Each of my books has a cool back story, but I’ve never told any of them in public. Until now. Blog-Buddies, are you interested in hearing the story behind the book being published today?
That new book is Cut Cords of Attachment: Heal Yourself and Others with Energy Spirituality. At my website, you can read a sample chapter, check out the reading group guide, and learn how to receive an autographed, numbered copy. But you won’t find the back story. That’s more a blog thing.
For more than two decades, I have cut cords of attachment for clients. I have done it in many parts of America, Japan, England and Ireland. Plus I have done phoners to clients who spoke excellent English but mainly spoke far-out languages like Russian, Spanish, Swedish, Chinese, and Australian.
Yet writing a how-to book about cutting cords didn’t occur to me until I received an invitation from a company I will call Publisher #1. They consider cutting cords of attachment to be a trend. So their editor invited me to submit an outline and sample chapter.
Thus began my short education about the nature of post-modern New Age publishing in
America. The editor from Publisher #1 told me, “I really like your work. And I’m so glad you submitted this because I have another cord-cutting book here by another author whose work I don’t really care for.”Fast forward a couple of months. “I’m sorry,” said the editor at Publisher #1. “The decision was made that your approach was too complicated.”But by then I was having the time of my life, writing away. During three weeks in Japan, I drafted a third of the book. It was one of the easiest, high-energy manuscripts of my life. Stories just poured out, some moving, some funnystories I had never thought I would have a place to tell. What a delight! What a great way to help people!
Besides, I wasn’t scared of self-publishing. So what if Publisher #1 wasn’t interested?
Next I was approached by Publisher #2, an even bigger New Age publisher. This editor went back and forth with me for four months, adding a certain literary tension to 2006. Never before in my life had I been involved in such extensive negotiations. Mainly I learned how big-time publishers, aiming for huge sales, can have a special affection for dumb and dumber. My first clue about this came from the assistant to my big editor at with Publisher #2. When sending her email address for receiving my manuscript for the book called “Cut Cords of Attachment,” she gave me this fascinating bit of big-publisher wisdom:
“When you send us your book, remember to tell people what cords of attachment are and how to cut them.”
Through lengthy phone calls and email exchanges with my editor, I learned that Publisher #2 was worried because my system for publishing cords, though easy, is not quite a no brainer. I give the reader simple techniques that add up to professional-level skills. But having more than one tiny little technique in the book was, apparently, going to be way too complicated.
After the four months, and many delays, this editor emailed me with the bad news. I wish I had saved her exact words, because they were priceless. Unfortunately, I was too busy crying. To paraphrase, “Rose, you know how much you like doing things your way. Well, we’re going to let you. I’m sure you will be very grateful for all our suggestions about how to improve your book when you publish it yourself.”
Meanwhile, I had been approached by Publisher #3, even a bigger house than Publisher #2. Their top regional sales rep. was a big fan of my work. He talked with me for hours, promising to pitch all my titles to the acquisitions editor. I gave him so many free copies of all my books, he needed a large box to take them away.
Being self-published brings freedom to make sure my work is published with integrity. Still, it would have meant a lot to me to be brought to press and marketed by prestigious Publisher #3. Visions, like sugarplums, danced in my head.
Books in bookstores! (Big chains refuse to stock books by self-publishers.)
Clout! (Many readers assume that the big publishers buy the best booksalthough, in fact, they mostly buy the safe books.)
My first review in Publisher’s Weekly since my first book, a cookbook, was published in 1982! (All the big magazine and newspaper reviewers refuse to consider books by self-publishers, unless they become blockbuster bestsellers.)
Well, you guessed it. Publisher #3 rejected my work also. What made this parade of triple rejection especially notable for me? In all three cases, I had been approached by the very publishers who wound up rejecting me.
Otherwise, in a writing career that has spanned four decades, I have always been the one to approach publishers and editors, never the reverse. Yet there was something about this book that attracted America’s three biggest New Age publishers.
So maybe, this time, I am onto something big.
Blog-Buddies, don’t be surprised if, in 2008 and beyond, many books hit the marketplace on the subject of cutting cords of attachment. But only this one gives readers the method called 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment. It is also the first book being published on this subject.
Now, if you want simple, I recommend Doreen Virtue’s discussion of cutting cords, the only previous reference that I have found in print. Yes, in Angel Medicine, Doreen explains the whole cord thing on pages 231-232. Easy, right?
Actually, you can find some references on the Internet that are even simpler. The gist is, “Ask Archangel Michael to cut all your cords.” How simple! How neat and tidy! Don’t be surprised if you find this method described, very cutely, in books by Publishers #1, #2, and #3. Also expect enough padding to make readers feel that they are really clever. And doing a happening thing.
The only real problem is that, with all respect, this “Celestial Quickie” method works only for a day or two. If you want to learn techniques that bring results permanently, deeply and powerfully, you will find them in Cut Cords of Attachment: Heal Yourself and Others with Energy Spirituality.
In conclusion, it is not especially difficult to cut cords of attachment with professional-level skill. Only you need to be willing to do this–allow the learning process as much time and attention as some folks spend shopping for a new pair of jeans.