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The perils of having a pure heart

 

Hope so. Hope you are willing to see the ugliness. Especially if you have a pure heart.

If not willing, you risk finding bogus ugliness in others and yourself.

Seeking beauty is a great lifestyle. But seeking ONLY beauty makes a lousy requirement for life, a wretched way of attempting to live one’s ideals.

Could be, aiming to find only sweetness and light counts as one of the slowest and most difficult paths to Enlightenment.

Sure, I know this attempt is part of New Age Litany and much Christian culture, like the custom we have light-heartedly debunked previously, blessing people you really despise.

Ugliness remains a fact of life. Beginning, middle, end — you can encounter pain in any phase of a relationship. End-type ugliness hurts particularly.

By the end of your friendship with JOE, it can be tempting to revise the history (even the beautiful parts) by blaming JOE for being a narcissist or toxic personality or a negative person.

What would work better?

Cut your cord of attachment to Joe. Cut it early in the relationship, if you have the skills or else find a skilled practitioner of Energy Spirituality. That gives your falling into friendship a kind of insurance policy.

Cord-cutting ensures that the score of that cord of attachment’s Yuckiness Index will not climb all the way from 1 to 10. (And cords of attachment to those we love, or invest in emotionally, do usually climb up to 10 on the Yuckiness Index. Trust me. I have seen that in clients literally thousands of times.)

That practical tip about cord-cutting aside, today’s post isn’t really about cutting cords of attachment (which helps energetically and on a subconscious level). Today let’s check out survival skills right at the surface level of reality — a practical perspective to restore balance to your conscious mind plus boosting your effectiveness on your personal path to Enlightenment.

The two trends about ugliness

Two trends are showing up now, bigtime, in pop culture.

The most popular way to interpret interpersonal conflict is to blame the other person. Then drop the relationshp and retreat, panting with anxiety, to your locked bedroom.

Recently we have pursued a thread about negative people, a big fad today about avoiding them and the (dubious) benefits of labeling folks in tricky relationships as:

  • Narcissists
  • Energy vampires
  • Psychic vampires
  • Toxic personalities
  • Avoid negative people, don’t sully your eyes

Of course, another name for this approach is “A colossal waste of time.”

Prefer to see ugliness in yourself?

Self-blame is another common choice, although not necessarily advocated on purpose. More, the strategy can be promulgated indirectly through religious or cult mind control. How many workshops have you seen devoted to:

  • Criticizing yourself, touted as as a wonderful way to improve yourself
  • Blaming yourself in every conflict — first, last, and every other opportunity
  • Advanced techniques to make yourself a real expert at sticking your nose in poop?

Even so, without purposely meaning to, you may have developed big habits for seeing ugliness in yourself.

This habit involves transferring the blame rapidly from other people to yourself. This negativity strategy causes habitual fearing that every shortcoming you see in anyone else has its origins in ?you. Ooh, what is that “terrible flaw” within?

Think of the last tricky, perplexing or frustrating incident in your everyday life. Were you too quick to blame yourself?

Learning from one’s experience is vital on one’s path to Enlightenment. Yet taking responsibility can be carried to vicious, self-punishing extremes.

For instance I recently learned about GLADYS, a healer who thought “Every client who is attracted to me is mirroring something about me, so I must stay open to finding out what this is… in order to grow.”

GLADYS’ healing practice wasn’t growing very fast. Even worse, GLADYS’ entire life became a kind of healing practice.

It’s one thing to notice patterns in your clients and customers. Quite something else to give yourself the burden of fishing for some deep, dark pathology being shown for your personal edification in that alleged reflecting pond.

Even Sigmund Freud, master deconstructor of symbolism and pathology in everyday life, famously said “Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.”

You may be especially at risk for falsely blaming yourself for problems if you have a pure heart.

Do you have a pure heart?

Potentially every human heart is beautiful. Or could be. But many of you Blog-Buddies have an extreme version of this beauty, known as having a pure heart.

