plan to go there. Sorry. It’s a time management choice.

Something you might want to do, JODY, is pick up your copy of “Cut Cords of Attachment.” Look up “Divine Homeostasis” in the Index.

Then go back and read the entire chapter leading up to that paragraph.

Cutting cords of attachment, as I teach it, is not a complicated thing that brings loads to worry about. It is a very simple set of steps that you do one at a time, with everything explained to you in a systematic manner.

On the other hand, the Internet is swirling with worried and confused conversations around cutting cords of attachment. Keep in mind that many of those conversations are based on playing around, speculation, etc.

People mean well (I hope) in these conversations, but you don’t need to take on the general tone of fear. Ask ANYONE who has had a personal session with me. People do not leave my sessions MORE scared and confused but LESS.

Thank you Rose. I am awaiting arrival of my book (ETA next week), and will find the section you mentioned to have a read through.

KATHY, about your recent comment, good for you. It’s important to get expert help of the kind required in a dramatic situation.

Also, it’s great to learn about cords of attachment. (See the previous comment for some practical tips.)

One more tip just for a situation for yours: About the kind of expert help I can provide… When you are no longer in a situation fraught with drama, it can be helpful to have me do a session or two by phone.

Although you can learn to cut cords of attachment with professional-level skill from that book, it will take a while to build to the level of experience where it would be appropriate to cut ANY major cord of attachment.

Even my mentoring students, who are very skilled at cutting cords of attachment and do professional work with their own clients, have come to me to facilitate cutting cords of attachment when there has been a major level of drama or intensity.

We really can help each other. One reason why, cleverly, God created more than one person on this earth, you know?

My Cut Cords of Attachment book arrived this week, and I am slowly making my way through. Another question I want to ask is, can a person have cords of attachment to their pets?

Great, that’s good to understand thanks Rose. It’s enough that pets are natural empaths without the extra whammy some of them would have to deal with if they had cords of attachment to their humans.

Also, how old does a person need to be before cords of attachment can be cut to their parents? I am thinking of children with an alcoholic parent in particular.

JODY, more response to your fine Comment #55:

Pets aren’t exactly empaths. Cats, dogs, etc. have both collective abilities in consciousness as cats, dogs, etc. Plus, each individual pet has a distinctive way of being, special gifts.

So, ha ha! Pets are like people. So far, so good.

But the needs and role of domestic companions, non-human ones, is entirely different. If you know any animal empaths, animal communicators, and/or holistic healers for animals, I think you will find they are extremely different from humans. And are mostly doing quite well. And don’t need our worries about whether they have problems that humans have, such as being unskilled empaths.

Guest Posting is officially invited on this topic. Are any of you Blog-Buddies an animal empath, animal communicator, and/or holistic healer for animals?

JODY, this may not apply to you, but I can’t resist sharing something I have learned through experiences with working with clients.

If you, personally, know any child with a difficult father — here are the cords that you would probably be wise to cut right away:

1. YOUR cord of attachment to that child.
2. YOUR cord of attachment to that father.

And, yes, I have a hunch you are old enough.;-)

By doing this, you will find it easier use good ol’ human speech and action to help this child, rather than having a big pull-and-tug of energy on a subconscious level.

JODY, glad to read that second paragraph.

Regarding your first one, it is true that pets absorb STUFF from their humans, but this isn’t about cords of attachment. It is their service.
This much is evident to me, even without being one of those experts on pets.

Also evident: There are many kinds of STUFF going on in life, you know? If you take care of yourself and use your relationship with your Highest Power and other best resources, that’s plenty big enough for a job, IMHO.

Doing reasonable and effective amounts of volunteer work is great. Not turning yourself into a human sacrifice….

I also want to add to my question – celebrities? yes/no? I seem to remember you saying you had a gross cord of attachment to George W. Bush. Can you have a cord of attachment without having met someone or even having been in their presence?

Hi Rose,

Is there anything we can do to prevent cords of attachments from developing in the first place?

JORDAN, re Comment #62, we can have a cord of attachment to God because God is a person. There is an actual being at the other end of the cord. Same with any Divine Being, such as Jesus, Buddha, Kwan Yin, etc.

The relationship to a Divine Being is more complicated than astral-level relationships because there can be many overlays and bits of programming contributed by family members, clergy, etc.

You know, Jordan, this is my humble attempt at an explanation. It is created to supplement my experience as a professional in the field of cutting cords of attachment.

I have helped many clients to cut a cord of attachment to God, Jesus, etc.

MARY, re your Comment #64:

“Could I have a cord of attachment to my whole family?” No. See the previous comment for a very basic explanation.

“I’ve heard of family karma, for instance.” You’re right. There are many kinds of karma. There are also many types of energetic STUFF that can be stuck in people.

Newbies are often overwhelmed. My advice is to calm down a bit, learn at a pace that is comfortable for you. This can prevent the Mush-&-Gush effect. With all respect, that might be at the base of your thinking that just because there is family karma, there would be a family cord of attachment.

Another possibility in your case:

Intellectually-based people often are tempted to draw simple correspondences between things that are truly not related, such as astrolgers and handwriting analysts who wanted to find a correlation between their specialites and Face Reading Secrets(R).

“Allow this type of healing the respect it deserves. Otherwise don’t bother with it at all”

I think I am developing respect for the idea of cords. I feel a lot of energies in my body and I can locate the cords I have, but I have a hard time still really taking it seriously.

The awareness I have is something I’ve dismissed in myself a lot, but I do still feel all of these things. And when I did do my (clearly pretty amateur) cord cutting, it was very powerful.

Looks like I’m on this path of energy awareness whether I respect it or not! Have just ordered the 30 day empath book. Looking forward to reading it.

P.

GLADYS Q., related to your Comment 66, there are plenty of ways to learn on earth that do not involve years of pointless suffering.

So what DID I mean when I wrote in “Cut Cords of Attachment” that the Quickie Method — “Archangel Michael, cut all my cords” — doesn’t work, in part, because nobody learns anything?

In 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R), one of the steps is that you receive validation by hearing what WAS in that cord of attachment. Your conscious mind collides with cord items that, until very recently, were lodged in your own aura at the leve of your subconscious mind.

This collision is healing. In some ways, it may be comparable to what psychiatrists do in their process of making problems in the subconscious mind turn conscious, in order to promote lasting healing.

In the Quickie Method, there is no information. There is nothing from the client’s subconscious mind. There is NOTHING really about this Quickie Method that would bring permanent healing.

I only have three cords of attachment. You cut them in previous sessions.

Why did you just tell me in today’s session that you would suggest helping me to remove “many more cords of attachment.”

I haven’t connected closely to many people in my life.

When I come for my session, will it be okay if I help you out by going into detail about where my cord of attachment is located and what I know is in there?

At your blog, I just noticed that you must have a lot of fun writing questions in the comments yourself under a different name (somehow they all have names like Gladys and Joe) and then (only some minutes after “Gladys” wrote that question) answering those questions.

In case anyone is wondering if it SHOWS after a cord of attachment has been cut…

Around a month ago I went to a session with a Native American shaman from New Mexico. And he could actually ‘see’ the work you did on my body. I spoke with him about cords of attachment and he totally got it.

He even named you– no, he didn’t say “Rosetree” but he knew your name was Rose. What an amazing experience; it was like nothing I’ve ever experienced before….

Hi Rose!

By definition, Cords of Attachment appear when a person becomes interested in the cordee.

My question is how can you be angry with someone or criticize someone and avoid getting a Cord to him at the same time?

It seems to me that whenever I think that someone is disgusting I create a Cord to this person…
What is a way to create an honest discernment without a Cord appearing?

Thanks

Dear Rose,

I just found your website and find it deeply resonates with my thinking.

I have a question regarding cutting the cords of attachment – should one consider cutting a cord with a loved one when the baggage of the relationship is getting in the way of forgiveness and growth? If this is done, can a new attachment based on love grow again?

Or are other transformational tools more effective or applicable to this type of situation?

It seems that sometimes making a commitment to stay in the relationship is not enough to overcome negative experiences even when you have two adults that love each other and want to make the relationship work.

My apologies if this is not the forum for such a question.

MICHELLE, here comes one chunk of response at a time.

“I just found your website and find it deeply resonates with my thinking.”

Thank you. Self-authority, or noticing whether something resonates or not, is the core value behind everything I do with clients, students, readers.

The most important thing to do as you pursue cutting cords of attachment is to always bring along that self-authority. Keep the parts that work for you and let the rest go.

The big exception is that if you are learning my 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R), as in the how-to book, do NOT pick and choose according to self-authority but follow every single step. Only change the basic technique after you have done it 6-10 times.

Hey, you’ll still have the rest of your life to experiment. But I have talked to people who played around with the technique I taught very purposefully, adding and subtracting according to feelings or whims, and the results weren’t necessarily an improvement.

Okay, a technical point perhaps but potentially important for you and others, Michelle.

Continuing, MICHELLE, you asked:

If a cord of attachment is cut “can a new attachment based on love grow again?”

As you now can understand, a cord of attachment is not about attachment or love or emotional analysis of a relationship in any way. It is an energetic structure on the level of auras.

Yes, there is “Attachment Theory” and other ways to think about love and attachment, but psychological research and ideas are not at the level of energy, where people have cords of attachment.

It’s common for newbies to confuse these two ideas, since both have the word “attachment.” Hope this clarifies.

And, not to have you feel neglected or anything,
Michelle…

You asked, “It seems that sometimes making a commitment to stay in the relationship is not enough to overcome negative experiences even when you have two adults that love each other and want to make the relationship work.”

Exactly! By moving out old cord items that hang out 24/7 in your subconscious mind and aura (i.e., That is what happens with EVERY cord of attachment), you have a fresher start.

Cutting a cord of attachment doesn’t guarantee a good relationship but it does help to clean you up energetically, in a permanent manner, so that you are more in present time, not past time, when with someone you care about.

ALEXEY, continuing, you asked:

“It seems to me that whenever I think that someone is disgusting I create a Cord to this person…”

No, not really. Ever read a newspaper? See a movie?

Again, cords of attachment are not formed particularly by negative attitudes. And, in case you’re wondering, they are not some form of “punishment for having impure thoughts” either.

You will develop both a spiritual tie and a cord of attachment when you have a strong degree of investment in a relationship.

I’m intrigued by the statement “You will develop both a spiritual tie and a cord of attachment when you have a strong degree of investment in a relationship.”

I’ve been thinking about the development of cords in relationship to students I teach or come into contact with on the job. And colleagues, for that matter.

In one setting in my job, I attend classes and am there to help certain students who are eligible to receive help in succeeding in the class.

