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Anti-Bullying Strangely Mixed with Homophobia. Aura reading Orson Scott Card

 

Aura reading famed writer Orson Scott Card

Aura reading famed writer Orson Scott Card

First prize is awarded today to Blog-Buddy JESSICA. She nominated…. Orson Scott Card in our contest,  What Could Possibly Make This Person Tick? Eloquently JESSICA wrote:

“As a kid, he was one of my favorite authors. He writes science fiction and fantasy and is probably best known for Ender’s Game. But he also spouts horrible homophobic rhetoric.
“This baffles me because his novels contain such nuanced explorations of being different, bullied, and even of close same-gender friendships. On a wider level, he always plays with the idea of the hero and the villain and how someone can call himself a hero while their actions are capable of a very different interpretation from another point of view.
“That difference doesn’t equal evil is one of his main points, and I cannot fathom how he could write the books he has and turn around and say what he does about LGBT people.”

Blog-Buddies, it has been more than 30 years since I read anything by this exceptionally prolific novelist. I used to love his work, too.

And now, between the shenanigans in Indianapolis related to same-sex marriage and my recently seeing the magnificent film “The Imitation Game” — the issue of simple fairness for gays and lesbians is very much on my mind. 

If you saw this great movie, did you catch the statistic right at the end? The little statistic about 49,000 homosexuals criminally prosecuted (make that criminally persecuted) in England.

When I volunteered at the Whitman-Walker Clinic some 25 years ago, doing Reiki for AIDS patients, I used to say to my friends, “Gay rights are today’s equivalent of the Civil Rights Movement.” I’m glad that most Americans are finally thinking this way, including Supreme Court justices.

Normally I try really hard not to include my political beliefs at the blog, but really, enough is enough. Let today’s blog post stand as an exception to my usual rule.

Yes, it is especially timely to explore the blind spot pointed out by JESSICA in the beloved science fiction writer.

Besides, this aura reading presents an interesting technical challenge. If you want to understand what makes a bigot tick, where do you start? Is there one chakra databank, among a person’s hundreds with a name like “Prejudiced, yes or no?”Haha. You guessed it. There is no such chakra databank. Ask a psychic if you wish, but that would be a psychic reading. For aura reading research, you delve into chakra databanks like the ones I’ll be using here.

Incidentally, if you would like to do research on your own, scroll down to the end of today’s article for nuts and bolts. I’d recommend you do that before reading my aura research, so you won’t be influenced by it. Your perceptions are equally important for learning about the multi-faceted diamond that is ANY human soul.

Root Chakra Databank for Connection to Physical Reality

90 miles. Thank you, Orson Scott Card, for providing a great example of something that is more common than you might suppose!

Sure, Orson Scott Card is a human guy. A super-successful one at that.

However, his consciousness is not positioned vibrationally at human frequencies. Like many, many people today, he is positioned more fully in at an astral  level.

So many of these astral versions of life are tucked into earth experience. Like those nesting dolls you have surely seen, Blog-Buddies, the human level of frequencies is like the outermost doll. Astral levels could be compared to some of those smaller dolls within. While the tiny, sold doll in the center corresponds to the Divine level that is also tucked into earth life.

Many of the people who are addicted to pot or other recreational drugs are living this way. Orson Scott Card comes by this more naturally, and it sure helps him with his literary career. Still, if you ever have a choice about whether or not to live in human-based spirituality, here’s some advice from this Enlightenment Coach:

Choose the human. It’s so much more evolutionary in the long run.

Belly Chakra Databank for Flow of Masculine Energy

90 miles. This chakra databank has a really butch quality, very exaggerated masculinity.

Also I notice a lot of struggle and overcoming difficulties here. Given that theme of bullying, I wouldn’t be surprised to learn that Orson Scott Card was treated badly by other boys, back in the day.

Certainly at the time of this photograph, Orson Scott Card is enrolled in a Ph.D. Program at Earth School related to be “Enough of a man” and fitting in, “despite” all his sensitivity.

Especially because Orson Scott Card is positioned vibrationally in astral frequences more than human ones, all the flows of energy within him are intense. Compared to folk who life in human-based spirituality, he is more about energy. So his chakra databanks are more strongly about energy, compared with most people.

Belly Chakra Databank for Flow of Feminine Energy

80 feet. Such lovely qualities of caring, understanding, going deeper into life, being connected to others.