One definition of having a pure heart is that you have high vibrations spiritually. Whatever patterns of STUFF you may carry due to cords of attachment, psychic coercion, etc., the clog doesn’t keep you from being energetically free to like and love people, as an initial reaction.

And that pure heartedness generates a deep kind of enthusiasm, like how a poet finds each person’s special excellence.

Pure hearts can be researched through aura reading, especially Stage Three Energetic Literacy. A pure heart can be read with Skilled Empath Merge, too. It’s evident in chakra databanks like these:

  • Aura Reading Databank at the Heart Chakra: Emotional Awareness of Other People
  • Aura Reading Databank at the Root Chakra: Trusting People (Assessing Their Actions)
  • Aura Reading Databank at the Belly Chakra: Creativity in Everyday Life
  • Aura Reading Databank at the Solar Plexus Chakra: Handling Conflict
  • Aura Reading Databank at the Throat Chakra: Communication in Public
  • Aura Reading Databank at the Third Eye Chakra: Spiritual Leadership
  • Aura Reading Databank at the High Heart Chakra: Soulful Connection to Other People

Go ahead! Practice your energetic literacy skills on anyone you like. Read auras in person or from regular photos. The information in these chakra databanks can clearly reveal who does, and doesn’t, have a pure heart.

The simplest definition of having a pure heart

It’s simply this, about having a pure heart: You don’t wilfully hurt people, not with intentional cruelty or malicious behavior just for the fun of it.

Psychopaths, about 1% of the human population are just the opposite.

Most folks fall into a well-populated middleground.

  • They might experiment occasionally with malice.
  • They might exact revenge and like it.
  • They might put ethics aside for the sake of self-interest.
  • They might lie to themselves and take the lie into long-term patterns of denial.

So what about identifying “negative people” when your heart is pure?

To sum up the model provided thus far, folks with a pure heart are quite a minority, almost the polar opposite of psychopaths.

I suspect that a large proportion of you Blog-Buddies are in that Pure Heart Fellowship. Who would be more interested in Deeper Perception, even if you learned about problems of your own to fix?

Identifying “negative people” can be useful as a developmental step for people, pure-hearted or not, moving up from victimhood. Avoiding “toxic personalities” and “energy vampires” etc. can be a good coping strategy for a short period of time, a transitional period of becoming more socially resourceful.

But here’s the big problem with this strategy, especially for pure-hearted folk. ??Psychopaths DEPEND on others feeling guilty or blaming themselves. They will get away with terrible manipulations. And most psychopaths seem charming or confident, not at all like “negative people.”

Inwardly the psychopaths laugh. So do people who are dishonest, scheming, sexual cheaters, etc. They manipulate or bully, even if seeming totally charming.

And it isn’t enough to simply label a person as “bad” in order to avoid the occasional display of hurtful behavior. Anyone not-yet-Enlightened is a mixture.

Protect your pure heart with a better strategy

You can do so much better than simply labeling and then avoiding negative people. Instead, strengthen your own circuits about dealing with objective reality. What did JOE say and do?

Should you start to blame yourself or feel guilty, should you feel anxious about what has happened between you, please don’t limit yourself by interposing the popular label-making coping strategy: “With JOE, is he a narcissist or an energy vampire? Is he a negative person? Because then, of course, I must avoid him. This will cure all my ills.”

Nope. Much more productively, ask yourself, “What did JOE just say and do?”

And then follow up. “How can I respond to that, with speech and actions, to get what I want?”

Informative! Life becomes informative when you see problems in objective reality for what they are, then take action.

Pure hearts can thrive that way, pursuing life and liberty and happiness. Try it.

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  1. 1
    Avid Reader says:

    I believe I am a card carrying member of the Pure Heart Fellowship (love the term!)

    So, this was very interesting to read. I find it really difficult to interact with the “well populated middle ground”! So this was really great food for thought!

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    Jill says:

    Rose, what a great post.

    There was a time when I just didn’t want to believe people could actually be brutal to each other and not feel guilt or something. What a shock to have it happen to me – the innocent! That was a real wake up call to me to drop that victim attitude and start taking responsibility for caring for myself.

