What can help if you’re shy?
Face reading, of all things. It can really make a difference. So today’s post aims to offer hope and help to you if shyness has limited your life.
(”Would anyone dare to say to a woman or a Third World person, ‘Oh, don’t be a woman! Oh, don’t be so Third!’? And yet people make bold with us whenever they please and put an arm around us and tell us not to be shy”)
Face Reading Help for the Shy #1: Pacing
If you’re shy, a tricky part about interacting with others is the pacing, or timing. You might wait for your chance to speak, or the moment when you feel ready to look at the other person. Sometimes you might feel as if stuck in an eternity of “Not yet.”
Well, face reading is done at your own pace. At will. Seize the moment, just as (mentally) you seize the nose. Or cheek. Or eyebrow.
Say that you decide to use physiognomy on a face such as Garrison Keillor’s. You check out one item of face reading data. You interpret it according to a system, such as the system you are coached to use in “The NEW Power of Face Reading.”
Reading faces, you learn to interpret the significance of that person’s style in areas like communication, power dynamics, learning, making decisions. You learn when you want, on your schedule, with zero performance pressure.
You can Face Reading Help for the Shy #2: Revival of Curiosity
Face reading is done on your own, in private. Well, that means the lid is off.
“The lid” is my personal term for shyness. With “the lid,” it’s as if someone has clamped down the natural flow of your mind and heart. You don’t feel like the normal you. Instead, you feel more like pheasant under glass, stuck under a lid. Others may look at you or judge you, but what about your own normal way of feeling?
Gone. Cooked. Lidded.
Well, face reading helps because there is no pressure to tell a soul that you are using deeper perception. And with the accuracy of Face Reading Secrets(R), what happens after you get comfortable with your own face reading research?
Curiosity grows. Your curiosity about other people can sneak up on you. Waking you up. Until that miserable old lid is so very gone.
Sure, I can check out Garrison Keillor’s mouth length. Then his lipfulness. Then that out-angled left ear. Contrasting with his in-angle right ear. (Cross over to tell left from right in a photo. Or, for that matter, in person. Unless it’s you in front of a mirror.)
Face Reading Help for the Shy #3: Get more comfortable with objective reality
Shyness could be defined as discomfort at dealing with objective reality while feeling self-conscious.
While self-consciousness means being aware, mostly, of subjective reality: Feelings, fears, interpretations, worries, thoughts.
With shyness, that overwhelming subjective experience is often about your own feelings and thoughts or else worries about how other people have feelings and thoughts about you.
- Face reading is not about any of that. Face reading is clean.
- You choose one item of face data at a time for the reading.
- You interpret that face data to learn about the person’s long-term characteristics, because face reading is not at all the same thing as expression reading.
When you’re reading another person, it’s all about the other person. Long before that other person met you, ignored you, snubbed you, or overwhelmed you with adoration.
Face Reading Help for the Shy #4: You can always start with yourself
That’s how this once shy person started to learn face reading. Probably the same for you, whether once shy now shy or never shy.
In my upcoming, once a year, Face Reading Workshop, Feb. 16 and 17, that’s what you do. Even in a group setting, much of the time you are gazing into a mirror, learning to see yourself.
What happens when you get that self knowledge?
You value yourself more. You learn about personal style — talent at the particular aspect of life, as shown in the sacred spiritual alphabet of human face data.
How you look evolves. Always there is so much to value, so much reason to feel confident.
Note: This isn’t necessarily true for every system of face reading. So choose carefully before you buy that face reading book or take that face reading workshop!
Face Reading Help for the Shy #5: Appreciating Others, Human Scale
With shyness, you might be awed by someone. Or feel contemptuous. Or see-saw between such feelings.
But face reading helps you to see the humanity. A humanity like your own.
- Like Garrison Keillor’s VERY long mouth, which goes with a talent for communicating with many people, more than most folks would be able to do comfortably.
- While his VERY thin lips correspond to a gift for talking about things that are not personal.
Potential challenge? Between these two different mouth characteristics, he might really get clobbered with communication. Because self-disclosure could seem really daunting with that second mouth gift. While the first one, the mouth length, could go with a strong need and desire to communicate with many people, shy or not.
Oh, the beauty and pathos of being human. All of our talents come with a price. Which is learning.
When you learn to read faces, you can open up your heart of compassion for others.
Could be, compassion is the key for getting out of the prison of shyness. Shyness: A sort of imprisonment in subjective reality.
Face reading opens up compassion. Sure you can engage in objective reality, act and speak spontaneously. Other people are neither better nor worse than you, just different.
Shy persons have an advantage when they are also face readers. Because reading faces can tell you so much about who those other people really are inside, making it more fun than ever to interact with them in objective reality.