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Watching Yourself? Think Again.

Symbolically, Rose dons three different hats to debunk the allure of Watching Yourself for Personal Growth

Symbolically, Rose dons three different hats to debunk the allure of Watching Yourself for Personal Growth

In two days, two different people shared this proud aspiration for personal growth: Watching yourself.

Sadly, I couldn’t warn them. At least, I’ve written this post to warn you.

My aura reading of amazingly talented Leslie Jones, promised in yesterday’s post, is just going to have to wait a bit.

Watching Herself. To Stop Suffering as an Empath

Recently I accepted GLADYS into my Facebook Group for Empaths. Messaging her a welcome, I explained that the group is on hiatus indefinitely. Adding (to paraphrase), “It’s best to go to this blog for the latest in cool articles for empaths.”

Hey, Blog-Buddies, you know. Here at “Deeper Perception Made Practical,” we don’t only have articles about self-help for empaths. Yet you can use our search box to search on the word “Empath.” What will you find? Page after page after page of articles about what really helps empaths.

Yowza! As of today, 128 pages of LINKS.

Before proceeding further, I’ll pause to put on my hat as Empath Coach.

Yes, Rose Rosetree officially puts on her hat as an Empath Coach. Warning about Watching Yourself.

Yes, Rose Rosetree officially puts on her hat as an Empath Coach. Warning about Watching Yourself.

So… All of this help for empaths is based in a unique system, Empath Empowerment®. This method uses the power of your consciousness to strengthen your sense of self. With no self-watching whatsoever, you learn an effortless way to keep all your empath gifts routinely turned OFF. (Unless you’re going to do a Skilled Empath Merge on purpose.)

All the skills of  Empath Empowerment are effortless and natural. I guess I figured that GLADYS knew something about my open Facebook group, because I monitored it almost daily for over a year before this hiatus. Loads of helpful articles and exchanges are still lively.

Such a contrast to most of what’s out there from Empath Coaches who teach very different approaches. Including…

Oh No, Not This. Oh, You Darling Empath!

GLADYS messaged me. After a sweet thank you for accepting her into the group, she wrote:

“I am still learning to control and differentiate my feelings from those around me. But I’ll get there.”

OmiGod.

GLADYS has given herself the path of Watching Yourself to Become a Skilled Empath.

A path that can never work!

Why not? This Empath Coach helps people become more whole. Not more fragmented.

Of course, detaching from life will fragment your sense of self. Watching yourself and your feelings is neither natural nor normal nor healthy.

Pursue this path only if you wish to mess yourself up.

Think I’m kidding?

One Extreme Consequence of Watching Yourself

Granted, this story is extreme. But it does show the consequences of watching yourself. And show this more vividly than anything else I can supply in a quick blog post like the one for today.

My long-time client JOSEPHINE is back. Previously, for several years, this empath pursued a psychologically-oriented Path of Watching Yourself for Personal Growth.

She gave herself to that path heart and soul.

And what did JOSEPHINE gain?

  • Feeling terrible, she went to see a new therapist. The therapist gave her this diagnosis: Disassociative Identity Disorder.
  • Sadly, JOSEPHINE had given this to herself. Due to 30 years of working hard on personal growth.
  • Thanks to… You guessed it. This was, IMO, the result of 30 years with plenty of hard work along The Path of Watching Yourself.
  • Happily, JOSEPHINE has done occasional sessions with me and they were plenty to get her back onto a faster path of personal growth and spiritual growth.

Also! Important! Far as I know, this terrible diagnosis was one-off. Just one therapist of many. Shortly after giving this disassociative diagnosis to JOSEPHINE, that therapist was fired. But that scary misdiagnosis sure did give JOSEPHINE pause.

On a much smaller scale, not at the level of diagnosed mental health problems, guess what? Constantly watching yourself can lead to a whole lot of detachment.

Logically, doesn’t that make sense?

When watching yourself, be careful what you ask for.

You will surely get it: More and more detachment.

Watching Yourself Can Also Be Done for Spiritual Growth. Unfortunately.

Up next, I want to introduce you to a whole different version of “Watching Yourself.” This time, for spiritual development.

Now I’ll put on my Enlightenment Coach hat.

Yes, Rose Rosetree officially puts on her hat as an Enlightenment Coach. Warning about Watching Yourself for spiritual growth.

Yes, Rose Rosetree officially puts on her hat as an Enlightenment Coach. Warning about Watching Yourself for spiritual growth.

That’s better. Let’s go.

Watching Yourself to Find God

JOE, the second sweet seeker I met in two days, had a session of face reading with me. Quite often, he spoke about the meditation center where he teaches.

Given my own history — as a meditation teacher from 1970-1986 — I could read the signs. Meditation was pretty much JOE’S life.

