Blog-Buddies, if you’ve been following comments over the last several weeks, you’ll have found many excellent questions and comments, including ones from intrepid Lisa V. This one is the inspiration for today’s post:
Wondering if empaths are more susceptible to forming Cords of Attachment, and does being skilled/unskilled impact forming cords? For example, being a Skilled Empath, is one less likely to form a cord with someone by being more aware of themselves, life lessons?
The quick answer is, “No, but.” Now comes the rest of it.
How Can I Protect Myself Against Forming Cords of Attachment?
Correct me if I’m mistaken here, Lisa, but I think that part of your question involves concern about forming Cords of Attachment in the first place.
Here’s the good news: You can’t prevent this. So don’t worry about it.
Sure, Cords of Attachment are the single biggest (and most curable) problem afflicting emotional life for most human beings.
And, sure, I really do care about your happiness, and that of all empaths (also the happiness of non-empaths, for that matter).
So what’s going on? Why so cheerful?
Let’s remember what is involved in forming a Cord of Attachment for you and every other human on earth:
- You are with another human being. (Here I’ll call him or her “Maxi.”)
- You become interested in Maxi. Doesn’t have to be a huge crush, the love of your life, your best friend ever, etc. Just interested, curious, as in “I’d like to get to know that person better.”
- Instantly TWO structures are formed to connect your aura to Maxi’s. (And if Maxi is also interested, Maxi will develop a separate set toward you.)
- There’s a Spiritual Tie, containing love, learning, sweetness. It’s sacred. You’ll keep it throughout this lifetime and beyond.
- Yes, there’s a Cord of Attachment.
The Problem with Cords of Attachment
Every Cord of Attachment develops a distinctive pattern, with toxic energies flowing back and forth between you and the cordee. The pattern may change over time, but it’s always troubling.
And those destructive energies recycle into your aura and subconscious mind 24/7.
This happens even if you never speak to Maxi again. Maxi could even be die the next day. That Cord of Attachment will still be a problem for you, lasting until the last minutes of your lifetime. Unless…. you have someone with professional-caliber skills to cut that Cord of Attachment.
That person could, of course, be YOU. Consider that I wrote the how-to book “Cut Cords of Attachment” just for you!
It’s also possible to have a phone session with me or work with someone else who has professional-caliber skills. Because this is a relatively new field in holistic healing, there is a lot of confusion on the Internet and elsewhere about cutting cords. One extra way to use “Cut Cords of Attachment” is as a consumer guide. This book can educate you about what is really involved, helping you to sort through confusing statements and the many people whose skill level is more like wishful thinking than actually creating permanent healing so that you will never again have a Cord of Attachment to Maxi.
Considering that it is definitely possible for you to release every major Cord of Attachment, and minor ones as well, there is no reason to worry about whether you form them.
Besides, the only way to really avoid forming Cords of Attachment to new people would be to isolate you from all other human beings, including Internet, Social Networking sites, phone calls, etc.
And do remember that you earn bonus points, ahem, Spiritual Ties, every time you make significant contact with somebody new.
When an Unskilled Empath has a Cord of Attachment
This is part of your question, too, Lisa, correct? Unskilled Empaths amount to a lot of people, since 1 in 20 Americans (and 1 in 5 Japanese) was born as an empath. And anyone born as an empath who hasn’t consciously developed real skill is what I call an “Unskilled Empath.”
Any empath can become skilled. It’s about has time-consuming as learning to ride a bike — not impossible but not something a person can explain in a couple of articles on the Internet. (And as a consumer, consider yourself warned when people claim to give you quick tips that are “all you need to know.” Useless or confusing information about becoming a Skilled Empath is just about as prevalent online as those well intended quickie courses to “Just ask Archangel Michael to cut all your Cords of Attachment.)
An empath was born with at least one significant, trainable gift for directly experiencing what it is like to be other people, plants, animals, etc. Even one gift is enough. Empath gifts are not necessarily emotional; this is one of those popular misconceptions that sometimes even finds its way into full-length books to help empaths. Oops!
If you’re talented in any way as an empath, but not yet a Skilled Empath, whenever you’re with someone like Maxi, you take on STUFF and it lands right into your aura. And, as you suspected, Lisa, things do become more complicated when an Unskilled Empath also has a Cord of Attachment.
So let’s say that you have a Cord of Attachment to Maxi with themes where you feel powerless and disrespected. Specific Cord Items have Maxi treating you in a bossy way, and your feeling as though “I can never win.”
Due to that Cord of Attachment, energies like these are circulating in your aura and subconscious mind 24/7, even if you never are in a room with Maxi again. But now say that you’re there with him. His aura is rife with anger, bossiness, and sneering at people.
As an Unskilled Empath in the room with Maxi, you’d likely take in a bunch of that straight into your aura, in the form of astral-level debris. This STUFF will move from his aura to yours (Note: My upcoming book, to be published this September, goes into a lot of detail about how this kind of thing happens, complete with illustrations).
Bottom line is that, due to being an UnskilledEmpath, your aura is taking on STUFF that compounds the STUFF you already carry due to that Cord of Attachment to Maxi. Talk about adding insult to injury! You’ll feel worse than ever.
So this kind of experience is the true part of the question you asked, Lisa. It’s not that you form Cords of Attachment more readily because of being an empath, or that your Cords of Attachment will somehow be worse because you’re an empath. As an Unskilled Empath, however, you’ll develop extra STUFF that can make the Cord STUFF feel worse.
Your Choices with Cords of Attachment and Empath Empowerment
But no worries, Blog Buddies. If you’re both human and a born empath, this kind of problem has been going on for your whole life. And you’ve still been surviving.
Your choices to change things now will only make your life much, much better.
Yes, you can become a Skilled Empath. (See LINKS below.)
And yes, you can either have sessions to Cut Cords of Attachment or learn to do it on your own. (See more LINKS below.)
So the options for becoming clear in your aura are easily available. You could do it by reading two books, Empowered by Empathy and Cut Cords of Attachment. If you don’t have time, or you don’t like learning from books, it will be a bit more expensive but involve some phone sessions of mentoring. Even with this fancier choice, the amount of money involved is still likely to be less than the cost of a weekend vacation.
Lisa, you and other Blog-Buddies are doing great at both — clearing out Cords of Attachment and becoming a Skilled Empath. Keep learning, thinking, exploring, celebrating!