What a mighty and marvellous group are attending this year’s Empath Empowerment Workshop. Beyond that, I won’t supply any details about amazing Joe and Gladyses. (After all, we’ve chosen to respect a Confidentiality Agreement.)
However, I know that many of you Blog-Buddies would have loved to come join us this year. But couldn’t, not this year. In honor of you, as well as the glorious Gladyses and Joe, here’s today’s post in praise of being born as an empath.
Being an empath, so under-rated
Sorry but it’s too late to decide whether or not you would perhaps like to try being an empath. This time around, as with all your incarnations, you came in with a fabulously powerful free will. However, you still deal with certain built-in constraints here at Earth School. Such as only one head per customer.
Frustratingly, all the affirmations in the world won’t grow you a new one. Not if you signed up as free-standing human on earth circa 2011.
Just as you’re stuck with only one head per lifetime, 1 in 20 humans also comes in hardwired as an empath. (In my beloved Japan, it’s 1 in 5, according to my research after reading Japanese aura after aura after aura.)
If you’re in this select group, there’s no special reward. Not even frequent flyer points. Although heaven knows, unskilled empaths deserve them. Since they’re continually flying in spirit, doing unskilled empath merges willy nilly day and night. Also, in the process, picking up STUFF from all the empath mergees.
Possibly you, as a cute and confused little unskilled empath kid, were fortunate enough to encounter a parent who was a skilled empath. Probably not, though. In which case, you probably didn’t even know you were an empath until you had suffered for many years.
Often time spent as an unskilled empath means pain and confusion. Also, of course, picking up loads of STUFF from your empath mergees. Where their pain and confusion sticks around in your personal aura and subconscious mind.
What is the defining characteristic of being born as an empath? Here’s what it’s not: Feeling other people’s feelings.
Emotional Oneness is my name for that particular empath gift. But many an empath doesn’t have that particular gift at all. Instead an empath could have Emotional Intuition OR Physical Oneness OR Physical Intuition OR Intellectual Empath Ability OR Spiritual Oneness OR be an Animal Empath, Plant Empath, Mechanical Empath, Crystal Empath, Environmental Empath, even a Molecular Empath.
As a born empath, you could have any one of these gifts, maybe more than one. (What about having them all? So far, I’ve yet to meet any empath who was hard-wired with them all. That sure wouldn’t be me, for instance.)
So the fair, non-confusing definition of empath would be quite different from “Feeling other people’s feelings.” Here is the best language I’ve come up with thus far, working in the field of Empath Empowerment® for 15 years or so:
An empath has at least one lifelong gift for directly experiencing what it is like to be someone else.
Okay, there’s a more practical part of the definition to add:
- Unskilled empaths suffer a lot. Unfortunately they are less effective in life than non-empaths.
- By contrast, skilled empaths don’t suffer a lot — not due to being empaths, anyway.
- Also, skilled empaths they are way more effective in life than non-empaths.
When empaths dare to do The Big Icky
Many unskilled empaths use coping strategies to “manage their sensitivity” or “terribly embarrassing chronic craziness” or whatever they have come to personally name their own empath gift(s).
It’s common to do boundary work or put up walls or create shields.
Some unskilled empaths try avoiding others. Or naming all the ways other people are nasty and disgusting, such as energy vampires and psychic vampires and narcissists and smelly sillyheads, etc. Then avoiding them.
Yet other unskilled empaths make a part-time or full-time job out of discerning, “Where does the awful way I feel come from. Is it Uncle Hubert? The gal in the red car who cut me off in traffic? Taylor, The Latte Boy, at my favorite Starbucks?”
Nice tries, all. If they have brought you consolation — or given you a way to keep busy while suffering — more power to you! However, as an empath coach who also has energetic literacy (i.e., does aura reading down to the level of chakra databanks), I think it’s pretty clear that none of these approaches will help you at the level of your aura.
STUFF will still wham and slam right into your aura, as a result of unskilled empath merges. And none of the above-mentioned coping methods prevents that in the slightest degree.
That’s why I define being askilled empath like this:
Being able to wake up from inside, be yourself more fully, maybe even become the most important person in the room. (You know, the natural state of non-empaths who possess a moderate degree of mental health.)
Techniques in my method of Empath Empowerment® help you do that. A skilled empath spontaneously lives as a very alive person with your empath gift(s) turned OFF as a matter of routine. You turn empath gift(s) ON only for very short periods of time. And you do this on purpose, with conscious intent and a technique that keeps you from taking on STUFF.
So skilled empaths feel good. And are effective at life. Also, ha ha! You still can gain that sweet and sophisticated and spiritually amazing inside information known as “Skilled Empath Merge.”
Empath Empowerment isn’t hard, either. Only one must be willing to deal with The Big Icky. Called “Being human.” As in shifting your consciousness — not just opinions or ideas — so you can:
- Allow yourself to have a physical body (without hating it, ignoring it, defining it soley in terms of “acceptable weight” etc.)
- Allow yourself to have your very own feelings, thoughts, opinions (even if not yet perfect, spiritually Enlightened, etc.)
- Allow yourself to use the seemingly boring normal human faculties of speech and action (which can be hard to get used to at first, given your built-in empath super-powers).
Yes, Empath Super-Powers
That’s really the bottom line, you lifelong empaths. In this particular lifetime, you are not unlike Superman in the comics, movies, etc. Only you’re real, as real as a human fingernail or belly button.
You have come into this lifetime with at least one trainable super-power for directly experiencing what it is like to be other people.
Okay, maybe you’d trade in this super-power, if you could, for the ability to run faster than a speeding locomotive. Maybe, instead of being able to move inside someone else’s consciousness it would seem cooler to fly physically in a skin-tight colorful costume that ripples fetchingly in the breeze.
You know, that way you could have people in the street point to you admiringly and say, “Look! Up in the air! Is that a bird? A plane? No, it’s Superman.”
And, I have to admit, infatuated as I am with the skills of Empath Empowerment, this has never happened to me. Not even once.
Still, if you’re spiritually adventurous, you got the right gift set after all. Moving in consciousness as a skilled empath — what I call “Flying in spirit” — is a very enjoyable thing. Also it can be hugely useful for developing compassion, learning, service to humanity, speeding forward on your path to Enlightenment without competing with locomotives, etc.
But think back to your favorite Superman movie or comic book or whatever. Superman isn’t always doing the thing as super hero with super powers. Nope, he’s hanging out as Clark Kent, who is, frankly, not that fancy as humans go.
Made for a better story in fiction. Makes for a better life, too.
If you signed up for a lifetime as a super-power laden empath, the only way God could give that to you was for all your empath gifts installed from day one.
No need to whine about this. Learn to deal.
Your job is to turn your spiritual super-powers OFF. Then use them with skill.
Flying in spirit constantly makes for a terrible life. Being willing to live as a human, with super-powers turn OFF most of the time, makes for a wonderful life. And then you have the brief times when you do the equivalent of putting on the flying cape with your cosmic personal logo emblazoned across your chest:
Humble Servant of the Divine. Skilled Empath at Your Service, God.