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London Bus Conductor Effect. Bring It, Millennials! Others, Too.

The London Bus Conductor Effect begins with youl.

The London Bus Conductor Effect begins with you.

After America’s presidential election, are you worried about the security and goodness of your world? This article describes something you can do. It’s related to the “London Bus Conductor Effect.”

The London Bus Conductor Effect

This is a startup that you can afford to invest in.

And wouldn’t it be great if this joint venture could go public!

Now for the details. Let’s begin our busride of hope right here…

American Collective Consciousness Now

Ripe for Improvement with the London Bus Conductor Effect

Blog-Buddies, what would you see if you gazed into a spiritual mirror of truth? Of course, your eyes are gorgeous. What else?

Besides your precious, magnificent individuality, you are soooooooooooo connected. To what?

Plugged into the group consciousness of your family, your nation, your world — also called “collective consciousness” — that’s you!

An ancient concept is related. It comes from Hinduism and then Buddhism: Dharma. How can you show the world that you care? How can you do what is right?

You millennials aren’t the only generation to be connected! Everyone on earth, living now, is sooo hotwired into group consciousness.

Between collective consciousness and dharma, every one of you reading this can find powerful ways to serve humanity. Especially during distressing times related to the coming Trump presidency.

A practical version of dharma goes like this:

Every day, you have a golden opportunity to evolve faster spiritually. All you need do is help your family, your nation, your world.

Well, today’s article is about one of the very easiest ways that you can start having impact NOW.

Here’s a hint:

Every waking minute, you have the opportunity to add what is good and kind, even ennobling. Just because of…

The London Bus Conductor Effect

Okay, what is the London Bus Conductor Effect?

Imagine a full bus, driving its route in London (or any city).

Next, imagine that the “bus conductor,” or driver, smiles at each new passenger.

Assume this is a real smile. Nothing fake. And that smiling guy or gal isn’t stoned, either. 😉

Receiving that little smile, each new passenger gets a tiny reminder of human connection. Leaving the bus, each passenger goes on to give a genuine smile to the folks at home or at work.

And thus, in one day, countless human beings can be uplifted. Not because one of the “Important People,” Donald Trump, decided to start giving money away.

Simply because of the kindness of one of us, the “little people,” the kind who pay taxes. Like a London Bus Conductor.

Yes, Human Caring Is That Contagious

Whenever those soul lights switch on, yes! Count that as a tiny victory for collective consciousness.

The impact of one “London Bus Conductor” like you or me can be immense. In that sense, each of us can help to improve collective consciousness.

Living Now, the London Bus Conductor Effect Includes Something New

Auric modeling, that’s what.

Auric modeling means the subconscious impact each of us has on all others who are physically in the room with us. Or on the phone or webcam.

Ironically, auric modeling is more powerful than ever. Ever since The Age of Awakening began on 12-21-12, it’s so much easier for people to benefit from some degree of spiritual awakening. Some of this comes automatically. The rest we must seek out.

An example of the former? Without even trying, now we’re all energy sensitive. At least if we want to be.

Therefore, Stage One Energetic Literacy — basically, vibing out everyone’s energy — can amplify the London Bus Conductor Effect.

Living now, people don’t merely notice what you say or do, your facial expressions and tone of voice.

People really, really notice how they’re being treated. Energetically, as well as behaviorally.

Snobby forms of entitlement, other kinds of prejudice — we can’t hide them any more. If you’re energy sensitive, and you care, yes! You will feel it.

See Your Potential to Help?

Living now, each of us has the power to give others an especially strong and positive jolt of London Bus Conductor Effect.

We can do this countless times each day, provided that…

We are together with others in energetic real time. (Important!)

Hey, stop the bus. What’s that new part I just snuck in there?

Today You Can’t Work the London Bus Conductor Effect

Not unless you also understand “Energetic Real Time.”

Energetic real time is an important term in Rosetree Energy Spirituality (RES). As a term of art in RES, what is “Energetic Real Time”?

This expression puts words to something you probably noticed in the background for years. (And if not, you can start paying attention now. Being energy sensitive, you’ll get it.)

Energetically, the only human connections that nourish our auras happen in real time.

  • In person, right there in the room with you
  • Or on the phone
  • Or over webcam
  • Hey, that’s all.

Without Energetic Real Time, No London Bus Conductor Effect

Millennials and all the rest of us humans — don’t blame Rose Rosetree. Sure, I’m no digital native. But here I’m just reporting here on a real fact of life in The Age of Awakening.

Unless you interact with other people in energetic real time, you can’t help collective consciousness. Not energetically.

Ideas are nice. God knows, this writer and teacher thinks ideas are very nice indeed.

However, mere ideas and FB memes and YouTubes and endless selfies have ZERO impact energetically.

No London Bus Conductor Effect occurs via this blog. Neither by texting nor emailing nor any social media. Not even if you are instant messaging.

Unless you’re together with another person in energetic real time — here and now — oops!

You lose your chance to help others through the London Bus Conductor Effect.

Why Does this London Bus Conductor Effect

Matters So Much NOW?

