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The Presence of an UNSKILLED Empath, Part 1 of 2

Empath talent isn't just beautiful. Until you're skilled, empath gifts cause SUFFERING.

Empath talent isn’t only beautiful. Until you’re skilled, empath gifts cause SUFFERING.

May today’s article cheer you… if you’re an empath but not yet skilled!

Weirdly cheering, yet cheering nonetheless.

What if you are a skilled empath by now, like so many of you Blog Buddies?

Then may today’s article bring you compassion for ways that you used to suffer. Because unskilled empaths can endure suffering that would widely be acknowledged as terrible… if only that suffering were not also so subtle and, therefore, deeply hidden from view.

You see, until we learn good skills of energetic literacy  (which of course all of us can do, just like developing the word literacy needed to read this sentence), until we’ve got reliable, basic energetic literacy…  how can we clearly understand what used to happen?

How can we understand that everyday suffering wasn’t “My fault” or “Who I am” or “How my life has to be”?

The Presence of Any Type of Empath, While Unskilled

It’s not suprising then if, in the past, you didn’t consciously understand what was happening to you regarding that all-too-human concern, your personal presence…

What was my presence to other people?

How did they see me?

Why didn’t I get nearly enough respect from others? Did my very presence whisper to them, “Belittle me”?

Well, Blog-Buddies who are skilled empaths, at the very least, you finally are getting to read today’s article. 🙂

For more clarity about your past, you can rely on aura reading skills that I’ve developed, plus the rest of my knowledge so far as an empath coach.

Oh yes, as we get started today, you might wish to avail yourself of a hankie. Because what I’m about to describe involves the sad part of your life story.

A story of your past, though. Not the story of your present nor your future. Not now that you have become — or are becoming — a skilled empath.

And what if you’re not any kind of empath, skilled or unskilled?

Well, I’m writing today’s article for you, too. For you, just like the empaths who are reading this article, may today’s words open up your heart of compassion.

What Is Your Personal Presence, Anyway?

Empath or not, since the day you were born, you have had a presence. That presence has evolved right along with you.

Let’s define “presence” as how you seem to other people.

What Changes When You Become a SKILLED Empath?

Whatever your empath gifts… however many you have… once you’ve gained appropriate skill… guess what?

All that empath talent is turned OFF. This becomes your default, your regular way of living.

No more unskilled empath merges for you! And if there should be a slip-up, you know how to clean it up. Fast.

Welcome to Empath Empowerment®!

Note: “Empath Empowerment” is a term that many people are using today, but there’s only one system for teaching it properly, and the trademark you just saw in our last paragraph provides a clue.” (Note: I just googled “Empath Empowerment” and got 351,000 hits. Many of those hits are from people who have, evidently, spent more time on SEO than me. Whatever! I’ve been focused on helping people.)

Oh yes, Empath Empowerment® also gives you plenty of techniques to for doing Skilled Empath Merge. Which is, IMHO, the big reason why 1 in 20 people on earth today have bothered to incarnate as empaths!

But now let’s go into exploring the impact on an empath’s presence.  All we born empaths pay a price until we get skills. And that price includes $$$ Not as influential a presence as we can have as skilled empaths $$$.

In terms of your presence as a person, what’s the big problem with being merely talented as an empath and not yet skilled….?

Imported STUFF

As you may know, there are many kinds of astral garbage. Many can get into a person’s energy field.

In RES (that’s short for “Rosetree Energy Spirituality”) 15 different kinds of emotional and spiritual garbage have been identified. Glad to say, RES skills of energy HEALING can facilitate permanent healing of every one of those types of energetic STUFF. 🙂

Empath Empowerment®, for instance, includes skills for preventing and healing the one kind of STUFF that unskilled empaths get, Imported STUFF. (You can learn more about that, for sure, along with targeted skills that free up your aura from Imported STUFF. This is what I offer as an empath coach!)

So Here’s the Deal about Your Energy Presence as an Unskilled Empath

Regarding the energetic side of life, every unskilled empath’s aura gets junked up with Imported STUFF.

This distorts how the talented empath seems to other people.

Not to revolt you or anything, but you could picture it like this:

Empath Gladys has a really nice aura, loaded with gorgeous gifts of her soul. Gladys’ aura shows loads of good qualities and strengths that she’s been developing over the years. Mostly her aura is lovely.

Definitely no worse than most other humans on the planet.

Except… oops… she’s got the equivalent of armpit stains on her clothing. And not just under her armpits, but blotching up her entire outfit.

Unsightly? Yep.

