Today’s blog post is dedicated to Gladys, my first client for today. When asked how she was feeling, what was Gladys’s answer?
Look, Blog-Buddies. I had just done a skilled empath merge with this gal. What did I notice?
- Big progress since our last session of aura healing and transformation.
- A stronger grasp of human-type reality.
- Some emotional vulnerability — nothing weird. Quite understandable, given some situations in her life right now.
No way did I notice acute anxiety. If I had, I would have referred her to a mental health professional. Like any practitioner of Rosetree Energy Spirituality (RES), I am qualified to help with emotional and spiritual growth. I’m not a licensed psychotherapist or counselor, not a psychiatrist. And I understand well my limits of practice.
However, two minutes of discussion cleared up the self-labeling as “Anxious.” Turned out, Gladys didn’t really mean a big-deal experience of “Anxious.” More like she felt a bit of trepidation.
And thus we were good to go. We proceeded to move forward with a session that helped Gladys move forward with her personal development.
Well, here’s my question to you: If Gladys wasn’t really “Anxious,” why did she describe her inner state with that word? See if you can guess, Blog-Buddies.
Such a Trendy Topic Now… Anxiety
Certain words come in and out of vogue. You could blame it on collective consciousness or whatever else you like.
Years ago, the big winner was “Narcissist.” Remember how common it was for folks to call other folks narcissists?
Still happens sometimes, but not nearly as much as it did years ago.
And maybe you can remember the “Codependent” fad, when that term was used so often. (My best friend at the time told me, with a straight face, “You know, 95% of people are codependent.”)
Correctly used, both these terms refer to significant psychological problems.
Casually used, of course, the words could be flung around to mean… practically anything.
How Ridiculous Is Today’s Anxiety-Naming?
These days, approximately 8 out of 10 of my clients will casually use exactly the same language as Gladys did today.
ROSE: “Please name one emotion you have right now.”
Afterwards, when I discuss the use of this very intense term, guess what? My client says, “Hey, I guess I didn’t really have anxiety.”
Note: Once this year I had a client who with a serious problem that might really have been acute anxiety. I don’t remember for sure if Joe literally used the word “Anxious,” nor did I make a “diagnosis,” not being trained as a mental health professional. But I sure found something very troubling during my Skilled Empath Merge with him. After some discussion with Joe, I recommended that he seek the help of a mental health professional and terminated our session.
Does intense anxiety show in a Skilled Empath Merge? Of course!
Anxiety, Acute Anxiety, Is a Big Deal
Counseling professionals describe many different mental health problems that are anxiety disorders.
According to healthyplace.com: “Fears are not normal, however, when they become overwhelming and interfere with daily living…. [they] are symptoms of an anxiety disorder, the most common and most successfully treated form of mental illness. As a group, anxiety disorders afflict nearly nine percent of Americans during any six-month period.”
And here is additional clarification from that same article:
“‘Anxiety’ is a word so commonly used that many people don’t understand what it means in mental health care. Complicating matters is the fact that ‘anxiety’ and fear are often used to describe the same thing. When the word ‘anxiety’ is used to discuss a group of mental illnesses, it refers to an unpleasant and overriding mental tension that has no apparent identifiable cause. Fear, on the other hand, causes mental tension due to a specific, external reason, such as when your car skids out of control on ice.”
So Do Yourself a Favor, Blog-Buddies
When you speak about how you feel, use words that apply to you. Don’t blurt out the trendiest psychobabble of the day.
(BTW, here is how I define “psychobabble”: Taking legitimate, helpful terms from psychology and playing around with them in a random way that distorts the meaning. By contrast, people sometimes use “psychobabble” to insult anything that is said about personal development, and I definitely don’t mean that.)
Media and entertainment often do all they can to arouse feelings of fear. In the evening news on TV, for instance, “If it bleeds, it leads.”
But you don’t have to live that way in the privacy of your own mind and heart. Or mouth.
Please, Use Appropriate Words to Describe How You’re Feeling
What is one way to have, and name, your very own feelings (that belong to you)?
For self-talk and when talking to others, don’t employ words that really belong to a mental health diagnosis.
Every time you refer to yourself incorrectly as feeling “ANXIOUS!!!” — ugh! You’re imprinting your subconscious mind with that exaggerated version of a common emotion. Fear is a part of life for everyone. While unpleasant, that isn’t as serious as anxiety.
Sure, anxiety is an emotion in the FEAR family. But there are so many other words to choose from, like these:
- Emotionally fidgety
- Feeling insecure
Protect yourself from badmouthing yourself, insulting yourself, or scaring yourself.
Sure, Halloween is happening just this week. But you can let the holiday be about candy, not fear.