Let’s sum up what we’ve got so far:

  1. Collective consciousness is the sum total of behavior in our family, society, nation, world.
  2. Through the London Bus Conductor Effect, each of us has the power to make a positive impact on others energetically.
  3. However, we can do this only when together with people in energetic real time.
  4. Auric modeling can be immensely powerful for increasing spiritual awakening.
  5. From a spiritual perspective, doing this could be considered your dharma.

Why care? Because spirituality is caught, not taught. Let’s face it. The energetic quality of life in America and Brexit-Land (a.k.a. England) and so many other places… just stinks.

Improving this depends on spiritual awakening. An awakening for as many people as possible. Also an awakening that doesn’t depend on religion or politics. Awakening that doesn’t require a membership in anything other than the magnificent caring human race.

Connecting without Energetic Real Time Is Fun, Sure.

But It Can’t Bring the London Bus Conductor Effect.

If you care about your world — and I’m quite sure you do — take heed. Caring defines the best in us. We humans are hardwired with the potential to care! To connect and to care!

Connecting energetically can’t solve all of humanity’s problems. But let’s not ignore this hidden, subtle aspect of life.

Especially when it’s ridiculously easy for you to start bringing it!

Sure you can bring it! That London Bus Conductor Effect!

Because let’s face it: The Trump election is a wakeup call to every caring person in America about the sum total of our collective consciousness.

Do White People Not See It?

We “London Bus Conductors” Can See It.

Entitlement has been showing all along, in little ways… and also in ways that are not so little. Only now the Trump victory have brought this bitter ugliness to the surface.

  • White entitlement. (Some voted for Trump to maintain that. Therefore, they ignored anything else he said. )
  • Male privilege.  (Some voted for Trump to justify that, pussy-grabbing and all. Thus, they ignored anything else he said. )
  • Christian privilege. (Some held their noses and voted for Trump to maintain “their” Supreme Court in their “Christian nation.” What about their responsibility to hear Trump’s other statements and dog whistles. Heck, is it possible that these “Christians” ran none of Trump’s foul speech by a voter’s standard for “What would Jesus do?”)
  • Rich people’s privilege. ( Many voted for Trump because they identify with the man with the gold-plated, Mammon-friendly home. Afterwards they ignored anything else he said .)
  • Superiority over the “poorly educated.”  (And wasn’t this election ever their big chance to fight back! Has any public figure since Jesus said anything like, “I love the poorly educated”?)

You get the idea, don’t you, Blog-Buddies. You’ve been witnessing all of this privilege. This cruel denial.

And even if you saw it and reviled it, did you know what you could do about it? Today I’m giving you one approach that you can start right now.

But how?

With the London Bus Conductor Effect, You Can Make a Start…

Spiritually — and easily — you can start cleaning up the ugliness that delivered Donald and Melania as America’s leaders. And also gave Republicans rare majorities to support a presidency, in both the Senate and the House.

Republicans can govern beautifully. And I sure hope they will. Except this particular batch of Republicans has demonstrated the most significant moral cowardice in American history.

Yes indeed, political and spiritual ugliness galore have come to the surface.

Some readers might be laughing at me by now. But in all seriousness, I’m offering you three practical how-to’s so you can add to the London Bus Conductor Effect.

Actually, I’m hoping you Blog-Buddies will be adding many ideas to a post that has turned out to be just a bit on the long side. 😉

London Bus Conductor Effectiveness Part 1

When you’re in public, put down the damned phone. Please.

Make contact with people. Look at them. Even smile occasionally.

Because that way you can connect with people through your auric modeling.

And, please, please don’t judge people by their weight. Or the status value of their clothing. It’s time to find more interesting hobbies. All that hooey is worse than a waste of time!

Outside those fun experiences we’re all having with our electronic toys, let’s be honest.

Among your fellow citizens, what do you communicate? For instance, haven’t you seen folks like Joe? Ignoring the checkout clerk at the supermarket, he eChats with his friend.

Such auric modeling to that checkout clerk, intentional or not: “I’m in my own little world. Uninterested in you. Probably superior to you.”

Is it really so shocking that America’s ignored people have had enough? And voted accordingly.

Exhibit A of Missed Chances to Mend the Fabric of Society

Last night I took the D.C. Metro for the first time in months.

Sadly, I noticed a certain something more than ever. What has been growing for years?

People have been squandering their precious chance to uplift each other through auric modeling. Nearly every person was focused on some electronic toy or others. Almost nobody looked at anyone else, unless they were travelling together.

For three hours altogether, I saw this terrible behavior. And had I been reading auras (which I wasn’t, for the good reason explained in articles like these) — I would have found wall after wall.

Compared to all the walls that we Americans are already putting up against each other, through our auric modeling, geesh! A Trumpian wall against the entire border with Mexico measure up short.

A London Bus Conductor Can Quietly Protest Our Habitual Walls

During my entire round trip on public transportation, what did I find? Nobody, and I mean nobody, was able to make eye contact with me.

True confession, Blog-Buddies, I just love people. In public places, I’m always looking around, fascinated by one person after another.

This New York girl adores crowds, just for the chance to be among people.