Dare I mention? Also smelly. (In an astral way only. Undoubtedly Empath Gladys’ personal hygiene is really fine — the part she has control over, in nice & soapy, human-type ways.)

Gladys’ fault, all that icky? Not really. Although it would be great if she chose to learn skills that would make all that mess stop.

The icky auric modeling of unskilled empaths, like what I’ve just described, is an energetic and subconscious fact of life. Until Empath Gladys gets skills that stop the Imported STUFF, everybody who meets her subconsciously gets the message, “There’s something OFF about her.”

(Hint: What’s OFF sure aren’t Gladys’ empath gifts. Not yet.)

How About the Social Side of Presence?

Socially, not just energtically, an unskilled empath like Gladys can have a whole bunch of problems — problemsthat are specific to whichever type of empath gift the person has… while not yet a skilled empath.

Let’s sum up, one empath talent at a time. I’ll go into specifics as if Gladys has all 15 kinds of empath talent. (Remember, though, most empaths do not have all 15 kinds. I sure don’t, for instance. To be considered an empath, a person just needs to be born with 1 kind of empath talent.)

Regardless of the type of empath talent, however, social skills are probably lacking compared to the great manners and social finesse that an empath can develop after gaining Empath Empowerment® skills.

Is that true of all Highly Sensitive Persons? Nope. Any type of empath talent can cause an unskilled empath to avoid crowds or feel socially overwhelmed in ways that go beyond what happens to others, even other Highly Sensitive Persons. (As you may know by now, empaths are Highly, Highly Sensitive Persons.)

Okay, here come more specifics.

Type of Empath Talent #1. Physical INTUITION

Unskilled Empath Gladys may be overly aware of health problems and how people look.

With Physical Intuition, unskilled, she may be especially susceptible to pressures concerning The Anorexic Ideal, so confusing to those who seek approval from others.

Unless Empath Gladys also has one or both types of emotional talent as an empath, she may not be able to notice her own emotions very well. When upset, she may head straight to noticing physical discomforts instead.

Interesting?

Type of Empath Talent #2. Physical ONENESS

Unskilled Empath Gladys may have a lot of health concerns and/or worry about her health.

With unskilled Physical Oneness, she may often space out, or have brain fog, because seemingly random sensations move in and out of her body.

Sadly, this type of empath gift is terribly confusing. But once you learn the skills of Empath Empowerment, you will be able to help people with the knowledge you receive. Plus… you won’t be either suffering or confused in this way.

Type of Empath Talent #3. Intellectual Empath Ability

Unskilled Empath Gladys can seem insecure to others when presenting her ideas. Such as, in her student days, having to do reports in front of the class.

Although there are reasons galore why people can dread public speaking — among empaths, folks with this particular empath gift can top the “Who’s Who List for Fear of Public Speaking.”

While unskilled with Intellectual Empath Ability, Gladys may find it difficult to write or do other creative activities, either? How come? All this requires a certain degree of self-trust, which is hard to attain until a person attains a stronger sense of self.

With Intellectual Empath Ability, a certain wishy-washy quality can come up during any argument with others. And should the unskilled empath with this talent land in a group meeting? Oboy!

Even a very pleasant group of people will have different opinions, so this type of conversation can really intimidate somebody like Unskilled Empath Gladys.

Type of Empath Talent #4. Emotional INTUITION

With this kind of empath gift, Unskilled Empath Gladys can find it really, really confusing being with other people. Why? Because people often lie to themselves about what they are feeling, or put their emotions into denial, or send out mixed messages.

Not only can Gladys get all of this info without ever trying. If she has Emotional Intuition, it can be deeply puzzling to her how other people don’t seem to notice what is so obvious to her.

Unskilled Empath Gladys may also find it difficult to engage socially at a level that is appropriate, given the particular relationship. More than others, she will tend to go for what is DEEP, even with people she doesn’t know very well.

In general, having Emotional Intuition without empath skill can cause Gladys to seem a little “off” emotionally when she interacts with others — impacting career as well as relationships.

Type of Empath Talent #5. Emotional ONENESS

Unskilled Empath Gladys can really get clobbered with this one! Have you noticed? Human beings often have varied emotions on any given day. Well, Emotional Oneness brings way, way more variety to the daily emotional parade.

Plus, Unskilled Empath Gladys won’t consciously know the subconscious reason why her moods keep changing. And if she tries to fix things, or figure out what is happening, she’ll only suffer more.

Have you ever heard how “valuable” it is to ask yourself, “Whose emotions are those, anyway?”