JOE simply adored his meditation practice. He was so proud of it. Beautiful!

Sigh! Beautiful until his session was nearly over, anyway. To paraphrase what JOE told me then:

“My meditation practice is so beautiful. I’ve learned so much about watching myself. During meditation and outside of meditation. Watching and watching and watching.

“It’s hard. Yet this is the only way.”

Watching Yourself Will NOT Help You Find God. Sorry.

Back when I taught Transcendental Meditation, I often heard Maharishi Mahesh Yogi rail against this particularly horrible path to Enlightenment.

Why so horrible?

  • Because watching yourself is a ridiculously torturous path that is highly unlikely to produce Enlightenment.
  • Moreover, watching yourself can weaken everyday thinking. “Dividing the mind,” Maharishi called it.
  • Furthermore, watching yourself will cause detachment. An unhealthy detachment.

To be clear, this sort of detachment is not the witnessing that features prominently in the Surrender Model of Enlightenment. (By contrast, witnessing is not a feature of Householder Enlightenment. More to come on that topic… another day.)

For now, here’s the simple distincting. Detachment produced by Watching Yourself as a Spiritual Path… leads to misery. Not Enlightenment. (Nowhere close.)

A Different Perspective on Horrible Consequences from Watching Yourself

Let’s pause for a moment, because another change of hat is in order. You may know that Rosetree Energy Spirituality (RES) involves four different skill sets: Energy READING skills, energy HEALING skills, Empath Empowerment Coaching, and Enlightenment Coaching.

Four hats, in short.

Concluding this article, I’ll put on a third hat. My chapeau for the energy READING skills. 🙂

Now Rose Rosetree officially puts on her hat as an Energy READING Coach. Still warning about Watching Yourself for spiritual growth

Now Rose Rosetree officially puts on her hat as an Energy READING Coach. Still warning about Watching Yourself for spiritual growth

Whew, that’s better.

Energetic Literacy Shows the Consequences of Watching Yourself

Blog-Buddies, you may know that as an Energy READING Coach, I’ve described 15 different stages of energetic literacy that a person can develop.

At Stage 13, you can learn how to research a person’s aura through energetic holograms. Quite often, I have done this kind of research to help clients understand what they were doing — to themselves — through a former spiritual practice.

Does this surprise you? Many, many seekers of spiritual development have done variations on Watching Yourself to Gain Enlightenment.

Actually, two of the people now on my Enlightenment Life List have received this kind of energy READING during a session with me. We learned, in luxuriant detail, just how horrible the consequences are. Energetically. Subconsciously.

Let me put it this way:

Have you ever wished to give your brain a consistency akin to string cheese?

Then don’t delay.

Immediately devote yourself to a spiritual practice that demands watching yourself.

What’s So Great about Watching Yourself?

Given all this three-hatted perspective, you might wonder: Why do so many spiritual teachers, empath coaches, and psychotherapists advocate watching yourself?

I’ve thought about that a lot. Perhaps are the main reasons:

  1. Watching yourself will keep yourself busy. Thereby giving a feeling of accomplishment.
  2. Also, watching yourself appeals to diligent seekers of personal growth. Whether it’s a better life as an empath or personal wholeness psychologically or moving forward in spiritual development.
  3. Nobody who advocates watching yourself has reasonably good skills at aura reading.

Regarding that third idea: Here’s a research project for you. Do this after you have developed good old Stage Three Energetic Literacy — not a big deal, really. Just comparable to how you can read these words on a screen with regular word literacy.

Go ahead and read the auras of folks who tell you those pretty, pretty stories. (Or have a session of aura research with any RES expert. Supply a photo of that Watching Yourself Encourager.)

How great is Watching Yourself for them? Thereby hangs a tale.

Meanwhile, use your Post-New-Age Consumer Smarts. Question authority figures who advocate watching yourself.

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  1. 1
    Isabelle says:

    I can so relate to this! I used to watch myself and my feelings…all of the time.

    I don’t know why, but it used to be normal for me. I thought this was the way to live, as a human being.

  2. 2
    Isabelle says:

    It was horrible horrible horrible.

    And wanting to end all of this horrible, I started meditating at a young age. With help of my psychologist.

  3. 3
    Isabelle says:

    After ‘meditation’, I used to watch myself even more and felt soooo much like I was ‘controlling’ everything.

    Every thought, every simple action. It was just horrible.

  4. 4
    Isabelle says:

    But I thought this was the way to live and what it meant to be human. I really thought so.

  5. 5
    Isabelle says:

    I am glad that this proofed to be wrong.

  6. 6
    Isabelle says:

    Living without watching myself CONSTANTLY, feels like a blessing from God. The difference is…BIG.

    Thanks to you, Rose.

  7. 7
    Isabelle says:

    PS: I love the hats, especially the last one ?

