On Black Friday, how many people will be buying “The Lifechanging Magic of Tidying Up” by Marie Kondo?
I wonder, and not just because I have an eye for irony.
“Black Friday” is, of course, a post-post-modern American tradition, where you start Christmas shopping on Thanksgiving Day and go at it full force on the following day (which is always a Friday). Then binge-shop for several more days, merrily scooping up bargains as you go.
This year it is estimated that 135.8 million consumers may shop between Thanksgiving Day and through the weekend until “Cyber Monday” (when the shopping goes online).
What, is one of America’s loveliest holidays — our collective day of gratitude — really becoming the day to go out and shop ’till you drop?”
Gotta love Earth School, right? Because we spiritual idealists might have to weep if we didn’t sometimes remember to laugh.
Owning Too Much Versus
An Even More Revolting Choice
Renunciate-Type Austerity as an Alleged Upgrade to Householder Life
There it is, my blog theme for today.
What introduced me to this theme? It happened long before Thanksgivingeve. I was helping my client Gladys by cutting her cord of attachment to Marie Kondo, the highly influential author. Which is how I first learned directly about her immaculate blockbuster, “The Lifechanging Magic of Tidying Up.”
Gladys gave me permission to write about that cord of attchment here at the blog. I’ll save that gem for a follow-up post. Today I would just like to give my perspective about this particular system for tidying up. What could be the unintended consequence?
Of course, Blog-Buddies, it would be great if you supplement my thoughts with your firsthand knowledge of trying Marie Kondo’s method. Please add your comments below or even send a guest post. I’m sure curious, and others will be too, surely.
After doing the session with Gladys, I did have a look at the very appealing book and it’s very appealing premise.
Before going further, let’s go to a fundamental question…
Are You a Saver or a Tosser?
I’m definitely a tosser, somebody who relishes getting rid of what isn’t really needed any more.
I toss cords of attachment, for instance. As you may know. And as you may also know, if you have read “Hands of Light” by Barbara Brennan, that world-renowned energy healer gives instructions for detaching cords of attachment, cleaning them up, and then reinserting them.
A brilliant expert at Energy Medicine but not necessarily emotional and spiritual growth (i.e., Energy Spirituality), Brennan also writes that most cords of attachment go into the solar plexus chakra. (??? Really? Not my experience, working in RES)
Another non-RES perspective about cutting cords of attachment from Barbara Brennan: If you’re curious about what a cord contains, your best bet is to study Transactional Analysis.
Anyway, I’m clearly more of a tosser than Barbara Brennan when it comes to cords of attachment, and many other things as well. I’m a cheerful tosser in many respects. Although of course I have married an extreme saver and our son is a big saver too. Haha. I’m sure not tossing either one of these guys. Ever!
So I have learned perspective on both perennial extremes, saver and tosser. I’ve lived through many degrees of compromise (and anguish) related to tidying and tossing. Why wouldn’t this be a problem for just about anyone who lives as a householder.
We householderes don’t live the perfectionistic alternative, renunciate life.
There’s a sparse beauty to that spiritual lifestyle: Living alone in one’s tiny room in the monastery or ashram, with something religious on otherwise bare walls, nothing much to wear, so few material posessions, and the bare minimum of… physical anything.
Maybe one pure white candle. What else does one need?
Really, what IS a householder to do when there are just soooooo many things? If you have any perfectionistic tendencies at all regarding material possessions, how tempting it could be to seek out a magical way to tidy up, once and for all?
When I Looked Over Marie Kondo’s Book
Of course I had to! Starting with the very attractive author photo.
Cute! Smart! So appealing, that Marie Kondo!
Only you know me, Blog-Buddies. I used some of my daily Technique Time to research her aura from that picture. Uh-oh!
Long story short: Very longstanding spiritual addiction.
And when I skim-read her book, it became pretty obvous why.
What could be a problem with the “revolutionary KonMari Method for simplifying, organizing, and storing”?
The KonMari Method for Moving into Spiritual Addiction
Yet I’ll tell you this. If you go through Marie Kondo’s method step by step, it reads like a step-by-step primer with a very effective method for moving into spiritual addiction. No wonder Marie Kondo boasts that once people go through her method they permanently have a different lifestyle, and never again lapse into untidiness.
I won’t go through specifics of her method here. For one thing, I don’t mean to set myself up as a cleaning expert. As if!
Sure you “could eat off my kitchen floor.” But not in a good way. 😉
Also, I have far too much respect for the hard-won intellectual property of my fellow writers to take an original system and attempt to summarize it.
Instead I’ll give you just one example.
- Following the KonMari method, you must put all your clothing on the floor. Dump it right down. Every single garment, without exception.
- Then you physically pick up one item at a time.
- As you touch it, you go within and notice the “important part” which is how it makes you feel.
- Does this particular object bring you spiritual joy?
- If not, throw it away.
- Don’t give it away, either. Immediately dump that useless garbage-like thing into the trash.
Why is that procedure a problem for consciousness lifestyle? Because for hours a person is locked into Technique Time, transferring loyalty away from very human ways of thinking about material objects (like “Why would I wear that sweater?” and “What is my personal history with that sweater?” and “Does that sweater make me look NOT fat?”)
No, it’s the energy that matters.
And when something fails the standard for perfect energy, just throw it away? Euwwwww!
If you happen to own a copy of this book, you might find it interesting to go through Marie Kondo’s entire method that way. I think you’ll find that every single component creates a switch of loyalty away from human objective reality and towards spiritual perfectionism.
Usually I Love Books about Cleaning and Tidying
I don’t mean to sound like a grumpus, especially on the day before Thanksgiving. So I’ll hasten to add that I celebrate most books and authors designed to help folks like me not act like slobs.
From Thrill Your Soul Aura Reading Research, I can tell you that if I just spent one hour a day polishing silver, my High Heart Chakra Databank for Soul Thrill would be working great.
And what was my favorite present from 2014, both birthday and Christmas and wedding anniversary? Hands down, it was the blue plastic clothes-foldey gadget that I saw on “The Big Bang Theory” TV show. Mitch and I would laugh about that gizmo when it came up in different episodes, and I guess I said (without ever meaning to hint), “I sure wish I had something like that.”
I thought it was something just made for TV, like Penny’s fetching hairstyles. 😉
Well, my thoughtful husband found it. And bought it for me. That lovely contraption has become a favorite toy.
(Just in case any of you Blog-Buddies needed further evidence that this fancy Enlightenment Coach is just as weird as any other human being.)
Also, one of my favorite books from last year was a how-to by Jolie Kerr, “My Boyfriend Barfed in My Handbag . . . and Other Things You Can’t Ask Martha.” Not only did I purchase this book for myself; I gave it as a gift, too.
There’s Jolie, so obviously a down-to-earth woman, funny, caring about people, and full of gusto. Just as some folks like to read “Food porn” (Cookbooks) or “Travel porn” (Books in the travel writing genre), I am such a sucker for “Cleaning and Tidying Porn.”
Only I’m not a big fan of any methods that inadvertently shift people into spiritual addiction.
In conclusion, from my perspective, Marie Kondo has a great sweetness and great originality — also effectiveness — in the service of a renunciate-flavored version of householder life. Understandably, her kind of magic is appealing to people now.
But might I suggest? Pursue this particular form of magic at your peril, Blog-Buddies. Tomorrow and the days to follow, you don’t have to focus your life on either tossing or saving or accumulating. One idea? Giving thanks for all the goodness in your life.
Tomorrow, Blog-Buddies, I’ll be giving thanks for you.