Gladys wrote to me scared.
“I know that you are very busy and that you must receive a lot of emails. If/when you get a chance, please let me know what you think of this article re: energetic cords [ Link No Longer Available].
“Is energetic vampiring with cords possible? Is it cause for concern? How do you (really) know if a anyone is ethical?”
This inquiry came at a time I was planning to write on the topic of psychic vampires, energy vampires, psychic attack. A fine synchronicity, because all these themes will come together as I respond to the article that frightened Glady — and how many other healers and clients?
First, some important definitions. There are quite a few. If you’re sure you know them all, skip past these red paragraph headings to the rest of the article. All these terms are important for understanding New Age in the third millennium.
Cords of Attachment, Energetic Cords
Cords of attachment are a natural part of life, like germs and immune systems, spiders and vultures. You get one cord of attachment per relationship per lifetime — not with every relationship. A cord develops when first you become strongly interested in any person. At the same time, you receive a spiritual tie.
No cord of attachment is “good,” as in pleasant or helpful or enjoyable. For decades, New Age practitioners have been cutting cords of attachment.
When I prepared to publish the first (and still only) how-to book on “Cut Cords of Attachment,” I googled the term and found three screens. Last week I googled and found 1,300,000 hits. So many more people are interested in this technology, but many of these people are deeply confused, ill informed. And I would agree with Christina Barea, the author of the article being critiqued in this post: Some practitioners are unethical.
Yes, cords of attachment are energetic structures. So, in a narrow sense, they could be called “energetic cords” but this is too vague a label for anyone who is serious about being a consumer or a practitioner when it comes to cutting cords. And I am, personally, pretty serious about this form of healing, even if I retain a sense of humor in general.
In case you forward this post to anyone, here’s a summary of my credentials in this field. I have worked professionally with clients specializing in this form of healing since 1986, over 25 years. I have facilitated thousands of sessions where I cut a cord of attachment permanently and completely. I have the only trademark in America in this field, 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment®. Thus, very much like Ms. Barea, I do care deeply about ethics and quality with this kind of healing.
If someone is so vague about what kind of energy cords are made of, how can you trust the healing process? A doctor ought to be able to know names like “kidney” and “lung,” not just “body organs.” And who would trust a cardiologist who refered to “that pumpy thing”?
Speaking of expertise, if you encounter someone who refers to cords of attachment as “etheric cords,” at a minimum… raise your eyebrows. I know at least one famous clairvoyant psychic who sees them that way and refers to them that way. But she’s not an expert at this form of healing and with all respect to the rest of her work, in this case, the statement is totally inaccurate.
Why does it matter? To remove cords of attachment effectively, I recommend making an “Energy Sandwich” where you as a human healer co-create the healing with a Divine (etheric) being. This works because cords of attachment are astral, not etheric.
If you look elsewhere at this blog, or the main Rose Rosetree website, you’ll find definitions of chakra databanks that include gifts and STUFF.
- Gifts of your soul, showing up in your aura, are etheric (a.k.a. Divine or spiritual).
- STUFF in your aura, which would definitely include cords of attachment, is astral (a.k.a. Celestial or psychic).
Psychic Vampires, Energy Vampires, Psychic Attack
So many people today are very afraid of these things. Is it the popularity of vampire movies and novels? Is it fear related to Gray Slime? (Use the SEARCH box, to find more articles on this theme.)
These terms make many people cringe. Me, too. But not because I’m scared of them. These fear-based, fear-generating ideas are very popular for people whose idea of personal growth means “discovering you’re a victim” or “blaming others.”
Having done many thousands of personal sessions since 1986, I’ve had plenty of clients who came to me with fear and trembling (if not quite “sickness unto death” 😉 ) because of their terror about psychic vampires or energy vampires or psychic attack or voodoo.
Bedbugs have been making a comeback in America these days, not voodoo.
I’ve been keeping a count of how many clients really were suffering from psychic attack or psychic vampires or energy vampires. Until last week, I would have told you nine. But last week, I facilitated a session for my beloved long-term client Joe. When I facilitated cutting a cord of attachment for him, there was a problem of psychic attack. His cordee, Josephine, came from a third world country where black magicians abound. It was well known in Josephine’s family that she was hiring black magicians to attack Joe.
