Responsibility

Do you have any idea how much releasing is going on right now? If you could physically see the karma burning up, your neighborhood would have visible fires.

Except mostly the drama stays hidden, unreported. In your case, maybe you haven’t even recognized it personally.

Think for a moment about the intensity of your life these days. Sure, there has been cumulative inner growth. Has or hasn’t this alternated with major release of STUFF, one way or another?

STUFF is stored emotional or spiritual debris. Another term for it might be “seeds of karma.” And as you’ve been lifting it out, shaking it off, healing it as best you can, haven’t you gone through hours or days that were pure torment? Old fears returned to shake you up again… new problems… romantic woes… family dramas… financial worries… “accidents” of all sorts.

Yes, in your life and the lives of your loved ones, evolution is moving so rapidly now. It’s probably the fastest pace ever seen on this planet.

Earthquake here, flood there — natural disasters are some of the physically real, and horrendous, ways to burn up major karma. Any element can be involved: Earth, water, fire, air, and issues around taking personal responsibility.

Yes, let’s consider something often NOT considered as part of the drama today, your responsibility to others who may be having even worse problems than yours.

   What is your responsibility for helping others?

When a life lesson comes up repeatedly in one client after another, I take notice. Responsibility is the latest. So I’d like to share my perspective. These aren’t religiously annointed ideas, like Rev. Tim LeHaye’s “Rapture” or the celestially sanctioned prophecies of an “It-Must-Be-So” channeled entity.

Nope, I’m just an ordinary human with my wits about me. Plus I do get around a lot, if you count my telephone. Six days a week, I help clients worldwide, using practical skill sets for emotional and spiritual healing. Oh yes, I also have that Third Millennium basic skill called “Energetic Literacy.” So I can check out auras in detail, on demand.

And because I do keep my wits about me, I notice when clients worry about the suffering of others, especially the annoying, arrogant brother or the victimey-friend who just got herself fired from work.

Many of us have been taught ideals of compassion since childhood. Others learned as adults to use practices for spiritual development, like the Buddhist technique recently cited by a Blog-Buddy, where you purposely (and daily) imagine feeling the suffering of others.

Besides that, 1 in 20 people was born as an empath. And, of course, that includes a far higher proportion of you Blog-Buddies. Before becoming skilled, you’re constantly doing super-quick, Unskilled Empath Merges, taking on STUFF belonging to others. This happens whether you know the other person or not, whether you consciously care about that person or not.

Any of this amounts to taking responsibility for the pain of others. We may as well come out and call by its rightful name…

Old-style volunteer work

In a different era, it might have worked fine. (Except if it really did work so well, why does humanity still have mounds of karma that we are struggling to release?)

Today, I’m convinced, the rules of responsibility are different.

Because now is a time of super-rapid evolution. Humanity is moving towards Enlightenment. Millions of very, very advanced souls have chosen to incarnate now, where the big learning happens. Millions have come to tie up loose ends, unfinished karma from one lifetime or another.

And millions have come to set an example, through auric modeling.

• Yes, it is possible to clean up your act energetically.

• Yes, you can choose to grow.

• Yes, you can be honest with yourself, take responsibility for your problems, and find effective ways to heal your STUFF.

• Yes, you have to decide whether to shut yourself off from life and other people and your sacred connection to Spiritual Source. And, if you do stay open, you get to decide just how open.

Does loving people, or supporting them appropriately, have to mean doing volunteer work where you take on their STUFF?

Responsibility during a time of Gray Slime

We’ve discussed this Gray Slime problem before, Blog-Buddies. (With a second Gray Slime post here.) Everybody on earth gets to choose. “Will I make myself responsible for other people’s problems, taking their STUFF into my aura?”

During this last week, I did some aura reading research for a client, Gladys, describing “Joe,” someone to whom my client used to be joined energetically via a cord of attachment. After I facilitated permanently cutting that cord, my client wanted me to use skills of energetic literacy to describe what was going on with him during a recent incident.

Joe was living in the psychic equivalent of a casket. Visiting someone new, it’s as though he would take himself out of the self-built casket, carry it with him, engage in the Hello phase of the visit. Soon after, he’d go lie down in the casket again, isolated from others emotionally and spiritually, waiting for yet one more disappointing visit to be over and done with.

Joe’s casket was constructed out habits about blaming others, lack of emotional honesty, and habits of competitiveness and superiority — Joe’s particular version of self-inflicted gray slime.

During her session, Gladys cut a cord of attachment to Joe. For her, the major theme involved receiving his jealousy; her choosing to turn the other cheek, wanting to help him no matter what, and getting slammed by him energetically day after day after day.

Unconditional love is beautiful. But endless giving emotionally, materially, socially? No, that doesn’t have to be part of your bargain with anyone. The only person who can really help Joe is … Joe.

Volunteer work that doesn’t really work

As part of your schooling at earth, you have probably learned to take responsibility in some very second millennium ways such as:

• Decide what Joe needs and pray for him to receive it.

• Enable Joe, again and again, protecting him from the consequences of his actions.

• Allow Joe to be mean to you, because he can’t help it.

• Test yourself spiritually by aiming to be kind and loving to Joe, no matter how badly he treats you.

• Anticipating the needs of others, like a kind of Santa Claus only better, since you don’t even ask the kid to make lists.

