Observant LILIAN has combined two separate themes we’ve been exploring lately.
At the end of her insightful guest post 🙂 you can find links to each of the two themes that LILIAN cleverly brings together in the following article.
At Times, I’ve Paid a Price for Being an Unskilled Empath
I thought it was interesting how the series of wonderful blog posts about paying the price was being closely followed by a series of blog posts about empath skills. I thought to write a post to honor the experience of being an empath, even while unskilled, and what I feel I have gained from simply being born with talent as an empath.
Particularly interesting to me was that in one session with Rose I had a question in mind about whether empath gifts were a choice. Rose answered it. “Empath gifts are a choice,” she told me. “They are part of your life contract.”
The message Ive got from people in the past was that sensitivity is a gift that you get from becoming more evolved and that you can become more sensitive over a lifetime. I didnt know how to accept that. (And now I don’t have to.)
Having Empath Talent Doesn’t Make Life Easier Until You Develop Skills to Support Your Talent
Im not the kind of person who thinks talent means youre particularly evolved overall. Be that talent as an empath or anything else.
So thinking that I purposely incarnated as an empath made me grumpy: I began to worry, “Are my empath gifts part of the karma Ive decided to pay off in this lifetime?”
Without my being even one single type of empath (let alone several), my family situation would have been sooo much easier to handle.
Being an unskilled empath does bring its share of vulnerability and humiliation.
My poor pride! Ive had to hang onto my sense of self with everything I have.
But Ive decided that my empath talents (even while unskilled) helped me to evolve out of the situation I was in, rather than just shut down completely. Here are some thoughts that I think are true for me.
As an Empath, It Is Easier to Forgive
Yes, there has been a lot of discussion about forgiveness at Are You Willing to Pay the Price Spiritually? Perspective from RES.
It may have taken me a long time to make the wise decision to no longer be available for certain people. To stop being available out of self-love.
However, I find that empath ability, even unskilled, helped me to grow in compassion to become more accepting.
In childhood, I could have easily lost my sense of kindness. And I might have suffered more from bitterness and depression if I hadnt seen the pain in other people so clearly.
Rose has done some aura readings on key people in my life. Consequently I realize now that, given their own pain, these family members have done the best they could. Back then, as an unskilled empath, I had a vague sense of it (due to those subconscious-level unskilled empath merges).
Being an Empath Has Help Me to Become a More Balanced Person
Without empath ability, I might have shut down more emotionally and spiritually and just focused on developing my mind (which is where I feel safest).
Ive done a lot of that anyway. At least the empath talents have kept me curious about other aspects of life, and have pushed me to be more flexible and adaptable.
Granted, at times, Ive felt quite furious about my empath abilities. Before I learned Empath Empowerment® those empath talents have distracted me, confused me.
Yes, confusion related to empath talent without skill has gotten me into scrapes. Cost me money, too.
But these days I’m thinking, that might have been the idea behind my incarnating as an empath
Experiences from living with so much Imported STUFF has caused a lot of suffering. Yet, as a result, I was push to ask myself a lot of questions. In retrospect, I have evolved more as a whole person.
Indirectly, Empath Gifts Motivated Me to Find a Stronger Sense of Self
By agreeing to launch myself into the chaos of empath talent without empath skills, maybe I knew what I was doing.
I figure that I must have made a decision pre-birth to be committed to lifting myself out of that misery. I like to think of myself as a pretty strong person. So the sense of feeling like victim that being an unskilled empath can bring… has felt pretty unbearable.
Its not how I truly see myself.
What Changed with Rose’s Method of Empath Empowerment®
The way I see it is this. In order to gain empath skills, you need to become more comfortable and accepting of yourself.
Of course, gaining Empath Empowerment skills creates a stronger sense of self, so its reciprocal.
I have found I had to exercise my self-authority and self-acceptance to gain more of them.
For me, when I read the daily little chapters in “Become The Most Important Person in the Room” I had to take my time with learning, and not judge myself harshly. Following her instructions in that 30-Day Program, I still felt that my progress was slow.
Even while gaining skill, I found it necessary to acknowledge to myself from time to time the vulnerability Ive experienced in the past. Those thoughts comforted me and help me to be patient with myself.
So thats more of my personal process, doing what Rose has in her program of Empath Empowerment and, at other times, adding certain conversations with myself for the purpose of more emotional growth and self-acceptance.
Becoming a Skilled Empath Has Helped Me Grow Spiritually, Too
It seems to me that choosing to be an empath means I intended to be committed to lots of spiritual and emotional growth in this lifetime, because thats what I needed to do to make my life work.
Ive learned many things, first to survive as an unskilled empath and, more recently, to have a much easier life by simply using empath skills as Rose has taught.
All of this has been part of my spiritual growth, far as I’m concerned:
- Discernment about who I am
- Discernment about who Im not
- Trusting how I personally relate to the Divine
My Social Skills Have Been Progressing Too, Thanks to Becoming a Skilled Empath
Giving to someone doesnt necessarily mean Im helping them. While an unskilled empath, I knew that intellectually but now I’m owning it more.
I can move forward with things even if I dont feel I understand whats going on mentally. Again, that has been a big step of progress for me.[Note from Rose: Not having all the Imported STUFF as an unskilled empath… probably has a great deal to do with this improvement.]
Maybe it sounds a bit self-centred, but Ive learned that I cant be of service to others without first committing to love myself more. Having my empath abilities has pushed me to find my center and be steadier in myself.
Choosing to be an empath is a unique experience.
Finally, Becoming a Skilled Empath isn’t Either/Or.
Refinement of Skills Can Continue for Me.
I wouldn’t say Im totally skilled as yet; Im learning more how becoming skilled is not necessarily a linear process.
I plan to persevere a little more with the techniques in Roses book, “The Empowered Empath: Owning, Embracing and Managing Your Special Gifts.”
On the most part, I dont think I suffer very much with unskilled merges. Rose has helped me fairly recently with a few particular sticking points in sessions.
But I see ways where I can suffer even less. I even look forward to when I spontaneously stop keep using my mind for workarounds after I’ve had some unintended split-split-split second unskilled empath merges.
I hope that some of you can relate to this.
Recent Blog Posts about Paying the Price for Good Things We Have in Life
- The Guru Game in the Age of Awakening
- Are You Willing to Pay the Price Spiritually? Perspective from RES.
- As a Piano Prodigy, Paying the Price. A Guest Post by Mark
- Paying the Price of Beauty. A Guest Post by LYNETTE
- Paying the Price for My College Degree. A Guest Post by EMILY T.
- Cutting a Cord of Attachment to a Lawyer. Paying the Hidden Price.
- Cutting an Abortion Cord of Attachment. Informative, as Always
Recent Blog Posts about the Presence of an Empath
- How Many Types of Empath Are There? Which Are You?
- The Powerful Presence of an Aura Reader
- Seeking More Clarity about the ENERGY Aspect of Your Personal Presence? Aura Reading Helps.
- How Aura Reading Can Help You with the SOCIAL Aspect of Personal Presence
- The Presence of an UNSKILLED Empath, Part 1 of 2
- The Presence of an UNSKILLED Empath, Completed
- Such Improvement! The Presence of a SKILLED Empath, Part 1
- Energy Presence and Social Presence of a Skilled Empath, Part 2
- How This Empowered Empath Stopped Faking It. A Guest Post by IRENE