As I’ve developed my skills as an empath and have been shedding the old vestiges of codependence, I’ve been changing my approach in interacting with the students in these classes, including those I don’t necessarily have to work with, but who chat with me informally.

We have a bizarre dynamic at this school, in that there are always a few students in any given class who aren’t terribly bright, who would definitely benefit from the assistance I’m there to provide, yet who have no interest in getting help. Even if it means they fail. Go figure. Free will in action!

When I first started a few years ago, I was at first stunned by this and would try so hard to get through to them. Some I did get through to and they were grateful (and I was drained!), but as I’ve grown (and as I’ve also learned from other colleagues), I’ve seen it’s best to simply offer my services and leave it at that. If they are interested, fine, and if not, fine.

So in relation to creating cords, if I’m understanding correctly the statement I quoted, I’m likely to create a cord with a student if, like back in the day, I push in any way for them to get help.

Of course I have a general/overall degree of investment in the relationships I’m in on the job because I want to do a good job and because I want to keep a roof over my head….being cordial, collegial, etc.

My sense is that it’s possible to have that kind of basic investment in the job without creating scads of cords of attachment with individuals as long as I’m not strongly invested in each relationship.

Am I on the right track here? I have cut cords to some colleagues and a few students along the way when it’s been obvious that a cord has developed. But now I’m wondering about the process of creating them and how I can further avoid it.

This feels like part of the rebalancing that comes with developing skill as an empath. I’ve become aware of some patterns of relating to students that I developed back in far more unskilled days.

I’m still getting used to walking in the world of work with my Space Dial turned way down most of the time and not getting pulled back into old habits.

I was remembering something you told me in a session earlier in the year about ‘enchantments’…that dynamic of being in a group with a particular energy and getting pulled back into it.

I’d spent time in groups related in one way or another to healing and in the workshop experience I shared with you, there was a strong enchantment related to this. My workshop teacher was basically wrestling me energetically back into a place of great weakness,where I hadn’t been for years.

I was just mulling all of this as it relates to dynamics at my workplace, particularly in relation to a conversation with a colleague on Friday. I found myself agreeing to do something that once I got home, cut the cord to this guy, caught my breath, and had a chance to think, I realized I have little interest in doing it.

Partly I’m fascinated by the dynamic I found myself in. This guy was quite forceful, and at the same time, I found myself being basically swept up in an old pattern and offering to do things I wouldn’t have wanted to if I’d been more rested and had more space to think. It was truly bizarre and now I need to navigate my way back out of this with the guy.

Of course, I take responsibility for my own actions, and yet it was truly bizarre to find myself feeling sort of energetically ‘hijacked,’ for lack of a better word. I was very tired on Friday and think I just lost my skills, got overwhelmed. Just mulling all this, always eager to learn.

About cutting the cord of attachment to my brother, if I have a session with you to remove the cord from my side, it also removes the effect of the cord attachment from his side, correct?

ALEXEY, responding to your Comment 94, we were discussing how cords of attachment and spiritual ties are formed automatically when we become interested in another person. You wrote:

“I guess “interest” means I am interested in getting some reaction or emotion or action from the person and on the energy level I am being stuck in wanting to get some energy that I never get.”

No, actually. “Interested” just means interested. Psychologists might call it “Having something invested” in a relationship.

Say you are walking down the street and see loads of passers by. You might notice people with a general interest. That’s different from how you would feel asking one for a date.

Interest. No need to think about this a whole lot, ALEXEY. Forming cords of attachment and spiritual ties is part of life. It’s as automatic as having a hearbeat or breathing.

And developing cords of attachment and spiritual ties need not be considered cause for alarm.

GINNIE, thanks for asking your question in Comment #97.

Your session is to remove YOUR cord to the cordee (your brother, in this case).

He is not my client. Nothing I do with you in a session will EVER change or affect a client. For that you need a practitioner of voodoo — or some other system according to which it is considered ethical to change people without their conscious, verbal consent.

Why should his cord of attachment, or STUFF of any kind, be your concern? Each person is responsible for his or her own life, surely.

As you clean out STUFF that limits you, you have a better life. No need to wait for others in your life to choose the same path as you, or to choose to improve their lives in any way whatsoever.

Free will is a pretty precious thing, don’t you agree?

All you Blog-Buddies know that sometimes it takes me a while to keep up with responding to questions, right?

If you ask something and I don’t respond within a couple of weeks, feel free to remind me by posting a new comment that includes the number of your previous comment, okay?

About Enlightenment and cords of attachment, I can understand where you got the idea that, since someone Enlightened is STUFF-free, the person wouldn’t have cords of attachment.

But why? Think about it again. Here’s a hint:

STUFF in cords of attachment is the most negative patterning, the most upsetting incident with a cordee, based on other STUFF that already is stuck in that person’s aura.

Well, when there isn’t STUFF any more, that STUFF is going to be pretty darned mild. You Blog-Buddies who have had sessions with me know that, before committing to cut a particular cord of attachment during a session, I consult the “Yuckiness Index” that goes from 1-10. With “10″ as the most upsetting degree of yuckiness.

(In sessions, I won’t usually facilitate cutting a cord of attachment that is less than an 8. Technical point, related to ethics.)

Anyway, George Clooney and others from our Enlightenment Life List can have loads of cords of attachment, but they’re never going to be worse than a “1.” How upsetting is that?

It’s like, “I look at you but you look away.” Or “You step on my toe by accident and I don’t like how that feels.”

Do any of you Blog-Buddies personally know people who ARE spiritually Enlightened? I know, and have known many. The ones I’ve met find everyone delightful.

And I mean “everyone.” And “delightful.”

Oh man, reading comment 105, all I can say is “enlightenment, here I come!!!!” May all my cords be ONES!!

Very interesting Rose. I do pretty much universally like people and enjoy everyone I meet, but I’m not claiming to be enlightened.

I thought that feeling of pleasure I get from others has a lot to do with being such a quick chamelion that I join with the essence of a person before I know I’ve done it, and once I’ve merged, how could I not like the other person? People seem to really enjoy being mirrored by me and then I feel good too. Soo codependent!

Hey, I’m writing in the present tense, but this is something I’m working a lot on as I’m becoming very aware of my behaviour thanks to your book.

I look forward to enjoying people without losing myself in them.

I had 2 cords of attachment to Enlightened people, and they were both more than 8 on the Yuckiness Index. So what you say that for them the same cord was less than for me?

LIZZIE, about your Comment 111, with all respect, why would you assume that your relationships with these two Enlightened people were as important to them as they were to you.

Also, dare I suggest this? Sometimes people are considered Enlightened by their religion but don’t meet the standard of Enlightenment of energetic literacy.

Examples would include Mother Teresa and Mahatma Gandhi, unquestionably saintly behavior, definitely important people, definitely not Enlightened yet.

I think I had this crazy ideal of an enlightened person. It’s good to have this illusion disspelled.

someone directed me to your site. i have to say that the way you literally and negatively put down others and their way of dealing with cord attachments is really sad…… having experienced cord cutting and being trained to do it myself and helped many, i am saddened that someone who claims to have such great knowledge puts others down in the field and that is what i will share with my friend who directed me your way and anyone else who mentions your name. may you find peace in others who don’t do it your way just so that you can make money.

One more point, Paula, in response to your Comment 117….

I’m not quite sure what you mean by “may you find peace in others who don’t do it your way just so that you can make money.”

Evidently you are really offended that I share my own point of view on my own blog, website, and self-published books.

So it is interesting that you conclude by
“blessing” me.

You might find the series of Comments 11 and 12 interesting as well, at the New Age Litany conversation: http://www.rose-rosetree.com/blog/2010/10/18/the-new-age-litany/

Perhaps you can help answer my question about why, in New Age Culture, there seems to be a tendency to combine anger at people with the need to bless them.

I have your “Cut Cords of Attachment” book. I am learning how to cut the cords. My question is, after I learn how, can I cut the cords of attachment that other people have to ME?

Paula, I think the point of the “quickie method” is that there’s really nothing to explain. It’s basically saying “Ok, Archangel Michael, cut all my cords of attachment. Thanks.”

Rose has actually explained it a bunch of times in the blog.

Having known Rose for a few years now, I can say that to my perception, her number one goal seems to be to empower her students with knowledge and skills, which she does very effectively. Self-authority is a theme no matter what you’re working on with Rose.

She answers many questions on the blog (for free!) and actually teaches her healing methods (for a VERY reasonable price).

I personally appreciate Rose’s passion for quality control because of how effectively she has controlled the quality of her own work, and how it has changed my life.

If you’re doing quality cord cutting work, happy happy. Thanks for helping clean up the world and improve people’s lives.

I hope the discussion continues, I’d love to hear what you think.

Wow. I’m really learning the distinctive difference between people communicating with ideas and theories about love, and people communicating directly from the authentic self.

Like being in a classroom with a teacher waffling on in the distance and a good friend sitting next to you.

lol! roll on authenticity for all, that’s the best blessing I can think of

Amanda

heya, thanks for the explaination of her definition of the quickie method her tone in describing it left me with not wanting to ‘dig’ further to find her more specific definition on this site… again, thanks. btw, that is not how i do cord cutting. it may be helpful for someone or many.. who’s to judge? it’s not anyone’s place to judge another. we are all on our own individual journey.. hey, except raising my kids to be conscious minded the person i have worked with lives in australia. her name is alyssa mary rose and is quite findable on the internet. what i learned from her is only love is real and it is. all else is illusion, cord cutting helps to clear up those illusions and heal them. peace

Adina, I live in Europe too and I already had 2 sessions of Aura Cleansing that involved cord cutting with Rose. It can be done on the phone, so you don’t have to be in the office. The effect is amazing.
Here is the link on how to order
http://www.rose-rosetree.com/PlacingOrderFA.htm

I am also cutting the minor cords by the book, and no prior knowledge is required.

Thank you, Alexey.

Grace,

I like what you have mentioned about judgement. It almost seems like there is a clash between Gutenberg literacy and energetic literacy when it comes to the word ‘judgement’.

This is what makes sense to me:

judgement/condemnation = resistance of Truth (fear)

judgement/discernment = acceptance of Truth (unconditional love)

KATHY, about Comment 132, here’s some good news for you. Nobody carries cords of attachment from other lifetimes into this life.

You could consider it one of the side benefits of death. All your cords of attachment are gone for good.

However, there’s another type of STUFF that can be stuck in auras. Pioneer researcher and practitioner in the field of Regression Therapy, Dr. Coletta Long, has named this “Frozen Blocks of Energy.”

These we most certainly carry from one lifetime to another.

Yes, it is a good idea to clear out these frozen blocks. The piece of my work for doing this is called “Energy Release Regression Therapy.” It must be done in person, not over the phone.