• Believing that your role in life is to be peaceful and serene and otherwise saintly — constantly giving to others and avoiding the act of receiving from others.

• Today, much of this is considered “being codependent.” Formerly, it was considered “your duty.”

Healing techniques you have learned may have added to these time-and-pain-hallowed ways of bending over backward for others.

Doing Reiki for yourself is fine. Doing Reiki for clients who come to you is fine. But sending Reiki or other healing long-distance to others, just because you’ve been chatting away with that person’s subconscious mind?

Volunteer work of any kind, lifting the load for others without their conscious knowledge or consent?

Why, why, why?

Effective healing requires consent and conscious participation

Look around you. Who gets long-term results from such healing? Doesn’t a successful client have to participate, with conscious mind present and accounted for?

Trying to heal people without their learning anything — maybe it works in some cases physically. Emotional and spiritual healing (my chosen fields) — nope, it absolutely, definitely doesn’t work long-term.

For example, consider cutting cords of attachment with the popular Quickie Method. How often do you hear people say, “I cut my cords every day.” Such a waste of time! Better to cut one cord of attachment and do it properly. Then you will never need to cut it again. When it comes to someone like Joe, you will never have a cord of attachment to him for the rest of your life.

Cutting cords, you might choose to use the method iyou can learn from Cut Cords of Attachment, a method trademarked as 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R), not “A wish and a prayer.”

Permanent healing of a cord of attachment requires that you learn something along the way. Something specific. What was in those cord items that used to recycle 24/7 within your aura and subconscious mind?

By contrast, “cleaning up” people or volunteering to do Reiki or doing Unskilled Empath Merges can cause relief for a very short time. But any problems removed by this volunteer work will come back because nothing has been learned.

And meanwhile you, the volunteer, have taken on STUFF that you may carry around for years.

Whose responsibility?

Think about anyone in your life whom you feel sorry for. Anyone you pray for. Anyone you do Reiki for. Anyone at all for whom you do volunteer work.

That person, like Joe, has direct access to God. There’s free will. There’s human ingenuity. Joe’s problems, and karma, do not have to become your problems and karma.

Of course it is tragic, in human terms, when someone goes to his grave as a hater. Or broke. Or lonely. Or angry. Or drunk.

If it’s any consolation, let me share my perspective gained by personally guiding clients through lifetime after lifetime, which happens when I do many of my sessions of Energy Release Regression Therapy.

What happens after a horrible life at Earth School? Say that Joe feels like a failure. And, okay, he IS a failure. Joe leaves behind plenty of negative karma — loose ends that still remain to be cleaned up. (By him, nobody else.)

Maybe his brain is just rotted because of all the alcohol consumption. Maybe Joe’s even, technically, crazy. This is not “end of story.”

Soon as he pops out of that dead body, Joe feels lighter than he has in years. In most cases, he moves immediately to his next place of development, has a Life Review, and goes on to an appropriate heaven for his vibrations. In a more complicated case, Joe will get the equivalent of rehab. Even if Joe chooses to hang out as a ghost for a while, when he’s ready he’ll move into a blissful kind of life on the other side.

You see, when not being human, Joe is an angel. You, too. Everyone you know now in human form., even the most pitiful wreck of a human you’ve ever seen

On the other side, we are all angels.

Like Joe, like every human being, you came to earth by choice. You aimed to evolve into a higher-vibrational angel.

Regardless of the success of each human lifetime, you do evolve as a result. You learn lessons and gain compassion.

Living on earth, in the psychic equivalent of a coffin, of course this feels awful. But afterwards Joe feels such relief to be outta there, back to his angel status.

I wonder if, sometimes, a soul will deliberately make bad choices just to enjoy a cosmic kind of thrill ride: Squeeze yourself as small as you can; make choices that suck all the joy out of life; cut yourself off from those who love you, God included. Then once the lifetime is over… POP, out you go. Back to living large as an angel.

Living as an angel means feeling completely one with God, with all the rest of the angels, with complete freedom and nonstop bliss. You don’t even miss Facebook.

Appropriate responsibility

Here’s what I recommend, Blog-Buddies. But run any ideas by me or others past your own self-authority, since that matters most.

Help people, but only  as appropriate to your personal energy level and desire to volunteer in that particular situation. Make that human help, not energetic volunteer work or empath merges or Reiki or any other woo-woo healing. Not prayers for anything that you outline.

Never feel that you are somebody’s only hope. Sure, you may have thrilled to the line in
“Star Wars” with the cute hologram of Princess Leia pleading “Obi Wan Kenobi, you’re my only hope.”

But that was just a movie, remember?

In real life on earth, you are responsible for what?

• You’re responsible for doing the best you reasonably can for any children in your care, up to the age of 18.

• You’re responsible for your own health, physical and mentally and spiritually.

• You have a family of blood to enjoy the best you can.

• You can create “family of choice,” if that family of blood doesn’t work out quite right.

• Sure, you’re responsible for your material life as well as your spiritual life.

• You can also make sure you don’t add to the world’s Grey Slime. 

Tie up your loose ends. Finish the karma. Heal your STUFF. As you grow up and glow up, you  will inspire the world through your auric modeling.

Isn’t that plenty?

And can’t all of that be amazing fun? (At least most of the time.)