Concluding this two-part examination of “Why do we get cords of attachment?” I am happy to share with you an understanding that has slowly developed within me over the last decade or so.
Let’s lead up to this big-deal concept with an example of my favorite thing about why we have cords of attachment… and how cutting them makes such a big difference for moving towards Enlightenment.
Gladys felt lousy, due to her cord to Joe
Let’s say that the incident that got stuck in Gladys’ cord to her brother Joe involved his being verbally abusive, with a few slaps thrown in for good measure. Okay, let’s go into the specific cord items from a session with my client “Gladys.”
The incident stuck in this cord of attachment happened when Gladys was about 11 years old. Joe was 15. He had a history of hitting her.
Right before this exchange, the two of them were spending time together, as in walking past each other in the hallway while at home.
1. JOE: Out of nowhere, flies into a rage.
2. GLADYS: What did I do now?
3. JOE: Cruel words.
4. GLADYS: Trying to learn from the criticism.
5. GLADYS: Maybe I can improve myself. Maybe he’s telling me this because he likes me and wants to help me.
6. JOE: More digs at Gladys.
7. GLADYS: Starting to grow angry. This isn’t fair.
8. GLADYS: I have to say something.
9. (At that precise moment) JOE: Starts hitting her.
Evolution related to a cord of attachment
When Gladys and I discussed logical consequences, she appreciated the pattern of allowing other people to be really mean to her. It wasn’t merely that she was the physical “hitee” rather than the physical hitter, or the emotional “hitee” rather than the one flinging around hurtful insults.
No, Gladys would internalize the abuse and call it “self-improvement.”
“Maybe I can learn something from this.”
Oy, did Gladys have buttons around this perpetual self-improvement thing.
Oboy, have we had some other sessions of RES Energy HEALING around this very theme. By now, Gladys is learning to make contact with objective reality, live as a skilled empath, use her speech and actions to improve on relationships.
Gladys and I both believe, at this point, that her personal Ph.D. at Earth School has been about being respectful to herself as a human. And training others to do the same.
Cords of Attachment and the Wheel of Karma
Another way to look at Gladys’ situation involves the idea of reincarnation and the wheel of karma. Reincarnation, of course, is the idea that people have more than one incarnation on earth. This is is undertaken for the purpose of that soul’s evolution. Because wonderful though it is to be an astral-level angel, you can’t evolve that way.
(More about that in my book now at the printer’s, Use your Power of Command for Spiritual Cleansing and Protection.)
Karma means consequences. They flow from thought, speech, and action. Good, bad, and mixed — karma, like the very notion of spiritual evolution — is an essential component of how reincarnation works. And why we even bother to incarnate at silly Earth School and other learning academies in the universe.
So when innocent young Gladys had a life contract where she grew up with creepy Joe, she was no innocent victim. Most likely, she had a rather extensive history with Joe. Or with somebody very much like him. Most likely she had played the abuser role with at least one cute role-reversal in more of a perpetrator lifetime.
We do go round and round, especially related to a favorite Ph.D. program in this life. Hence the expression “The Wheel of Karma.”
And cutting cords of attachment fits into this WHERE?
Lifetime after lifetime, a person twirls around on that wheel of karma. Depending on what happens between you and others, you get to use your free will to change outcomes. You also get to learn, no matter what.
Usually this spiritual evolution on earth continues with the back-and-forth, one lifetime after another. We need cords of attachment to keep us fastented to the evolutionary process of suffering, pressure, pain… intensifying the glory of growing.
So there’s a big answer to the question, “Why do we get cords of attachment?” They are usually necessary for keeping someone rolling around on the wheel of karma, evolving along the way.
Just because it has been the case, naturally, doesn’t mean that people can’t do anything about it. Let’s use the example of a woman’s fertility. Month after month, for decades, a woman is usually biologically programmed for fertility. She can bring forth children. And, as many women know to their shock, it doesn’t take much. Once is what it takes. (Ask Maya Angelou, for example.)
Getting pregnant is natural, and it serves a great purpose. Yet women and men living now have the opportunity to make choices around fertility. Birth control is available, and used widely. Guess which country has one of the lowest birth rates in Europe, for instance.
Such a Catholic country, yet one where plenty of families have decided that a celibate pope and clergy may not be the most trusted advisers about birth control.
We’re living at a special time in the evolution of consciousness
That, I believe, is why today we have so many powerful new techniques for energy healing. Techniques of Energy Spirituality, Energy Psychology, Energy Medicine. Among those new techniques is the 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment®.
Now, if I’m correct, millions of souls are finally getting ready to graduate from Earth School. Graduate as fully self-realized, self-actualized, fully Enlightened beings. And doing it as householders, not as renunciates.
So now, compared to other times in history, we have available powerful techniques of mind-body-spirit. They supplement what has gone before.
Sure, there have been traditional teachings for a long time. An example is how there are shamanic traditions of healing, ancient and beautiful traditions. Shamanic healers have a way of cutting cords of attachment.
With all respect, it isn’t nearly as effective as the more contemporary method available with today’s consciousness. I have heard this from clients who have worked with both types of healing practices. I have even heard this from professional shamanic healers, who have told me there is no comparison in terms of the results of the more current method.
Going back to the birth control analogy, there have been methods of birth control that go back a very long time. Only today’s methods work more reliably.
So there’s good reason why we have cords of attachment. And there’s also good reason why we have today’s technology for cutting cords of attachment.
Think about Glady’s cord of attachment to Joe in the context of the wheel of karma. An ancient back-and-forth between them…
This time around, Gladys handled the abuse well. She doesn’t have much of a relationship to Joe any more, except for seeing him at family holidays. Gladys has learned over the years to stop giving Joe extra chances.
But the karma was still affecting her every single day of her life, 24/7. That karma would have continued until her dying day, perhaps shaping her final thought at the time of death. (Maybe you know the significance of that final thought at the end of a lifetime…)
The dynamics of that cord of attachment were keeping Gladys on the wheel of karma. Even if she had resolved the relationship psychologically and behaviorally, she still was reliving that old struggle. Except that when the cord of attachment was cut, the karma stopped. During this lifetime.
The karma stops here. That’s what I tell some of my clients. Certainly it is true for this lifetime, and probably it is true more long-term than that.
Cutting a cord of attachment can end karma between people
That’s part of why we get cords of attachment, seems to me. We householders who are en route to Enlightenment.
A mechanism, built-into life itself, for creating educational energy structures — that’s the purpose cords of attachment have served for countless centuries. Only now, cords of attachment — and their removal — are helping today’s spiritual seekers to move boldly forward toward Enlightenment.
Never before have I written about this idea of “The karma stops here.” But currently this is my favorite thing about cutting cords of attachment.
Blog-Buddies, maybe today’s post will be controversial, and you’ll strongly disagree with my idea here. Or maybe you’ll find it really, really meaningful. Let us know with your comments below.