Our conversation is coming along so productively. Thanks to all who have been commenting at our first article in this series about personal presence. Today let’s start to distinguish two separate things that are often confused when we yearn for a stronger, better presence:
- The energy aspect
- And the social aspect
Because man oh man, are they different! Yet it’s so human that, in our pain, in our longings, these two disparate aspects are often confused. Leading to problems. Sometimes big problems.
To set the stage, here’s a story that is (to me) hilarious. (But only in retrospect.)
Fashion Advice from an Unlikely Source
The year was 1974. The place? A hotel in Switzerland. Rooms were being rented out to teachers of the Transcendental Meditation Program.
A group of us initiators had flown in from America. Once arrived at the hotel, we learned that our guru, Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, happened to be in the lecture hall. If we wished, we could see him.
Nobody else was there. (Note: This was a unique experience for me, out of all my Teacher Training Courses and so many Advanced Training courses. Of course, all that follows is described to the best of my recollection.)
Eagerly my TM buddies and I ran over to the stage where, as usual, Maharishi was sitting on his deerskin. Usually a pathetically slow runner, I got there first. No doubt, love for my master gave wings to my legs….
A minute of face time one-on-one with my guru! Such a rare treasure! And I’d been working so hard as Co-Chairman of the TM center in Beverly Farms, Massachusetts. Yes, I stood in his glorious presence, maybe a foot away.
Maharishi looked me over. His voice rang out: “Good. Good. Good. Good. Good.”
Describing this to you, Blog-Buddies, I can still hear his voice — exactly the way he said each word, framing it in golden silence. I felt so loved, so special, so very grateful.
After the next pause, radiant with golden silence, Maharishi added:
“But you should dress better. Your clothing should be tip top. And wear clothes that fit.”
Then my guru turned away to give attention to the next in line.
What’s So Funny about That?
By now, at age 68, I’m a girly girl. For the past 15 years I have actually come to like clothes. And by the time I turned 60, I have even been able to notice whether or not clothing actually fits a person’s body. (Better late than never, right?)
Back in the day, I was 26 years old. According to conventional standards, I was at the height of my cuteness.
You and I can only imagine how atrocious my clothes and general grooming must have been in order for Maharishi to chide me in this way.
So, who was the man who was bestowing this fashion advice? A plump man in his late fifties, a fellow who displayed to the world a flowing white beard while hiding a long ponytail that he tucked into the back of his dhoti.
Yes, this fashion advice came from a man who wore a one-piece white garment.
Incidentally, several years later Maharishi helped to design a line of women’s clothing for his “Initiators” and “Governors of the Age of Enlightenment.” Clothing that was meant to be appropriately royal and dignified. All of us were encouraged to buy these “Siddha dresses.”
Unfortunately I have not been able to find a photo on the Internet, so let me describe what these were like: Very colorful fabric, like a sort of gift wrap imported from India. Made of silk. Extremely modest in cut; boxy, not sexy or attractive — apart from clearly looking expensive; sporting broad pleats that would wrinkle easily and would often have to be professionally cleaned and pressed.
Sure, Siddha dresses might be bought in a size that fit… yet you have never seen dresses that were more unflattering for every possible variation of a woman’s body.
Yes, I was solemnly offered fashion advice from this sartorial expert!
Even Maharishi Knew that Social Presence Usually Counts for More than Energetic Presence
And back in the day, I confused the two. By now, the categories are clear.
Have you, too, sometimes ignored the social presence factor — a.k.a. objective reality — in how you are treated?
Did you think, “It’s all about having charisma.” or “If only my spiritual presence were strong enough, everyone would respect me”?
Have you been so busy reading auras, or energy, that you have overlooked paying attention to human-level vibrational frequencies — good old objective reality?
About that last question, one great benefit of developing aura reading skills is this. With Stage THREE Energetic Literacy, you’re not drifting along noticing energies all day long. Or off-and-on. (All this being the mark of Stage ONE Energetic Literacy, which could be defined as plenty of talent. Zero skills. Like me, back at age 26.)
With Stage Three Energetic Literacy, you use your good aura reading skills when you choose to consciously learn information. It’s Technique Time, not random moments. And therefore you are much more likely to pay attention to objective reality, including whether you really want to wear the equivalent of a Siddha dress.
Even if you can find one — and it fits you, tip top — that’s still not likely to win you many points in objective reality. 😉
Below, Please Share Your Wisdom and Experience about Strengthening Social Presence
- What can a person do about clothing and appearance?
- How about body language and posture?
- How about using your voice, pacing your words?
- What else helps a person to gain respect socially?
Beyond That, More
It’s very common for spiritually-oriented people — even folks in human-based spirituality (or even Enlightenment) to not be as clear as they might be about distinguishing objective reality from subjective reality, and solving problems at human vibrational frequencies.
In my next blog post of this series, I’ll be commenting a bit about that.
But for now, I can’t wait to read your responses to the four questions listed above. Plus whatever you have to say on this sorting-out topic concerning strong personal presence.