Ergg. That will mess up Gladys (or anybody who tries it) more than ever. And, of course, there will also be zero effectiveness at either preventing or removing Imported STUFF.

Besides the mood swings that often result from Emotional Oneness, what else can cause a presence problem for Unskilled Empath Gladys?

Mental confusion and low self-esteem are examples of the many indirect consequences of dealing with mislabeled, random emotions. All of this can distort Gladys’ social presence.

Type of Empath Talent #6. Spiritual INTUITION

Unskilled Empath Gladys may not spend much time thinking about religion or spirituality. Yet that won’t protect her from Imported STUFF, doing unskilled empath merges with people who DO spend lots of time thinking about those topics.

What if, for instance, Gladys happens to live in America’s Bible Belt? Good luck, then, Unskilled Empath Gladys! Being around people with strong religious beliefs, or spiritual conflicts — or Catholic Guilt, Muslim Guilt, Jewish Guilt, etc. — can add to Gladys’ load of energetic discomfort.

Not that the Spiritual Intuition will necessary include specific downloads of information. As an unskilled empath with this gift, Gladys will just find that she’s socially awkward with a lot of people — a disheveled social presence resulting from inner information that is not-quite-conscious.

Type of Empath Talent #7. Spiritual ONENESS

Not to depress you’ all or anything, but…

Multiply the previously-mentioned awkwardness many fold if Glady’s gift as an unskilled empath is Spiritual ONENESS rather than Spiritual INTUITION.

Oh yes, add an exponential factor if Unskilled Empath Gladys happens to have both gifts. Haha. (And I’m speaking from personal experience here. Past but very, very personal.)

As an unskilled empath with Spiritual Oneness, Gladys may experience many shifts about the vividness and stability of reality as she perceives it.

Not that a single word about anything “spiritual” will necessarily cross her mind.

By way of analogy, it’s as if Gladys sits in a room on a sunny day. Unbeknownst to her, the blinds are continually being adjusted: Light to dark to dim… with no prior warning.

Imagine what it’s like adjusting to that, Blog-Buddies, especially if you don’t have concepts like “How much light is in the room.”

Or “How often every day do I do unskilled empath merges with people who suffer spiritually, whether consciously or not?”

No Repining!

Hey, that’s one of my mottoes.

No repining, even if the presence of any unskilled empath tends to be quite a mess. STUFF can always, always, always be healed. (Another RES motto.)

But really, all this has been intense enough for one day’s blogging. Intense even for me, and I’m a skilled empath by now… as every empath reading this article can be, as well.

Any comments so far? Any stories? Any of you empaths NOT need that hankie? 😉

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  1. 1
    Lilian says:

    Thanks Rose. On reflection I suspect I may have more empath gifts than I’ve admitted to in the last comments section. As you note on pg 132 in your empath book, as self acceptance grows, self authority grows.

  2. 2
    Lilian says:

    To save Rose saying: I mean this one: 🙂

    The Empowered Empath (Expanded Edition)

    Thanks especially for your empath talent #7 story.

  3. 3
    Emily T says:

    Wow Rose! The examples you gave are really illuminating.

  4. 4
    Grace T. says:

    I love seeing these experiences put so precisely into words. Great examples.

    It is such a gift to live with empath talents automatically off.

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    KATIE says:

    Some of these points really resonate with me. I often feel like people think there is something off about me. I just never understood why.

    It’s not anything they’re doing, it’s like I just know. And I don’t feel that way about myself which made it more confusing.

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    KATIE says:

    About wanting to get too deep with people you don’t know or when not appropriate, I can relate so much to that.

    And I seriously dislike it! It feels involuntary sometimes. I will purposely crush it down and make it a point to avoid the person. I can’t wait til that stops for me.

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    Kira says:

    Intellectual empath ability and emotional oneness are the gifts I’ve known I had since I first saw them described. But every time I see descriptions of the spiritual ones, they feel oh-so-close-but-not-quite to my experiences.

    Well, technically, *one* of them feels like that. But which one changes depending on the specific descriptions. In the case of this post, spiritual intuition is the one that feels almost right.

    It’s like having a word on the tip of your tongue and not being able to say it. I can tell that’s not my experience, but I can’t say what my experience was. Very much like inner information that’s still not-quite-conscious.

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    David B says:

    “While unskilled with Intellectual Empath Ability, Gladys may find it difficult to write or do other creative activities, either? How come? All this requires a certain degree of self-trust, which is hard to attain until a person attains a stronger sense of self.