For this reason, among others, I usually recommend that a client begin by having a few phone sessions of Aura Healing and Transformation, which CAN be done by phone, and then coming here, as appropriate, for Energy Release Regression Therapy.

Incidentally, if Austin, Texas is more convenient for you than my location near the biggest airport in metro Washington, D.C. … or if you simply want to experience the amazing work of the woman who has done more past-life regressions than anyone else alive… you might want to contact Dr. Long.

Well into her 80′s, she is still helping clients.

Here’s a link to information about Dr. Coletta Long:

http://www.mindspring.com/~colettal/page1.htm

Regarding your Comment 128, ADINA, all the instructions you need to be successful at cutting cords of attachment are contained right in that book you ordered, “Cut Cords of Attachment: Heal Yourself and Others with Energetic Literacy.”

You know, there is no super-fast way to summarize a quality method. That is why I worked very hard for more than three years to write and publish that book.

Technically, one of the most difficult parts of that book was to include exactly what you were asking about, a way to develop enough energetic literacy skills to be able to do a good job.

So aren’t you smart for going right to the heart of the thing!

When you have your book, it recommends that you cut at least six minor cords of attachment before cutting your first major cord of attachment.

It is really better to cut ALL your minor cords first. I just didn’t put that in the book because some readers can be so impatient, they might have then skipped over cutting even that minimum of six.

Sounds like you want to go for the greatest quality of experience, whis is really, really smart.

You also reminded me, Adina, to mention that I will be offering two day-long workshops in England, March 5 and 6, 2011, for the College of Psychic Studies in England.

For the week following, I will be doing personal sessions as well. Especially handy for those of you who are interested in Energy Release Regression Therapy.

Details will be posted when available. This will be the first time in, approximately, five years for me to teach anywhere in Europe. If any of you Blog-Buddies are able to put me in touch with a reputable sponsor elsewhere in the E.U., I LONG to do more teaching and sessions.

This particular opportunity came up because of a wonderful client who originally started doing sessions with me while living in Cyprus. He’s going to be my guest at one of the workshops, so perhaps you can meet him. JOE!!!!!!

If you have only a one-night stand, might you still develop a cord of attachment?

My cord of attachment was hurting really badly. I didn’t know who it belonged to so I had my healer Dan cut it and figure this out.

Rose, you don’t say a lot about the role of a client in locating a cord, or knowing which one to cut first because it hurts the most. Why not?

BTW, this Yuckiness Index goes from 1-10.

LYDIA, glad to have your Comment 143. This is a very important point:

Cords of attachment do not hurt. If you have a pain in your body, consult a physician or other credentialled healer whom you trust.

Feeling energy that hurts in your body, whether cords of attachment or anything else, is not the sign of being “advanced” or “talented.”

It’s a sign of misplaced attention, even what I call “Energy Hypochondria.”

Please do not put attention on energy sensations or information unless you are actively doing a technique of Energy Spirituality or Energy Medicine, etc. Otherwise, be a normal person and direct your senses toward human life.

This will give a much better outcome.

Rose, when choosing a cord to cut, is there more healing if you cut a cord (all things being otherwise equal) that was formed in your formative years and that has been there a long time, even though that person my not be prominent in your life any more?

Or is better cutting a cord of attachment to a person who is bugging you now, but may have only been in your life a short time.

Or does it matter at all, i.e. a 10 on the Yuckiness Index is a 10…???

RENEE, what a great question in Comment 149.

Any cord of attachment that YOU are interested in removing — that is a fine choice to make.

There is no ONE RIGHT CHOICE.

You might choose a candidate for cutting a cord of attachment that is related to your intention for personal growth for the session. If your intention is to improve your love life, for example, then you might want to bring in a childhood sweetheart as a candidate.

Alternatively, something going on in your life might make a choice stand out. For instance, you just sent a child off to college and had somebody involved in that process be very, very annoying.

You have a safeguard, if you’re in session with me. I will always research on that Yuckiness Index if a particular cord of attachment is at least an 8 on that 10-point scale. If not, bring up another candidate.

Also, every major cord of attachment you remove will move you forward significantly on your personal path. So no need to fear making a “wrong” choice.

About the Enlightenment part of your question, RENEE, my answer is going to be theoretical. By contrast, most of what I write here at Deeper Perception Made Practical is backed up by experience with clients or students, etc., and lots of it.

My best current understanding (not yet based on my own personal experience of moving into Enlightenment, sigh!):

Someone moving toward Enlightenment has found an effective way for that person to move out STUFF. Just look at all the folks on that Enlightenment Life List: http://www.rose-rosetree.com/blog/2010/07/18/enlightenment-life-list-aura-reading-energetic-literacy/

They meditate, they are healers, they are world-class practitioners of hypnosis, they use a performing art for transcendence… plus, unlike other folks who do the very same kind of thing, these people are so very evolved that they need just a bit more oomph to put them into that culmination of many, many lifetimes.

Over time, on that person’s path, there IS a method one way or another to bring in spiritual healing. So a lot of STUFF is released. And even if a person isn’t using a formal method to cut cords of attachment, there is such a high quality of spiritual healing that enough STUFF is removed for Enlightenment to happen. Bliss and INTEGRATED spiritual connection outweigh all else, due to that person’s particular way of receiving Divine support.

From the time a person becomes Enlightened, that person still forms new cords of attachment and spiritual ties. Having that happen is a fact of life. However, those new cords of attachment are only going to get as bad as a 1 on the Yuckiness Index.

PRIMMIE, you are so making my day.

To comment on one of your points, I think you’re a great example of someone who is perceptive and has so far used this mostly for psychological healing.

All you need is a teacher of spiritual healing to help you find your way in and… away you’ll go.

I feel honored — honoured, too — at having the chance to be such a teacher for you for as long as you’ll have me.

Very glad to have found you!

It is really interesting to look at the differences and similarities between psychological and spiritual healing. I know I wrote to you a while ago that I wasn’t so sure that there was a huge difference.

I am thinking that I might well have been stretching the box of psychotherapy for quite a while now. I haven’t been co-creating with a Divine Being, so I haven’t been doing spiritual healing, but I do work on feeling where the blocked energy is and working with that to release it. First describing what it feels like, removing it and then integrating that experience. I suppose because I’m such a creature of sensation that I’ve instinctively done that in therapy because simply talking about a feeling or trauma has never done anything for me.

I’ve needed a process that helps the body and mind. And my poor therapist has had no choice but to accept that I’ll work that way, ah she probably enjoys it. She’s not a shiny shoed buttoned up type, far from it.

So it’s very interesting to explore spiritual healing. Am really looking forward to cutting certain cords and feeling what happens afterwards.

Hi Derek, well I’m a beginner am I naive? I could well be! Reading your comment I was struck by you saying you cut all your cords regularly. That interests me as I just cut a cord and it’s gone.

I won’t be needing to ever cut it again.

Now I’m a VERY careful person when it comes to evaluating results. If something doesn’t work, I’m not interested and I also don’t get over-excited about things before I can see the results.

So… here I am a very suspicious beginner (naive also maybe) and thanks to Rose’s technique, I just did something with a cord that means I won’t have to do it again. Ever.

Guess that kind of speaks for itself re her method huh?

Derek, why not just come out and say what you mean, instead of asking questions that no one in their right mind would answer affirmatively? (Yes, Rose’s work is designed exclusively for big dummies!). What’s the point of trying so hard to be respectful when you’re just asking if we’re all inferior?

Anyway, I’m pretty sure that your question arises from not actually understanding what Rose means when she refers to a “cord of attachment,” and not having any knowledge of her method of cutting them. It doesnt take two seconds, and there are actual, huge results, unlike when you just quickly ask Archangel Michael to take them all away. I think most of us have tried that “method” and weren’t exactly blown away.

Cutting cords of attachment is an entire healing method, requiring skill. I doubt you would think it was over-complicating matters for someone to learn Reiki by taking classes and asking their teacher specific questions to improve their technique.

Maybe you’re thinking of what Rose calls “psychic ties,” a form of astral debris referred to in other parts of the blog that CAN be healed in a few seconds.

Anyway, I recommend reading some other blog posts that describe in a more basic way what it means to have and cut a cord of attachment.

Especially if you’re already interested in this type of healing, you might really enjoy it. Cutting cords effectively is very powerful, very healing, and permanent! It’s pretty amazing.

Don’t be embarrassed. Am historically probably much more likely to behave like Derek than to come to anyone’s defense!

But am fresh from cutting a cord and it’s fantastic. I’ve done it before with a different technique and it’s nothing compared to your way of doing it.

JORDAN, this response of yours in Comment 161 was absolutely masterful. Thank you soooooo much.

I didn’t acknowledge it before because I didn’t see it until now.

And why? Am I just having a wacky day on mystical 1/11/11? There’s something technical about how I don’t see comments until I allow them onto the blog, and so I can comment based on what I see. Afterwards, and I finally play catch-up in my day and check that all the comments are enabled, sometimes there is a delightful little surprise. Like your comment.

Your comment then displays based on when it was written, not when I noticed it.

Don’t think a word of rebuke and help and, ultimately, encouragement to “Derek” was wasted. Because this sequence of question really does come at me a LOT, and I’m sure many lurkers will feel as though you are speaking right to them. So big THANK YOU.

LYNETTE, glad you asked. NO.

You get one spiritual tie and one cord of attachment per relationship per lifetime.

Can there be other problems in a person’s energy field that might be misinterpreted as “cord of attachment” after that cord of attachment is cut?

Yes, and that’s why an expert practitioner does a detailed aura reading or Skilled Empath Merge helping a client, working with varied skill sets of Energy Spirituality to determine where the problem lies.

The value of doing supplementary healing after cutting a cord of attachment is one of many reasons why I, personally, never refer to my work with clients as “Cord cutting sessions.”

As a teacher of healers, I offer a full Mentoring Program in Energy Spirituality in order to help advanced practitioners in this field to be able to tell WHY that hunch that something isn’t right yet could be absolutely correct.

As you asked, Lynette, there could be a great and important hunch. The answer would depend on your client. But the idea that a “new, extra” cord of attachment would be involved? That isn’t going to be the answer.

You can at least rule out the possibility that this would ever be the answer.

Don’t rush, PAUL. That’s the best advice.

First, of course, start by cutting one MINOR cord of attachment. Do that with respect and patience, allowing yourself the luxury (and respect) of giving yourself a full session, homework and all.

Just because sessions that you do on yourself are FREE doesn’t mean that you need to treat yourself as though you are CHEAP, right?

Beginners often find that even “MINOR” cords of attachment are fascinating when you read out the cord items, and the results can be huge. So my suggestion that you wait at least three days after cutting a minor cord of attachment is a minimum.

