Gus was really angry, as become clear in the three-pager set of cord items I read to Holly during the session.

As we talked, she mentioned that she suspected that she was full of rage and that is why she subconsciously chose Gus The Rageful.

This relates to our earlier discussion of “Mirroring.”

Please, Blog-Buddies, never torture yourself in this way. It is not “taking responsibility.” It is what some therapists call “blaming the victim.”

Sure, I totally recommend taking responsibility for your own STUFF. I recommend getting it out of you permanently. But the way I recommend doing this is not analyzing what your problems in life have been and deciding that all of them were due to YOUR issues. Nor do I recommend that figuring out those issues will move out your STUFF. Because (in my experience) it won’t.

STUFF is stuck energy, at the level of auras. It must be moved out by ways that are appropriate to that level of life, skill sets like Energy Release Regression Therapy, healing astral entities, or cutting cords of attachment. Other skill sets come from Energy Medicine (like Donna Eden’s techniques or Healing Touch or Reiki, done with true skill) and Energy Psychology (like E.F.T., done with real skill).

Beyond STUFF removal, there’s no point in blaming yourself for the past. We make life contracts, you know. We make them on the Other Side before incarnating. A choice to marry Gus was probably pre-arranged.

What matters for Holly is how she handled herself in that karmic setup.

I have to say, by the end of her session, she was doing just beautifully.

“How can we use the information from a skilled empath merge to see other options besides the elementary advice to simply avoid those people or situations that exhibit behaviors associated with energy vampires such as selfishness, manipulativeness and so on?

“And, is it advisable to do so?”

No, no, no, no, no, not advisable to do empath merges on a person unless…

* It is a pleasure person in your life
* It is a person you consider emotionally stable
* It is a person whose behavior is stable

Until you are quite sure about these things, do not do a skilled empath merge. (It wouldn’t be skilled, actually.)

In “Become the Most Important Person in the Room” there are loads of alternatives given to doing empath merges with the people in your life — skilled ones and, especially, unskilled ones.

Re: “I was wondering if you would be willing to give some examples of options that might be available to a skilled empath when involved in an interaction or relationship with, say, one of the selfish people that Gladys has in her life.”

We discuss objectively what happened in the incident. How did she handle it?

* Did she allow herself to be taken advantage of? * Did she get into a screaming fight because her needs weren’t being met?
* Did she agree outwardly but scream inwardly.

In a session like this, the point is not having me just give practical advice. First I investigate along with my client what happened — in her/his aura and also in that of the other person.

Then we use that same perspective on the different ways of acting that are brought up. Because one different way of responding to a situation can change loads of important things in chakra databanks for Gladys.

Or you.

“If the relationship is over and I keep having coincidences, that means I am SUPPOSED to be in a relationship with him. It is all MEANT TO BE and my job is to obey. Because coincidences are just another name for SOUL MATE.”

Thank you, thank you. As someone who facilitates Energy Release Regression Therapy, I can tell you that when certain kinds of STUFF are stuck in someone’s aura at a very deep level — and this could be STUFF from a completely different lifetime — a person will attract similar experiences and coincidences repeatedly.

There is no big “supposed to” attached, more an invitation to get some professional-quality healing! When the STUFF is gone, the pesky recurring problem can finally stop. Make sense?

Sometimes cutting your cord of attachment to the main person in this life takes care of all the practical problems. If it doesn’t, that’s when people make the journey here, for one or more sessions of Energy Release Regression Therapy.

How would I facilitate help with the former love and the relationship over. But not quite.

First session would be to cut that cord of attachment. Just because a RELATIONSHIP is over doesn’t mean the cord of attachment is over. It can’t be.

Nothing moves out a cord of attachment — and I mean nothing — except moving out that cord of attachment with cord-of-attachment-removal-skills.

After a first session, if there still were problems I would investigate the particulars of your personal aura and situation.

First point may sound technical, but it is really important:

A session with me could help you, and I’ll explain some possibilities in future comments. However I don’t believe that a READING with me or with anyone would solve your problem.

Because, really, are you seeking a fortune-cookie-like explanation. And then, when you understand, the problem magically disappears?

Not on earth. At least outside of the magical fortune-cookie factory.

Aura reading research — which is a type of reading — would NOT be my first choice of helping you. It would be appropriate later on, possibly. What would help more? See that next comment to come…

Re “I often feel as though immersed in a indistinguishable sea of energy and am really amazed by your ability to discern it all.”

This really is basic energetic literacy. I promise. To go from the kindergarten experience you are having now and work your way quickly through to college graduation, go bit by bit.

One way I recommend for getting started is Face Reading. This energetic hologram is relevant, practical, and builds confidence when you are using an accurate system.

“The Power of Face Reading” is the book I would recommend for a beginner. You can get that, of course, through my website, http://www.rose-rosetree.com or by calling our toll-free orderline, open 24/7, even in snow: 800-345-6665.

A nice thing about having your own copy is that you can make notes in it, adding examples of people in your life. Check out how accurate the info. is and you’ll start building confidence in yourself as a face reader, with other skills to follow.

I hear you that blaming another human being for being less than perfect is far from kind, especially if the drain comes from one’s own failure to utilize empathic talents skillfully.

But empaths are human too. How can we use the information from a skilled empath merge to see other options besides the elementary advice to simply avoid those people or situations that exhibit behaviors associated with energy vampires such as selfishness, manipulativeness and so on?

And, is it advisable to do so?

It seems like it should be sensible to surround yourself with as much positivity as possible. Thanks very much for helping to clarify this with some practical advice.

Thank you for the insightful posts and face readings. They’re really enhancing my energetic literacy, although I admit to being a preschooler. I often feel as though immersed in a indistinguishable sea of energy and am really amazed by your ability to discern it all.

I was wondering if a reading would help me realize why I keep attracting lovers who have very specifically synchronitic connections with me regarding a former love whom I thought I was over. They have family/friends who have the same birthdays, names, alma maters and shocking physical resemblances.

Thanks for your help Rose.

Blessings, Ella