    With Intellectual Empath Ability, a certain wishy-washy quality can come up during any argument with others. And should the unskilled empath with this talent land in a group meeting? Oboy!”

    Is That ever familiar and happily past.

  9. 9
    David B says:

    “As an unskilled empath with this gift, Gladys will just find that she’s socially awkward with a lot of people — a disheveled social presence resulting from inner information that is not-quite-conscious.”

    Ditto. Laughing and cringing both. I know the Oneness gift is there as I use it to help people during a shift sometimes. I also know a better skill level is possible.

  10. 10
    David B says:

    re: Intellect, the comic Charlie Brown illustrated that issue. He was even called wishy-washy. 🙂

  11. 11
    David B says:

    That is – Charlie Brown the comic book character, not a standup comic. 🙂

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    Happy says:

    I agree with Emily, the examples are wonderful.

    Talking about emotional intuition, I never knew until my late teens that people interacted differently with those they did not know very well.

    Different forms of interaction is quite normal to me now though 🙂

    That explained why people found me odd.

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    Happy says:

    Adding on to that, I could not understand back then why it was that I had no friends when I was so concerned (or so I thought). I think I got the answer today.

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    Kylie says:

    Wow! Fantastic blog Rose. I can remember experiencing so many of these (2,3,5,7.)

    Now, having been a skilled empath for so long, the memories are faint. But it reminds me strongly of some teens I work with, definitely unskilled empaths.

    I know they suffer, but I had forgotten the vivid experience of that. I particularly like your analogy of the room with blinds that are continually being adjusted. So true!

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    Isabella Cates says:

    Yes, these examples are wonderful!

    I really, really related to some of them. The last bit about Spiritual Oneness is amazing.

    “As an unskilled empath with Spiritual Oneness, Gladys may experience many shifts about the vividness and stability of reality as she perceives it.

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    Isabella Cates says:

    “Not that a single word about anything ‘spiritual’ will necessarily cross her mind.

    “By way of analogy, it’s as if Gladys sits in a room on a sunny day. Unbeknownst to her, the blinds are continually being adjusted: Light to dark to dim… with no prior warning.”

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    Isabella Cates says:

    Ohhh, yes, this was particularly vivid, horrible, and confusing for me, until I became a skilled empath.

    And yes it was awkward city over here. ? So, soooo awkward! lol.

    Not anymore, thank goodness.

  18. 18

    Thanks to all of you who have been sharing here. Fellow former residents of Awkward City!

    HAPPY, I’m especially moved by your Comments #12 and 13. 🙂

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    Lilian says:

    Hi Isabella, those comments were certainly very enlightening.

    I’ve noticed with the Coming Home technique, that my emotional self and my spiritual self are very different!

  20. 20
    Lilian says:

    My emotional self usually cheers up when I have a quick look at my spiritual self. 🙂 A perk of doing the technique, I guess.

    I’ve noticed the difference before and relied on the sense of spiritual connection even if my emotional self is complaining away….

  21. 21
    Lilian says:

    But sure, I’ve had the experience Rose described after spending a week with a particularly miserable person.

    (For work… I would have run away otherwise!)

    That was really really alarming. The mistake was to take ownership of this experience rather than letting it go…

  22. 22
    Lilian says:

    Rose, can I get some clarity here? In this sentance:

    “Which is, IMHO, the big reason why 1 in 20 people on earth today have bothered to incarnate as empaths!”

    You imply that we can choose to incarnate as empaths or not? Is this correct? I’ve been thinking about that recently.

  23. 23

    Thanks, LILIAN, for your latest comments.

    I’d like to clarify for some of you blog readers that LILIAN is referring in Comment #19 to the “Coming Home” technique, which is taught in “The Empowered Empath — Quick & Easy.” This is Book #2 in the series of Empath Empowerment® Books.

    It is also taught, in greater depth, in Book #3 in the series, “The Empowered Empath: Owning, Embracing and Managing Your Special Gifts.”

  24. 24

    LILIAN, before any incarnation a soul has a great deal of choice about where to incarnate and which type of life to pursue.

    A Life Contract is agreed upon. You can learn more about my understanding of Life Contracts in this article, based on some of the sessions of Soul Energy Awakening Hypnosis® that I’ve faciitated.

  25. 25
    Lilian says:

    Thanks Rose, I wasn’t sure that empath skills were part of that. Also, good article.

  26. 26
    Newbie says:

    Lilian your comment #21 hit home for me. I’ve been going through this experience for a long time.

    I’m fairly new to RES, just now completing my Empath Empowerment Level 1.