At the same time, STUFF in this chakra databank has Orson Scott Card quite distanced internally when this feminine energy is being used. When he’s in macho mode, for instance, this chakra databank pales by comparison and probably isn’t much used. Conversely, while writing or otherwise opening up with his feminine energy, the masculine energy isn’t being accessed.

Make sense? It’s like having a den in his house decorated with Teddy Roosevelt-style animal trophies. While he has another room like a child’s nursery, delicate curtains on the walls, and such a sweet and soft kind of decor. In this analogy, Orson Scott Card cannot be in both rooms. (And he, until related STUFF is removed, cannot decorate a room that contains elements of each style.)

Solar Plexus Chakra Databank for Handling Conflict

14 feet. Rage at injustice.

A problem? Yes. But it’s caused by astral-level STUFF.

Sure, STUFF can always, always, always be healed. 🙂 Rosetree Energy Spirituality is replete with techniques for STUFF removal, and it’s hardly the only method around for mind-body-spirit healing.

Until STUFF is permanently healed, it isn’t unusual for a person to carry forward big subconscious-level torment about being bullied, not being able to win. With plenty of “I’ll show them.” And, in this case, I’m not just commenting about some random person but — no surprise — Orson Scott Card.

Heart Chakra Databank for Emotional Self-Confidence

1 and 1/2 feet. Confidence goes up and down for Orson Scott Card. He’s very sensitive to criticism.

Again, this problem is not about Orson Scott Card’s gift of the soul at this chakra databank. STUFF is stuck and, in this case, it strongly distorts the functioning of the chakra databank.

Even within himself when alone, there is a great deal of internal drama, ups and downs. On the bright side… Sure helps him write fiction!

Throat Chakra Databank for Communication During Conflict

3 inches. Withdrawal from the conversation. That’s the pattern in this under-functioning chakra databank.

Once again, if there has been a history of bullying, decades later, Orson Scott Card could still be carrying around plenty of STUFF related to this.

Orson Scott Card helps humanity as a world server by creating and dispatching conflicts in fictional form. In human life, not so much expertise is available at the time of this photograph.

Third Eye Chakra Databank for Connection to Spiritual Source

Blog-Buddies, I’m really curious about this chakra databank. Not just to bring perspective related to all I have read so far. Also because I haven’t read auras of many public figures who are connected with the Mormon Church. Here is one essay Orson Scott Card wrote about why he believes that homosexuality is incompatible with his religion. Okay, back to energetic literacy….

5 inches. Very complex. Very complicated.

It’s one holy mess in there, folks. I would describe it as a lot of rules and regs, lots of guilt and analysis, lots of pain, lots of self-torment. The over-riding quality is no connection to spiritual light available.

Not at the time of the photograph used for aura reading.

Conclusion

Orson Scott Card is such a talented writer, with hard-won skill and exceptional talent both amplified by the connection he has to astral life.

As a world server, he has an inexhaustible supply of conflicts he feels, which he can then describes fictionally.

In his human life, the same sorts of STUFF complicate his inner life. He is way less content as a person than most of you Blog-Buddies who have been my clients.

I know because I read your rankings at Amazon.com and compare them to his. Joke.

I know because every session that I do includes a brief Skilled Empath Merge where I temporarily and clearly experience what is going on in your consciousness.

Gotta love Earth School! Where a man with such brilliant success can live, for a while at least, with such inner confusion and fear.

Nuts and bolts about today’s aura reading

Which photograph am I using as a basis for today’s aura reading.

In keeping with my policy about meticulously honoring photo copyrights, I no longer provide links to pictures saved on services like Photobucket. Your best choice for being able to see the photo referred to in a blog post is to stay current, maybe check in at this blog once a week or more often. When reading an older article, you may not be able to find the same photo I used originally. Seek here for a photograph.

 

What if you want to read Orson Scott Card’s aura too?

  • Whatever your current level of energetic literacy, you Blog-Buddies are invited to join me by doing your own aura reading, using the same photos used here.
  • Many of my students who want to use their lifelong talent for reading auras prefer to start with the 100+ techniques in my how-to, Aura Reading Through All Your Senses.

One way or another, it’s fascinating to use energetic literacy skills to learn about Orson Scott Card.

