In a recent comment, ASHLEY S. wrote, “Elaine, you continue to impress me with your level of detail.If I practice 10 minutes a day I might be as good as Elaine someday? Really?? Sounds too good to be true.”
I agree that ELAINE is doing great. Loads of you Blog-Buddies are! For success with Skilled Empath Merge, or any Aura Reading technique or Face Reading technique, here is my short list of suggestions:
- Ten minutes of practice a day. (Yes, ASHLEY, that sounds about right.)
- For any of you Blog-Buddies who drink alcohol, get stoned on weed, etc., never do any techniques for energetic literacy while under the influence.
- Equally important to avoid, do not pursue techniques for psychic development while you are studying any of my systems for energetic literacy. Choose one or the other. They do not mix well.
- Aim to be as good as yourself, not as good as ELAINE (wonderful though she is) or anyone else. Comparing oneself to others is never helpful for developing energetic literacy; nor is external validation.
- If you feel tempted to compare yourself, or feel you need external validation, use techniques that I have built into my trademarked systems for spiritual development. They will help you to calm down and trust yourself more, a life skill that I believe is essential along each person’s path to Enlightenment.
Warning to all you creative empaths, aura readers, etc.
Please, please, please do not sample bits of techniques from my books, playing with one fragment or another as the mood strikes you. Steps of a technique for energetic literacy are not toys, nor are they meant to be cute ideas or tweets strung together.
As a teacher of personal development, I have worked diligently to co-create very specific techniques that produce specific benefits. Each technique has been rigorously tested and researched. Then it is taught systematically in my workshops and book-length how-to’s. All for the purpose of bringing you great results.
What will your results be if, instead of following a technique as presented, you authorize yourself to fool around with it, taking out pieces or “Getting to the good part” without doing the preparation process, etc.?
You won’t get the results for which my techniques are designed, that’s for sure.
After you have mastered one such technique, really own it, what then? If you want to combine that with other skill sets that you have, fine. Just make sure you really own the technique first.
Be aware, however, that skill sets of energetic literacy are designed to fit together beautifully; the same can’t necessariily be said for mixing things up with other techniques, particularly skills of psychic development.
To experiment wildly with ways to use your consciousness is not like saying, “I’ll wear a top from Talbotts and mix it with jeans from Mango, combine Goth makeup and a diamond tiara.” Consciousness does not necessarily respond well to “Mixing fashion lines.”
Creativity and self-authority, are both powerful, sacred facets of your being. Use them wisely.
Creativity works well with energetic literacy when you use solid skills and then apply them creatively. To make an analogy, if you want to be a great composer, first you need to learn the basic technical skills. Maybe you’ll practice on a piano. You’ll learn how to play scales in every single key. You’ll learn about chords. etc. Then you compose.
Too many New Agers are thinking the equivalent of, “I’m creative. So I’ll compose music without bothering to learn anything about technique.” Or, “Hey, I learned to play a scale in C major. That’s enough theory from Western music. Now I’ll spend a few hours learning one raga from classical Indian music. That’s all I need. I’m, like, totally prepared my own World Music thing now.”
Combining psychic development and spiritual development techniques is a similar mash-up. Except with this analogy, music that is a spontaneous mash-up and maybe doesn’t sound very good would count merely an interesting hobby, one failed experiment. Whereas…
Serious confusion results from mixing psychic and spiritual practices
We have had some discussion of late, in this online community, about How are psychic readings different from energetic literacy? In Comment 15, Suzanne gave a long, thoughtful comment. She wrote, “I do feel that it is possible to pursue psychic development and spiritual development at the same time.”
My response: Of course it’s possible. You’ve been doing it! And, afterwards, asked loads of questions that reveal a “progress” of deepened confusion whenever this topic comes up, now in quite a mash-up of psychic development and spiritual development related to becoming a skilled empath.
Of course you can use your free will in that way! All you readers are free to pursue psychic development and spiritual development at the same time, maybe studying with several teachers within each field. Only don’t fool yourself. You will slow down your progress on either path, also confuse yourself. Frankly, playing mix-and-match will result in your not doing either pursuit very well.