Joe is doing fine now, BTW. And my career statistic has gone up to 10. This is still so very much less than 1% of my clients…
Vampiring and Cording
As a recovering English major, I do love making up words. Like “chakra databanks,” which first appeared in Cut Cords of Attachment in 2007. I may have mentioned elsewhere on this blog that last week I googled it and was delighted to find that it now scores well over 71,000 hits.
However I’m not fond of either of these new words.
“Vampiring” makes it sound as though people can just choose to become psychic vampires and energy vampires, quick as putting on a Halloween costume.
I don’t think so.
“Cording” is supposed to mean that a person somehow actively creates a cord of attachment. This is preposterous. See the definition, above, of “Cords of Attachment.” God makes them, not people. There is one per relationship per life.
That means you have one only, no matter. The cordee could also have one to you, but that’s none of your business. It doesn’t affect your life, whether or not the cordee keeps that cord of attachment or has it permanently removed. (To understand why, check out another term I got to create, “Divine Homeostasis,” which you can learn about in the how-to, Cut Cords of Attachment for Self-Healing.
Energy Hypochondria, Spiritual Hypochondria
Hey, speaking of made-up terms, I did make these two up. Both mean “Being scared about energy-related things, psychic things, paranormal things, being mysteriously attacked.”
Sometimes New Age newbies start worrying in a new direction, not their psychological complexes or whether The Devil is pursuing them (popular second millennium and first millennium fears, respectively) but blaming any little or big thing in your life not going well on “causes” like psychic attack and energy vampires.
So far, these are popular fears in the third millennium, but I don’t think they’ll last long because of…
Energetic Literacy, Aura Reading
These are the new literacy skills of the third millennium. And, of course, I mean Stage 3 Energetic Literacy, being as good at reading auras as you are, right now, at Gutenberg literacy. To learn more about this, see my upcoming book, due for publication this November, Magnetize Money with Energetic Literacy: 10 Secrets for Success and Prosperity in the Third Millennium. Or simply type “Stage 3” into the SEARCH box, above.
When you can do regular-old reading — fluent, effortless, easy, detailed — on the level of auras, a whole lot of things become clear. Think about how confusing, complicated, and downright scary life would be if you couldn’t do regular reading! Then add the element of even greater mystery, appropriate to the perception of subtle energies, and you’ll appreciate how hypochondrias about energy can dissolve once there is real literacy.
Sunshine is the best disinfectant. For energy hypochondria, full literacy works just like sunshine.
Well Prepared Now, Let’s Critique that Article
Christina Barea wrote:
- “Subtle energy is impossible to tag, measure and control for the purposes of accountability and a few energy medicine practitioners are happy to abuse their power.”
Actually, subtle energy is totally possible to tag and measure. Two words: Energetic Literacy.
- When there really is skill, of course there is control.
“Control” sure is greater when a healer has skill. I do think that quality control matters a great deal for New Age practitioners of all kinds. Practitioners need to develop real skill sets, such as 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment® (This is surely not the only method that works, but a tested one that delivers quality control.)
In any field, some practitioners abuse the trust of their clients. Hello! That’s why it always pays to be a smart consumer. What would help a lot? Stage 3 Energetic Literacy. For one thing, you can find out if a healer has the standing energetically to be someone who would help you, rather than being awash in STUFF.
Incidentally, I’m not impressed that Barea refers to a big range of healers as “energy medicine practitioners.” My friend, Donna Eden, has trademarked a particular system of Energy Medicine. She has lovingly, purely worked to create a large base of highly skilled and ethical practitioners.
“Energy workers” are not necessarily trained and qualified in Donna’s system, so it is pretty inaccurate to confuse these two groups, isn’t it?
What do energy healers do, anyway?
Christina writes, “Energy workers are healers who use the subtle vibrations of their body, the body of their clients and environmental energies to promote relief from various types of conditions from emotional to physical to mental.”
Personally, I think it is really important to understand that all healers specialize.
- Some work with skill sets that focus on healing with energy that starts by accessing the physical, including local Body Whisperer Lynne Porzel, Donna Eden’s Energy Medicine, Janet Mentgen’s Healing Touch, Reiki, Barbara Brennan’s work, many New Age-oriented massage therapists and Christina’s pwn specialty, Qigong.
