No need to blush, British readers. In fact I think all you Blog-Buddies will be able to handle today’s article just fine — and without trembling — when I recount the tossing away of my first reaction to Marie Kondo’s method for Tidying Up.
If you don’t get how WILDLY controversial my language about “tossing” is here ;-), just check out yesterday’s blog post, Comment #7.
And definitely, everyone, you can anticipate an inspiring tale of less is more. Specifically I’m going to share some ideas I discarded, and some perspective I gained, on the perennially important art of tidying up.
The author of The Lifechanging Magic of Tidying Up is a brilliant inspiration to neat people everywhere. Personally I learned a lot from all the responses to my blog post about the “revolutionary KonMari Method for simplifying, organizing, and storing.
What is the main thing I learned? And how might this be very useful to you, as well?
Skill Sets for Objective Reality Can Be More Negotiable
Than Techniques that Involve Consciousness
Really, I do have an occupational hazard. In my line of work, especially when serving as an Enlightenment Coach, I look at the consciousness-related impacts of everyday things people do. Especially when something is offered as a technique for personal growth.
Bestselling author Marie Kondo’s book doesn’t have a title like, My Boyfriend Barfed in My Handbag . . . and Other Things You Cant Ask Martha. An honor that belongs to Joie Kerr.
No, Marie Kondo offers a lifechanging method called KonMari. So I researched her method like a technique for its lifechanging impact on a person’s consciousness.
Yet what was the topic, really? Neatening up one’s personal possessions. Getting a tidy sock drawer, for instance.
And that’s how so many of you Blog-Buddies read Marie Kondo’s book.
Me, I Went on Red Alert… to Protect My Peeps
Reading like a consciousness nerd, I noticed:
- Marie Kondo’s own aura showed spiritual addiction. (In general, beware conscousness-related techniques that come from people in that state of energetic imbalance.)
- Early in her book she urges readers to do exactly what she teaches, changing nothing. (Can I ever relate to that! As a teacher of Empath Empowerment® and Aura Reading Through All Your Senses® and more: Drives me wild when people get casual about a technique that has been carefully engineered to produce certain results.)
- Repeatedly Marie Kondo warns readers to avoid using bits and pieces of her system, because that way they cannot expect the desired results. (And again, I can so relate. As a teacher of skills about subjective life, co-creating with the Divine — being part-smart is being at least a little foolish. By contrast a complete skill can bring huge impact for energy HEALING or energy READING.)
- Then I read with alarm how, in KonMari, readers are invited to do an energy-related process, feeling out the “joy” component of items like a shirt or a pair of socks. (In much of my professional work, doing personal sessions of Rosetree Energy Spirituality RES, I see the consequences of doing this sort of thing. And it’s called Technique Time .)
- Don’t give things away. Just trash ’em. (Did I or didn’t I get the author’s message correctly there?)
- Very important, too, was Marie Kondo’s idea of “Tidy up just once, and do it all at one go.” How long would that take to do, all at one go? Maybe 10 hours for a small flat or apartment. Or three hours for a tiny place that had already been well organized. How about a house like mine, with a few bedrooms and decades of occupancy: 14 hours? Some of that 30 bags full that Marie Kondo reported in triumph! (So, to me, that was a recipe for that many hours of Technique Time, all in one day. Which could be enough, for some vulnerable people, to push through a shift — and move that hapless tidier-up… straight into spiritual addiction, even if not previously suffering in that particular way.)
But Then What Did You Smart Blog-Buddies Do?
Obviously you Blog-Buddies made a clear distinction between doing a technique for personal development versus dealing resourcefully with human objective reality. So you altered things however you wished, and that approach worked just fine.
Look at some of the modifications you’all reported:
- Sensible ISABELLA C., an RES Practitioner, quickly recognized the BIG potential for Spiritual Addiction if you followed Marie Kondo’s method exactly as she describes, and *especially* if you tried to emulate her relationship with things. So she didn’t.
- In Comment #23, ADAM McINTOSH removed the main consciousness-related part of KonMari. Rather than stopping to feel joy, he would pick up each object and “just decide whether or not I still wanted it (rather than focusing on the energetic reaction it provoked).” Did he still like it and/or would he still use it? Or not. A nice shallow-up exercise, then!
- In Comments #8-10, EMILY admitted that she resisted applying the method to her clothes. And even with her books, she didnt stop to feel joy. In Comment #29, ISABELLA C. admitted that mostly she was a fan of Marie Kondo’s method for folding things. 🙂 Same for NICCI, as included (along with plenty of dry wit) in her Comment #40.
- In Comment #12, IRENE KR completely rejected the energy-related process. Instead she shallowed up and simply asked herself why she was keeping each particular thing.
- TRICIA admitted in Comment #2 that she gives things away. She doesn’t trash them. Naughty by Kondo standards but sounding pretty darned smart to me.
- GRACE did exactly what Marie Kondo recommended. But note, as described in her Comment #43, she used Kondo’s method to finish clearing out unwanted things from her small apartment.
A Tricky Thing about Tumbling into Spiritual Addiction
GRACE also noted something very sensible. She did not take away from Marie Kondo’s book that the goal for using the KonMari method was to create a “sterile ascetic monkish kind of place.”
I concur, actually. However, the goal was “Lifechanging magic.” Plus really getting into how to live as a tosser.
Haha, just kidding about that second goal. Did I just get a laugh out of you, PRIMMIE and NICCI and AMANDA? Hope so.
Was the purpose of Marie Kondo’s method only practical? Either way, maybe the best part was how to fold socks.
Just remember, Blog-Buddies — doing ANY forms of Technique Time for 20 minutes or longer each day can pop a person into spiritual addiction. And that’s not normally what’s advertised either, not for cleaning your house or worshipping your God or purifying your body or seeking nonduality. Regardless…
Whether the topic is better living through folding… or how to serve humanity as an Enlightenment Coach… it can always been done with a sense of humor.
Thanks, everybody, for reminding me to use mine.