  8. 8
    Lilian says:

    Hmm, I had a phase of this when I was about 12… I was trying to live in a “state of constant prayer”. I was trying to keep myself “safe” in a disturbing home environment.

    Thankfully social workers intervened in a more practical way.

  9. 9
    Lilian says:

    I guess that this kind of thing is another example of trying to seek refuge in the astral.

  10. 10
    Lilian says:

    Thanks for sharing Isabelle. Silly psychologists. xxx

  11. 11
    Brianne says:

    About as much as I knew about enlightenment before RES was basically that, supposedly, witnessing was the same as watching, and that it was the “right” way to move toward enlightenment.

  12. 12
    Brianne says:

    It didn’t make enlightenment seem very desirable or practical or even possible.

    I’m so glad to have found better information and better coaching!

  13. 13
    Evgenia says:

    It was not about personal growth when I was watching myself.

    It was about just becoming standard like all other people. How could I stick out if I was raised to be same as others.

    Still have that a bit, still not big fan of attention and still it is easier for me to blend in. It is tough and always was.

  14. 14

    Wonderful comments, everyone.

    EVGENIA, I was so touched by your Comment #13. But it made me curious, too.

    If you don’t mind sharing, what was going on with your social group that made it important to become “standard like all other people?”

    That sounds like a high degree of social pressure. Or is it just that the kids in middle school were unusually snobby?

  15. 15
    Evgenia says:

    Rose,

    In my case it definitely was a social pressure.

    When I was raised in communism the system did not have any way to detect kid’s talents other that math, literature and so on.

  16. 16
    Evgenia says:

    I was pretty sure I had no talents whatsoever for the most part of my life.

    But even without talents it was required to be same as others.

  17. 17
    Evgenia says:

    I am introvert but was forced to be an extrovert. And when you are doing something that is not natural to you the requirement to watch yourself is there automatically.

    Not to mention that you have to watch and analyse yourself during the process of going towards true you.

  18. 18
    Evgenia says:

    What is you and what is not, what feels good and what was a brainwash.

    All of those situations need some internal analysis.

  19. 19
    Evgenia says:

    Do I wish that I did not have to watch myself? Of course.

    But I could not afford it before.

  20. 20
    Evgenia says:

    I had to find a balance between analyzing for results and over analyzing.

    And that is a struggle on its own )))

    I am glad that balance is not that tough anymore, I trust myself better and know how to seek for help if one is needed before I exhaust myself with thinking.

  21. 21

    Wow, EVGENIA. And thanks!

  22. 22
    Sky says:

    Thank you for sharing Everyone. I can so relate to your stories.

    Isabelle your comment #1 is how I lived my entire life, just very recently realizing the glass ceiling and all the limitations I’ve been putting on myself.

  23. 23
    Sky says:

    Evgenia as a communism child myself, I strongly resonate with your words.

    Conformity has been a big struggle for me.

    Even pretending that I was like the others (for example having the same outlook in life or same tastes regarding the simplest things) felt like a huge loss as I was lying to myself.

  24. 24
    Sky says:

    Rose (and RES) helped me to be just me. Whatever that is at any moment in time.

    And whatever I am “supposedly” lacking, its most likely a skill set that I don’t yet have and can always learn.

  25. 25
    Sky says:

    Being authentic is the biggest freedom.

    It reminds me of the saying “Always tell your truth so you don’t have to remember anything.”

  26. 26
    Isabelle says:

    I’ve never heard that saying before, Sky. But I really like it!

  27. 27
    Grace T says:

    I nodded vigorously throughout this whole article, as well as the comments! YES!

    I was one of those every-second-thought-watchers, and no longer doing THAT is one of the greatest freedoms RES brought me.

  28. 28
    Grace T says:

    And I had to laugh out loud at the”OmiGod” in the second heading.

    I have that same reaction now when I here some of the soo unhelpful strategies I hear people nobly applying.

  29. 29
    Grace T says:

    As outlined here, it is so present as a self-help technique from both a psychological standpoint AND in spiritual circles with regards to meditation, empaths, pursuit of enlightenment, etc.

  30. 30
    Grace T says:

    I appreciate having more words to describe what this does to a person as far as dividing the mind, fragmenting one’s sense of self, and leading to detachment.

  31. 31
    Adam McIntosh says:

    I am leery of any spiritual practice that is:

    1. A massively laborious undertaking,
    2. Positions itself as the only way to attain spiritual evolution/liberation.

  32. 32
    Adam McIntosh says:

    I think this positioning implies that only people with significant amounts of free time and energy can advance spiritually.

    For people who are privileged to have the extra free time and energy to engage in extensive and laborious performance of spiritual techniques, this implication can easily be missed.

