Empath skills, real skills developed expressly for empaths, make such a difference. Today’s guest post serves as a reminder of how practical these skills can be. If you’re an empath, and you’ve ever had roommates, you’ll want to read this guest post by BEVERLY.
Here’s BEVERLY’s story of her new shared space, and how Empath Empowerment® helps her to share it better.
My First Time Meeting New People as a SKILLED Empath
I recently moved into a shared house with four other people. I didn’t know any of them beforehand but after meeting them (and doing some Thrill Your Soul Aura Research with Rose) I decided it was a good fit for me. This is the first time for me as a (mostly) skilled empath getting to know someone new. It’s quite different!
- I don’t have any insider knowledge on what my housemates are thinking or feeling. (My strongest people-related empath gifts are Emotional Oneness and Intellectual Empath Ability).
- What if someone is upset with me and I don’t realize it?
- How can I fix a problem that I don’t know exists?
These are some of the worries I subconsciously had previous to this experience.
However What’s Actually Happening
I suggested, and my housemates enthusiastically agreed, to have weekly meetings so we have a dedicated forum for raising any issues.
At the last one, we talked about the kitchen storage – it was not very equally allocated.
One housemate, I’ll call him Joe, isn’t very good about organizing his space. He’ll take up any space available.
Previously he’d mentioned a few times that he was fine to move his stuff, he just needed us to tell him where to go.
I was quite vocal about making sure the storage space was even, and I asked each one if they were okay with the reallocation.
By the end of the meeting, I noticed Joe was really quiet, and I was a bit concerned that maybe he was upset about how forthright and insistent I was about it.
Before empath skills, I would have started doing unskilled empath merges and worrying that he was mad at me, trying to figure out how to solve the “problem.”
With skills, I waited until the next morning (since it was quite late in the evening when the meeting finished) and then found out he was sick in bed with a cold.
Yes, he’d been quiet but it wasn’t a problem with me. He was just tired, not feeling well and wanting to just go to sleep.
Now that he’s feeling better, he’s shifted his storage around and we’ve had some nice chats about that and other things.
How Relaxing It Can Be to Shallow Up!
It’s so nice to be able to just stay on the surface and not to have to try to see and fix “problems” everywhere! I can let my housemates do their thing, visit and ask questions about how they’re doing when I see them and then go back to doing my own thing.
Such a refreshing change!
Refreshing, Yet It’s Definitely Different to Use Empath Skills
It takes longer to get to know people this way. I also suspect that I won’t know many people as well as I would have before.
Now, in order to really know someone’s inner thoughts and feelings, I have to:
- Talk to them.
- Ask questions.
- Build a relationship where they feel comfortable opening up to me that way (and me to them).
Many people I just don’t resonate that well with, so our relationships just won’t end up being that close.
I used to wonder how people could have acquaintances. I only had strangers or people I knew very, very well. Now I see how that can work.
And I’m very okay with that. I don’t need to know all the details of everyone I meet.
My life will be much richer if I can consciously focus on those relationships I choose to invest in.
Plus, those close friends will know that we have that deep of a relationship, instead of me behind the scenes having all sorts of insider insight without there ever being a conscious exchange and deepening of the friendship.
Skilled Empath Merge Consoles Me
I am glad that I have options for deeper perception with Skilled Empath Merges and aura reading, as it would be quite difficult to convince myself to not do unskilled merges if I didn’t. I do feel like I’m going into these new relationships blind.
On the one hand, I love having this intensely strong sense of myself. I’m so refreshingly aware of what is in my world, my sphere of influence, what I’m able to take action on, what I’m responsible for.
It’s lovely to just not worry about what others are going through, and the minute ups and downs of their inner landscapes.
However there’s a sense of loss too.
- A forced lack of superiority — I’m not more special than them.
- I have to stand in these relationships as the true self I am. Maybe they’ll like me, maybe not. I don’t have a cheat sheet anymore for the “test.”
- I can’t game the interaction by making sure I give them what they’re looking for.
This is a good thing. It makes me stretch and grow and become both more humble and more truly myself. It does feel scary sometimes, though. I feel more vulnerable this way.
Growing Extra Fast Now, As a Skilled Empath
I still have so much to learn, so many real-world social skills to practice and perfect.
For example, I’m still learning how to stop a conversation when I’m done but the other person isn’t yet.
And the social skill of how to stop a discussion and agree to disagree, without either insisting on “winning” the argument at all cost or stifling myself by shutting down my expression of my perspective.
I suspect that some of this will be an ongoing learning in each new relationship. I doubt social skills are a static plateau that I will, one day, achieve!
Living as a skilled empath means that most of the time my empath gifts are OFF. This is a dramatically different lifestyle, and a very improved quality of life, and that doesn’t even count the whole no-Imported-STUFF aspect!