Graciously, WHO just added a kind Comment #36 at a previous post, You disgust me. But blessings to you, of course.
Wow, interesting discussion. Just for the record, my comment wasn’t from anger…annoyance maybe. However, I don’t have to agree with someone to bless them or wish them well. Just like your clients don’t have to necessarily like/agree with/love you ( and you don’t have to like/agree with/love them) to work with you. I don’t think that signing off with a “Blessings” is an act of turning the other cheek or martyrdom. For the record, I don’t consider myself an New Ager..which I think is religious/cultish..but that is another matter.
Anyway, I apologize for offending you with my comment, Rose.
This was a great comment, wasn’t it? Thought provoking! Hence today’s post.
First, a question for WHO. Or YOU.
I’m still curious. And although this question is addressed to WHO, some of you might have answers for it on your own. So, to rephrase:
This is a question for all of you who sign off on emails with “Blessings” or end a phone conversation with this sort of language. So please do adapt the following question to YOUR situation and educate us all of us here at Deeper Perception Made Practical.
Understood: You don’t sign off with a “Blessings” to turn the other cheek. Or out of martyrdom. You don’t consider yourself a New Ager. So why bless people, then? Did they just sneeze? Is this like living in India and owning a laundromat that you name “Krishna” or a giving your gas station a sign like “Saraswati”?
I’m just curious, you know.
What about considering oneself “New Age”?
WHO doesn’t like being considered “New Age.” I do. How about the rest of you Blog-Buddies?
Yes, I definitely DO consider myself a New Age teacher and writer. Because I don’t think New Age has to be cultish. And it’s certainly not a religion. Try looking it up in a Yellow Pages Directory under “Religion.” You won’t find “New Age.” I’ve tried.
Not lately, of course. These days it would be hard to find a Yellow Pages Directory, right? 😉
“New Age” isn’t a perfect name, but this name is bigger than other specialized forms of language that I have gotten to name because I got there first, such as “chakra databanks,” “energetic hologram,” “energetic sub-routine,” etc.
Blessing others when you serve them
To me, the most interesting point raised by WHO is the part about “you don’t have to like/agree with/love [your clients] to work with [them].”
How do I feel about my clients? I DO love every client during a session. Usually like them, too. A lot.
One reason is that I get to read gifts of that client’s soul during a healing session or a session of aura reading research or (obviously) a session of Face Reading. Every session of RES Energy HEALING, I do a brief Skilled Empath Merge. How could I NOT care about these clients?
Another reason for liking them is how I get to know most clients pretty deeply in everyday human ways, as well. Some clients tell me things they have never told anyone. Sometimes I just learn about those things and tell them. That kind of comment, during a confidential session, brings a certain whoosh of deepening to a relationship!
For instance, once I cut Gladys’s cord of attachment to her husband and — oops! — found an incident of physical abuse. She had never told anyone.
True, Gladys’ husband “only” slapped her around one time. Yet this incident kept running through her subconscious mind and aura every day of her life. Until that session where we cut the cord of attachment.
When I read out the cord items, Gladys was stunned. Never had she told a soul about what had happened some 20 years before. She had no clue that this trauma would be stuck in the cord of attachment to her husband. Oops, that secret was out. And later she told me how much that particular session changed her life.
How do you feel about those you work with?
As I learn about people, helping them, I don’t just love them and like them. Often I admire them.
Just yesterday, one of my sessions was with Josephine. I facilitated cutting a cord of attachment to her father, Joe. This man would whip his daughter. Sometimes, if bored and lacking other entertainment, he would casually walk by and hit her. As for the sexual abuse, it began when Josephine was three. The last time he tried forcing himself on her, she was 34.
To casual observers, Josephine seems surprisingly normal as a person. After the removal of this ultra-disgusting cord of attachment she will, undoubtedly, seem even normaler.
To me, as someone with the privilege to facilitate this session, Josephine really IS astoundingly sane. She is also talented in many ways. Her talents shine more and more clearly with each session, as old STUFF is removed. Of course, Josephine is someone I admire, as well as like and love.
