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Celebrating this smart, kind, courageous, respectful community.

Celebrating this smart, kind, courageous, respectful community.

Blog-Buddies, I love creating community with you here at this blog. Likewise with you Brave Empaths who are hanging out with me at the Empath Empowerment Group on Facebook.  (Just a bit more than three weeks old and, already, we have over 100 members. Three cheers for you early adopters!)

What kind of community, though?

Within 24 hours, we had these two comments.

At this blog, from smart, couragerous JOANIE, as part of a self-healing series on psychic coercion:

“I live with a family member who is constantly nagging me. Whenever I see the person I know that what he is going to say to me is – nagging….  So what you would recommend, Rose, is….”

Meanwhile, at the Empath Empowerment Group, came this post from our brainy new group member, JANET:

“Is it okay for me to ask for tips on how to deal with a drama king of a partner?”

So let’s consider which questions are and aren’t appropriate here, Blog-Buddies

Every blog and Facebook group has its own culture. Rules of engagement, if you would, that help us to get involved safely.

It is time to set some of those rules, rather than just assuming them. For your good, fellow community members. Also for my professional ethics and reputation, and for those I have trained in this emerging field called Rosetree Energy Spirituality.

There are so many bits and pieces to Rosetree Energy Spirituality. Let’s consider how online resources can help you appropriately. 

Talented empaths, what is appropriate to ask at my blog and the Facebook group?

YES. Understanding what an empath is, all 15 possible gifts. Quizzes and conversations that help you to understand the system of Empath Empowerment®.

NO. Asking me to personally coach you in public. Or furthering inaccurate ideas you’ll find online, such as “An empath is someone who feels the feelings of others.”

Ugh! This is not necessarily true for an an empath. And NEVER helpful if you aim to become a skilled empath, IMO.

YES. Understanding what a SKILLED empath is. Articles and conversations about using the skills in everyday life: Your stories. Your discoveries. Your wins. As you explore how your life changes by using consciousness to effortlessly turn your empath gifts OFF. (This is what basic skills of Empath Empowerment® are all about.)

NO. Asking me to teach this trademarked program online. Or encourage your coaching each other on how to teach those skills. Please, go to one of my books for empaths. Or do mentoring with me. Or take a workshop. Learn systematically, so you can benefit from this powerful skill set.

YES. Problem-solving as an empath. Fascinating to learn what is, and isn’t, related to being an empath.

NO. Requesting advice to fix or help a particular relationship. For that, go to an advice column or support group.

Here you can gain support, but not support-group-style help. Because many forms of personal development are different from what you’ll find here.

Our specialty here is human-based spirituality, a practical kind of Post-New Age support on your personal path to Enlightenment.

YES. Appropriate support. Learning to tell the difference between problems related to being unskilled as an empath versus other problems that are completely different. Trust me, fellow empaths, this is a really, really, really big deal.

NO. Discussing topics that really aren’t related to being an empath, like crystal healing and energy healing. Random playing with energy as a shiny new toy.

YES. Powerful support. Backed up by skills and knowledge. Why settle for less than powerful support that will truly empower you?

NO. Coping tips and tricks to help empaths? Nope. (Click on that last link for a more detailed explanation of why the “Helpful tips” approach hurts empaths, rather than helping us.)

YES. Exploring how wonderful life can be, just by using empath skills. Including your experiences with Skilled Empath Merge. My explorations of public figures — and yours. Which you can learn how to do productively by using techniques from “The Master Empath” and “Become The Most Important Person in the Room.”

NO. Complaining about being an empath as though it were some kind of disability. Sure, unskilled empaths suffer. But you have access to a system that can end that suffering (often terrible ) of being merely talented as an empath, not yet skilled.

What if you are interested in energetic literacy, reading people deeper?

Three cheers for you, if you are interested in aura reading, face reading, or doing Skilled Empath Merges.

YES. Enjoy our many articles with readings based on techniques from the systems of Aura Reading Through All Your Senses®, Face Reading Secrets®, and Empath Empowerment®.

NO. Random gossiping about celebrities. Might I recommend this blog post for more on this topic? It’s important to know the difference between using deeper perception versus gossiping.

YES. Prepare your own guest posts and articles where YOU use energetic literacy to do readings. Send them as a comment or email them to me, rose@rose-rosetree.com.

NO. Ask me to do aura reading or face reading or empath merges on people of interest to you. Look, I’m glad you’re thinking in this direction; but the solution is either to develop the skills for yourself (and maybe write a guest post) OR ask me to do aura reading research on anyone you like… during your personal session with me or any other expert at Rosetree Energy Spirituality.

YES. Nominate people for me do research at this blog… when we have a contest. Or propose candidates for the Enlightenment Life List — an ongoing free service where I do a certain type of aura reading research.

NO. Nominate people for the Enlightenment Life List without following the few simple requirements that are written in the main post itself. Take the time, please, before you ask me to take time on your request for the free aura reading.

How about skills for healing?

YES. Enjoying articles here about self-healing. Using skills like 12 Steps to Cut Cords of Attachment® and all the techniques in “Use Your Power of Command for Spiritual Cleansing and Protection.”

NO. Requesting peer support like advice for dealing with a drama king. Giving advice is not to be confused with meaningful healing — not here at this blog, anyway.

YES. Learning about the huge scope for self-healingdistinguishing that from situations when expert help, e.g., a personal session of aura healing and transformation.

It’s empowering to understand how much you can do on your own, without a great deal of specialized training.