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    Karen Burrell says:

    very interesting post since I know this person lol. Many people with strong Christian belief systems have a problem with the gay lifestyle because of some of the writings in the Bible. I don’t think this makes them bad people, they just honestly believe that it is a sin. It’s sad but that’s just how it is. I am honestly shocked by his connection to God because I know this man to be a very spiritual person who deeply loves God. But it is interesting to read anyway. I hate to think what kind of mess I’m going to have to face once I’ve saved up for my reading. But it’s better to know and deal with it. Thank you for the work you do.
    Karen

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    KAREN, how impressive that you know this great author. Congratulations.

    On a more personal note, I’m so glad you wrote this part of your comment so that I can respond to it:

    “I hate to think what kind of mess I’m going to have to face once I’ve saved up for my reading. But it’s better to know and deal with it.”

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    Much as I appreciate that courage, you don’t have much need for that in a session of Rosetree Energy Spirituality, either with me or for those I have trained. Other than the courage it takes to do a first session of any kind with any practitioner who is new to you.

    (And probably those I have trained charge less for their session fees, important if you are saving up. Much as I would like to be the one you choose for a session.)

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    How come? In energy spirituality, we don’t do that sort of blunt aura reading.

    This was about a public figure, who has probably had to deal with all sorts of comments on every aspect of public life, nasty and ignorant book reviewers, etc.

    In a session of energy spirituality, it can be either Soul Thrill® Aura Research or RES Energy HEALING. The links supplied here will tell you more about each type.

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    Beyond that, please know that in Rosetree Energy Spirituality we NEVER do a session where we just tell you about STUFF (i.e., stored up emotional and spiritual debris at the astral level that limits conscious-level life).

    We mention STUFF only if in that very session, you receive healing of that STUFF(or in the case of spiritual addiction, specific and personalized instructions for getting yourself out of the problem).

    With aura healing, you learn about the STUFF in detail only AFTER it is gone.

    To me, this is important ethically. So fear not!

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    Anonymous says:

    “Many people with strong Christian belief systems have a problem with the gay lifestyle because of some of the writings in the Bible.”

    There is no such thing as “the gay lifestyle” any more than there is “the straight lifestyle”. It’s kind of an insulting term.

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    Thanks for speaking up there, ANONYMOUS. At best, using a term like “the gay lifestyle” reveals ignorance. It’s inaccurate. It’s outdated. It stinks.

    Dear KAREN, I’m not meaning to insult you any more than ANONYMOUS was. Or the good people you know, including Orson Scott Card, who are doing what they believe. Which is, ironically, their lifestyle. Not just what is in the Bible.

    Seems to me, with my lifestyle, that this “gay lifestyle” idea is language that can change as people accept the scientific fact that gender identity really isn’t a choice.

    Personally I’m quite sure that the 49,000 British homosexuals who were persecuted were not “choosing a lifestyle.” Magnificent Alan Turing wasn’t choosing a lifestyle.

    People can choose lifestyles and we can choose beliefs. Such as lifestyle based on the belief that, supposedly, it is “Christian” to be a segregationist or a Nazi. It isn’t done now to speak that way in public, but it sure was common back in the day.

    Goodhearted people did that, to be sure. They just were involved in thinking of their time. In retrospect, it too, courage for those who were Christians to say, “My way of loving God as a Christian does not have to include this thing that so many others are doing.”

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    I do think it is important to speak up, again and again, as you gently did here, ANONYMOUS.

    Also if you hear people talking passionately about how lovely it is that they live on a flat earth… which is regularly circled by the sun.

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    Kira says:

    Thank you for this reading! I’m so glad this was one of the winning nominations.

    I see by the essay you linked, and more by its surrounding commentary, that I’m getting a rather one-sided view of him from my friends. That definitely clarified his position for me. I don’t agree with him that homosexual acts are sinful, but then, I’m not a Mormon. I do agree with his view that often, those who complain about intolerance toward their own views respond with similar intolerance in return. However–

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    Kira says:

    Having just had a conversation with my husband and having just read some really thoughtful posts from friends about the religious-freedom law in Indiana, I discovered that while I wish there were a lot more respect to go around on both sides of that issue, I think some of this turmoil might be necessary for the culture to change enough to make the respect follow.

    And since I’m a month behind on watching The Daily Show, the episode I watched tonight commemorating the Selma march just strengthened that view for me.