Wait until you feel really smooth, really clear. You’re not having any emotional releasing. Then go on to the next minor cord of attachment.

PAUL, you may know that I recommend here at this blog that it’s really best to facilitate cutting ALL your MINOR cords of attachment first, then go on to the MAJOR ones. That way you’ll do a better job.

In the book, I wasn’t so demanding. That was because I know something about people are, being a people myself. If I had written that, too many readers would have said to themselves, “Phooey on that-ey. I won’t cut ANY minor cords but go straight on to the major cords of attachment.”

But if you do pace yourself before moving to cut your first MAJOR cords of attachment, if you come to appreciate your way of reacting to this type of healing; if you pay attention to yourself and how you are doing — something that does develop in a cumulative fashion with the healing of STUFF… then it will become very easy to be honest with yourself.

Sure, it’s just common sense to allow AT LEAST a week between cutting MAJOR cords of attachment, assuming all goes well. That’s what I do with my long-term clients, after all.

For some of them, based on what I find by working with them, I recommend two weeks between, or longer.

A good, smooth, steady ride… that is way quicker than it feels… This is the pacing I use with clients and myself, and so it’s my recommendation to you as well.

I recently had the experience of “overdose” of cord cutting sessions.

I wanted to rush forward to be free of stuff as quickly as possible, but having less then 5 days between cutting 2 major cords actually slowed me down… I think. It really felt like a overdose.

Well, I guess I had to make that mistake myself to know how it feels, despite Rose’s warning

Is the suggested time frame (at least a week, sometimes two weeks or longer) between healing sessions of cutting cords of attachment independent of how long the bandage will stay?

Let’s say the bandage of the last healing session stays 19 days or longer, if needed. Would it then be possible to do a cord cutting after like two weeks after the last healing session? Or even one week after it?

Oh, that’s interesting to know. I did assume that it depends on how long the bandage will be on.

I don’t know if this is in your book (Cut Cords of Attachment). I have it and haven’t finished it yet – I read it a bit here and there – because it was much more important to become a skilled empath, I concentrated on this instead, as a foundation for all those other things like aura reading, etc.

Now that I’m making progress with my empath side, I think it’s time to start to cut some of my minor cords myself.

Also about Comment 171, PRIMROSE: I do encourage you to reframe the fatigue you mentioned.

“Cutting cords” does not necessarily make you tired.

Instead, I suspect, you have had releasing after cutting one particular cord of attachment. The fatigue has been a form of releasing.

And this has happened on more than one occasion.

The amount and type of releasing after cutting a cord of attachment is variable, so it’s not advisable to expect that any one experience happens EVERY time.

In this context, you might find it helpful to reread Step 12 in Cut Cords of Attachment.

I find the pacing aspect in cutting cords of attachment to be hugely important, and a key part of the healing process.

For me, sometimes a lot of releasing will happen, sometimes not, sometimes releasing will happen right away, sometimes it will be delayed (for example an external event will trigger some releasing), and sometimes an out-of-the-ordinary external situation will really highlight to me that the cord contents have gone.

So time and pacing are necessary to allow this aspect of the healing to occur. I find being involved in my daily life helps strengthen and integrate the new patterns.

Cutting a cord of attachment also often releases a whole bunch of energy that had been used to manage the 24/7 effects of the STUFF in the cord of attachment. When I am involved in my regular daily routine, I notice the shifts in how I relate to others and myself.

This is part of the process, and I kind of see it as the pathways of my consciousness flowing more and more freely, less hijacked by STUFF.

Like Primrose, I am also getting a sense of which cordee will be next in line for my next appointment with Rose. (I am not confident enough to try cutting minor cords of attachment myself yet.) It feels like a very organic, reality-based process and, like nature, it takes time to bloom and cycle.

A couple of comments came to mind in relation to Peter and Primrose’s questions and comments.

About the issue of pacing oneself…I had an experience once in which I learned the hard way that my enthusiasm to cut cords was a bit too much. It can seem sometimes as if nothing is happening during and right after the session, but then the releasing of the energy can hit pretty hard. That was a good lesson for me in pacing myself! I think I’d simply done a few too many in too short a time. It’s the release as my system is adjusting to this psychic surgery that can be rough if I’ve done too much, especially if there was a lot of muck being spewed at me by the other person.All that is to say I’ve learned the value of taking it slow.

About getting tired…Primrose, with some cords I’ve started yawning immediately after I did the cutting, before I even got to getting the cord items. Fascinating how this shows the cutting is happening and the energy is being released.

Primrose,also about knowing which ones to cut…I’ve also found that a rhythm develops. Sometimes I’ve gone for long stretches with no cord cutting at all, and then I’ll just know intuitively that a cord needs to be cut. A person will keep popping into my mind.

My favorite story is about my old swing dance teacher from years ago. Loved what I learned from him, though he always did have a slimy vibe and a hankering for the naive young blondes.

He kept popping into my mind, so I Googled him to see what he was up to. Yikes! He’d been ‘randomly’ selected to be searched while crossing the border from Canada to the U.S., was found to have porn on his computer and wound up with a 5-year prison sentence. I checked for a cord and there it was, around my ankle, and was there ever slimy stuff in it! I was so glad to be free of it.

Wishing you both success…and if you can manage scheduling a session with Rose to have a major cord cut, I’d highly recommend it.I actually started that way before doing my own. It’s a great opportunity for modeling of the process by a pro, along with the fabulous results that come, which is such a boost. I think I had 5 major ones cut by Rose before I did any on my own.

I’m glad my comments were helpful, Primrose. I’ve found the cord-cutting to be fascinating and astonishingly helpful and so I like to encourage others to learn it and get help from Rose.

Your comment about the tiredness reminded me that over the years I’ve acquired a completely different mindset about healing and wellness, as compared to the mainstream views on sickness and ‘health.’

In the conventional world, most ‘symptoms’ are often drugged into submission so as to lessen discomfort. Now, of course there are times when drugs are really necessary. But I’ve come to see how in the world of vibrational medicine, some discomfort happens with the releasing of energy from something like cord-cutting or homeopathy. It’s a rebalancing of the energy system; I think of it like turbulence that eventually settles.

So as you continue on your cord-cutting adventures, keep in mind that the releasing part is normal and can take on different flavors…in my experience, it’s sometimes just a yawn, sometimes crabbiness, sometimes a major cry. That’s the main reason for not doing too many at once. The system needs time to rebalance.

When I had the cord cut to my mom, whose emotional and physical pain I’d been running through my system for my whole life, I felt like I’d immediately lost about 50 pounds. What a gift that was!

ASHLEY, I am sooooooo glad you had the courage to ask about that. Some of you Blog-Buddies may have read my Comment 174, or even been in session where I told you, personally, that it would be appropriate for you to have sessions of Aura Healing and Transformation after two weeks (or longer) between sessions.

The time needed to integrate a personal session session, or the removal of a cord of attachment done by your own sweet self, varies. This isn’t a race.

Depending on a number of factors, some people need more time between such sessions while other people need less time.

This isn’t about how evolved you are spiritually, or in any way a judgment, or a race.

If you are doing sessions on your own, cutting minor cords of attachment, if you feel releasing going on then take some time for other things, like Empath Empowerment or learning Face Reading. Or golf. Or sewing. Etc., etc., etc.

When it comes to the health of your aura, Smooth and steady beats rushing and pushing.

Related to the previous comment, Blog-Buddies, this particular comment was an exception to my usual policy of not making personal comments about healing at this blog.

This educational blog is NOT a forum for my giving advice. Instead I give specific help to people during personal sessions.

But PRIMROSE’s conversations around cutting cords of attachment have been a lively part of this blog for months, and perhaps my recommendation to her will chime with you as relevant as well.

The main point for all you healers out there is that Energy Spirituality does NOT involve drama, big fatigue, huge releasing.

This may be different with different types of psychological healing, or other life experiences. So remember, there are very big differences between psychological healing and spiritual healing.

Wow, ASHLEY, you are a deep and thoughtful reader of my various books. I’m impressed.

Being an energy holder or energy mover is a gift of the soul.

When it comes to giving oneself extra time to heal after a session where a cord of attachment is cut (what I call “Aura Healing and Transformation”), extra time is needed related to something different.

How much STUFF is that person carrying? How stable has that person been, energetically and emotionally? What is the current need for drama? How does that person rebalance after healing a fair chunk of STUFF?

It’s always better to wait a bit longer. In session, sometimes I’ll use different skill sets of Energy Spirituality. My goal with clients is to help each person move forward and integrate the healing. Which is one of those reasons why I never refer to my work as “cord-cutting sessions.”

Just tonight I did a session, a week after a cord of attachment was cut. Gladys needed help to integrate the new power that was surging through her. We wound up having me read the energetic hologram of someone whose behavior (rightly) distressed Gladys.

Findings of that research were surprising, especially to her. Together we did some problem solving, in practical ways.

There are ways to move forward with Energy Spirituality that complement cutting cords of attachment.

I’m doing all I can to teach them through workshops and books, so stay tuned you self-healers. I’m bringing you help just as fast as I can.

Meanwhile, an important thing to consider, ASHLEY, is that someone with a highly refined system, who needs several weeks between sessions to integrate what happens after cutting a cord of attachment, could be closer to Enlightenment than a person who needs just one week.

Please, just be yourself. Love yourself. Accept yourself. Enjoy your own gorgeous timing.

Hi Grace, I find the releasing so interesting! Although I haven’t done this kind of cord cutting before, I have done body work and I love when energy starts moving around in the body.

Just tuning into this is helping me be more sensitive. Very happy with this kind of healing.

Primrose, just to clarify, and maybe it’s not necessary, given your response to Rose’s comment, but I feel the need to …. while I sometimes do yawn as soon as I’ve done the cutting of the cord, by the end of each session, I don’t actually feel tired or drained.

I’ve been especially fascinated when I’ve cut a cord to someone who was in my life at the time of the cutting and there was an uncomfortable tugging or weird dynamic and then it just disappeared.

I didn’t really even think about them much after that and our interaction was much better when our paths did cross.

ASHLEY, regarding your Comment 194, you’ve been there. You know “helpful” it is comparing yourself to others.

I’ve been there, too. Most everyone at this blog has, once upon a time, played that game.

Could be, that’s an important part of developing spiritually for everyone. Comparison shopping is fine for finding bargains when you’re buying a saucepan — not so great as a way of life.

For me the most usual response to a session of Aura Healing, where a cord of attachment is cut, is to feel really good, alert, and clear. And, I tend to have trouble sleeping for a few hours after a session because I am not tired at all and I am usually excited about whatever I have learned and thinking about it.