Yesterday, I helped five other clients, too. I won’t tell you all about their private stories but I will tell you this. I greatly admire, and like, and love, every single one of them. Not because I have some theoretical obligation to do so. How could I not feel that way about them, knowing them as well as I do? (“Know them well” because every single one of them is a repeat client; there is a very high rate of “recidivism” among Rose Rosetree’s clients.)
On very rare occasions, averaging less often than once a year, I suppose, a client isn’t a good fit in terms of like/love. The client obviously doesn’t like me or I don’t enjoy that client. So I offer to terminate the session. Or, depending on how things are going, sometimes I will insist on terminating the session, giving my client a full refund and saying a straightforward “Goodbye.” But never an insincere “Bless you, my child.” I would make a really, really lousy pope.
A more polished healer might at least appear radiant, like the sun. Or intensely — even contagiously — benevolent. Although I may have had my moments of wishing I were like that, I’m just not that kind of healer or teacher. The best benevolence I can summon up as a healing professional, after firing a client, is to avoid sounding disappointed, shocked by my client’s extreme rudeness, etc. Rhonda Byrne would consider me eternally disqualified to earn money, I’m sure, since when saying this kind of goodbye I definitely am not smiling.
Luckily for my clients, and my own vanity or self-image, such occasions are (as I’ve noted) extremely rare.
If you were ever listening in to a typical session, WHO, you might be surprised at what a great time we have, how often we laugh, the joy all around.
It is so important to like or love or admire or enjoy people one works with on a regular basis. Does this happen with you Blog-Buddies?
That isn’t always the case, I know. My new book, “The Baby” (a.k.a. Magnetize Money with Energetic Literacy), is designed to help solve problems with work and making money, including a whole chapter dedicated to dealing with a workplace situation with people who are toxic.
As for people I do business with, I favor those I like or love or admire. Why wouldn’t I? Whether you call it “Voting with your dollars” or “Being in charge of your life,” of course I choose to do business with the people I most respect and enjoy.
- Vanessa Rose, who runs my favorite hair salon ever, “Maude” in Herdon, Virginia — wow! I could devote entire, really gushy, blog posts to her magnificence. What a sanctuary she creates for her co-workers, apprentices, and customers!
- Two of the librarians at my nearest library, I consider them just plain saints. Would it be discreet or naughty to name Marty the Smartie and Hugh? Oh, darn, too late now…
- The guy who runs my local bank? I just adore him. (I think everyone does, actually.) Andrew Clarke is a spiritual lighthouse in the guise of the manager of Capitol One Bank in Sterling, Virginia.
- Last week, I actually baked cookies for two ladies who work at my printing company: Tiffany and Brenda at McNaughton & Gunn. It was either cookies or buying each one a fancy new car, right? Because they had done such an outstanding job with Magnetize Money with Energetic Literacy. Since I have been putting off upgrading my typesetting program for way too long, this manuscript had deep technical issues. These ladies worked above and beyond the call of duty. So there I was, baking cookies for the first time in maybe 10 years. Sadly, they were pretty awful cookies. I’m better as a cook than a baker, but who wants to UPS soup all the way to Michigan?
You get the idea. I don’t enjoy everyone I do business with quite this much, but when I have a choice about doing business, I ALWAYS make the best reasonable choices for companies and people. Besides having official “friends,” my days are graced by doing business with people I really like and respect and (though I don’t tell them so) love.
Have you discovered yet that you can do this, too?
What about blessing people?
This topic never occurred to me while putting together the blog post and comments around “You disgust me.” But blessings to you, of course. Funnily enough, usually I do bring in… a blessing… for a client.
See what I mean by funny? Before this morning, I didn’t make the connection, since this kind of “blessing” isn’t a casual remark. It is a technique called “Blessing of Light,” and is mainly created by God (or whoever else is my client’s choice of Divine Being for the session). (Instructions for doing this technique are in Cut Cords of Attachment, if you’re interested in experimenting with this kind of thing for yourself.)
Receiving a Blessing of Light is seriously helpful. Many a client has told me, “This is my favorite part of our sessions.”
Come to think of it, this may be one reason why I am sensitive about the casual use of the term, giving someone the equivalent of an empty tin can labelled “Blessings.”