Death Wisdom. In this post JILL ERIN (in Enlightenment) shares her perspective on death. With family members and as a nurse. You may be moved, even inspired.
Blog-Buddy JEAN asked JILL ERIN about death in the context of our conversation around Hanging onto your STUFF, a Guest Post by Jill Erin. (See especially Comment 14 and the spirited dialogue initiated by CURIOUS AS EVER in the sequence at this post.)
Sure, the topic is considered grim. Yet, with JILL’s wisdom, dare I say, “Kind of beautiful”?
And reading between the lines, Blog-Buddies, you can appreciate JILL’s energetic literacy as she has helped others.
Death Wisdom. About Family Members
I am not sure what you want to know about death, Jean. I will make an assumption, from the sentence preceding your request that you are curious about death on the personal level of dealing with your elderly parents. If that assumption is wrong, just let me know.
As a nurse and as a daughter I dealt with many different scenarios of final moments before death.
My first experience was with my mother when I was 26 years old and before I was a nurse. She was my best friend and she died within a month of having a heart attack rather suddenly.
She knew she was going to die and tried to tell me, but I didnt want to hear it or believe it.
I regretted that for a long time the not allowing her to talk about it with me and me just listening and embracing that experience with her. But, I just was not ready to let her go. In fact, I know that her spirit hung around with me for about a month after she died until I finally told her she could leave.
I have shared in another post about how I dealt with my father’s death, many years later and much better prepared, myself, to embrace the whole experience and walk it with him.
Death Wisdom. Helping Others Transition
As a nurse, I always told the family:
Hearing is the last to go. Talk to the loved one even when he or she is a coma. Know that you are heard.
I did sit with some clients as they died and listened to them and held their hands as they, very lucidly, transitioned.
There was always calm acceptance.
Only in the code (i.e. cardiac arrest) deaths was there mayhem. But in those situations I always talked to the person after they were pronounced and told them to look for a being of light and follow that being.
I told them what I had read in Dr.Raymond Moodys books about near death experiences about the tunnel and all. I had read all of his books and all of Dr. Elisabeth Kubler Rosss books so I just assumed they could hear me and that it would help calm them and help the transition be smoother and less confusing.
Death Wisdom. Another Person’s Death Is Not About YOU
Each person approaches death the way they live their life.
I just tried to listen and support them in the most compassionate way I could. Usually, just the presence of someone who was caring and accepting made for the easiest transitions.