Hi Rose,

I just cut my first minor cord today! But I had a question about the cord location. I was following the steps carefully and I asked to know if there was a cord worth cutting in the first place. Before asking for the location; I received a black smokey cord close to my solar plexus. This is before I asked for the location. Is this normal to automatically see in my mind’s eye the location of the cord?

Hi Rose,

Sorry for the spontaneous question. I will seek out your workshops for better learning in the future.

I just cut my second Cord of Attachment myself after having several Major Cords cut by Rose in private sessions.

Rose, I am just stunned, every time, by the results of cutting those Cords on my Being and clarity.

I went through the book Cut Cords of Attachment and carefully typed up several pages of the procedure in outline form to follow so I would be sure to include every detail, and I find that helps a lot.

Knowing how careful you are to include all the essential elements for success, protection, and maximum healing and learning, I figured that was the best way for me to remember all the steps.

I can’t think of any other healing modality that has as much impact on my life as this one. I am a retired Critical Care Nurse who has also practiced Alternative Healing modalities all my life and seen some pretty amazing “results” on people’s lives through those other modalities. But, the more experience I get with Cutting Cords of Attachment the more excited I get about it and want to share it with others.

This week I had a shock to my system and a “threat” to my livelhood presented by a particular person, and I was incapacitated by the emotions flooding through my system.

I needed to get a handle on that quickly in order to respond appropriately through the proper government channels to this threat. The only way I was able to do that was by cutting the Cord of Attachment to that person.

Almost immediately I was able to shed the anger and confusion and see clearly my way to most effectively deal with the situation. I found that I had, as usual, done an unskilled empathic merge with the person over a year ago and picked up on his anger and aggression and that was what was playing over and over in my heart and head.

Rose, I thank you again, with all my heart, for your willingness to pioneer the field of Energetic Literacy and share those skills and knowledge with the world for all of us to benefit from.

Even the man whom I cut the Cord with will benefit because I will no longer be dancing to his tune of anger but will, instead, be able to respond to him and the situation out of a more pure and clear ideal of love and unity as my goal.

And, using the skills I am learning from your book Become the Most Important Person in the Room, I will be much less likely to do an Unskilled Empath Merge with anyone and pick up their junk along with the Cord that is formed.

I’m up to #5 for cutting cords of attachment to people who owe me money. Question: One person I never talked to on the phone; I just got the order and did the work with electronic communication.

She didn’t pay or return calls. So since there was no voice-to-voice, could there still be a cord of attachment?

CAROL, regarding your Comment 203, I am so very proud of you.

Thank you so much for those words of appreciation about the helpfulness of Energy Spirituality.

Rose, on Comment 144, why if any sex is involved does it automatically rate 10? What about actors?

Wow, Ashley, sure sounds like you’re better off free of that person!

This whole delusion thing about people just giving away their services is utterly ridiculous.

Isn’t it amazing how people will have a sore tooth and go to a dentist and know that they will have to pay a decent amount of money….or go to a doctor….or get their car repaired….or whatever.

But then they think that the world of energy and healing is what? Fantasy-land? Such nonsense…

Grace W., I have shared with friends my excitement and results of work with Rose and also had mixed responses.

Sometimes the person has done “that sort of work” before and had not so good results so they have a jaded attitude about Spiritual Healing.

Sometimes they are just too busy to buy and read the book.

But, I just had one friend, an empath, for whom I had actually bought Rose’s book, Become the Most Important Person in the Room, contact me to say that she had read the book and found it so helpful that she had now ordered Rose’s Cut Cords of Attachment book and couldn’t wait to delve into that book.

Those few who do read or listen to us and give it a try are really worth the effort of continuing to share our experiences.

Aw, thanks, CAROL, ASHLEY, and GRACE W.

As for you, GRACE S., big congratulations! And thank you for sharing your story.

JOE, let’s start with one part of your question. When we are in a session of Aura Healing and Transformation, I am not the “Omnicient Wizard of Oz” whose job is to look at your aura and see everything.

I do not decide where your growth areas are. You do.

For any session with me, it’s a good idea to bring an intention. Do that whether the type of session you choose will emphasize healing or be a session of Thrill Your Soul Research. (Choose one, not both, for the 55-minute session, please.)

Intention means one way of growing that YOU consider a priority for yourself. For example:

*More self-confidence
*Improved ability to earn money
*Better love life
*Trusting people more

If you have a candidate for cutting a cord of attachment, by all means tell me that as well.

But don’t decide in advance which of my skill sets will help you the best. With all respect, if you knew all about my different sets of skills for healing, and which applied to which type of problem, you could be doing the healing for yourself!

Please do not expect that I will definitely cut a particular cord of attachment for you. I will help you towards your intention, taking into consideration what I find in your aura at the time we are in session….

on to a related comment….

So, will I definitely cut a cord of attachment when you have a session with me?

Many new clients come because they know I can cut cords of attachment. I’m glad they come. I’m always committed to helping them as best I can.

However, I don’t promise that I will cut a particualar cord of attachment. This would be irresponsible. Because I’m a holistic healer in the field of Energy Spirituality.

If you come to me for healing, please let me use my skills. Enthusiasm is lovely, but please don’t come to me and tell me what I must do. Instead, allow me to do a responsible job of helping you.

In most cases, with a first session where my client wants to cut a cord of attachment, yes, doing that is appropriate. In many cases, it isn’t… because of problems like the examples mentioned in my previous comment.

Here’s how I handle this delicate bit of aura-level reality check. Early in a healing session, you summarize your intention. Then I usually do a brief Skilled Empath Merge. Depending on what I find, I am likely to say one of these three things:

1. “Yes, it would be appropriate to cut a cord of attachment today.” And then we systematically do the 12 steps to cut cords of attachment.

(Even then, I must research before cutting a particular cord of attachment, because sometimes there is NOT permission to cut a particular cord of attachment. See more about this in Cut Cords of Attachment: Heal Yourself and Others with Energy Spirituality.)

2. Or I might say: “Although we might cut a cord of attachment today, I would recommend that you allow me to facilitate a different kind of healing. Would that be okay?”

This leaves my client free to say yes or no. Hopefully yes.

Otherwise I will facilitate cutting a cord of attachment but — trust me — the client would have been better off if I had been allowed to facilitate the other type of healing.

(Still, a word to the wise. Don’t say yes just to please me. If you are going to be furious at me for the rest of the session, it’s time to learn to say “yes” or “no” when you’re asked to choose.)

3. In some cases, I might need to say:

*”I can definitely help you today. However, it would not be appropriate for me to cut a cord of attachment. Another type of healing is really needed first. Can we do that instead?”

If such a client says “No,” I will terminate the session and give a full refund.

Usually my client says “Yes” and the healing session goes forward.

It’s sad, however, when a client insists that I cut a cord of attachment and becomes angry at me for doing my job, which includes giving an appropriate response, not saying, “Okay, let’s snip, snip, snip.” (See a previous comment )

This problem doesn’t happen often, but when this does happen, yes, it’s sad.

I can assure all of you readers that I am totally committed to helping, to using every minute of session time for you. But it is not practical for me to stop and give a 20-minute explanation of a type of healing that would be more appropriate. Instead, I ask if you trust me enought to allow me to use my skills to help you. Then I explain just enough, as appropriate, as part of our doing the healing.

Finally, JOE, about Comment 216,

I am happy to help support any client who wishes to move out of addiction. Sometimes there are very quick results, like “Gladys,” who had a video game addiction for 16 years and had it leave permanently after our first session — where I facilitated cutting the cord of attachment to her father, not her computer.

Usually it will take 10-25 sessions or more, one at a time, to move out underlying causes of addiction. But every bit of STUFF-removal is permanent, with cumulative benefits.

Note that sessions with me would be in conjunction with whatever types of treatment the person needs, whether a substance abuse program, a 12-step program, a psychotherapist, or other professionals who are experts in helping with that particular type of problem.

Me? I’m an expert at moving out STUFF that can be an underlying cause. You can read an example of this in my post for today, Valentine’s Day 2011:

http://www.rose-rosetree.com/blog/2011/02/14/addiction-recovery-cut-cord-attachment/

JOSEPHINE, there are many skills in life where you can jump in with enthusiasm and do your best in the moment and everything works out great.

Cutting cords of attachment is not one of those skills.

If you are interested in learning to cut cords of attachment from me, please do not attempt to also cut corners.

This is a seriously effective form of healing, not something to race through.

I will not assess your success. Either I will facilitate cutting a cord of attachment during a personal session or we can use a session to mentor you. (Not everybody likes to learn from reading, after all.) Or I can teach you through my two workshops given this year, both viewable off the home page at http://www.rose-rosetree.com.

Otherwise, if you wish to learn on your own, please use the method in Cut Cords of Attachment. Do not skip over entire chapters to get the “boring” parts over with. You’ll do yourself a kind of disrespect.

Cutting a cord of attachment is like building a house. It could be done as a small, tilted hut or as a gorgeous mansion. The potential for ANY removal of a cord of attachment is for huge, wonderful healing.

Or this great potential can be trivialized by having a quick, “Just do it” approach.

You have only one chance whenever a cord of attachment is cut. Do the best job you can, within reason.

When we do a session of Aura Healing and Transformation, seems like we always do a Before-and-After Picture.

When there is a particular change to a chakra databank, can I expect that to stay for the rest of my life? Is that how cutting a cord of attachment is a permanent healing?

HENRY, cutting the cord of attachment to your father will have a whole array of logical consequences, some about your relationship with him and some about ALL your relationships.

“Boundaries” isn’t my favorite term. Consider the possibilities that “Boundary work” is often a type of psychological healing relating to social skills. Making adjustments in behavior while you still have a cord of attachment, affecting you in a variety of intricate ways, 24/7 — that’s a strategy for coping, not necessarily a substitute for removing the cause of the need to cope, the underlying problem.

In my opinion, when setting an intention for a session with me — or when choosing a goal for yourself in any aspect of life — it’s a great idea to ask for what you want as the outcome. Such as “more self-esteem.”

If you can let go that “Boundaries are what will give me more self-esteem,” you’re going to find results more quickly. Why not just ask for what you want, and allow a completely different healing method to bring you results?

Certainly, the skills of Aura Healing and Transformation are not meant to support other methods of healing. That’s like asking your geometry teacher to help you improve your spelling.

You know, it might be time to sort out the difference between a goal in life versus methods that you have tried earlier with only partial success. (For instance, why be so fascinated with “boundaries”? If you have “worked on” them for a long time without producing the desired results, why stay so focused on those “boundaries”?)

I see my role as helping you to clean up, add in, and awaken, at the level of your chakra databanks. Energy Spirituality is very different from psychological healing.

