Yesterday I graduated a new group of 40 Skilled Empaths. They came from many parts of Japan, with varied backgrounds but two things in common. All began the weekend workshop as unskilled empaths and all graduated with skills firmly in place.
Skills of Empath Empowerment(TM) are easy, once you’ve learned them — comparable to riding a bicycle. And these skills aren’t just easy and super-effective but simple. You learn to make a slight, natural shift of consciousness that wakes you up from inside. A side effect of techniques like “Coming Home” is to help any empath become more vibrantly, authentically alive.
By contrast, I was told about a technique this weekend, a brave attempt at becoming a Skilled Empath. Once this approach was explained clearly to me by a workshop participant, I realized that for years I had been hearing about the technique in bits and pieces. Only I never fully accepted that people could actually be doing such a thing. Oh, the horror!
And you, Blog Lurker, or even Blog-Buddy, may be one of these people! Since I published the first book for empaths, early in this new milennium, more and more empaths have come to appreciate that they routinely take on STUFF from other people. It stinks.
Whether emotions, physical sensations, fear of going to hell — it’s all just astral-level debris. Or, to put this in the language of psychology, unskilled empaths take other people’s problems and deposit them right into their own subconscious minds.
Well, the coping skill that my student described doesn’t have a name, so I will call it, “The Unskilled Empath’s Rosary.” When you notice that you have taken on something, you stop and figure out who really owns the problem. That is supposed to clear everything up.
Or, with a variation on The Unskilled Empath’s Rosary, you try to somehow “send it back” to the other person. Or you attempt to think your way out of the problem so it won’t bother you any more.
Of all the useless, time-consuming, ridiculous techniques! So laughable, it’s cryable!
When you’re an unskilled empath, of course you will constantly take on STUFF from others. As described in my upcoming book for empaths, to be published this September, a born empath constantly does quick, not-conscious, unskilled Empath Merges. This causes the unskilled empath to take on STUFF, carry it right into his/her aura and live with it for a while.
This STUFF has a physical substance, on the level of auras. You could think of it like items of physical garbage — an empty soup can here, the cardboard roll from TP there.
With The Unskilled Empath’s Rosary, you are fingering each item and saying a kind of prayer over it. Puhleeze!
Even the most devoted Catholics don’t say the Rosary all day long. And they don’t lovingly touch each bead as a kind of psychometry: “Gee, where did this fear come from? Was it from Uncle Murgatroyd or maybe my neighbor’s cat?”
Once garbage is in your aura, don’t stop to analyze it. Get the smelly mess out. You need a technique on the level of auras to remove STUFF that has gone into your aura, such as the First Aid Technique in Empowered by Empathy.
The psychological approach of analyzing is fine if you want a meaningful hobby. Would you also do this with your physical garbage? Personally, I’d much rather take out the trash.
(And, of course, in Japan, that means multiple garbage cans, each one neatly labeled in writing I don’t understand. Although sometimes translation is thoughtfully offered. There will, for instance, be a separate recycle bin for “Pet Bottles.” I’m still trying to understand that one. To me, they just look like used plastic bottles.)
BEWARE OBSESSIVE SELF-IMPROVEMENT
Since The Unskilled Empath’s Rosary doesn’t work well, practitioners compensate by doing this technique all day long. Constantly being watchful over your thoughts? I thought that went out with the old milennium!
Students have taught ME a lot during my four weekend workshops (this Japanese Teaching Tour #9). The biggest surprise for me was having The Unskilled Empath’s Rosary articulated. And the second-biggest surprise was learning about so many other ways that people today are CONSTANTLY doing some healing technique or other.
In one workshop, I learned about an otherwise professional healer who spent 45 minutes teaching her students “all about how to cut cords of attachment.” Supposedly, you would cut all your cords at once. But then, if you thought about any of the people involved even once, the cord would come back. So you’d have to do your technique all over again.
Apart from futile techniques like this, that weren’t visibly obvious while I watched my students, let me tell you what I saw at the start of every one of my four weekend workshops. Some of the most sophisticated, highly motivated course participants had the equivalent of full-time jobs.
They weren’t just sitting there, handout at the ready, taking my workshop. They multi-tasked, doing tapping techniques or EFT. They were Reiki-ing themselves like crazy. Many would close their eyes for long stretches of time, aurically lifting right out of their physical bodies.
Is there something YOU do to make your life better or heal yourself? Do you give reality a perpetual subtext, all for the sake of a better life?
Aw, cut that out. Any technique which demands that much time and attention isn’t giving you much of a payoff. The cure could be just as bad as the disease.
All the techniques I teach in workshops and books are SIMPLE. They’re co-created with God, so you don’t need to do heavy lifting.
Whatever techniques you choose, for whichever purpose, do consider the payoff. Maybe your favorite Rosary practice is more a cherished habit than a technique that brings you results.
Maybe you’ve heard of the lifestyle known as “Voluntary Simplicity,” where you toss out the things you don’t need, take a deep breath, and enjoy your life more.
What about practicing Voluntary Simplicity with spiritual and psychic and psychological practices?
Once I had a student in a workshop here in Japan, who was clearly addicted to closing her eyes and tripping around in her consciousness. Early in every workshop, I ask my students to refrain from doing other techniques until the workshop is over. It’s only common sense, because you can’t find out what my techniques can do for you unless you stop doing other techniques.
But that wasn’t possible for this student, “Maxi.” She found it impossible to stop doing her techniques with eyes closed, and kept doing them much of the time. On the first day of our four-part workshop, Maxi also needed to step outside into the hallway, listening through an open door, because she was picking up so much STUFF from the other course participants.
By the end of Day One, she was able to spend a whole hour with the rest of the group, squirming there in the very back row and, mostly, slamming her eyelids shut. (Because Maxi may have been troubled but she was also very courageous.)
Halfway through Day Two, Maxi was in the classroom to stay. She could even do some of the exercises, paired up with a partner.
By our second weekend workshop, Maxi was visibly different. Not just able to keep her eyes open for hours at a time, she was also considerably more able to connect with other people.
Fast-forward to graduation. Whenever possible, when handing out graduation certificates I give each workshop participants a few minutes to tell the group about their biggest Aha!s. When Maxi started to speak, everyone paid close attention because she was now dramatically less freaky.
“For many years, I have been a teacher for Twinkletoes.” (Actually, Maxi named a different group. I’d never heard of this group and was having the interpreter whisper into my ear. And right after translating this sentence, my interpreter gasped and whispered to me, “That’s a cult here in Japan, a very intense one.”)
Maxi continued, “I loved all my Twinkletoes practices. I would get messages from trees, even stars. I was constantly getting messages. Only I became so sensitive that I couldn’t stand being around people. Maybe you noticed the first day how often I had to be in the hallway.
“Well, I’ve changed a lot, becoming a Skilled Empath. I’ve learned a lot about myself as a person. You could say I’ve relaxed.
“Yesterday, I even made a decision. I’m going to take a vacation from teaching Twinkletoes. I don’t know yet what I’m going to do in the future. But I do plan to do it as me, myself.”