50 Destructive Shades of Gray. A Cord of Attachment about BDSM.

Sex with cruelty can add drama to life. But is the cost worth it?
Sex with cruelty can add drama to life. But is that worth the cost?

Note: Blog-Buddies, after you read the main article please see Comment 85. It just might melt your heart.

In RES we have a motto: STUFF can always, always, always be healed. Yet it’s also true that three kinds of STUFF are the hardest to heal. These extra-toxic varieties of stored energies and emotions at the astral level result from enjoyable experiences of:

  • Black magic, e.g., voodoo
  • Killing or torturing for pleasure
  • Sex that involves violence, sadism, masochism, bondage, submission. Or to use the clever, trendy acronym for today, BDSM.

Even TV shows that feature these topics can become addictive to some extent. To participate in real life is a big mistake: Ultimately educational but, really, something to avoid if ever you can, because the person involved is likely to crave more and more.

And every time, STUFF is deposited. Many of the 15 kinds of STUFF that are addressed in Rosetree Energy Spirituality (RES).

Back when I studied with Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, I was told that there are 111 ways to transcend but only 108 of them are holy. Since working with clients in RES, I have come to wonder if these are the three dangerous ways to experience bliss.

Because sometimes a client of mine has grown a great deal, one session at a time. Then one of these three themes emerges, and that client simply cannot get past that desire. Suddenly a fast-evolving person who has gained brilliant results… decides not to pursue future sessions and drops out for keeps.

Sure, some clients have moved past this. But they are truly exceptional.

Which is why I conclude, from personal experience as an Enlightenment Coach and RES professional, these three problems are seductive in the sense of being highly, deeply addictive.

Okay, now I’ll put theory aside and share specifics with you, Blog-Buddies.

Meet a Client With a Secret Life

Gladys is a client who has been involved in sexual adventures that included bondage, infliction of pain, submission, etc. We had several sessions before she opened up enough to present this aspect of her life for aura healing and transformation, and I was honored to help her.

Afterwards I requested permission to share details from the cord of attachment that was removed, provided that I masked identifying details. Graciously Gladys consented.

This well-adjusted housewife from Portland is happily married, with kids mostly grown. She works part-time. I doubt that anyone who knows her is aware of her secret life.

In our session, though, Gladys told me that she just couldn’t stop thinking about her lover. When facilitating the 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment®, only then, did I learn what kind of love affair Gladys was having.

Hers is a cautionary tale. Please share it with any friends you have who are involved in practices that involve sexual cruelty. Exciting? Sure. But consensual or not, thrilling or not, there is always going to be a high price to pay.

RES can help, but it’s so much easier to simply say no. Or, if you have already said yes, end that interest now.

Incidentally, at the end of this article you can find some nuts & bolts information about cutting cords of attachment, just in case you are fairly new to this type of energy HEALING skill for the Age of Awakening, one of the many skill sets in Rosetree Energy Spirituality.

A Cord of Attachment Involving Sex with Sado-Masochism

As usual, when reporting cord dialog, all cord items are listed and numbered. With attribution. Because every single cord item impacts the person who has that cord.

Even if Gladys never sees Joe again, even if Joe were to die, unless that cord of attachment had been cut…

every one of the following cord items would have cycled through her aura and subconscious mind — many, many, many times every day.

That’s right, every day for the rest of her life.

Now, with the cord gone for good, thank God, this will never happen again.

In this case, most — but not all — of the cord items were from Gladys’s side of the dialog box.

  1. In the midst of a sexual encounter including physical bondage and infliction of pain.
  2. Gladys: I want him to stop.
  3. Gladys: I feel hurt emotionally.
  4. Gladys: Physically I feel scared.
  5. Gladys: “But this is just my mind playing tricks on me.”
  6. Gladys: Do I really feel this? Or is it only an illusion?
  7. Gladys: “If I learn to handle this, I will develop great courage and spiritual wisdom.”
  8. Gladys: “Then, nobody will be able to hurt my feelings.”
  9. Joe: Does his part in this consensual infliction of pain upon her.
  10. Joe: Enjoying this sexual encounter, building towards a climax.
  11. Gladys: I’m going through so many interesting emotions and physical sensations.
  12. Gladys: Process-oriented cord item — Going through layers of psychological exploration, like peeling back an onion.
  13. Gladys: “This courageous exploration has got to be so good for me.”
  14. Gladys: A sudden fear: This isn’t really good for me. At all.
  15. Gladys: Doing this could become addictive.
  16. Gladys: A big rush of sexual pleasure (related to the sexual act that has been progressing).
  17. Gladys: Letting go and enjoying the big rush of pleasure.
  18. Gladys: “This is wonderful.”