In our sessions of the former, I would like to support your intention, what you really want.

I was initially interested in your book Cut Cords of Attachment, but in looking at your website, I’m pretty sure I’m an (unskilled) empath. I ended up buying both books, Cut Cords of Attachment and Become the Most Important Person in the Room, at the same time.

Which set of skills should I pursue mastering first? Can I start cutting my own cords before completing the 30-day empath training program discussed in Become the Most Important Person in the Room?

Do I have to have skill with my empath gifts to be able to read my aura or do I use some other sense? Thanks for clarification.

JODY, welcome to this Online Community and thank you for your thoughtful, respectful, and nuanced question. I’ll take a few comment blocks here to respond. I do have a request for future, if you don’t mind. We have another JODY who contributes comments here a lot. Could both of you add a last initial or something in future? I want to help everyone come to know you as the separate individuals you are.

Well, here come the responses….

Continuing the response to JODY’S COMMENT 230: “It wasn’t until recently did I hear about cords of attachment and it was a huge AHA! Moment. I had a very intense love affair that lasted 10 years and it ended 11 years ago. I have thought of this person every day since then. It is not something I WANT to do yet it feels compulsive.”

Yes, this is standard for cords of attachment. Even if you had one intense conversation one time, you could have developed a spiritual tie and a cord of attachment. (See GRACE W.’s perceptive related comment here, BTW:

http://www.rose-rosetree.com/blog/2011/03/20/empath-merge-skilled-unskilled-empowerment-energetic-literacy/#comment-62530

Marvellous COMMENT 8.)

JODY, in your COMMENT 230 you asked:

“I feel that cutting my cord to this person would stop me from feeling/remembering the intense love we had for one another”

By now, I hope you appreciate that you’re talking about the spiritual tie. Removing a cord of attachment doesn’t destroy a spiritual tie, any more than having a dentist drill-&-fill a cavity in one tooth will — oopsie! — turn into an operation to remove your liver.

Jody, my experience has been that after cutting a cord, if there’s been that kind of compulsive thinking about the person, it’s just gone. Or if I’ve felt bogged down, really sad, just not myself, it lifts.

The best example I can think of in relation to your concerns is the cord Rose cut for me years ago to my mother. It was major. I’d been running her emotional and physical pain through my system for many years. Once it was cut, I instantly felt as if I’d lost about 50 pounds.

A couple of years later, when my mom had a serious accident which resulted in her death a few weeks later, there were things I needed to do to care for her in the midst of some seriously nasty, dysfunctional family members that I simply never would have been able to do if all that muck had still been flying around in my system.

I was able to experience what Rose has described here. The cord of attachment was gone, but the spiritual tie remained and it was strong. So I was able to have some lovely moments with my mom in the weeks before she died, in spite of all the crazy relatives.

Yoiks, I didn’t remember writing that post, had me a bit worried about my memory for a moment.

Will do the initial thing from now on, thank you Rose.

And thanks to you, too, JODY G.

from Rose R. R. R. R. R. R.

MICHELLE, there are two parts for the answer to this excellent, heartfelt question.

First, people do not pass things along to others through cords of attachment.

You have a pair of spiritual tie and cord of attachment to each of your children. They almost for sure have, each,a spiritual tie and cord of attachment to YOU. That is none of your business.

The simplest way I can summarize this very, very complex matter of what winds up in a cord of attachment is that it has to do most with the person who HAS the cord of attachment, not mostly the cordee.

So nobody, short of a black magic practitioner, has the ability to send things through a cord of attachment to the cordee.

There are many reasons you can probably think of why it isn’t such a great thing to have fears, not heal the fears, and live in hiding. I commend you for realizing this is a problem, something that you have the power to heal and change.

Don’t add to the worries by thinking that in some woo-woo way the really bad part is how you are doomed to send awful things to your kids through a cord of attachment.

Hi, Rose:

I found you through another site, another healer who has studied with you for 6 years.

Intuitively I knew a cord of attachment needs to be cut between myself and a toxic relationship of 15 years.

We are still living together but separating in about a month.

We have children together so this is a man that I will continue to have some relationship with forever and my intention is for it to be one of simply unconditional love, respect and positive regard.

I wont go into the dirty details of the relationship, but suffice to say, i realize i brought in baggage from childhood, as did he. We were just playing out the trauma and drama from our pasts. He is an alcoholic, we are both adult children of alcoholics and so yeah, its been pretty ugly. I made the decision to leave, but am torturing myself and have all this inner conflict and fear. Its like I know the relationship as we have know it is over, but a big part of me refuses to let go.
Its like an addiction. I cannot seem to shake. I think about him obsessively and compulsively. I don’t want him, but I dont want him to be with anyone else. I feel like I’m losing my mind and have made some pretty irresponsible, immature decisions due to my fears.

My question is what kind of results can I expect from a cord cutting session with you and also what would I need to prepare for the session.

Thank you so much for your expertise and wisdom and I look forward to working with you.

Sincerely,
Kim

Continuing, KIM, with “what kind of results can I expect from a … session with you?”

Expect cumulative results, some results from every single session, but not an instant magical cure of things like those you listed here.

Begin with a simple intention like, “To be more present to my experience in everyday life” or another positive way you would be able to notice NOT being obsessed with this man.”

Every session with me, every type of session including Aura Heaing and Transformation, is based on your intention. That is something we would negotiate together.

A smart way to get best results from a session is to bring an intention.

That is also where you will notice results. You know. In your human life.

One other piece of the answer to your comment, KIM, is that it would be smart to prepare to not talk a whole lot during your session.

Many new clients who are used to 12-step programs or psychological counseling are quite accustomed to telling a lot, to opening up, even to having a certain amount of emotion or drama be part of the healing process.

Nope. Not with Energy Spirituality.

Results? Sure, it’s reasonable to expect some after every session of Aura Healing and Transformation.

Some clients prefer 90-minute sessions to the 55-minute ones that are standard. That way we can have more of a conversation. But I STILL would need to avoid a lot of detail supplied before I cut a cord of attachment, and I do not define sessions as opportunities for a client to tell me a lot of history or share stories in the hope of receiving healing just from that. I’d recommend that be more something you would do after your session, with friends for instance.

Hope all this helps.

Kim’s “What can I expect?” reminded me of my sister. She had a session with Rose when she was in England, and had a cord of attachment to a toxic family member cut.

My sister didn’t really know anything about Rose except that I had been reading her books, and I had been telling my sister about my experiences with cutting my own cords of attachment.

After the session, my sister told me she didn’t feel anything in particular, though she found the session interesting. But about a month later she phoned me to say thank you so much for recommending it, because she felt much more herself, noticing a freedom and various other inner changes.

Kim, I understand where you’re coming from in terms of obsession and not being able to let go of a relationship. I hope that any work you do with Rose will really help you release your intense attachment.

RHONDA, so glad you are enjoying mostly good results from cutting cords of attachment. And thank you for your marvellous enthusiasm.

It’s pretty hard to comment in this blog context; my best suggestion is for you to have a session of Aura Healing and Transformation where I can research in depth what is going on with you and offer suggestions.

As you can appreciate, being a nervous wreck is not the usual consequence of cutting a cord of attachment. Something is going on, and this blog is not the place to resolve it.

In the absence of a one-on-one quality conversation about this, I suggest these ideas that would be helpful not only for you but is general advice for anyone who is having any comparable type of problem as you explore cutting cords of attachment with the method in Cut Cords of Attachment: Heal Yourself and Others with Energy Spirituality:

1. Please slow down and cut a new cord of attachment far less often than you have evidently been doing. No more than one minor cord of attachment every three weeks until you stop having this extreme kind of reaction.

2. Assess your lifestyle and find out what you can do to have more stability in your nervous system.

3. “This occurs after every major cord cutting.” Do not cut any more major cords of attachment until you have cut minor cords of attachment and are not having a strong releasing.

Really, it is best to cut ALL your existing minor cords of attachment before you facilitate cutting even one major cord of attachment.

4. If you’re looking for a way to grow fast that does NOT require that you cut cords of attachment, I recommend — if you’re an empath – Become the Most Important Person in the Room.

Otherwise, go for Magnetize Money with Energetic Literacy.

Another really stabilizing book that can help to smooth out your progress, while you become more effective at life, is The Power of Face Reading.Wishing you the best, RHONDA.

JAMES, when you have an interest in a person, right from the first moment, you receive both a cord of attachment and a spiritual tie toward that other person.

If another person has interest in you, same thing happens to that person, e.g., Gladys.
She develops a spiritual tie and also a cord of attachment to you.

None of your business, though. All that matters to you is your cord of attachment and spiritual tie. Make sense?

I’m pretty sure the latter isn’t true because that would also mean that until other people cut their cords of attachment to you, you could be spending energy pouring crap into them.

But when I hear the term “cord” it reminds me of an electrical cord plugged into a socket. The cord itself isn’t the direct source of the electricity but it is providing the pathway of electrons.

So I’m confused.

I’m not sure how much of it was from the session, the awareness & insights, hormones, or from an intense exercise, but I felt this surge of energy in my body that was quite something.

It kept me awake most of the night and by the next afternoon I decided to meet with my acupuncture guy, Richard, for help.

We’ve had a running joke since the two times when I actually shot an acupuncture needle out the top of my head. Hilarious….

I remember when he came in and said in his very Chinese, ‘grahsshoppah’ way of speaking, “Aaaahh! with tha powah of yah CHI you shot the needle out yah HEAD!!:

And old friend of mine and I had great fun with this, creating the super-hero character, Chi-Girl, a cousin of the Incredibles. Stops villains by shooting needles out her head at them.

So this time I told Richard I thought I needed to shoot some needles,

He put in 5, and for a new record, I shot 3 of them! Sure felt better afterwards….

Mostly I wanted to share this for the amusement factor, but I wonder if I’m completely off base with how auras morph in thinking that this is maybe a bit of adjusting to these growing databanks. That’s what it feels like sometimes.

Oh yes, related to the question part, EUGENIE, of course all of a person’s chakra databanks are strengthened by healing.

That includes both acupuncture and all the skills of Energy Spirituality, including cutting cords of attachment.

You can be quite sure that any skilled practitioner who has helped you with Energy Medicine, Energy Psychology, etc., has also helped your aura to morph significantly. It’s all part of your path to Enlightenment!

Hi, INFP STARFLOWER, and welcome to the blog. Because this is your first comment here, isn’t it?

Incidentally, I’m hunching that “INFP” refers to Myers-Briggs, so I’ll call myself “ENFJ Rose” when responding this first time.

