In two days, two different people shared this proud aspiration for personal growth: Watching yourself.
Sadly, I couldn’t warn them. At least, I’ve written this post to warn you.
My aura reading of amazingly talented Leslie Jones, promised in yesterday’s post, is just going to have to wait a bit.
Watching Herself. To Stop Suffering as an Empath
Recently I accepted GLADYS into my Facebook Group for Empaths. Messaging her a welcome, I explained that the group is on hiatus indefinitely. Adding (to paraphrase), “It’s best to go to this blog for the latest in cool articles for empaths.”
Hey, Blog-Buddies, you know. Here at “Deeper Perception Made Practical,” we don’t only have articles about self-help for empaths. Yet you can use our search box to search on the word “Empath.” What will you find? Page after page after page of articles about what really helps empaths.
Yowza! As of today, 128 pages of LINKS.
Before proceeding further, I’ll pause to put on my hat as Empath Coach.
So… All of this help for empaths is based in a unique system, Empath Empowerment®. This method uses the power of your consciousness to strengthen your sense of self. With no self-watching whatsoever, you learn an effortless way to keep all your empath gifts routinely turned OFF. (Unless you’re going to do a Skilled Empath Merge on purpose.)
All the skills of Empath Empowerment are effortless and natural. I guess I figured that GLADYS knew something about my open Facebook group, because I monitored it almost daily for over a year before this hiatus. Loads of helpful articles and exchanges are still lively.
Such a contrast to most of what’s out there from Empath Coaches who teach very different approaches. Including…
Oh No, Not This. Oh, You Darling Empath!
GLADYS messaged me. After a sweet thank you for accepting her into the group, she wrote:
“I am still learning to control and differentiate my feelings from those around me. But I’ll get there.”
GLADYS has given herself the path of Watching Yourself to Become a Skilled Empath.
A path that can never work!
Why not? This Empath Coach helps people become more whole. Not more fragmented.
Of course, detaching from life will fragment your sense of self. Watching yourself and your feelings is neither natural nor normal nor healthy.
Pursue this path only if you wish to mess yourself up.
Think I’m kidding?
One Extreme Consequence of Watching Yourself
Granted, this story is extreme. But it does show the consequences of watching yourself. And show this more vividly than anything else I can supply in a quick blog post like the one for today.
My long-time client JOSEPHINE is back. Previously, for several years, this empath pursued a psychologically-oriented Path of Watching Yourself for Personal Growth.
She gave herself to that path heart and soul.
And what did JOSEPHINE gain?
- Feeling terrible, she went to see a new therapist. The therapist gave her this diagnosis: Disassociative Identity Disorder.
- Sadly, JOSEPHINE had given this to herself. Due to 30 years of working hard on personal growth.
- Thanks to… You guessed it. This was, IMO, the result of 30 years with plenty of hard work along The Path of Watching Yourself.
- Happily, JOSEPHINE has done occasional sessions with me and they were plenty to get her back onto a faster path of personal growth and spiritual growth.
Also! Important! Far as I know, this terrible diagnosis was one-off. Just one therapist of many. Shortly after giving this disassociative diagnosis to JOSEPHINE, that therapist was fired. But that scary misdiagnosis sure did give JOSEPHINE pause.
On a much smaller scale, not at the level of diagnosed mental health problems, guess what? Constantly watching yourself can lead to a whole lot of detachment.
Logically, doesn’t that make sense?
When watching yourself, be careful what you ask for.
You will surely get it: More and more detachment.
Watching Yourself Can Also Be Done for Spiritual Growth. Unfortunately.
Up next, I want to introduce you to a whole different version of “Watching Yourself.” This time, for spiritual development.
Now I’ll put on my Enlightenment Coach hat.
That’s better. Let’s go.
Watching Yourself to Find God
JOE, the second sweet seeker I met in two days, had a session of face reading with me. Quite often, he spoke about the meditation center where he teaches.
Given my own history — as a meditation teacher from 1970-1986 — I could read the signs. Meditation was pretty much JOE’S life.
JOE simply adored his meditation practice. He was so proud of it. Beautiful!
Sigh! Beautiful until his session was nearly over, anyway. To paraphrase what JOE told me then:
“My meditation practice is so beautiful. I’ve learned so much about watching myself. During meditation and outside of meditation. Watching and watching and watching.
“It’s hard. Yet this is the only way.”
Watching Yourself Will NOT Help You Find God. Sorry.
Back when I taught Transcendental Meditation, I often heard Maharishi Mahesh Yogi rail against this particularly horrible path to Enlightenment.
Why so horrible?
- Because watching yourself is a ridiculously torturous path that is highly unlikely to produce Enlightenment.
- Moreover, watching yourself can weaken everyday thinking. “Dividing the mind,” Maharishi called it.
- Furthermore, watching yourself will cause detachment. An unhealthy detachment.
To be clear, this sort of detachment is not the witnessing that features prominently in the Surrender Model of Enlightenment. (By contrast, witnessing is not a feature of Householder Enlightenment. More to come on that topic… another day.)
For now, here’s the simple distincting. Detachment produced by Watching Yourself as a Spiritual Path… leads to misery. Not Enlightenment. (Nowhere close.)
A Different Perspective on Horrible Consequences from Watching Yourself
Let’s pause for a moment, because another change of hat is in order. You may know that Rosetree Energy Spirituality (RES) involves four different skill sets: Energy READING skills, energy HEALING skills, Empath Empowerment Coaching, and Enlightenment Coaching.
Four hats, in short.
Concluding this article, I’ll put on a third hat. My chapeau for the energy READING skills. 🙂
Whew, that’s better.
Energetic Literacy Shows the Consequences of Watching Yourself
Blog-Buddies, you may know that as an Energy READING Coach, I’ve described 15 different stages of energetic literacy that a person can develop.
At Stage 13, you can learn how to research a person’s aura through energetic holograms. Quite often, I have done this kind of research to help clients understand what they were doing — to themselves — through a former spiritual practice.
Does this surprise you? Many, many seekers of spiritual development have done variations on Watching Yourself to Gain Enlightenment.
Actually, two of the people now on my Enlightenment Life List have received this kind of energy READING during a session with me. We learned, in luxuriant detail, just how horrible the consequences are. Energetically. Subconsciously.
Let me put it this way:
Have you ever wished to give your brain a consistency akin to string cheese?
Then don’t delay.
Immediately devote yourself to a spiritual practice that demands watching yourself.
What’s So Great about Watching Yourself?
Given all this three-hatted perspective, you might wonder: Why do so many spiritual teachers, empath coaches, and psychotherapists advocate watching yourself?
I’ve thought about that a lot. Perhaps are the main reasons:
- Watching yourself will keep yourself busy. Thereby giving a feeling of accomplishment.
- Also, watching yourself appeals to diligent seekers of personal growth. Whether it’s a better life as an empath or personal wholeness psychologically or moving forward in spiritual development.
- Nobody who advocates watching yourself has reasonably good skills at aura reading.
Regarding that third idea: Here’s a research project for you. Do this after you have developed good old Stage Three Energetic Literacy — not a big deal, really. Just comparable to how you can read these words on a screen with regular word literacy.
Go ahead and read the auras of folks who tell you those pretty, pretty stories. (Or have a session of aura research with any RES expert. Supply a photo of that Watching Yourself Encourager.)
How great is Watching Yourself for them? Thereby hangs a tale.
Meanwhile, use your Post-New-Age Consumer Smarts. Question authority figures who advocate watching yourself.