    Through a few healing sessions with Rose, I’m getting better and better at gaining proper skills and reinserting myself to objective reality.

  27. 27
    Newbie says:

    As you mentioned, I’ve been certainly owning those experiences too and letting go is still quite challenging for me sometimes ( those experiences seem to have a very strong hold on me), though world of difference comparison to before I met Rose.

    Rose, I love these series, all the real examples you provide makes it that much easier to relate and all the comments.

  28. 28

    NEWBIE, great to hear from you at the blog!

    And thanks, too, for your latest comment, ISABELLA CATES.

    This might sound like a peculiar question, ISABELLA. If you would, please tell our other Blog-Buddies why you can afford to laugh at these descriptions.

    Because, you know, they might not seem inherently comical. 😉

  29. 29
    Lilian says:

    Hey Newbie, yeah that’s the price of being an empath: the suffering you go through when you just don’t realise what is happening.

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  31. 31
    Isabella Cates says:

    I can chuckle because I have compassion for myself in the past.

    At the time, as an unskilled empath, I was lost in problems utterly confusing and seemingly insurmountable.

  32. 32
    Isabella Cates says:

    Shifting realities?

    Moment to moment, day to day?

    How do you fix that? Maybe do more drugs?

  33. 33
    Isabella Cates says:

    Now I know these problems can really, truly be survived and you can flourish as a Skilled Empath.

    And it’s easy, really, once you have the tools, and make a bit of time for it over the years.

  34. 34
    Isabella Cates says:

    Ask/pay for help when you need it.

    (Big improvement comes fast, but yes, you can have even more in successive passes of learning Empath Empowerment skills. And yes, you have to continue using your skills past the initial phase… if you want to keep and gather more benefits.)

  35. 35
    Isabella Cates says:

    Parents or people who work with kids, especially teens, have a similar feeling that I do.

    Compassion for problems that aren’t problems for an adult anymore, but are so, so real and serious to a child or teen.

  36. 36
    Isabella Cates says:

    Older now, you know they’re survivable, and that things will be just fine.

    You can be a steadying presence.

    And yes, sometimes it’s funny what kids freak out about (or really, anyone younger than you!).

  37. 37
    Isabella Cates says:

    But a sweet, compassionate kind of laugh only. Not telling anyone they’re stupid or their suffering is silly.

    (Especially teenagers. Don’t try that :P.. It’s kind of mean anyway.)

  38. 38
    Isabella Cates says:

    So I hope to reach out to my past self and say, “You’ll be okay. Everything will be fine. These problems are surmountable. Have a peek at how good you’ll feel in a few years. Rest assured, you will survive this. Empath skills are on the way.”

  39. 39
    Isabella Cates says:

    And to anyone who’s still suffering with Unskilled Empath Merges.. well, get a move on, sweeties!

    What are you waiting for? 🙂

  40. 40
    Isabella Cates says:

    Just get a better life, why don’t you, right now.

    Read the book, take the workshop.

    You can get better. Things can get better.

    Just pick yourself up a little bit of the way and the skills will carry you much further.

  41. 41
    Isabella Cates says:

    Bottom line, I don’t suffer like what’s described here anymore, though I once did.

    So I can look at myself with fondness and be glad that I had all these wacky experiences in consciousness that drove me nuts.

    They certainly made me a better helper and person-who-uses-healing-skills and more compassionate person in general. 🙂

  42. 42

    Oh, ISABELLA CATES. Thank. You. So. Much.

  43. 43
    Lilian says:

    <3 Thank-you for the love in those comments Isabella.
    The journey of an empath seems to be to become a steadier, stronger, more defined, more compassionate person.

    Thank-you Rose for these posts. It's helped me understand more what I'm needing to address (or just continue to address) to move forward.

  44. 44
    Emily T says:

    Lovely comments Isabella!

  45. 45
    Emily T says:

    Another example of unskilled intellectual empath merges:

    Going up to your teacher or your manager to ask a question or get instructions on how to do something.

    Everything seems so clear and you know exactly what to do, it even seems easy.

    Then you go back to your desk and you have no idea what to do or why everything seemed so clear and why your notes are so sparse

  46. 46
    Jessica Gates says:

    Lol, Emily T. – I can so relate!

  47. 47
    Kira says:

    Yep, Emily T. and Jessica, me too!

  48. 48
    Kira says:

    Even worse is being a go-between, relaying a message from one person to another!

    I’ve only rarely needed to ask for clarifications or instruction, but I’ve had to relay messages a lot.

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