It isn’t about talent, not for any of you. Of course you have talent. The question is, what will you choose to do with your talent?
Psychic planes and spiritual planes are entirely different. The most compelling example to me of the difference is that nobody on our Enlightenment Life List is a practicing psychic, while most are spiritual practitioners.
As a healer, I have worked with many psychics, channelers, mediums, etc. Very often, not always, psychic work leads to significant spiritual addiction. Very often, not always, it leads to STUFF accumulating in the psychic’s aura.
Responding to questions raised by Suzanne, since she did ask — and responding with great respect for her, because I have been Suzanne’s huge fan for years — let’s explore further.
Evidence of the developing confusion, expressed by Suzanne in that comment, is that she further wrote, “I do not really understand the difference between empath merges and receiving information in different ways (clairaudience, clairvoyance, claircognisizance etc.)”
That’s for sure! Because right in that question she is mixing terminology and concepts and practices from psychic training and the spiritually-oriented training of energetic literacy. Oops.
Blog-Buddies, either do one type of training or the other at a given time in your life. Don’t mix them up.
Mixed-up training in psychic development
If you are seeking instruction in psychic development, be a smart consumer. Find out if the course in psychic development mixes up doing psychic readings and doing healing without labeling them as different — a somewhat common mixup that may indicate teaching that has not been thought through too deeply. Getting readings from angels does not necessarily mean there will be permanent healing, so I would be concerned if:
- Claims are made that doing readings will lead to healing
- Or there’s an extra little bit of healing tacked on to the program to supplement the psychic readings
- Or you start off learning to do some kind of intuitive reading but soon are told to emphasize recognizing and healing dark souls, etc.
Be a smart consumer when seeking psychic development. Don’t toss away your street smarts just because you’re in love with the angels. Don’t drop your discernment because you’re so thrilled to discover that you have great psychic talent.
A reading is not a healing
At least that’s what I believe. Yet to many psychics, a reading is considered a healing. There can be a deeply felt belief that everything from the other side brings healing.
Fans of intuitive development may believe many variations on this theme, such as:
Learning about your purpose or downloading info. from The Akashic Record automatically heals your life in every meaningful respect. (?)
Or, perhaps, there is an idealism that, supposedly, just being in the room with somebody’s wonderful astral guide provides miraculous, no-words needed healing, similar to the miracles attributed to Jesus. (?)
Except, wait. Jesus taught how to connect up with God. Jesus was a spiritual teacher. Healing techniques used by Jesus, whatever they were — and who among us today knows for sure? — were most likely spiritually-based healing techniques.
Psychic development uses astral-level beings to obtain information. Astral beings are not Ascended Masters like Jesus.
Some great healers do depend on help from astral-level guides, including Barbara Brennan and Rosalyn Bruyere. These world-renowned psychics provide training in how to heal because they have developed very well defined methods for healing. To my knowledge, neither of these eminent healers also offers a bit of “How to do psychic readings” on the side. Beware of the psychic development teacher who takes a little time out to coach you on how to do healing.
It’s amazing, all the resources available now. You will find, I’m sure, that some psychics are busily teaching how to cut cords of attachment. If you read the last chapter in my how-to, Cut Cords of Attachment, you will find clear investigation of why results come as they do from the Energy Spirituality method of 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment(R).
Also you can read specifics explaing how this technique of Energy Spirituality is technically a world apart from doing a psychic-level version of cord-cutting. Could there be teachers of psychic development now who are taking parts of my system, tossing in their favorite psychic-level practices, etc.? There’s nobody to stop them. People are allowed to teach, and study, whatever they want.
Speaking of smarts as a New Age Consumer
In case it helps you as a consumer, however, I will note that currently I am the only one authorized to teach this particular trademarked method for cutting cords of attachment. Period. Nobody has been authorized by me to represent my work by teaching all of it, or some of it, or some of it with wonderful improvements. Some day I would love to carefully and systematically train my top Mentoring Students to do this. But this sure hasn’t happened yet. As Suzanne noted today in another sweet comment, “Rose, you are one busy busy person.”