    I started by buying your face reading books and then graduated to healing sessions and learning to be a skilled empath and learning aura reading. All these skills are very helpful in making informed judgements about how to interact with others.

    But, mostly, I use the aura reading and even the face reading for those people I want a more specific reading on for a specific reason like, do I want to do business with this person or do I want to be closer as a friend.

    Interacting and embracing our humanness without judgment, and with an open heart that is informed but not afraid is so much more fun.

  3. 3
    Strong Little Cup O' Tea says:

    A wonderful read, just what I needed! Thank you, Rose.

  4. 4
    Rachel says:

    Love the photo!

    (And the whole post, too)

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    A Heart that is Pure says:

    Thank you, Rose!

    I will read this post again and again–very helpful. It shows me an additional benefit to dealing with people using objective reality (instead of unskilled empath merges).

  6. 6
    Curious to Know More says:

    Rose, thanks. A reminder about the complexity of people, capable of so much, all across the spectrum.

    I really appreciate your blog.

    I would add to the question, what did Joe just do, “what are Joe’s incentives?” Seems to me this explains a lot of otherwise incomprehensible bad behavior.

    Many people for example cannot stand even the whiff of possibility of being rejected from a group and will therefore go along with outright, even totally ridiculous lies and repeat malicious gossip as spread by the leader of the group. Incentive? Strong need to belong.

    etc etc etc

  7. 7

    Incentives are so fascinating, CURIOUS TO KNOW MORE.

    Keeps novelists in business, doesn’t it?

    I really appreciate YOU. 🙂

  8. 8

    You’re so welcome, A HEART THAT IS PURE.

    It been so much fun to meet you. And it is thrilling to me as a teacher how you are making your own synthesis from the various skill sets of Empath Empowerment, Energetic Literacy, Energy Spirituality.

  9. 9

    STRONG LITTLE CUP OF TEA and RACHEL, glad to be sharing this conversation with you. Thanks for commenting.

  10. 10
    Amanda says:

    Rose, I love how your techniques enable people to get out of victim mode (this person has let me down so badly) and enter the fray with curiosity and maturity in its place 🙂

    Thank you for this post!

    Amanda

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    Valerie says:

    Wow, I was just asking myself this question the other day. Avoid the negative person or deal with them head-on?

    I ended up choosing head-on and felt stronger within myself after the interaction. Your words have been very helpful. Thank you!

  12. 12
    Bridget says:

    I used to blame myself all the time if someone was demeaning to me. It was a environmentally conditioned automatic reaction.

    Now that my life has taken a turn, it has become a priority to address a negative situation. If someone is abusive I address it and let them know it won’t be tolerated. If they don’t change then I cut them out of my life. Having the strength to address it first before leaving took a lot of courage and my confidence has grown. However, it’s also taken me a lot more strength to cut them out.

    I used to think that I had to make them like me. Now I see that if a person doesn’t respect me then I don’t deserve that in my life. It’s not me, it’s them and that’s okay as long as I don’t remain their abuse recipient. I guess some of our most valuable lessons can come out of the ugliest situations.

  13. 13

    Thanks for your insights, AMANDA, VALERIE, and BRIDGET.

    A friend just forwarded a link to the best article I have ever seen for understanding the gap in America (and elsewhere) today between Conservatives and Liberals.

    http://www.salon.com/2012/05/03/republican_fear_factor_salpart/?source=newsletter

    Hint: Your brain may be wired differently.

    Or, perhaps, it’s a matter of how much STUFF is stuck in that mind-body-spirit system.

    I bring up the SALON article here because it is so common for pure-hearted people to try really hard to understand some of today’s political discourse.

    A very strongly recommended article. Do consider yourself welcome to share your reactions to it in COMMENTS at this thread.

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    Grace S. says:

    Yup, I can relate to this discussion all too well. All I can say is that I’ve come a long way in flexing those communication muscles!

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