However, I think it’s a big problem in mind-body-spirit today that standards are sometimes lacking. Beware flattery that a little bit of training makes anyone an instant expert at self-healing.

NO. Trying to receive expert services at the blog or by emails. Or advice that would be the same as receiving a session. But you already knew that was tacky, right?

What if you’re not sure if a question meets our Rules of Engagement at the blog?

No worries.

Never, ever be afraid to add a comment. Worst case, I will not make it live. If the volume of blog comments is light that day, I will take the time to email you and let you know that the comment is not suitable. This hardly ever happens.

Thanks to you, Blog-Buddies. One and all, you help to make this such a lively, authentic, interesting, and deeply supportive community. Let’s keep on exploring, evolving, enjoying.

During these early years of the Age of Aquarius, we are dealing with new vibrational realities on the planet, this community can help us all.

 

 

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  1. 1
    David B says:

    Blogs, forums, and discussion groups often have distinct cultures. I can appreciate the huge effort you put into creating a suitable environment here.

    More purely social media like Facebook can be free-for-alls of high-tech, high-touch. (people unconsciously compensate for the impersonalness of computers by over-sharing or over emoting) If they use unmoderated sites regularly, they can develop some appalling communication habits.

    But then such people would be less interested in a group that asks you to be more conscious. (laughs)

  2. 2
    David B says:

    It’s also useful to occasionally mention to people that the internet should never be considered private, anonymous, or temporary.

    It’s very worthwhile to engage in community but to do so with the highest good in mind.

  3. 3

    You really get it, DAVID. I’m so glad about that you gave the reminder in Comment 2.

    Deciding whether to have an open or closed groupon Facebook, one of my motivators in choosing OPEN is that I’m highly skeptical that any group conversation on FB could really be private.

  4. 4
    David B says:

    Yes, nothing on Facebook should ever remotely be considered private. It’s notoriously leaky and people can share stuff thats private into public areas (without even considering that consequence). Plus, the purpose of the service is to gather demographic information about its users. Information aggregating doesn’t exactly create privacy.

    A closed group may make it easier to manage the comment flow but would not make anything private.

  5. 5
    Sarah says:

    I really appreciate the care you take to establish this community as what it is, Rose!

    It feels very open and welcoming to me, but at the same time it is not that kind of lovey-dovey free-for-all that can happen when people are afraid of being overly critical… and instead swing wayyyy too far in the opposite direction.

  6. 6
    Sarah says:

    One comment that I will make about open vs closed Facebook groups, however: as I understand it, in an open group, posts are not only public but will be broadcast to all friends of the person posting in the group via the News Feed, even if those friends are not members.

  7. 7
    Sarah says:

    So for instance, anything I say is not only available to everybody in the world (which I am fine with), but also actively distributed to everybody I know (which I am less fine with).

    Many of us have pushed back on Facebook to change this policy, and maybe my info is out of date, but this is why I refrain from posting in open groups in general.

  8. 8
    Sarah says:

    I look at it this way: I am totally comfortable going to the grocery store (a public place, where I will be seen) and buying personal items like tampons or deodorant.

    But would I then go home, and email all of my friends and family, “Guys, guess what I bought??”

    Of course not!

  9. 9
    Sarah says:

    I am no more ashamed of my personal experiences as an empath than I am ashamed of my menstruation or body odor (all human realities, for me), but I don’t really feel comfortable knowing that Facebook is going to immediately broadcast that information to everyone I know via their News Feed, even if they do then have the choice to “opt out” from receiving future notifications.

  10. 10
    David B says:

    Sarah
    I’m not a Facebook user, so don’t know the details of it’s use – just what I’ve seen in tech discussions. And their user agreements and corporate promotion policies I’ve looked over. But you raise a key point. Facebook actually wants you to share just like that. And they’ve encouraged many web sites to add buttons there to facilitate this. People share all kinds of things from their lives and Facebook loves it – more marketing info. Not to mention you can “friend” Coke and other corporations…

    You may want to look at your profile settings though – its possible you can adjust them so they share (with friends) a little less.

  11. 11
    Rachel H says:

    Sarah- I completely agree. For that exact reason I have not commented on Facebook but have and feel very comfortable commenting here on the blog. I read a bunch of information and confirmed there was not a way to turn off posts to the empath group from my friends feeds.

  12. 12

    RACHEL H, SARAH, and DAVID, you have inspired me.

    Let today be a LURKING holiday!

  13. 13
    Primmie says:

    Sarah, I completely agree. I use FB for 2 purposes.

    1, to post pictures of my children for family and a few close friends.

    2. As a resource for information.

    Any parent of a child with special needs had access to incredible support and information on FB because of closed groups.

    I would never post anything on an open group because my friends and family would see it.

    Do they need to know about the research I do into Autism? No.

  14. 14
    Primmie says:

    Assuming that it’s best to have an open group on FB because nothing is actually private on the internet seems to me a mis-reading of how people generally use FB.

    People are, I think, deeply interested in privacy. In virtually all of the groups I’m in people who join are seeking a place where they can discuss important things without their family and friends knowing what they are saying.

    I guess it isn’t the faceless internet people are afraid of but rather their in-laws. Perhaps it was always so 🙂

  15. 15

    PRIMMIE, your wit shines yet again.

    You’ve made a good case for changing my Empath Empowerment Skills group but it was not compelling enough to change my mind. Thanks, though.

  16. 16
    Primmie says:

    You’re most welcome Rose. I’m sure you will bring your sparkly intelligence to FB in a way that suits what you do perfectly.

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