- Some work with skill sets that focus on healing with energy that starts by accessing emotions, including Energy Psychology, EFT, hypnosis.
- Some work with skill sets that focus on healing with energy that starts by accessing the spiritual self, including the system of Energy Spirituality I have developed, including cutting cords of attachment; a full skill set for releasing astral debris like psychic coercion developed by Teaching of the Inner Christ, which I will teach in an adapted version this October in the Spiritual Cleansing and Protection workshop (Ethical point: I was authorized to teach this skill set in 1986); a uniquely effective set of regression therapy techniques developed by Coletta Long, Ph.D., which I offer to clients, but do not teach, in the adapted form called Soul Energy Awakening Hypnosis®.
What do Energy Healers Do, Really?
According to Ms. Barea, “When energy workers are sending clients into a state of peace and encouraging them to relax, they are in fact, opening up the persons defenses in order to fix the perceived problem. The client is focusing on perhaps some guided mental imagery and enjoying the soothing music while the practitioner is busy moving energy to promote the desired result. Up to here, the process is entirely normal and relatively safe.”
Since Ms. Barea has lumped together all practitioners, including the three very different specialties noted above, of course this is generalization is ridiculous.
Speaking about how I help clients to cut cords of attachment:
- Clients do not have to be in a state of peace to benefit from a session.
- They are not encouraged to relax. I just ask that they speak English, or have an interpreter handy, that they not be asleep or drunk. Hello!
- There is no guided mental imagery or soothing music.
- Most important: I am not personally moving energy. Every session I do is co-created with my client’s choice of Divine being, such as God or Jesus or Archangel Gabriel or Buddha.
More inaccurate generalizations
I do want to make clear that I am not writing this article to personally attack Ms. Barea. Like her, I care deeply about ethics and quality control in all forms of healing. That is why I was so concerned to read this article and the fear it generated in Gladys, as well as the way it could sour many potential clients on the true healing power of cutting cords.
Barea’s article generalizes in ways that are full of inaccuracies. Here is a short sampling of more such statements. In terms of my treatment model as a practitioner, my actual practice with individual clients, my work in this field for over 25 years, my trademarked systems, my published books, and my sense of fairness, I have to say “No, no, no.”
As noted at the top of this post, you can enjoy reading and evaluating her full article. [By the time of this edit, the link is now defunct.] And of course it’s important to decide for yourself.
- Every person has energetic cords to places and things that are important to us? NO, not true.
- Healers identify all of a client’s cords? Not this one, ever! I would consider that unethical.
- Healers decide which cords to leave alone and which to remove? No, hardly.
- Healers can purposely set up energetic links to their clients? Many problems related to this have been seen in my practice over the decades, but never this one.
- Cords of attachment can be accessed by a healer to vampire a client? No, I haven’t encountered that. Period.
- A good way to protect yourself is to monitor phrases used by the healer. Christina gives the example of that makes you feel sad. Not really, IMHO. I think I understand what she means here, but Energetic Literacy would be a better way to use consumer skills. Common sense would help, too. What are the healer’s credentials. How does the healer describe her or his work?
Conclusion: Be Very Afraid?
I’m very glad Christina Barea wrote this article, also happy that Gladys sent her question. Ethics and professionalism are important. In fact, quality control is a major theme in Cut Cords of Attachment: Heal Yourself and Others with Energy Spirituality.
By now you have probably guessed the answer to Gladys’ questions:
1. “Is energetic vampiring with cords possible?” No, and it’s a confusing term in the first place.
2. “Is it cause for concern?” No. But I would be concerned about a healer’s knowledge base and degree of Energetic Literacy — for anyone raising questions like this, arousing fears about this. As cords of attachment have become more popular, increasingly you will find experts in other areas who add on “cutting all your cords” or similar goodies.
It’s really akin to having a restaurant owner offer you a mint before leaving. Practitioners who have excellent skills in other fields (and I suspect this is true of Christina Barea, incidentally) are trying to stay current, or market themselves better, by adding this trendy thing called cutting cords.
This may not apply to her, but many practitioners today don’t know much about it but have had tiny bits of training, or have picked up a few ideas from the Internet, and consider themselves experts.
