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Clarity, Skilled Empath-Style. A Guest Post by IRENE

What happens when a skilled empath sees her world crystal clear?

What happens when a skilled empath sees her world crystal clear?

Objective-Subjective Clarity is the context for today’s guest post on gaining new clarity, skilled empath-style.

Empath Empowerment® does make it far easier for empaths to tell the difference between objective reality and subective reality.

IRENE’S guest post today makes this Empath Coach proud. Because IRENE connects some very important dots between clarity, being a skilled empath, being empathic, and more.

Go, IRENE!

Loving My New Clarity as a Skilled Empath

In the past, I certainly confused objective reality with subjective reality. Before, I’ve thought I understood what something was like. Really I didn’t.

Because, as an unskilled empath, I hadn’t actually experienced much that was happening in objective reality.

Instead I’d thought about it. (Subjectively.)

I’d researched it. (Subjectively.)

No wonder I felt that I knew quite a lot about it. (Subjectively.)

Even Worse, for an Empath Who Yearned for Clarity

Without realizing it, I had compounded my over-subjective perspective on reality. How?

Back then, I was an unskilled empath. Which means I had empath talent but zero skills. Yet.

Consequently, like any unskilled empath, I routinely did unskilled empath merges on other people. This resulted in Imported STUFF, messing up my aura. This seeker of clarity was gaining less and less clarity all the time because of that junked-up aura.

Less and Less Clarity, as an Unskilled Empath

Moreover, what happened while I was subjectively observing people? Whatever they did in objective reality was only noticed vaguely, if at all.

What felt like clarity was really confusion, UNskilled empath-style.

After talking to Joe, for instance, I knew a lot about that conversation. (Subjectively, while doing unskilled empath merge).

I felt sure that I had experienced great clarity about the conversation. (Due to the vividness of my unskilled empath merge.)

But, even by subjective standards, I lacked clarity. How come? As an unskilled empath, so much of what I experienced wasn’t really MY experience. It was my unskilled merge Joe’s experience. Including the kind of “Prolonged Unskilled Empath Merge” that you can read about in this more advanced book by Rose about how to become a skilled empath.

Skilled or Unskilled, Being an Empath Is Not About Having Empathy

Empathy, defined by Merriam-Webster, is this: “The feeling that you understand and share another person’s experiences and emotions.”

The feeling that!

By contrast, an empath — even an unskilled empath — even an unskilled empath seeking clarity — we do understand someone else’s experience. Because, for a split-split-split-split-second, energetically we share it.

Unskilled empath merge happens directly. Off and on, through one unskilled empath merge after another.

So this seeker of clarity wasn’t just over-subjective because of being empathic while with Joe.

I would directly experience what it was like to be another person like Joe.

Sooooooooooooo subjective! Of course, experiences like this took me away from clarity, not towards it.

No Kind of Empath Merge Brings Clarity

If you define “clarity” as understanding what really happens in life, that requires being present to objective reality.

No kind of empath merge — whether skilled or unskilled — makes that possible.

  • Despite how vivid my unskilled empath merges used to be, did they bring clarity?
  • And regardless of how vivid my Skilled Empath Merges are now, do they bring clarity?
  • Not really!

Because either way, any kind of empath merge does not position awareness at objective reality. Therefore, clarity is not possible while you’re doing an empath merge, even a Skilled Empath Merge.

Why Is a Skilled Empath Free to Seek Clarity EFFECTIVELY?

As a skilled empath, I choose when I will do an empath merge. Hint: That is one reason why it is called “Skilled” Empath Merge.

I’ll do this during my 20 Daily Minutes of Technique Time. Which enhances my life. While the rest of my waking hours, my awareness is positioned in ways that help me to live THE NEW STRONG.

I’m living with awareness positioned at human frequencies. The resulting clarity really does help me to thrive, the way that all of us can now, since we live in The Age of Awakening.

It’s really wonderful to not be confused like that now. And I’m discovering some unexpected…

Major Benefits to My New-Found Clarity

Although I’m NOT doing unskilled empath merges off and on, while with someone like Joe, what happens? I can understand better what he is going through. Understand better than I used to do before.

I can hear what he actually says. (In objective reality.)

And I can look at what he does. (Such a vitally important aspect of human vibrational frequencies!)

With awareness positioned at those human vibrational frequencies, in objective reality, what else happens automatically? I understand that Joe’s experience is very different from mine.