Some of you Blog-Buddies may find healers online who quote my how-to book, “Cut Cords of Attachment” without attribution. Or there might be a vague reference to my name, but no quotation marks, nor any acknowledgment that the healer is claiming that she or he wrote the words.
Well, some of you might be thinking, “That can’t be right. Taking copyrighted material and pretending it came from you doesn’t sound ethical to me.”
I would agree. Whenever this unethical behavior has come to my attention, I have asked the copyright infringer to stop. So far, not one of them has. Sad, isn’t it?
At this time, I have better things to do than to embark on lawsuits against all these healers. Their karma will catch up with them just fine. Here I’ll just warn you, as a New Age Consumer, that someone with the ethical shoddiness to do such a thing… might not be a healer you would trust with your own personal aura.
The longing for external validation
It was adorable to me how SUZANNE admitted, “About external validation, truthfully sometimes I like it. I understand that it is not good to be dependent on it, but sometimes it helps just to receive confirmation, wow! maybe I really do have some abilities. Maybe I should try to develop them further.”
Truthfulness is always good. 🙂 But receiving confirmation that your deep experiences are “correct” is a sure sign that you have been practicing psychic exercises, Suzanne and other Blog-Buddies.
My advice: Go the psychic training route for a while, if it pulls you. Find out if it helps bring you fulfillment. Or choose to vigorously pursue the altogether different path of spiritual development, via techniques for developing energetic literacy. Spend a year on one or spend a year on the other. Just don’t disrespect yourself and your teachers by going back and forth, doing both types of study simultaneously.
For your sake, and also as a courtesy, please show respect to whatever type of teaching you pursue. For example:
- If you’re doing “Wakeup Call” from Become the Most Important Person in the Room, do the whole technique. Don’t simply take the words and make them into a song that you sing.
- Don’t connect up with an astral-level guide and ask that guide’s opinion about “Wakeup Call.”
- Don’t take experiences from psychic training and use my Energy Spirituality “Questioning” technique to explain them.
- If you are using techniques from Aura Reading Through All Your Senses like “Get Big,” use that only in combination with other techniques of energetic literacy. Do not import that technique as a cute add-on while you are studying psychic developement.
You get the idea. For your own protection and clarity, for evolving in the direction to which you feel called, show respect to dedicated teachers like Sonia Choquette or me, who have devoted their lives to developing a body of work.
Show respect to yourself by walking one path at a time. Do not mix and match. Because every time you do that, you weaken your ability to get results from a technique like “Get Big” should you ever, in some future time, decide to walk the path of Energy Spirituality. It’s like corrupting some software files, I suppose.
Do you have the right to study psychic development? By all means! That’s where the big money is in New Age, for sure. That’s where the vast majority of New Agers are. It’s flashier. Also, it’s perfect for people who like external validation and being part of a big group engaged in sharing exciting adventures in the astral. You’ll learn loads about miracles! Many people having the very same experiences as you! How much is meant to be! Your special purpose! The excitement of stopping many times a day to consult special help from the psychic! Woweee !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Can you still be a skilled empath while studying psychic development?
The answer is YES and NO.
YES, you can definitely benefit from the skill set of Empath Empowerment(R) regarding the techniques to turn your gifts OFF. (Again, I strongly recommend that, if you are using this part of my work you do not mix it up with other systems or practices that are popular for helping empaths. Better to do another system and enjoy the results. Leave this skill set for when you want to use it exclusively and you are willing do a good job with it. A sloppy job. But nonetheless pursuing the particular skill set called Empath Empowerment.)
It would be smart for any psychic, medium, channeler, healer, etc. to learn this. The Turn-Gifts-OFF part of Empath Empowerment will protect you as you do all the separate, different skill sets involved in becoming a particular kind of psychic, medium, channeler, healer, etc.
As for the NO… The final part of Empath Empowerment involves turning your empath gifts ON. This is meant to be done only after you have done a thorough job of exploring the rest of the skill set.