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    Lilian says:

    Thanks Rose. Good to hear some passion about this. I’m wired to be straight and sexuality is a reaffirming constant in my life. Thankfully I’m living in a secular society where what I do sexually is none of anyone’s business. Imagine the damage you do to someone when you say that their own natural emotions are not natural? You damage their ability to be at home in their human self.

    Also, interesting to hear about Orson’s own female and male energy chakra data banks. Absolutely, if you don’t understand how to masculine and feminine work within your own being, then you’re going to have conflict and confusion about sexuality.

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    LILIAN and KIRA, thanks for adding your wisdom to this thread.

    KIRA, I agree with this so strongly:

    “I discovered that while I wish there were a lot more respect to go around on both sides of that issue, I think some of this turmoil might be necessary for the culture to change enough to make the respect follow.”

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    KAREN, your important Comment 2 here inspired my blog post for today, “What does it mean to be spiritual?”

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    Kira says:

    Thanks, Rose.

    It really makes my head hurt sometimes when I see evidence of how many different ways people find to consider each other less human.

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    Curiouser and Curioser (As Ever) says:

    Thank you for another fascinating aura reading, Rose. What especially caught my attention about this one was his positioning at astral-level consciousness. Years ago when I started writing fiction I suddenly started having a lot of astral things going on. In recent years, my inclination has been to stick with nonfiction, as it feel more grounding, interestingly to me. Much to nosh on here.

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    CURIOUSER AND CURIOUSER (AS EVER),I’m glad you’re noshing. Even before the Age of Aquarius, being lost in the astral was an occupational hazard of fiction writing.

    Same with composing music.

    I wonder if performers and artists are protected, relatively, because they strive to attain a physical-level perfection in their work. Or try to, anyway. Human objective reality is the opposite direction of The Romance of the Astral.

    Anyway, I’m glad you’re committed to living here with us in the human, dear friend.

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    On that topic of going overboard on the astral while writing fiction, some of you Blog-Buddies may not have seen an aura reading I published here more than four years ago.

    It was a contest prize, actually.

    Aura reading research on Stephanie Meyer, author of the Twilight Saga Book Series.

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    KIRA, your latest comments here at the blog have reached a new standard. Have you been taking eloquence pills? 😉

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    Karen Burrell says:

    Well I am happy I inspired a blog post =) Hopefully, I’ll still be happy when I hop over there and read it. =)
    I don’t understand why saying lifestyle is insulting, I have a lifestyle, everyone does.
    Everyone chooses their life. It doesn’t make sense to me when people say, I didn’t choose this. Well, it’s your life, if you didn’t choose it who did? I certainly didn’t intend to insult, only try to explain why some (maybe most) have an issue with homosexuality. And since I was at one time a Latter-day Saint I don’t mind saying that they are even more strict on that issue being a very conservative religion. I also don’t share that belief, I was just trying to say why they do.

    Karen

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    KAREN, thank you for this latest comment. I feel relieved that you’re back at the blog.

    I was hoping you didn’t feel as though there was a pile on. Could have seemed that way, although that wasn’t intended.

    Having you be criticized for voicing your ideas would be especially ironic since you have come a really long way from how you were raised.

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    I wonder if any of you Blog-Buddies might be willing to write a long comment, or guest post, about what it has been like for you — as a homosexual — to come to terms with this, and to come out of the “closet.”

    This sort of writing might really bring home, in a human way, the difference between a choice, or a lifestyle, and honoring who you are — even though the consequences can be terrible.

    Such writing might be helpful to you, as well as educational for the blog. As you may know, you can always write anonymously here. I monitor all comments at here, so just write in your first line, “Call me Frodo,” or whatever you’d like to be called, and I’ll make it happen.

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    Karen Burrell says:

    I won’t beat this point to death but I did want to say that it is part of my belief system that we choose our life experiences in the spirit realm before we incarnate to earth and that God doesn’t force any experience on us. I also believe in a sort of bucket list of experiences that we will experience during one of our lifetimes. Things such as being gay, being rich, being poor, experiencing things like a natural disaster, experiencing an encounter with a wild animal, etc… the list is likely very long. Religious fanatics have likely experienced whatever it is that they are protesting against in some of their lives.
    I realize not everyone has the same beliefs and I don’t force anyone to adopt mine, but I do believe that we have chosen this life and it’s varied experiences.
    And I am sorry if my comments have ruffled feathers. I am only here to learn.