Personally, I have a small range of skill sets. I don’t say, in the last few minutes of a professional session, “Shall I give you a full-body massage?” or “Would you like me to cure your neuroses?”
Yet my husband received a Magnified Healing session from a practitioner who did say, in the last five minutes, “Would you like me to cut all your cords of attachment.” (I’m very fond of this practitioner. She is deeply ethical in other respects.)
Another practitioner I know is a fabulously talented, rigorously trained Regression Therapist. Yet she did some really shoddy work on a friend of mine in the name of cutting cords. I talked to Mme. X on the phone, trying to interest her in learning more about this topic and imploring her to not claim to cut cords of attachment as she has been doing. In response, Mme. X told me, “Rose, you are too rigid about what it means to cut cords of attachment.”
Try getting a trademark in a new field unless you have a pretty definite idea about what the heck you are doing.
Blog-Buddies, I’ve had clients who were given empty offers to cut their cords of attachment after receiving a massage, Reiki, and other energy work. What will make this stop? Articles like this one, I hope, plus my response to it. Evidently some consciousness raising is needed, and I’m grateful to Ms. Barea for starting the online conversation. It is sorely needed.
3. How do you (really) know if a anyone is ethical? Check this out in the usual ways, such as reading articles and websites, collecting references, checking with the Better Business Bureau. If you have Stage 3 Energetic Literacy, you can always read the person’s aura in detail from a regular photo, and that is the very best consumer protection in life.
A person can, unfortunately, be ethical but ignorant. And that’s where, before hiring anyone to help you, in the New Age marketplace or elsewhere, it’s wise to be a smart consumer. Everything “energy” is not created equal.
High Consciousness Doesn’t Mean Omniscience
Like Ms. Barea, I value ethics enormously. So, before posting this article, I decided to get contact information for her. I want her to have a chance to know about this article and respond to it, whether as comments or as a full Guest Post. Her choice. And I’ll be emailing right after making this post go live.
Preparing for this, I found her photo, and did some aura reading on it. Is it ever magnificent. I can’t quite add her to my Enlightenment Life List, but this lady is very, very evolved.
How could it be that someone so spiritually magnificent could write so many mistaken things about cords of attachment? My theory is this:
Whatever our level of consciousness, we form opinions based on what we know so far. Enlightenment doesn’t bring omniscience. Christina Barea’s website explains that “For more than 10 years I’ve been practicing martial arts and for the last 5, treating health issues with Medical Qigong.”
Five years of professional work in Medical Qigong does not mean the same thing as being an expert at cutting cords of attachment. I worked as a mind-body-spirit professional starting 1970, and didn’t start doing this particlar part of my sacred work professionally until 1986. And, of course, I have FOCUSED on the various skill sets I write books about and teach.
Blog-Buddies, I really look forward to the day when this type of healing, and all the emotional and spiritual specialties of healing, are not consigned to the category of physical energy healing. Many people who are very talented and knowledgeable about energy medicine are not specialists in the other types of healing. Certainly, I don’t pretend to be talented in the physical aspects.
Just last night, I had a new client who had ignored her confirmation email. She told me she wanted me to help her with a health problem. I said, “I’m not qualified to do that. I specialize in emotional and spiritual healing.” Which is true.
I suspect that Ms. Barea’s article was the equivalent of my writing an opinion piece about how to fix somebody’s foot. One final point that you might want to consider, something also not generally known at present:
Enlightenment is separate from Energetic Literacy
Yes, even people with Spiritual Enlightenment do not yet have full Stage 3 Energetic Literacy. And gaining this literacy doesn’t make someone Enlightened. It just helps a person to know what is going on.
We live at a historical time when big releasing is taking place. It’s important to hold to your truth, to live with ethics. It’s important to warn people about dangers that we find, to the best of our knowledge. My concern is that, with this article, people have been frightened in ways that are inappropriate, even laughable.
If you want to know more about what’s happening now, develop Stage 3 Energetic Literacy — that’s my advice, anyway. Oh yes, one more thing: You’re highly, highly unlikely to ever encounter someone who does “vampiring” on you. But you’ll find many people who have a very casual knowledge of cords of attachments, so do seek people who have good technical skills.