Blog-Buddies, an interesting thread has developed here related to the New Age custom of saying or writing “Blessings.”
Since many of us have been thinking about this lately, I’m going to add some new thoughts, then consolidate some of the exchanges so far and then cross-post various comments that would have been here… had this post already existed. (Hope this makes sense. I also hope I used the term “cross-post” correctly. If there’s a better word, please tell me. Most of my slang is stuck in the 1950’s and I am slowly crawling my way forward into current language.)
Turning the other cheek, then blessing. Why exactly?
Just yesterday, I had a session with Gladys. She was raised in a Fundamentalist family that was so very, very into religion that Gladys has spent years pulling herself out, then putting herself back together.
This family’s version of religion is rife with cult-like qualities. Brave Gladys has moved out a great deal of limiting STUFF related to her coercive upbringing. As Thanksgiving holidays approach, Gladys has been considering how to get through the required visit to her abusive relatives.
Moving out one cord of attachment at a time, Gladys is finding it easier to question ideals she was taught as a child. They include “Turn the other cheek” and “Bless those who hate you.”
Not an easy thing to do within one’s own family. Nor is it necessarily required, right?
Scriptural accounts of the life of Jesus weren’t written until centuries after his life. So who really knows how distorted they are? Even so, the New Testament doesn’t necessarily portray Jesus as a wimp. When he overturned the tables of the moneychangers in the temple, for instance, I’m not aware that he followed up with “And before I go, blessings to you!”
Gladys has clearer thinking about her family now, with less STUFF pulling her back into past patterns of practicing religion as taught to her back in the day, where “Turn the other cheek” meant “Listen to what your mother and brothers tell you, believe it, and never question a thing.” Without the religious overlay, it becomes clear that this highly dysfunctional family had a custom of scapegoating Gladys.
Since when did Jesus teach hatred and scapegoating?
Right after the session with Gladys, I moved on to facilitate a session with Joe. His family was physically abusive as well as emotionally abusive. Continuing in our systematic removal of vile cords of attachment related to family members, I learned for the first time about Joe’s brother “Cuddles.”
Oboy! That Cuddles is interesting. One time, Joe and Cuddles were walking down a street in Chicago. Seemingly out of nowhere, Cuddles began to rage at Joe, culminating in Cuddles screaming at him and using the N-word. (Neither Joe nor Cuddles is an African-American, by the way.)
Joe’s last interaction with Cuddles featured this fascinating brother calling him and another sibling “The Anti-Christ.”
In a way that shows a certain inclusiveness, doesn’t it? Why limit bestowing the title of “The Anti-Christ” to just one family member?
Then Cuddles explained his Christian values further by punching the third brother, moving out “unnecessary” teeth, etc. Soon afterwards, Cuddles was physically moved, himself, courtesy of some police officers… directly into the slammer.
Joe, like his Christian brothers, and Gladys, has been raised to turn the other cheek, pray for others, etc. I’d call it a “breakthrough” that Joe didn’t respond by adjusting his cheeks. Instead he called the cops.
Does caring about God require being a victim?
Have you guessed? I really like and respect these two clients, Joe and Gladys. Funny thing is, both are uncommonly devout Christians deep down.
Would their families ever acknowledge this? Just the opposite. These loving, light-filled, increasingly powerful, people haven’t fit in with the prevailing culture of their abusive Christian families.
As these genuine spiritual seekers have released confusing and limiting STUFF from their auras, both Gladys and Joe have been able to question beliefs like needing to bless people whom they dislike.
- Why does a person’s love of God need to translate into cheerfully accepting abuse?
- Could customs like these keep Catholic and Protestant churches in their positions of power?
- Without the wacky idea of turning the other cheek, would there be so many people — within and outside — Christian communities who feel the constant need to bless others out loud?
The perspective of energetic literacy
Do people who practice “blessing” others have superior auras? Hardly.
Any habits of communicating inauthentically do not make an aura more beautiful. With energetic literacy, it is possible to read in detail patterns like verbal integrity, spiritual integrity, sharing power. More and more of you Blog-Buddies have been doing this. So, literally, more power to you!
Personally, I have read auras of many people who were proud representatives of a path that involved always being positive — sometimes Christian, sometimes Muslim, sometimes Jewish, sometimes Buddhist, sometimes Hindu, sometimes using New Age Litany (just not all of these approaches, all at the same time 😉 ).
Trust me, it isn’t pretty at all. Patterns of rage don’t disappear because someone struggles to fulfill an ideal.
What about people who are spiritually Enlightened? Don’t they bless people? Sure, constantly. They do it spontaneously through their auric modeling. They don’t have to do it with words. “Darshan” is the name for this kind of blessing.
And don’t Enlightened people always stay positive? Hardly. Enlightenment means acting authentically and as appropriately as possible, given the situation.
Pasting a bland smile onto the face and tossing out “Blessings” like so much confetti will not move a person forward more quickly into Enlightenment. Just the opposite.
Incidentally, among my how-to books, one is quite directly related to lifestyle adjustment as a person evolves spiritually: Let Today Be a Holiday. If you have been struggling to forge a way of living that is congruent with your own version of integrity, you might find this helpful. It’s meant to be a daybook, just one or two pages per day.
Meanwhile, here’s something meant to be helpful right now…
Pop Quiz about Blessing People
How do you rate popular customs related to “Lamb of God,” martyr-like forms of Christianity. I’d be interested in YOUR ratings, as well. (Mine are provided, with italics.)
- Seeking to understand other people? Good, within limits.
- Sticking around, turning your cheeks back and forth like a ping-pong observer, while someone abuses you verbally or physically? A really, really bad idea.
- Sending a prayer of white light to help people, praying in private and alone with God? Fine.
- Praying for people to mend their ways. Coercive.
- Praying for people to stop being so darned stupid and nasty and, instead, be “more like me”? Not good at all. Possibly the other person’s nightmare.
- Feeling angry but trying to wear a radiant smile regardless? Just plain ineffective, at best.
- Patching up a disagreement and/or helping out the other person by bestowing wonderful, spiritually superior, blessings? Ridiculous.