Could I call myself a deprogrammer? Gulp, yes. I suppose I could.
Except deprogrammers have a reputation for being quite fierce. Sometimes, I’ve heard, they are hired to kidnap cult members, hired by anxious parents to slap that kid into shape over the weekend.
My approach is way different. In case you have a friend who wonders, “Is that cherished group of mine a cult?” you might forward a link to this post. Only please, please do not send that link just because YOU are concerned about your friend being in a cult.
However, YOU might be invited to help a friend who is dealing with cult mind control. Joe might be a participant in a cult. Gladys might have a significant other who may be involved in a cult.
How can you avoid enabling? How can you bring clarity?
The following ideas may help.
The Rose Rosetree Version of Deprogramming
There is no set protocol I use to help a person exit a cult. It’s a matter of helping one individual at a time.
2. The client sets the agenda, not me.
Self-authority is a cherished part of my ethics as a healer, teacher, and writer. One definition of cults is that they do not promote self-authority. Just the opposite.
Since I WAS in a cult from 1969 until 1986, it took me a long, long time to develop spiritual self-authority. That’s one reason this is such a cherished value, high on the top of my list of ethical requirements in life.
- Sometimes a client wants help with releasing cult affiliation. It’s clear right from the first session.
- Sometimes my client’s relationship develops over time. The client begins with Empath Empowerment, or seeks to cut a cord of attachment to a relationship that seems to threaten cult involvement. It could be any topic related to emotional or spiritual healing.
That’s fine. In every session, my client brings an intention. I just do a bit of coaching, as needed, to make sure that intention is productive.
And if a client starts to question cult involvement, I have many ways to help while causing as little drama as possible.
3. Clients can research cult involvement in many ways.
Energetic literacy gives anyone the ability to read auras at will. And when you read auras, or do Skilled Empath Merges, or any technique for Stage 3 energetic literacy, hello! You find out who a person really is.
Here are some of the ways I have helped clients to (directly or indirectly) learn about cult involvement:
- Ask me to read the aura of the cult leader.
- Ask me to read the client’s aura as it is, then research the effect of participation in that particular group. Perhaps research the effect of leaving that group or ceasing that group’s main spiritual practice.
- Ask me to cut the cord of attachment between my client and an influential person with the group.
- Do Thrill Your Soul aura reading research on a number of life choices, including ones that involve cult members, practices, or places to live.
- Do Thrill Your Soul aura reading research for naming — considering new first or last names. Or simply evaluating the current name and its implications for a bunch of chakra databanks.
- Energy Release Regression Therapy can be really helpful for removing causes of needing a cult.
4. Clients can heal at their own pace.
Moving out of a cult is a delicate thing, comparable to getting divorced from a long-term, complicated marriage with many children and step-children, maybe an adorable pet goat plus a family business of making bathtub gin.
Exiting, the person stands to lose home, spiritual family, only social connections. The person loses spiritual path, core beliefs, even the language of everyday thinking.
Sometimes the person even loses a wardrobe! Gladys was in a cult that required her to wear white clothes. (Hello! Cult alert! Any group that requires you to wear a special kind of clothing 24/7 may well qualify as a cult.) Gladys dyed all her outfits into pretty pastels. Now there was a triumph!
5. What do I always like to include for deprogramming?
Exiting a cult, or deprogramming, is very different from merely leaving. Working with a client long-term, I do like to make sure that the client understands that he or she WAS in a cult. Because such groups have many things in common, especially never being called “a cult.”
When a client like Joe simply leaves a group, he is likely to join another cult that is just as bad. Why is it necessary to exit if he really wants to become free for the rest of his life? Otherwise, merely leaving:
- He hasn’t really moved out the full appreciation of what a cult is.
- He may not have healed the causes that made him vulnerable.
- Energetic patterns at the level of aura and subconscious mind haven’t been budged. Simply leaving a group — or going to a regular deprogrammer — won’t move out a single cord of attachment or frozen block of energy (most efficiently moved out, to my knowledge, with Energy Release Regression Therapy).
- He hasn’t put in place anything comparable that is new and positive.
Can life after a cult become better than ever before? Definitely.
That may be the single most important thing to know about truly exiting a cult. You’re not just shaking off something limiting. It’s a major step toward spiritual Enlightenment.
You are set free. Your life comes back to you, day by day and year by year.
And you will have graduated from an extremely important course here at Earth School. No cult will ever appeal to you again.