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    Kira says:

    ROSE, re comment 19, I nearly fell off my chair laughing. 😀 If only there were such a thing!

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    Kira says:

    Eloquence pills or not, I can write long comments more easily than I can write short ones, but I’m not sure my experience is helpful for what you had in mind.

    I’m bisexual, but I’m a woman married to a man, and I’ve had no actual sexual experiences with a woman.

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    Nary a ruffled feather, KAREN.

    We are ALL here to learn, and there is no one official viewpoint here, other than matters directly related to the things I teach, write about in my books, do in sessions — Rosetree Energy Spirituality.

    And all of this is the means to a better life. Not a particular ideal of life. Each person’s (sacred) life.

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    Kira says:

    Actually, I could be polysexual, pansexual, or simply queer, depending on whose definitions you’re using.

    I haven’t met every kind of person out there, so I really can’t say if I’m attracted to every possible type, but my suspicion is that when I’m attracted to someone, I’m attracted to the person and how they identify doesn’t matter to me.

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    Kira says:

    I didn’t know I was bisexual for a long time. I had enough trouble figuring out when I was attracted to guys, let alone girls, in high school.

    I got engaged between my freshman and sophomore years in college, and we got married right after I graduated.

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    Kira says:

    Once I figured out that I was also attracted to women, I realized that I would have had to have some sort of mentor in the gay community to actually get together with a woman.

    I have no idea how to tell if someone is potentially interested in me unless they bring it up.

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    Kira says:

    In principle, I’m not averse to asking a man if he wants to go out, but I really don’t know how to do that with a woman without potentially offending her.

    The part of my experience that bothers me sometimes is that I could have ended up married or in a long-term relationship with a woman, or I could have gone back and forth with relationships with both (or someone tran or intersex or something else), and whatever relationship I’m in at the time is what defines my sexuality for some people.

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    Kira says:

    If I’m with a man, I’m straight no matter what I think I’m attracted to. If I were with a woman, I would be gay. If I were going back and forth, I would be confused.

    As far as I’m concerned, people are people, and if I happen to be in love with one or more of them, it shouldn’t matter how many, what gender, or what age (excepting children) they are, as long as the relationship(s) satisfy those of us involved.

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    KIRA, thanks for sharing, as always.

    So…. what does any of this have to do with a lifestyle?

    For example, do you think a neighbor who was observing your life now would say, “Well, there she goes with her queer, polysexual LIFESTYLE?”

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    Kira says:

    Well, that’s the thing. As far as most people know, I’m just a standard married woman. I have friends who know I’m bisexual, but it’s not something I just announce to the world. (Hence my thinking that this wasn’t going to be relevant.)

    So far, the closest I’ve come to having a bisexual “lifestyle” is marching in a gay pride parade to support my friends who were finally able to get married after 32 years of being together.

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    Kira says:

    Would it be a lifestyle if I had a boyfriend, then had a girlfriend, then had a boyfriend, then had girlfriend?

    Or if I had a boyfriend and girlfriend at the same time?

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    Kira says:

    I did have an open marriage for a period of time, and during that period, I had to have surgery. Both my husband and my lover came with me and it confused my doctor.

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    Oh, KIRA, I needed that laugh. Didn’t see it coming until the last four words.

    Thank you.

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    Kira says:

    I’ve had a bit of experience with the BDSM community, and that seemed more like a lifestyle to me. There are lots of rules, aimed at keeping everyone safe.

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    Kira says:

    You’re welcome! I aim to please.

    (Myself as much as other people, these days.)

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    KIRA, about those rules in Comment #37, can you share what some of them are? Is that an okay question to ask? Because there’s still an inquiry going on here, as in:

    “If there WERE an LGBTQ lifestyle, what would it be?”

    Apart from which love partners one is attracted to.

    Falling in love isn’t a lifestyle, is it? One’s sexual practices aren’t a lifestyle. So what is the alleged lifestyle, supposedly?

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    Kira says:

    It’s been a while, so I’m not sure how specific I can be.

    The thing I remember best is safewords. No matter what sort of activity, it’s important for everyone involved to know the safewords. Consent is taken very seriously in BDSM; “no” is not a sufficient safeword because many scenarios people want to play out involve their having things done to them “against their will”. So a safeword is agreed upon beforehand. If someone says the safeword, the scenario stops.

