“Never trust a healer whose plants are dead.” If you have heard this saying, you have probably noticed that many a healer enjoys growing plants.
Well, this Rosetree is one of that green gang. This summer I have attempted more than usual: My first roses and peonies, and the astoundingly ambitious investment in four new lilac bushes.
On my special herb strip in the back yard went some tasty favorites. To use up the valuable growing space, I bought a simple packet of “Assorted Annuals.” They have flourished, sprouted up so well that by the end of May I transplanted many of these exciting starter flowers to a bit of garden in the front of the house. Today’s post is mostly about two of those flowers.
For months, they were my mystery flowers. Amid the pink blooms, the lilac ones and yellow beauties; among the zinnias and mini-carnations that I could name and the dream-fantasy-friendly-strange flower-creatures for which I had no names at all; two of the flowers intrigued me. They seemed to be such late bloomers.
Trusting a Late Bloomer
Plants X and Y grew too slowly to be weeds, spreading out with lush greenery that had little buds at the ends. They were like unanswered questions.
I kept waiting for those buds to unfurl their flowers. Weeding around them I was, curious, paying just a little extra attention. Soon I began to have a lot of my gardening mojo invested.
Where I grew up in Flushing, Queens, there really wasn’t much in the way of flowers. Unless you count forsythia hedges, and I’m still not sure if those yellow spring sprongs are truly supposed to be flowers.
How little gardening knowledge did I receive in the unfancy suburbs of New York? Here’s a clue. Never once did I see a daffodil until my freshman year at Brandeis, the beautifully landscaped university in Massachusetts.
What did I know about Plants X and Y, except for my great expectations? Nothing.
Those Bright Green Question Marks
Well, a few days ago (back from vacation in amazing Vancouver) I took a fresh look. X and Y were lush, green plants that still had buds on the end like unanswered questions. Would those buds ever turn into flowers?
Sighing, and sweating a bit, I yanked them out and consigned them to the yard waste bin.
All weeds don’t grow the obvious way: Cliches of problem plants, like dandelions and nimbleweed; or the outrageous weeds that grow so tall so quickly — reminiscent of the presidential-party-crashing Saladhis. When you pull the tall pretenders out, what a shock to find light stems that are really so hollow inside, with only the tiniest roots.
Were Plants X and Y really weeds or might they eventually have turned into flowers? A big lesson for me was that I didn’t have to care. Nor did I have to continue with wait and see.
Somehow, I had invested a lot of attention on those green question marks that I will now call Weeds X and Y. I paid more attention to them than the flowers that really were putting out for me.
Weeds X and Y weren’t just distracting me but other plants. Or, at least, stealing their sunlight. Within a few days, several flower-bringing plants began to blossom. Delicate flowers grew stronger. Buds opened up. Finally these “background flowers” had their day in the sun and rewarded me accordingly.
Here are the conclusions I drew.
- Yet again, I’m reminded that weeds in life don’t always come labeled.
- Even with plenty of other weed experience, I can encounter new varieties of weed. A smart gardener stays alert.
- I’m allowed to make the judgment call about what I consider a weed. Even if I’m not correct, or premature in plucking a plant from my life that eventually might seem worthwhile, even if a wiser gardener would know otherwise, that’s okay. It’s my garden, my life.
- Weeds can take way more energy than flowers. They’re a poor investment.
- Some glorious flowers may never bloom if I stay so gawrsh darned busy making space for the weeds.
How We Can Choose Flowers over Interesting Weeds
Fast forward to a session I did with Joe. He has done many healing sessions with me over the years, both phoners of RES Energy HEALING and in-person sessions of Soul Energy Awakening Hypnosis® and Name Alignment®. (As synchronicity would have it, these are three sessions that I did in a row: Kathryn (who recently guest posted), Ann (another name changing client, who commented at Kathryn’s guest post), and then Joe. Tic tac toe!
At this particular session, Joe chose RES Energy READING. He had recently moved to a new neighborhood and a new job. New relationships fascinated him. He wanted to have me read the consequences of various friendships and potential love interests. I have two different ways of doing this:
- Soul Thrill® Aura Research brings detailed feedback about any life choice directly from a client’s aura. It is detailed, nuanced research. With Joe, we established a baseline of 10 chakra databanks that were important to him, everything from moving forward on his path of development as a person (in his Left Foot Subchakra) to sharing power in a relationship (Solar Plexus Chakra) and assertive communication (Throat Chakra).
- Aura Reading Research also includes my being able to read any chakra databank in anyone my client has ever personally known. “Known” means talking in real time, whether in person or over the phone. This kind of research is done by having a client like Joe choose a time of interacting with the person, such as “When I saw Gladys last Tuesday.”
Going back and forth between these two aura research approaches, we discovered inside information about Joe’s New Friends X and Y.
X was a colossal energy drain. Only it was hard to tell because, at Joe’s first meeting with her, she was projecting a 20-foot facade that went like this, “I am your dream lover. I will be so generous, so appreciative. I will bring you to unknown peaks of sexual ecstasy. Whatever you give to me, I will pay you back double.”
Yet the more complete truth, as shown elsewhere in X’s aura, was that “I will pay you back” would be done at X’s discretion, and that time probably was “not for the next 100 years.”
Joe began to laugh, because he had wondered about a mysterious, funky quality to that new friendship.
- Y seemed to have an okay impact on a couple of Joe’s chakra databanks, but just “okay” wasn’t good enough for Joe’s standards. And he felt puzzled that there was zero thrill at the most important chakra databank in this type of research, the Soul Thrill databank at the High Heart Chakra. So Joe had me turn toward researching Y’s aura during a recent visit.
- Y had wonderful qualities of softness and strength, both sexually and emotionally and spiritually. Y was a great gal. Except probing away into chakra databanks within Y like “Emotional Self-Awareness” at the Heart Chakra, it became evident that Y was playing a bit of a game, not consciously but importantly.
- Y was giving to Joe in order to get the relationship off to a good start. Y was on track to be very affectionate and fun to be with for months, about six months altogether. Once the relationship became serious, Y’s dynamic was to take and take and take emotionally for the rest of the relationship.
In short, Y’s generosity now was a kind of downpayment for unhappily ever after.
Weeds in Joe’s Love Garden
Joe learned about other relationships as well, quite a crop of weeds in his love garden. I wish I could tell you — and wish I could have told him — about a really hot prospect, some fragrant and bright pink creation with blossoms that would keep on giving.
Not this time. But at least he learned how to recognize some new weeds, and plan his own gardening accordingly.
Deeper Perception is good for weed recognition, whether you use Aura Reading or Face Reading or research as a Skilled Empath. I do call this “energetic literacy,” not “being judgmental.”
Blog-Buddies, you do have the right to decide which relationships in your life to cultivate. Everyone doesn’t have to be your friend. Every potential relationship isn’t necessarily a good use of your time. Isn’t it better to check out the person in depth and detail, and allocate your time and sunshine accordingly?