In any case, well done.

I recently finished a class in Non-Violent Communication, also known as Compassionate Communication. I’ve been studying this method of communication, developed by Marshall Rosenberg, for a couple of years now and am excited to say how well it meshes with what I’ve learned from you about becoming a skilled empath. I’ve had to develop a sense of self over the past several years because I was so out of balance in this way for a long time.

NVC is a method of communicating based on the notion that we all as humans walking on earth share basic, universal needs. When we approach connecting with self and others with this in mind, there’s a greater possibility of true connection.

NVC has many benefits; it helps non-empaths to learn to be empathic, for one. For an empath becoming skilled, it can be and has been for me a wonderful way to strengthen my sense of self by focussing on the self-connection aspect, namely learning to identify my needs and then learn more successful strategies for getting them met. I could write loads about this process, but suffice it to say that it’s a wonderful way to become more grounded in one’s own human life and to rebalance that out-of-kilter focus of the unskilled empath on everyone else’s needs. I find that NVC reinforces the skills I’ve learned from you regarding the shifts in consciousness needed to become the most important person in the room. As I write, I just had the insight that what I’ve been able to do is translate what I’d related to as just waves of energy into my needs.

This process has been empowering because the entire focus then shifts away from the labeling, blaming and judging of others. I’m now able to safely, from a more detached distance, take a guess at what the other person’s needs are that drive whatever the behavior is that’s challenging. Instead of being pulled into the old focus on other and trying to meet their needs at the expense of my own, I’m much more skilled at identifying my needs and making the necessary requests to get them met. I find that the unskilled empath energy that used to fly around and basically get me into trouble is now channeled in a much better, more effective way.

And, yes, you can enjoy situations with your Space Dial (empath gifts) turned fully OFF.

You’ve inspired a new blog post for today, Saturday, the 13. See if that helps, too.

In the case of the woman with Asperger’s I noted that everyone in the room became uncomfortable when she spoke. I have attempted all of the various techniques in your books at various times (and with good success) but I’m not a systematic person and I find that sometimes in a situation it all flies out the window. Perhaps in this situation because 1) years of schooling have taught me that when you are in a classroom or group situation of any kind you pay complete attention!!! 2) Because it is a “fun” book group for me that I usually really enjoy I turn my space dial way up because for me when you really enjoy something that is HOW you enjoy it, by being fully present with all of your senses alert.

So, back to the drawing board with the books I guess

The point I was making in this post is that, in my opinion, many people are apt to blame narcissists and sociopaths or psychic vampires. In my experience, such people are extremely rare.

By contrast, it is quite common for an unskilled empath to hold others responsible for her or his problems and, perhaps, even exaggerate the energy dynamics of relationships.

Since you have accomplished so much, you must feel much more peaceful than before, which is great.

I don’t think you should mock things you don’t understand. People used to think the world was flat, and never used to wash their hands when helping women give birth. You’re ignorant like them, mocking things you aren’t ready to understand.

Thank you for writing your post! I found it very interesting! And I have seem what you speak of! I have noticed that it is very difficult for new agey, intuitive-types to talk to or be around the more linear type individuals such as engineers and such. And to me it seems it is because the linear side of them is so under-developed that it is actually very uncomfortable for them to be around the “engineer/mathematician type energy. I will tell you that more balanced new agers who have a more well developed left hemisphere of the brain are better able to handle being around engineer types.

I am a highly intuitive person but I also really like facts and proof! I really like being around engineering/mathematician types because I find they have a very orderly energy that is somehow very balancing and calming for me because it deals with the rational.

One of the reasons that I really like Rose and her work is that she is highly gifted in the perception of other realms and she is also very practical and pragmatic. She is working to make things quantifiable. I personally thing this is very important!

So, I think energy medicine needs people who walk in both worlds. And right now there are not as many of those people as there could be. But it is what is very much needed–because it is what will bring legitimacy to the field of energy medicine. So, hang in there!

Francesca

Great post, well-stated, articulately presented and argued. I am glad you have pursued learning in energy literacy but have also used your discernment in the process.

Anita