No longer do I struggle to imagine how Joe’s way of being can fit into my subjective understanding of the world.

This gives me the option of being curious, if I wish, about the separate reality of what Joe experiences.

Clarity as a Skilled Empath Brings Me Many Benefits

As a skilled empath, I can actually hear what Joe has to say. No more filtering it all through my own interpretations.

Objective reality is my new friend!

I can look at what Joe does. If it puzzles me, I can ask him why.

Again, thanks to objective reality, Joe might answer my question.

If so, I can actually hear what he says. Joe himself can describe his subjective experiences.

This Skilled Empath Is Grateful for All the New Clarity

By now, I’ve learned enough skills of Rosetree Energy Spirituality (RES) to be a skilled empath and also an aura reader with Stage Three Energetic Literacy.

So I have deeper perception skills that I can use to enhance my clarity about objective reality. But even without using any of my Technique Time that way, I can understand a lot on the surface level of reality.

More than I ever could before! Why? Because I notice what’s actually happening before I begin interpreting it.

This makes me significantly more effective in my relationships than before. Eliminating a lot of turmoil and angst!

No longer must I don’t fit my friends’ experiences into how I understand the world. I can just accept the differences.

Which leads straight to the other even bigger benefit.

A Kind of Clarity this Empath Might Never, Ever Have Imagined

I can also not be particularly interested.

Joe’s reality belongs to him. Meanwhile, my job is to have mine.

Knowing that people have very different goals and priorities and experiences means that I can pay attention to my life, my experience and what I want out of my life.

Yes, my life can truly come first and foremost.

What if Joe does something that, to me, seems preposterous or crazy? I don’t have to pay attention.

(Of course, if Joe’s actions impact me and my life, then I can do and say things to protect what’s important to me. In objective reality, I’ll get what I want out of that situation — as best I can.)

Joe’s life is different than mine. What he wants for his life is different from what I want for my life.

That’s entirely okay.

It’s marvelously freeing to know the difference between objective and subjective reality, and to live accordingly. 

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  1. 1
    Isabelle says:

    I understand why this makes you, Rose, as an Empath Coach proud!

    – VERY GOOD, Irene. Thank you. You put everything just brilliantly.

  2. 2
    Kira says:

    Great post, Irene!

  3. 3
    Eleanor says:

    I second the above comments!! Indeed, no wonder Rose is so proud :D!

    Speaking of clarity–you really have a remarkable knack for dissecting and articulating fine nuances of these very subtle concepts! I look forward to rereading this post a few times, for deepening layers of “aha!”

  4. 4
    Kristine says:

    Great post, Irene. I’m glad I know this to be true now: “Joe’s life is different than mine. What he wants for his life is different from what I want for my life.”

    Even if an empath can sense the discomfort or suffering of another, it’s still up to the individual to take action to solve it.

  5. 5
    Kristine says:

    I can ponder (or not) and say “geez, that’s tough” or maybe MAYBE offer some assistance (but I’m very selective about this now).

    No more painful volunteer work.

    As you say “Yes, my life can truly come first and foremost.” High five to that!

  6. 6
    Kylie says:

    Great post Irene! You describe the experience so well.

    I agree with Eleanor–you do have a remarkable knack for articulating nuances.

    Having almost forgotten what it was like to be an unskilled empath, it is good to read this. It makes me realize how much has changed.

  7. 7
    David B says:

    Thanks, Irene. That’s a very good point, how an unskilled empath will actually have more trouble with the “new real”. Subjectivity overshadows objective reality. And subjectivity is cluttered with other too.

  8. 8
    Irene says:

    Aw shucks everyone, thanks! A lot of credit for the clarity of this one goes to Rose. She cleaned it up great – I had some ahas myself as I read it in the final form. 🙂

  9. 9
    Irene says:

    It’s so great being a skilled empath! I was scared at the beginning that I’d be sacrificing perceptiveness, but I haven’t at all!

    It’s changed and grown and improved in ways I couldn’t have imagined back then.

  10. 10
    Irene says:

    Kristine, #4-5, so true! It’s wonderful to be able to have compassion for another’s suffering but know that so much of it is “not my circus, not my monkeys” as the old Polish proverb goes.

    I can let them live their lives as I live mine. A relief for me, and truly better for everyone.

  11. 11
    Amanda says:

    A great post and yes, so much clarity.. 🙂 Congratulations and thank you, Irene.

    Living on the surface of life is so freeing. Your description is wonderful!

    Amanda

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