Divorced and hiding it

Got divorce in your past? How about shame in your present?

And how much of this goop shows in your aura?

Today, we begin with a Guest Post from Blog-Buddy David: 

I am a divorced man, for about three years, who has recently come out of hiding. I hid this successfully from even my close contacts. It was easy to hide, as I have custody of my son.

Recently, I shared that I am divorced at a Toastmasters workshop. The speech was entitled “Divorced and Hiding It.”

Well, it was a bit surprising to them that I was divorced.

The talk bought out the best of me and showed me that it is okay to have human failings. Aren’t we supposed to be perfect?

Before this talk, my speeches came across cerebral. Like a robot. I am going to work on showing my vulnerable side. After sharing what it is like for me, being divorced, I got positive feedback. And maybe a possible date.

Does marital status show in your aura?

Expect no astral-level wedding ring. When your possible date Pat is married but cheating, you’re more likely to find a no-suntan line beneath that taken-off-wedding ring. Still, the intent to cheat does show on the level of auras.

And, fortunately for those of us living in the Age of Internet, aura reading can be done very conveniently and discretely from regular photos. You can check out Pat’s picture at leisure before deciding about that proposed date.

All three aura reading lie detector tests (the ones you can learn to do from Aura Reading Through All Your Senses) can cause you to say no to Pat’s kind and seductive invitation.  Should integrity matter to you, aura reading for integrity is one of the most useful ways to screen a new date.

I’m also a big fan of — dare I say it? — previewing what Pat is like as a lover. Everyone past puberty contains a belly chakra databank that I call “Being a Lover.” Using basic skills of energetic literacy, you can always get both types of information from a person’s chakra databanks:

• Gifts of the soul — what the person does beautifully, innate talent that nobody needs to work to “develop,” permanent 
• STUFF — stored-up fear, pain, resentment, and other debris; emotional or spiritual goop; structural or chemical problems at the level of auras.

Information in auras can never be hidden. Not from a reasonably skilled aura reader. And man oh man, I sure wish I had done a sexual preview of Rose Rosetree’s Husband #2. This would have prevented Rose Rosetree’s Divorce #2.

Happily, I eventually found Rose Rosetree’s Husband #3, whose aura could pass the most demanding sniff test. We’ll celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary in a couple of months.

Feeling like damaged goods

Although marriage and divorce don’t show in obvious ways, at the level of auras, STUFF can definitely show. And be healed.

STUFF creeps up on us, whether or not that lover is eventually outed as “A creep.” Major STUFF is especially likely to be present in your cord of attachment to the lover. For instance, you’re likely to have a very major cord of attachment to:

• Anyone you have sex with
• Every major crush, whether or not the love was required.
• Unusual kinds of sexual contact can leave very intense cords. Recently, in the same day, I helped Gladys release forever the cord from giving her first blow job. And then, later, I helped Josephine release forever the cord to a man who molested her when she was only five years old.

Whatever gets stuck in a cord of attachment repeats 24/7 in your aura and subconscious mind. Fortunately, it is very possible to permanently remove any cord of attachment. Many posts at this blog explain more about cutting cords. But the actual skill set I use — the same one you can learn to use on yourself — requires a more systematic training.

So you might want to splurge on the big $18.95 (Which is what, movie tickets for two, plus popcorn?) and get your own copy of Cut Cords of Attachment: Heal Yourself and Others with Energy Spirituality.

What, my cord of attachment shows to others?

Fear not. Although cords of attachment exist at the level of auras, they’re tucked in pretty deep. So, personally, I have NEVER met a person like David and started peeking into a cord of attachment — that food fight with the ex that turned nasty, for instance — replaying 24/7 until the last minute of David’s life. Heaven forbid!

The only times I ever read what is in a cord of attachment? That’s AFTER I have facilitated permanently cutting the cord, and then I capture the data and read it out to my client for validation. Frankly, I can’t imagine a bigger waste of time than sitting around idly reading cords of attachment. To me, that would tie with trivial pursuits like counting knuckles on random people’s hands, one fascinating knuckle at a time.

No, it’s auric modeling that shows, mostly, between you and someone like David. When you’re with another person, your auras show clearly to each other… at the level of auras.

That information exchange isn’t usually conscious, however. The data only becomes conscious when you have energetic literacy, so you can read auras on demand.

Perpetual dunking in shame and misery?

Last night, Loren Purcell interviewed me on the radio. It was absolutely a delight. For one thing, I rarely meet a person whose level of sarcasm can equal mine.

One comment Loren made was this. “I used to wish I could read auras all the time.” I urged her to perish the thought.

Aura reading does NOT mean having one yet more obsession to add to the list. Instead, think “Energetic literacy.” Reading auras involves a skill set. You learn techniques that work for you and apply them as needed. Thereafter, you read auras when you darned well choose, not just because the auras are there.

I know, some people will always feel “Everything happens for a reason. Every whim must be fulfilled, because why else would I have that whim ? So if Mt. Everest happens to be nearby, of course I will climb.”

Really, I don’t recommend such an approach to reading the human energy field. Instead, say that you’re checking out David at the Toastmaster’s Club near you. You think he’s cute. (Having met him, I happen to know that he is, actually.)

And you’re thinking, “Hmmm, might that David be date material? Shall I go over to him and ask him up to my loft and show him my speech outlines?”

Now is a good time to read the guy’s aura. Or the gal’s aura. Who-you-be: That’s what shows at the level of auras, who-you-be in all the glory and the pain.

And, for this aura reader, aura healer, a big part of the glory is this: STUFF can always, always, always be healed. No need to hide a divorce. And no need to live with the old pain… unhappily ever after.