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    Kira says:

    The lifestyle aspect with which I’m most familiar is parties. People get together and try things. I don’t recall having seen any overtly sexual acts at any parties I’ve been to, so that’s not a necessary component.

    I’ve met people who, in daily life, have a master/slave relationship. From what I’ve heard, there’s usually a collaring ceremony; the rules in such a relationship depend on the individuals involved.

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    Kira says:

    I could see the parties as being a lifestyle, if those people party often enough. I don’t need BDSM, despite enjoying aspects of it, but most of the people I’ve met at BDSM events and parties do seem to need it.

    For what it’s worth, I didn’t find it all that different from organized science fiction fandom. There are levels of participation. For the most dedicated people, it can be a full-time commitment. There are science fiction fans who either go into the field professionally, as authors and editors and so on, or who not only attend but join the planning committees of multiple conventions throughout the year.

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    KIRA, thank you for the clarification in that last comment, and for all the details about lifestyle. Would you mind spelling out the acronym BDSM?

    Because that would appear to be something specialized. I think I can guess, and could look it up on the Internet, but let’s maintain this as a full blog conversation here at “Deeper Perception Made Practical.”

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    Further, would you say that BDSM is the same thing as having a husband and having a female lover at the same time, and shocking your physician?

    Because our original inquiry here was whether sexual exploration with a same-sex partner is a lifestyle.

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    I’m sure everyone who is sophisticated enough to enjoy this blog realizes that being involved with a same-sex partner doesn’t necessariily have anything to do with having multiple partners at one time.

    Personally, I consider a mainstream lifestyle to mean loving and living with someone (of any gender). This is so common, it’s not worth calling a “lifestyle.”

    I do consider it a different lifestyle to have multiple love partners at one time. Whether or not a doctor winds up being shocked. 😉

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    I have friends who were in same-sex love relationships for decades before it became legal.

    As in, literally, living like a married couple for decades.

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    What gets really ugly about calling this a “lifestyle” rather than honoring a beautiful relationship, complete with legal protections, as an ordinary marriage?

    No legal protections against workplace discrimination or rights to visit in the hospital if one of them was seriously ill.

    No social security benefits for being married all those years, although the couple would have married if they could have married.

    At least they still had the right to vote.

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    Kira says:

    Ah, yes, sorry about not explaining the acronym. BDSM stands for Bondage, Domination, Sadism, and Masochism.

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    Kira says:

    BDSM is not the same thing as having two lovers at once (he was male, not female, at least at the hospital), although I do know people who have a “vanilla” (not interested in BDSM) spouse and a BDSM lover, so there’s some crossover. It’s also possible for a person with a vanilla spouse to have a BDSM play partner, with no sex involved.

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    Kira says:

    BDSM can also intersect with LGBTQ+ in that BDSM partners can be same-gender or opposite-gender. Whether or not any sex is involved.

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    Kira says:

    BDSM can be similar to LGBTQ+ in that it’s a secretive community. It’s another group in which many people don’t want to be outed.

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    Kira says:

    So in thinking about what makes a lifestyle, would you say that being single is a lifestyle, being married (regardless of same or opposite genders) is a different lifestyle, and choosing to live together but not marry (i.e., not because you have no choice to marry) is a third lifestyle?

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    Kira says:

    Which would make choosing multiple partners, again regardless of gender, yet another lifestyle, right?

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    Lilian says:

    Man, this discussion has progressed!

    At the end of the day, people will chose to do whatever makes them sexually fulfilled within the parameters of their life being manageable.

    Some people do need BDSM to be sexually fulfilled.

    Maybe people need polyamory.

    To me, sexuality is mysterious and complex.

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    Lilian says:

    Kira, to be honest, I have the capacity of having a relationship with a woman. Except, my life was complex enough in my 20s as it was to explore that as well!

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    Lilian says:

    It’s a separate question as to what relationships should be legally protected. At the end of the day, marriage is a legal contract. If people live in such a way that they are materially independent on each other in the long term, they should have that legal protection.

    Imagine denying an elderly man the material means to live his life on his partner’s death, just because he was gay and the pension company doesn’t have to honour his relationship!

    Imagine looking this man in the eye and not letting him make decisions for his partner in his dying days! How cruel is that!

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