Blog-Buddies, don’t be concerned about this technical term “Unwinding” in the context of cutting cords of attachment. I’m not going to discuss it in public anywhere for now except in my annual workshop for Cut Cords of Attachment, Level 2.

Many refinements to cutting cords of attachment can come up in a personal session. As appropriate, I’ll explain the basics then, as I did for you in that case.

What about teleclasses or online classes?

I don’t think so.

Many Blog-Buddies have asked for this, and I understand that some skills could be taught just fine in this way. Others cannot.

This is one skill set where the big refinements must be imparted in a direct way, so your personal talents can be acknowledged, nurtured, and fine-tuned.

Taking the time required to really provide solid skills is very counter-culture these days, I know. People are so used to expecting they can learn “everything” in a weekend.

Have you noticed? You’ll meet people who “Become Reiki Masters” in one weekend. All the energy-related healing professions are unregulated, so people can take a little taste and then hang out their shingles as experts. Many people won’t know the difference.

Even in regulated fields, there can be quick, easy-breezy trainings. I was, for instance, quite shocked to learn that it is legal in America to become a “Cosmetic Surgeon” by a rather speedy route. After specializing in an entirely different (probably less well paying) form of medicine, a physician can take a very, very short training program to pick up the additional specialty.

Yum, a fully certified cosmetic surgeon who has spent less time honing the art than a mother-to-be spends on her first trimester!

Well, that kind of thing isn’t happening with this skill set, not the 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R) as taught by Rose Rosetree.

You Blog-Buddies know the level of skill you need for your purposes. I am happy to provide resources for all the stages of learning you care to pursue, from basic competence from a how-to book that sells for $18.95… all the way to sharing with you the very most advanced skills I have developed over the years.

It is a grave responsibility to teach people any healing technique. Please rethink sharing your personal experiments as though you had the standing to advise others. Karma will come to them, and to you, from a casual project like this.

Are you trained to teach EFT to people or develop new uses for it as a professional in that field? Probably not.

If you really were good at EFT, you would use it to heal yourself. You wouldn’t need to combine it with other techniques.

As for whether or not you are trained to teach my trademarked system, 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachmennt(R), the answer is a resounding “No.”

I know that personally from the relationship we have had together. Even if I had thousands of graduates of my trainings, so many that it was hard to keep track of who had studied what, I could tell. Why? Because of the mashup you are now playing with.

VICTOR, you only get one opportunity to cut a cord of attachment, at least if you are using my system (in its entirety). Do a good job or find someone else to do a good job – at least if you care about yourself.

There are many technical reasons I will not go into here why it would not be an “improvement” to dart back and forth, using two completely different systems for healing that are not designed to be used for the same STUFF removal.

Back at cutting cords of attachment, properly done, this skill set consistently brings excellent results, often miraculous healing… when done by someone with professional skills.

If you aren’t getting superb results, the intelligent thing to do would be to study energetic literacy at depth. I’d especially recommend the system of Aura Reading Through All Your Senses(R). Personal mentoring is also available, as are workshops where I lovingly coach you to upgrade your skills and overcome blind spots.

Legally and ethically, you have no right to teach my system or to “improve” upon it online. You have no right to attach my name to your experiments. You have no right to use the language of any of my 12 step program and start adapting it. You have neither developed that language nor been authorized by me to adapt it in any way.

One week from today, I’ll be meeting with people who are doing leading-edge work with cutting cords of attachment. It’s a first Level 2 Workshop about Cutting Cords of Attachment.

These people are the next wave of leadership in the field. They are bothering to learn, really learn, what this method can do. I welcome advances in the field of Energy Spirituality. They will come from people who know how to learn thoroughly before they presume to teach.

AUDREY, I know you pretty well and like you as a person and respect you as a psychic.

And I do appreciate your being direct and letting me know that you have been doing this.

However, this coaching about cutting cords of attachment is inappropriate, in my opinion. I request that you stop immediately.

If you develop a technique for your own use, that is your business. When you start teaching techniques to “improve” the 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R), you are giving yourself credentials to teach my system in public. And adapt it, too.

As you know, you have not be trained by me to teach that trademarked system. Not as it is and not with your “improvements.”

I am open to ideas and improvements from other people, don’t get me wrong. But if you had approached me before you started doing this, I would have pointed out the two obvious things that I am going to mention here, not only for your benefit but for other blog lurkers and Blog-Buddies who have been considering similar things (or, perhaps, doing them):

1. Nobody has the right, legally or ethically, to teach other people my system of 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R) unless I have personally authorized you to do so.

Which, in your case, I haven’t. So far, I haven’t authorized anyone to represent this body of work except for myself. I’m working on it, with a Mentoring System and teaching advanced workshops like the one next weekend.

When anybody has been authorized to teach this system, I’ll be shouting it proudly from the rooftops. Or, at least, praising you here at my blog and probably my website, too.

2. You are a teacher of psychic development. You are psychic. That’s great.

However, psychic-level frequencies and techniques are different from techniques of Energy Spirituality.

Energetic literacy is taught as part of Energy Spirituality. It is entirely different from techniques of psychic development, as I have been discussing in recent posts here at “Deeper Perception Made Practical.”

To mix and match between psychic development techniques, where you are a professional, and Energy Spirituality techniques, where you are a talented beginner (talented, but nonetheless a beginner) is a serious mistake.

Please stop going there.

For many technical reasons, you are not “improving” anything when you go back and forth, within one technique, between using astral frequencies as a psychic and using Divine frequencies, as a practitioner of a technique of Energy Spirituality.

To all you Blog-Buddies, if you like my system to cut cords of attachment, please refer people to my how-to book, Cut Cords of Attachment. Otherwise, refer these folks to me for personal mentoring.

If your clients or friends have a problem with how that system is working for them, do not presume to help them out. At least not unless I have expressly trained and authorized you as a teacher of this system.

Refer these people with problems about this trademarked system to me. To do otherwise crosses an ethical line.

Victor:

I have found EFT to be enormously helpful. The Personal Peace Procedure is something that I recommend everybody does.

However, I fail to see how incorporating EFT into removing cords of attachment can actually get good results.

Please… don’t make these “improvements” public.

(I have nothing to gain personally from writing this other than the quality of healing tools becoming higher.)

Here are the differences, Joe:

1. I was authorized to teach these healings by a TIC minister. Actually I was invited to do this, because she thought I was able to do them exceptionally well. I didn’t ask. She invited!

2. I double checked later with the founder of TIC, while she still was alive, and received permission from her.

3. Before embarking on this writing project I checked with the current head of TIC to ask for her blessing.

4. What is in this book is a greatly adapted version of those teachings.

5. I wasn’t a dillettante here. I worked professionally (as authorized) with these techniques starting in 1985.

6. As part of doing the best I can to be ethically impeccable, on every level, regarding my inspiration for my latest book, I take many opportunities within the book to acknowledge TIC and refer readers.

7. The healing techniques in this book are actually a very small part of the TIC teaching, which is mostly about how to do conscious channeling.

Just for humor, you might be interested to know that, far as I can tell, Susan Shumsky lifted the entire TIC teaching, published a book on it that sold very well for her and a major publisher, and claimed the whole thing as her intellectual property. The healing techniques used as a springboard for my new book are “taught” on Pages 134 – 143. Susan’s entire book is 286 pages.

Susan never once acknowledged TIC in that book, unless I missed something. She did land a foreword written by the ex-husband of Ann Meyer, in which Peter Meyer seems to praise Susan for founding the entire body of work. This part was a real head-scratcher for me.

So there’s some contrast. Both of us studied with Teaching of the Inner Christ, http://www.teachingoftheinnerchrist.com ,
at the same time.

I had no idea you would find this insulting. My intention was to recommend you as the healer who does this work and to share the steps I do so more people are aware of the method.

I will certainly not publish anything if you are not happy with it.

Here’s an example of a really foolish mistake I made once because I didn’t know better. Dedicated to VICTOR, especially because he was smart enought to ask, whereas in this incident I was too inexperienced to know there was anything to ask.

Long ago, I wrote feature articles for a local New Age magazine called “Sources.” Most of my features became cover stories. Although I had been writing for a long time, and majored in English in college, I had never taken a single course in journalism. There was a lot I didn’t know about what was considered ethical.

Ooh, I cringe remembering this incident! But I still feel it’s only fair to report this, just to reassure anyone who has goofed, or thought of goofing, due to not knowing better. Every single one of us at Earth School is leaning. Please, friends, never judge yourself harshly over making a mistake, especially if malice was never a part of it.

What does it mean to have honor and ethics? You do the best you know at the time.
Later, if you find you have made a mistake, then you do your reasonable best to correct it.
Being an ethically responsible person, something VICTOR and I both strive for, doesn’t have to mean perfection or omniscience. That’s what I believe, anyway.

So here’s my story of silliness, and not the only one from this lifetime, I assure you.

“Gladys” was a highly respected spiritual leader in the Washington, D.C. community. She returned from a kind of spiritual pilgrimage and gave a moving talk about it, speaking to a packed house, at a big spiritual center in town.

Sitting in the audience, I was so moved by everything that Gladys said. I made copious notes, word for word, of some of the best parts.

It would have been smart of me to ask to interview her for the magazine. Undoubtedly Gladys would have happily done so.

Except, ignorant as I was, I didn’t feel worthy of asking for an interview. Plus, I thought of a way to write the story that… ugh!… I believed would simply save her valuable time.

Taking the transcript of her words, I wrote it up as question and answer. As if I had asked questions that led up to her words.

These questions, as well as calling this exercise an “Interview” was totally fictional. Well, hello!

Except that given my nonexistent knowledge of “journalistic ethics,” I thought I was sharing her words in a readable way, expanding her audience, saving her time, etc. Supplying contact information to her and praising her work lavishly, as I felt it deserved, I thought she would feel happy with my strange little article!

After the article came out, I remember that I proudly brought it to her. Possibly she saw the article and summoned me to her office in disgrace. She certainly would have had a right to do that.

Either way, we certainly had a very memorable conversation. Gladys excoriated me for pretending to have interviewed her when I hadn’t.

Clearly she was right. I apologized. She remained furious until the conversation ended and I limped out of her headquarters.

Know the funny part of this story? What was the whole message of Gladys’ teaching, the central learning from her spiritual pilgrimage?

Forgiveness.

Hi Rose, I have another question I forgot to ask. Is the way to lessen the intensity of the energy that feeds and makes that cord of attachment more destructive in ones life… by working on becoming aware of the apparent negative patterns that arise when with the person the cord is attached to?

Once aware of patterns that drive you to behave in a way that is not healthy (for example, obsessive thinking about specific things, resistant to letting go, feeling insecure) is it the job of the Cord of Attachment to bring our awareness to ourselves discordant tendencies, to thus then work on them to release them.

