Hooray! Our first Blog-Buddy has taken me up on my invitation to guest post about paying the price for what we get.
Even things that sound so easy… to others. Acknowledging this helps keep a person to live in human-based spirituality, growing as fast as ever a person can.
By all means, Blog-Buddies, check out many ideas for guest posts summarized in Are You Willing to Pay the Price Spiritually? Perspective from RES. Possible ideas include whatever YOU might think of, plus additional ideas you will find there in some of the comments after the main article.
Once again, EMILY T. from our RES Community Enlightenment Life List shows her leadership.
Thanks so much, EMILY. (And I’m more thrilled than ever that you will be crossing the pond to participate in my first-ever workshop this July on The New Strong. 🙂 )
Paying a Certain Kind of Price for Six Years.
Hmm, I could do a paying the price-type guest post on gaining a degree part-time! Especially now that I’ve finally graduated. After 6 years.
To start with, here are 10 ways that I paid, and paid, and paid, during those years.
- Having to read so many books (not all of them interesting) in your spare time when all you want to do is read blogs on the internet.
- Staying up late and sometimes pulling all-nighters to make sure that essay is submitted. So much missed sleep!
- Using up all your holiday days from work on study days and having to fit real holidays around module exams and essay dates.
- Being on a business trip in Rwanda and spending your day off working on your memory project instead of getting to see the gorillas in the national park.
- I was so not interested in a particular memory project, I had to use a random number generator to pick a sub-topic. Just so I would just get on with it!
- Having friends forget you exist and forgetting to invite you to events and parties. Having to remind friends I’m back now and be super-proactive about arranging friend dates.
- Having relatives not understand that weekends are not free time. Also complaining that they don’t get to see you. And that you don’t go “home” often enough (to Ireland, when you live in England). Being told that “All you care about is yourself”!
- Not seeing your partner in the evenings… until you’ve finished that chapter.
- Travelling an hour to a tutorial, then finding that only two people turned up anyway. So much for academic discussion!
- Feeling like giving up (or just postponing this module, just for a few months) but having to slog through arguments you find idiotic or shortsighted instead of learning French. LOL.
Can You Appreciate My Longing to Simply Relax and Study Some French?
I’m reminded of a session with Rose where it was coming up to my exams and all I wanted to do was learn French instead.
Rose compared me to a middle-aged man wanting the fast, shiny and red convertible car RIGHT NOW!
Quel dommage! (French for “Sometimes this felt like my heroic personal tragedy!”)
Then Came the Crazy Prices Related to Career
Not being able to advance in my career in the meantime — that also turned out, ironically, to be part of the price I paid for supporting myself and putting myself through school part-time.
Why couldn’t I move jobs? I needed to ensure that I would:
- Be able to take time off
- Have flexible hours
- And not need to spend a lot of time learning in my day job (since so much brain power was being used up in the evenings).
At the same time, I was not being seen as committed to the day job since my degree was in a completely different field, which I had chosen before getting the day job.
Here’s the clincher: Eventually I got so turned off by the whole thing that I no longer wanted a career in the subject I was studying.
Phew! And Worth It!
I have graduated now.
Of course, there were many benefits and enjoyable things, and not everyone will experience the same. But everything I’ve described above was the price that I had to pay.