In my two books for empaths, I offer a number of power-packed techniques for directly experiencing what it is like to be another person from the inside. The real bonanza of techniques for Skilled Empath Merge will be found toward the end of Empowered by Empathy.
Huge fun! Huge discovery! The general name for these techniques is “Skilled Empath Merge”… which ELAINE was praised for doing beautifully, with cumulative skill, right at the start of today’s article.
NO, do not attempt any kind of empath merge when you are studying psychic development. Same with intuitive development, mediumship, channeling, etc. Let your teachers of psychic exploration be your only teachers. Let them show you what they and their techniques can do for you.
It disrespects any mind-body-spirit teacher for a student to secretly substitute bits and pieces from other trainings. Master a skill as it is. Use self-authority to decide which skill to learn, not whether to criticize bits and pieces and improve on systems you haven’t yet mastered.
About that accuracy thing
I was especially touched by another part of SUZANNE’s comment:
“I know that you do not think of yourself as psychic, and I find that amazing because to my mind, how could you not be psychic?!
As another Blog-Buddy said, its like shes read my diary! Including the bits I didnt write. Ive never had a psychic be as dead-on right as you are all the time.”
This accuracy thing isn’t about me, actually. Work with anyone who has studied seriously with the techniques of Empath Empowerment(R) and Aura Reading Through All Your Senses(R) and Face Reading Secrets(R). These practioners are just as accurate in their own way. They are super-accurate because they have developed full Stage 3 Energetic Literacy. They have been involved in doing spiritual development, not psychic development.
I remember teaching Gladys some aura reading techniques. She was one of my students in a little class at Marshall High School, a public school in Virginina where I used to teach adult education classes. Gladys was doing so well that I took her aside and spent about 10 minutes teaching her how to read auras from photos.
That was it! Gladys got it! She owned the energetic literacy skill for keeps! After 10 minutes, she was doing super-accurate aura readings from regular, ordinary photos.
Incidentally, when I say “anyone who has studied seriously with me,” that isn’t meant to involve my putting in some sneaky greedy hook that you must take a particular workshop with me or go through several days of personal mentoring.
To master most of my skill sets, just buy the book. (In case you’re wondering, I spend way, way more time on my books than I do on this blog. Which is one reason why I work about 60 hours a week. But not why my hair has turned gray, which started when I was in my twenties. 😉 )
Want a full skill set for cheap? Buy yourself a copy of Aura Reading Through All Your Senses ($14.95) or Empowered by Empathy (a big $18.95, unless you get the audiobook edition, which costs a bit more). Then you can really get into that book. 10-30 minutes a day, wow!
I have seen some of those much-read copies, with post-its and underlining and the magnificent self-study that was done, propelling my readers into a level of awesome competence. Students like that really know how to honor a teaching.
Others students, for plenty of perfectly good reasons, cannot show that kind of fidelity to one teacher at a time. It’s personal choice. Ultimately, such choices are part of each individual’s sacred path. I would never want to interfere in that process, only offer a bit of practical advice as I have in today’s post.
So, SUZANNE and others who are so glad she spoke up and asked those good questions, here’s the most practical summary of my advice about pursuing psychic development or intuitive development versus energetic literacy:
- If you cannot understand the difference between spiritual development and psychic development, it’s possible I have just not done a very good job of explaining. But it’s also possible that you currently feel very drawn toward psychic development.
- You will not get that here. This blog is positioned at the leading edge of the New Age. My goal is to help you develop yourself in the context of spiritual evolution. Energetic literacy skills are not about psychic development. They strengthen your connection to your favorite form of the Divine and further your progress, in that direction, moving you toward Enlightenment.
- No worries! You can receive healing from me as a client, no matter which type of learning you choose. Get the healing one phone session at a time. Meanwhile you are free to study psychic development elsewhere. That wouldn’t be a problem with me, so long as you put aside doing the techniques I teach for developing energetic literacy. Make sense?
- If you do want to study what I have to teach, it will be my delight to serve you.