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Forgiveness Quiz. Completion. (At least in theory)

 

How far have we come since the original Forgiveness Quiz? Your point of view may be fresher on this new day.

You know how, waking up after a good night’s sleep, you can stretch and it’s glorious? It’s as though your whole body has been made new, ready to explore every good thing.

With that new start on the old body, I mean old forgiveness patterns, yum! Here are some old questions with new answers from my perspective as an Enlightenment Coach.

Forgiveness Quiz Answer #4. Religious requirements, pressure at church

“I need to forgive because my religion requires it.”

Maybe TRUE, maybe FALSE

Perhaps your religion or spiritual path emphasizes a certain type of forgiveness. Like some Muslims, for instance, you might believe that forgiveness is required for salvation.

Depending upon your religion, the answer to this Forgiveness Quiz Question is TRUE. In responses given to our Forgiveness Quiz, for instance:

  • In Comment 9, LISA gave a powerful TRUE response from a Christian perspective:

“Religions ask that people forgive, but it is also a means to receive forgiveness. The Lord is merciful and freely offers forgiveness through His infinite love.”

  • At the Enlightenment Life List, AMANDA has proposed a couple of eminent Buddhists speaking on forgiveness.

Buddhism doesn’t demand forgiveness, and there are so many forms of Buddhism. From what I have observed, in general, current forms of Buddhism provide a pretty strong push towards doing forgivensss practices.

For those of us in disorganized religion, religious emphasis on forgiveness is fascinating, might even prompt an anthropologist-like curiosity. And thus one might find two different reasons answering this Forgiveness Quiz Question #4 as FALSE:

  1. Check out the power dynamics at your nearest church. I think you’ll find a direct relationship between the emphasis on forgiveness and the degree to which people (especially women) are taken advantage of.
  2. Many religious stalwarts flatter themselves when it comes to forgiveness. They do a superficial forgiveness practice, consider it absolutely successful, and then feel entitled to consider themselves perfect. LOL. Living in America’s Bible Belt, I suspect I have met many such individuals.

None of that nullifies the beauty of personal practices. A certain feeling of rightness in life can be found through religion. And if forgiveness must be part of the admission fee, so be it!

One practice that might help bring forgiveness

Make some notes about Your Religion. Even if you’re like Blog-Buddy PRIMMIE, a proud atheist, you’ve got some underlying views on religion.

It can help to make a note of what you believe and what you don’t. Where do you take responsibility and where not?

Such an exercise can pull little surprises out of your subconscious mind. You’ll find out what, recently, you have really believed about the role of forgiveness in all you hold most sacred.

Is there old social programming you would like to change? Go ahead.

As a result, you may find less internal sense of incompletion because sometimes you get justifiably angry at what people say or do.

Forgiveness Quiz Answer #5. A questionable quest for purity

“I need to forgive because I want to be spiritually pure.”

TRUE or FALSE — Again the answer depends on you. And has huge implications.

Forgiveness practices can become a dead end because the quest for purity is misguided. Even folks who never have learned the meaning of words like “renunciate” or “recluse” are trying to live the lifestyle.

  • A renunciate’s lifestyle is way simple and pure.
  • If you’re a householder your path requires something different from ideals of absolute purity.
  • Beware living in the middle, neither householder nor recluse.

One practice that might help bring forgiveness

Choose a spiritual exercise that uplifts you, up to 30 minutes maximum per day. Then integrate the spiritual light by emphasizing your human life during the rest of your waking hours.

Forgiveness Quiz Answer #6. Being stuck in the past

“I need to forgive because, until I forgive, I can’t get on with my life.”

FALSE With all respect to my fellow perfectionists, that’s nonsense. The best way to move forward from the past isn’t to clean it up perfectly but to give yourself some new goals and move towards them.

After painful life experiences, sometimes there needs to be a grieving stage. Cutting this short, or trying to swap in forgiveness practices, will not work. This would be like trying to feed yourself soup but aiming the spoon towards your nose, not your mouth.

Or powerful healing practices might be needed too, just to end the grieving. Professional help can come from Energy Spirituality, Energy Medicine, Energy Psychology — those jet-propelled techniques of mind-body-spirit.

But if you have been a spiritual seeker, proudly and exclusively refusing any professional help, beware endless rounds of self-healing. Toss in renewed commitments to Earth School in the form of real-life work, hobbies, excercise, friendships.

One practice that might help bring forgiveness:

Accept your current reality and choose some current goals.

Forgiveness Quiz Answer #7. Disapproval of anger

“I need to forgive because otherwise I keep feeling angry.”

Anger can be your own voice of power. Revenge is an unacceptable motivation. Sticking up for yourself is not.

My favorite statement from Mitt Romney: “I like being able to fire people.”

One practice that might help bring forgiveness

Know that there are worse things that anger. Denial, for instance.

Many folks in denial over their anger push hardest to find forgiveness. If you find yourself substituting piety for reality, take a deep breath. Then resume having the humble experiences common to all, even the Enlightened, who have a human vantage point.