Logical Consequences Aplenty

Blog-Buddies, I’m not going into detail about all the logical consequences, nor the rest of my session with Gladys. Instead I’ll just note a few of the major points.

Every one of the cord items in quotations here, also highlighted in red, was a faulty cognition. This was a twisted form of ideation, akin to what is called “stinking thinking” in Alcoholics Anonymous. Life on earth is rife with enough illusions as it is. Adding interesting concepts that take a person farther and farther away from reality and psychological balance — this can be really, really dangerous long term.

For that reason, plus thinking about this pretty horrific sequence of cord items, perhaps you can appreciate how addictive this kind of sexual encounter is.

Avoid Self-Healing with a Cord of Attachment Involving Kinky Sex

This sort of cord of attachment is not suitable for self-healing.

Instead, I would recommend investing in sessions with an experienced expert at RES. Equally it would be wise to seek out a psychotherapist with expertise at helping clients recover from this sort of addictive, destructive sexual high.

Either or both kinds of help is recommended.

And, incidentally, I do sometimes refer my RES clients to mental health experts. My scope of work is to help ordinary people solve ordinary problems.

Sadly BDSM difficulties are, for many people today, “ordinary” problems.

Is This Kind of Sexual Adventure Really Just Cute or Trendy?

Plenty of people think so. Whether they find it diverting to read the big bestsellers about “50 Shades of Gray.” Or maybe they don’t just fantasize and buy extra lingerie. Maybe they actively pursue sexual encounters of this kind.

However, there are consequences. It is not good, dirty fun.

In my opinion, anyone encouraging this form of sexual expression has not done much aura reading to find out which horrible kinds of mess develops in the person’s energy field.

Does This Shock You, Too?

Toward the end of my session with Gladys, I asked her this question:

“About the kind of sex you have been having with Joe, did you think it was just a cute kind of fun, a way to add variety to your love life?”

“Sure,” she said.

Blog-Buddies, I’m here to remind you that how things are presented in human reality does not include the energetic consequences. Or the social, emotional, and behavioral consequences.

Reading the set of cord items here may serve as a warning to anyone, anyone who thinks that it is really a positive thing to seek adventure in this way.

All orgasms are not created equal.

And although it is true that we are immortal souls, with free will…

And although it is true that we will learn from every single human lifetime…

We can be smart about this. Karma will have to be paid back. Every path does not lead to happiness. Or sanity.

To quote from The Guardian: “After many false starts, and leather-laden attempts to further the cause by Madonna, Rihanna and Lady Gaga, it seems that bondage and discipline, sadism and masochism (BDSM) has finally become mainstream. And while it’s great that people are having fun exploring their sexuality….” (Italics, mine.)

Fun? Really?

When I think about Gladys, for whom I have the highest hopes, these are the words that come to mind: I can hear her tone of voice saying, with a quality of inner terror beneath the surface of her casual words:

“I can’t stop thinking about this guy.”

Nuts & Bolts about Cutting Cords of Attachment

This blog can tell you a great deal about cutting cords of attachment. Here is a link to our Top Ten List on the topic of cutting cords of attachment.

You can easily become a smart Post-New Age Consumer about energy healing in general and cord cutting in particular. Many so-called experts have not been well trained, or they use an approach to cutting cords of attachment that doesn’t produce significant results. Well, don’t blame cutting cords of attachment for that. It’s like thinking that all automobiles break down on the road and don’t get you to your destination. That’s true of SOME cars. Not a well-working car. Right?

You can definitely learn how to cut cords of attachment for self-healing.

If you like to learn from a workshop, that is a way more powerful opportunity for learning. Within a month I aim to announce the date for the Cut Cords of Attachment Level 1 Workshop in 2016.And if you are interested in learning to cut cords of attachment, you will do a much, much better job if you also take my Aura Reading Level 1 Workshop.

Both these workshops are requirements before applying for the Mentoring Program in Rosetree Energy Spirituality. Which is THE way to prepare for a part-time or full-time career in this emerging field for mind-body-spirit style emotional and spiritual healing.

You can also book a session for aura healing and transformation with someone who has  been rigorously trained in RES. Or with me. Don’t ask for “A cord-cutting session,” though. An expert in this field can tell if this would be an appropriate way to help you at the time of your session. Or whether a different type of STUFF-removal would be more appropriate. Bring a human-type intention instead, like “Improve my love life.”

 

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