Could this be why we have Cords of Attachment in the first place, so that we can experience the tendencies to dissociate from our center of peace and thus re-calibrate?

Hi Rose!

So almost two months ago I had a cord of attachment cut to an ex. Rose rated it a 10 on her Yuckiness Index (that goes from 1-10).

And I felt very blessed that she had chosen this item as my healing centerpiece during the phone session, because I was quite frankly exausted and drained by the exchange of energy between us.

The session went well. Rose put me at ease, and her personal energy was clean, bright and bubbly. She explained to me very carefully every step and I felt fully supported throughout. She told me about the items in the cord, and they made perfect sense and brought insight and clarity.

However, I personally don’t feel ANY different about this man, there is still the same push and pull of negative energy between us. He pushes my buttons, which I know I have no control over and quite frankly I push his. It is still an emotional rollercoaster with him. There is still lots of negative energy flying between us.

I realize cutting the cord won’t change him, nor did I expect him to change, I take responsibility for my actions, thoughts and feelings however I guess I expected things between us to be a little less tense. We have children together so I do have to communicate with him on some level. I simply feel NO DIFFERENT about him than I did before the cord cutting. The energy still feels the same.

I followed the homework as suggested.

Perhaps more time is needed to integrate the healing? Not sure, feeling a bit disappointed, Maybe another session is needed. Is there anything else I can do to progress the healing along?

Rose hopefully you can comment and shed some light.

Thank you.

Sincerely,
Kim

KIM, the only thing that comes to mind for me is to reiterate what Rose says about healing being cumulative.

Looking back on the six major cords of attachment Rose cut for me over a period of many months, each one had loads of intense STUFF, so there was a lot going on that mucked up my awareness. It gradually gets clearer and clearer.

I’d suggest doing more sessions and following whatever promptings come up about when to do that. I’d get an intuitive hit to make an appointment, or once I learned how to cut cords for myself, I’d get a hit about a person and cut the cord.

For me, gradually I developed a trusting of myself about these nudges to clear out whatever was ready to come out. I just decided that I needed to consciously go after clearing out STUFF in whatever way(s) possible. The rest sort of took care of itself.

Thank you, GRACE and ROSE,

What I hear you saying is that because there is so much “STUFF” in my aura, this prevents me from having the self-awareness necessary for perceiving the benefits of cutting this major cord of attachment.

This makes some sense to me, but I’m interested to hear what anyone else who may have struggled with the same issue has to say.

I definitely plan on having more sessions with ROSE after purchasing her book and working it with it for a few cycles.

Will keep you updated. Thanks for your time.

Kim

Rose,

Yes… I do sense that you care, and I’m very grateful for your willingness to take the time to address my questions and concerns.

Your energy with me on the phone during my session was so clean, pure and vibrant, your obvious time and care with developing your skills as a healer and teacher are impeccable, I value your integrity and just simply like your spunk!

I too have done a lot of work on myself and know that cutting this cord of attachment was one of the best things I have done for myself. I trust in the divine timing of the process and know as time progresses I will feel less emotionally provoked and more at peace and present.

Gonna order your book tonight and will keep you posted on my journey.

Thanks again,

Kim

Thanks for sharing, AMY O. You’ll notice I did remove the name of the particular healer because whenever possible I attempt to avoid having this blog include commenting on work, promoting work, or otherwise involving my colleagues as healers.

(If they want to come on and comment, that’s different. Everyone is welcome to comment!)

The technical point you made was important.

For my first thousands of sessions, I would go ahead and facilitate cutting cords of attachment for clients, especially since that is what they were asking for!

However, with more experience I have been able to tell when there were different types of STUFF in the way, so that a client would benefit more from a different type of healing — as happened, AMY O., during that session.

One reason I offer a Mentoring Program in Energy Spirituality is to help serious students fast track into finding ways to help clients get the biggest results the fastest. Which can be tricky, witness this thread.

AMANDA, what a great example. You’ve almost touched on the most practical point about noticing results from cutting a cord of attachment.

Notice, in your comment you started to talk about your relationship with the cordee (in this case, your ex-husband) but then mentioned a growth in self-confidence and robustness.

Cutting cords of attachment is NOT only about bringing results for your relationship with the cordee. To experience meaningful results, look in the right place, the context for your session. The context, or intention, needs to be improving your quality of life, your life.

Which directions of growth are you emphasizing at this phase in your development as a person? What is your Ph.D. at Earth School, the big set of life themes where you are moving from pain to mastery?

If you have ever had a session of Energy Spirituality with me, you know we set up an intention. And I’ll ask you to write it down and think about it. Note where you make progress. That is what counts for results.

Really, if all you can think of is improving your relationship with the cordee, you might want to seek out a different type of practitioner. Maybe someone who practices Voodoo?

One final point about result for now, KIM and AMANDA:

In my system for removing cords, 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R), one of the very most important steps involves considering the logical consequences of cord removal for your life at large.

So whether you’re cutting a cord of attachment for yourself or you’re a client for sessions of Energy Spirituality, give this important step the care it deserves. With all the cord items that are found, after a cord of attachment has been removed, you could have one or two full pages (or more) of cord dialogue.

Every bit of this has implications for how you have been imprinted 24/7, many times daily, due to that former cord of attachment. What could it mean for you, not having this influence? I call this “Logical consequences for your life.”

In my system for cutting cords of attachment, this is always considered separately. Sometimes there are also logical consequences for your relationship with the cordee. But often the cordee isn’t in your life any longer, or might even be dead.

Whereas there always are important logical consequences for your own life. Once you have figured these out, guess where to look for results?

Of course, people believe what they want to believe, not necessarily what I am trying to teach them for their own good.

However, I hope you can hear me when I write this: Cutting cords of attachment is not just about removal of STUFF, but what you put in afterwards.

Same thing for the complete skill set of Energy Spirituality, any one of which can be used in a personal session.

So many new clients come to me to be vacuumed. “Get rid of that awful cord of attachment.”

So many new clients act as if going to a delicatessen, ordering up a “cord-cutting” as if asking for half a pound of Wensleydale cheese.

But to this professional in the field of Energy Spirituality, the consumer-savviest client comes with an intention about how you, personally, want to grow as a person — emotionally or spiritually. You give that intention some thought, maybe even some prayerful consideration.

And when you have parts of your session about logical consequences that can be expected, you pay extra-big attention. It’s the single most important information from a session that involves cutting a cord of attachment.

Then you’re far more likely to notice significant results. Right away. Also results to your quality of life that build over time.

ROSE and AMANDA:

The insight you’ve provided really helps me to understand and has shed some light onto what I really want and my highest intentions for myself.

This is not about “the ex” and my relationship “with him.” This is about ME AND MY RELATIONSHIP TO MYSELF.

My sense of self-confidence and self-worth and the many emotional factors that led me to engage in a relationship with this man to begin with.

Its a lot to process but with continued support, open communication in this forum and my own willingness and desire to heal, grow and evolve as a human being, I feel I’m heading in the right direction.

Thanks again,

Kim

A little practical bit of advice for you, KIM, which might help you notice results. Maybe if you go back and look at/listen to the before and after pictures you did during your session, you can focus for a moment on the places where Rose told you about actual measurable improvement that occurred.

Focus inside on the area of life represented by that databank for a moment and see if you feel any different than you have in the past, or if you recognize the new qualities that ROSE found in your after picture.

PS Do our American cousins not do things properly? And if not, what is the proper US terminology for ‘proper’ then?

Amanda

Rose, to clarify something from my last comment in this thread, I realize that I morphed from a suggestion that KIM continue to do more sessions with you to describing the process I went through, my own experience.

I wasn’t intending to encourage Kim to start cutting cords of attachment right away and I don’t think I communicated that clearly.

Reflecting back on when I started working with you a few years ago, back before the Cut Cords of Attachment book was written and way before Become the Most Important Person in the Room was written, I can see that having you cut a series of major cords seemed to have helped me most in gaining greater awareness.

It was such a big leap and welcome revelation for me to realize that soooo much STUFF that I’d thought was ME was just STUFF that could be cleared out. And there was so much of it that wasn’t even mine to begin with! It really does feel like a form of archeology.

I’m actually glad that the cord-cutting book hadn’t yet been published at the time I connected with Rose’s work. I’m glad I had her do those major cords first. That way I knew it was done well and also I’d had the process modeled. That’s just good teaching and prepared me for cutting cords of attachment for myself later on, when I was ready.

Thank you GRACE, AMANDA, JORDAN and SUZANNE.

Your support and encouragement mean more than you know.

I especially resonated with Amanda’s following comment.

“When I look at it that way I start to see they are not losses or something to hanker after or wish to go back to, or even think about too much; they are the result of that deep aspect of me starting to really look after me.

“It’s a nice way to move from the sense of loss to a sense of fullness and trust. And it makes me feel very protected and safe when I focus on it in that way. It also feels much more true than the sense of frustration and loss and rejection”

What a beautiful paradigm shift!!!!

I will write that down!!!

You’re right. It is not a loss. It is a beautiful new beginning for me, even if it has been painful….

I love the idea of how you turned a seeming loss into your “Self” taking care of yourself, by letting go of what is no longer serving you.

I was just reading online earlier about changing perspectives and how we view certain situations in our lives. It’s all about the “stories” we tell ourselves and whether the story empowers or disempowers, and we can always tell a different story. Makes a world of difference.

THANKS AGAIN, AMANDA!!!

Blessings!

Hey, GRACE

I get more and more annoyed by this idea of non-judgement as I learn more about the world: I do love how Rose makes the distinction between discernment and judgement.

If I weed my courgettes I get more of a crop, and if I make a cake to the recipe it rises and looks like a cake. I’m happy there’s this kind of structure and boundary to life. Within it the courgette plant does its own thing and every cake is slightly different.

Heh, maybe an American saying ‘proper’ is the equivalent of a Brit saying ‘ass’ – it just doesn’t work!

Amanda

Jordan, much respect to you and that very wise comment. I’ve noticed how ideas can get muddled while they’re being practised and that’s a very kind way to look at it.

I also agree that unforced, natural non-judgement is very healing indeed.

As for your third paragraph – well, I think I agree with that too! What can I say? What a star you are, and thank you for that perspective!

Amanda

Aw, thanks AMANDA.

Rose, I’m curious about ROOTS if you’re willing to comment.

What is it that causes these to form? What is their special function? What is true about them across different cords?

Yes, yes, I understand.

Sometimes I can’t tell if a question is appropriate, simply because I don’t yet know the exact nature of the information I’m asking for!

I worked with Phyllis Krystal’s method, “Cutting the Ties that Bind.” Is that the same thing as cutting cords of attachment?