Healthy humans do get angry sometimes.

Forgiveness Quiz Answer #8. Choosing forgiveness as a path

“I need to forgive because forgiveness practices will help me evolve on my path to Enlightenment.”

TRUE or FALSE. The choice is yours, and it’s a vital choice for your happiness.

I found Elaine’s comment wonderful. When responding to the Forgiveness Quiz at this question, she wrote: “False to my way of thinking.”

If you answered, TRUE, congratulations on having a meaningful path that will keep you busy every day for the rest of your life.

If your way of thinking led you to answer FALSE, different congratulations are due.

You have escaped a well meant reason for:

  • Confusion.
  • Lying to others
  • Denial about what others do
  • Denial within yourself.

Ever notice? Very often, a householder is asked to take on the values of a renunciate. This demand is tucked into the lovely-sounding belief system. Not implied on the surface but required nonetheless.

One practice that might help bring forgiveness

Develop your skills at aura reading. When you have Stage Three Energetic Literacy , you can look past beautiful role models who may, or may not, pay a high price for their appearance of tranquility.

Forgiveness Quiz Answer #9. Choosing forgiveness as a goal

“I need to forgive because what could be more important in life than forgiveness?”

FALSE Plenty of things could be more important. For a householder, could it be time to develop new goals in objective reality? Or, to put it more bluntly, could it be time to get a life?

Reality seems hollow to those with a spiritual addiction. Also, reality seems hollow to reunciates. Assuming that neither context applies to you, what if you still answered true?

Maybe you are ready to find a new practice for connecting more strongly and directly to God.

Once you have opened up a method for gaining insight, you can make that your daily spiritual practice. Or include it in your prayers or sequence of meditation.

Just remember, please, not to do more than 30 minutes a day total. Otherwise this new practice, wonderful or not, will probably bring on a spiritual addiction.

Several practices that might help you bring forgiveness… and more

Forgiveness Quiz Answer #10. Forgiveness as a personal priority

“?I need to forgive because I want to.”

TRUE or FALSE, only you know.

For you, right now, does it seem that nothing else will do?

Maybe that’s a habit you have outgrown. Or does your self-authority demand forgiveness practices? Then do them.

You’re hardly the first person to feel this way. Recently I googled “How to forgive” and got 95,600,000 hits.

One practice that might help bring forgiveness — or make forgiveness less charged as a topic

It does not mean we are bad because we realize other people do wrong.

Forgiveness practices aren’t necessarily required to be well adjusted to human reality.

Sane people, including Enlightened people, notice when folks do things that are selfish, malicious, just plain ignorant, etc.

No amount of forgiveness will scrub that away. Forgiveness also won’t change weather patterns, turn snow into ice cream or soot into rainbows.

Maybe you’ve guessed, Blog-Buddies. Personally, as a New Age consumer, I’m no big fan of forgiveness practices. But I won’t think less of you, Blog-Buddies, if you need them. That isn’t a matter, for me, of forgiveness. Just basic respect.

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  1. 1
    Barbara says:

    Ah, Rose – there is no more to say in my opinion! This is some powerful stuff!

    “Sane people, including Enlightened people, notice when folks do things that are selfish, malicious, just plain ignorant, etc.

    No amount of forgiveness will scrub that away. Forgiveness also won’t change weather patterns, turn snow into ice cream or soot into rainbows.”

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    Thanks, BARBARA. It isn’t just everyone who likes reading about soot 😉

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    Rachel says:

    I love what you write about the power dynamics in churches. When I was growing up I was constantly exhorted by my zealously Christian family to “forgive” them when they did me wrong.

    It has taken me years to twig that all the emphasis was on my ‘need’ to forgive them, rather than on any need for them to change their ways.

    So many Christians, it seems to me, seem to conveniently forget that Jesus didn’t just tell people to forgive.

    What about repentance? Turning away from your sins, changing your behaviour, feeling remorse at the suffering you have caused another? If your victim is simply going to forgive you, then why bother to repent?

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    Amanda says:

    Rachel, what a great comment. I recently got angry with my mother for behaving appallingly and she told me that as a meditator I needed to ‘relax’ – shouldn’t I be above getting angry with her?

    Which made me all the crosser 🙂

    Your family expecting you to forgive them so that they get to avoid the consequences of their actions seems pretty similar to me. I agree, it’s not pretty. I thinnk of it as squirming out of the issue, it certinaly feels pretty squirmy to me.

    My mother has at least evolved slightly. When I was growing up I was expected to apologise when she did me wrong!

    Rose, what a great post, full of nuance and interest. I especially love how you respect everyone’s self-authority.

    Amanda

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    Primmie says:

    I really enjoyed this, thank you. I don’t usually enjoy thoughts on forgiveness. I’ve never been able to authentically forgive anything by trying hard to. I find it’s best for me to not think much at all about forgiveness.

    Oh, I’m not sure I’m a proud atheist anymore, still proud though 🙂

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