  33. 33
    Adam McIntosh says:

    For people who don’t have this free time and energy (due to illness, poverty, responsibilities etc) – the idea that you are consequently failing to do the only thing that will provide spiritual evolution?

    This seems like a pretty ugly notion to me.

  34. 34
    Adam McIntosh says:

    When I was younger I felt that immense pressure to do as much meditation as I could stand.

    It didn’t matter how much I did – it never ever felt like enough.

    I wonder if this is in part related to the intersection of eastern spiritual practices with western capitalism?

  35. 35
    Adam McIntosh says:

    Culturally, capitalism emphasises maximum productivity and ever-increasing economic growth.

    You’re never supposed to even look like you aren’t working consistently in a capitalist society.

  36. 36
    Adam McIntosh says:

    I think the urge to always be working more, harder, better, faster runs deep in the west, and I think this urge is fundamentally incompatible with many important areas of human endeavour outside of the economic.

  37. 37
    Kristine says:

    I have seen an element of watching yourself taught in the coaching environment by some practitioners. The idea that being more aware of yourself will help you achieve your desired goals.

    In some ways this is true (like paying attention to what is said and done), but not by observing yourself constantly, focusing on energy, etc.

  38. 38
    Kristine says:

    Without an energetic literacy perspective, it can really cause more harm than good just doing what some successful practitioner suggests.

    RES has helped me know the difference between what needs to be put on a time limit (20 minutes of technique time) vs. something that just doesn’t need to be done at all.

  39. 39
    Kristine says:

    For someone who can easily slip into the subjective experience and finds it easy/comforting going there, this watching yourself type of instruction is a pure set up (from my own experience).

    It can feel good and seem right, but lead to minimal results at the same time.

  40. 40
    Kristine says:

    The watching game becomes a waiting game where the results just don’t come.

    I feel all the wiser being able to integrate my RES learning into other areas..these skills are just smart to have/use.

  41. 41
    Kristine says:

    I love this from Sky’s comment 25 “Being authentic is the biggest freedom.”

    Being able to know what my own authentic is really helps to cut through useless experiments at trying this and trying that and still feeling empty. Or at least limit my time doing them.

  42. 42

    Wonderful comments, everyone. I want to keep commenting away with thank you’s and applause.

    Mostly I step into the background with full blog-monitor-ly decorum. But I can’t restrain myself from giving special acknowledgement to this fabulous part of KRISTINE’s Comment #40:

    The watching game becomes a waiting game where the results just don’t come.”

  43. 43
    David B says:

    Pretty funny you used a hard hat for Energy reading, Rose. 🙂

  44. 44
    David B says:

    On Watching Yourself, also called Mindfulness, etc, this has been taught in a number of traditions for some years.

    The classic example to me was Gurdjieff. He woke up without knowing how he got there, so instructed students to mimic his post-enlightenment experience.

  45. 45
    David B says:

    In other words, Watching Yourself is supposed to be a way to bring on Witnessing.

    But given that Watching Yourself is mostly a mind game where witnessing is an effect of a shift in consciousness (Rose calls Surrender model), it’s almost pointless.

  46. 46
    David B says:

    I say almost because some people do find some forms of this helps them relax. But I’d be concerned with long term effects or self-manipulating.

  47. 47

    A magnificent, insightful summary here, DAVID!

    The only thing I’d add is related to living in The Age of Awakening.

    Now everybody has energy awareness, or can have. No wonder, according to an article in Psychology Today, such a high proportion of people are doing mindfulness practices: An estimated 8% of Americans. Nearly 18 million people!

    The article is called, “Mindfulness Is This Popular, Why Is Everyone So Mindless?”

  48. 48

    According to this article by Utpal Dholakia, Ph.D.:

    “The average attention span of people has dropped from 12 seconds in 2000 to 8 seconds in 2015…. When media reported this study last year, their headlines said ‘You now have a shorter attention span than a goldfish.’”

  49. 49

    Of course, we know what happened between Y2K and 2015. The Shift into The Age of Awakening completed.

    The New Strong” is all about the shift in vibrational frequencies that occurred.

    Our new vibrational freedom explains why mindfulness practices would attract us. And also why they could quickly lead into spiritual addiction, with resulting spaciness.

  50. 50

    It helps to understand the New Rules for living now, IMO. As set forth in that how-to book.

    Beyond that, practices for personal development — like meditation — can be more effective than ever. IF, and it is a big IF, we limit our total Technique Time to 20 minutes per day, maximum.

  51. 51
    David B says:

    Another note can be added to this. Science has come to call “Watching Yourself” techniques Open Monitoring.

    During such practices, the brain EEG is characterized by Theta waves, common with hypnotic states and REM sleep, also known as dreaming.

  52. 52
    David B says:

    This is quite distinct from the EEG of witnessing. In other words, mimicking a state leads to a different state. Ooops

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