It thrills my soul. Beyond that, I happen to know about auric modeling, dharma, and the London Bus Driver Effect.

To reassure you, I also know the tricks of appropriate behavior in public. But there are ways around that, ha ha!

In Public Places, Be the London Bus Conductor

You really can look around at other people (while still acting appropriate socially).

And these people’s auras will respond to that, even if their faces (and conscious minds) register nothing.

In public, most of us have learned the useful social skill of civil inattention. In the Age of Awakening, that is soooooooooooo lame! We’re far too spiritually awake to pretend that we’re alone when we’re not.

Besides, today’s lifestyles cause us to already by socially isolated, and to a shocking degree. (You’ll find many relevant examples in “The New Strong.”)

Human beings, especially those of us over the age of 30, are hungry for respectful  and friendly social contact. Including each human’s daily requirement spiritually for auric modeling.

So, how can you help?

  • When somebody sits down next to you, hello!
  • Literally! You really can say, “Hi there” before getting back to your so-important round of Candy Crush.
  • If there’s a child nearby, you can definitely smile. Maybe even talk.
  • What if somebody near you, of the same gender, is wearing anything remotely flattering? Socially it’s okay to tell that stranger, “That xyz looks so good on you.” And smile. (Although, immediately afterwards, you’ll do well to look elsewhere. Thus, it’s clear that you’re not trying to win a new sexual conquest. 😉 )

London Bus Conductor Effectiveness Part 2

As a newly deputized London Bus Conductor, you are hereby authorized to smash civil inattention in additional public places. Not just busses and subways.

In elevators, for instance. I love to do this one: Positioning myself near the elevator buttons, then I can ask other people, “Which floor would you like?”

They’ll probably answer. We might even exchange a smile. Oooooh, makin’ my day.

From a spiritual perspective, any excuse to talk to any (reasonably sane) human being… in energetic real time… is golden.

Might I recommend any reasonable excuse for making eye contact.

Dare to Reach out Like a London Bus Conductor. Not with Your Mobile.

We London Bus Conductors can serve as incognito ambassadors for human connection, or even love of humanity.

I’m not too proud to say some dumb cliche about the weather. Are you?

If so, find some other appropriate way to make small talk.

Why? Because you’re living in the Age of Awakening. (And that’s how it can be remembered, not the Age of Trump!)

Reaching out to strangers without ulterior motive? That is not being foolish.

Every tiny way to reach out is spiritually golden and so much needed right now.

Can you find the courage to reach out… in energetic real time?

Sure, I hope each of us will make a difference in other ways. But this London Bus Conductor Effect is something you can do every single day of your life.

Energetic literacy has convinced me. Every act of friendliness helps to spread spiritual awakening. On so many levels, that can make sense to you, too.

London Bus Conductor Effectiveness Part 3

Admittedly this third choice is not for the squeamish. Only for the more resolute among us London Bus Conductors!

If you’re very bold, say something — just a little something — when witnessing behavior of assumed privilege.

  • Behavior of entitlement, casually done in public. Maybe you actually could say, “Excuse me, sir. Probably you haven’t noticed this, but the way you’re standing near that pole makes it impossible for anybody else to use it too.”
  • As for a truly nasty bit of speech in a conversation next to you? Maybe you could actually turn around and say, “Excuse me. Did you really say xyz?”

If you value your life, of course do not assume a fighting stance when calling attention to behavior of privilege.

Cautions related to London Bus Conductor Effectiveness

Due to the aforementioned types of privilege that got us into Trumpism, please:

Do not say a thing to a person of color, not if you appear to be what is called “white.”

Do not say a thing if that person is male, not when you appear to be what is called “female.”

Also, when you speak up in this way, keep it light. Just make a little questioning-type observation.

My advice? Reading this, if you sense you could pull it off, go for it.

Exhibit B. Would You Dare to London-Bus-Conduct in This Situation?

Last night, I noticed a womansitting near me in the Metro. Let’s call her “Gladys.”

Gladys sat, doing what? Playing with her phone.

Oblivious to all others. Absorbed in her own little world.

Nothing new there.

However, Gladys occupied a double seat. Adding to her territorial spread, done so casually, Gladys propped up her legs and feet up onto adjoining seats. As if she were home, in her living room.

However, in reality, Gladys was in a public subway car. Where she was taking up four seats.

In short, Gladys acted as if she owned the joint.

What Could Rose, Volunteer London Bus Conductor, Have Done?

I wish that I had casually walked over to Gladys. Not approaching too close. But near enough for her to hear me if I spoke in a pretty soft voice.

Definitely not looking Gladys in the eye! This would have been too confrontational.

Discreetly, I could have looked in the general vicinity of her face. Then I would have said, in a mild tone of voice:

Excuse me. I hope you don’t mind my mentioning this.

Probably you haven’t noticed, but you are white. And you’re young. And we’ve just had a presidential election where many people expressed how tired they are of being disrespected by people who act entitled because they are white and so forth.

If I might make a suggestion, please don’t put your feet on the subway seats. Without meaning to, you could be making a lot of other people uncomfortable.

Immediately afterwards, I would have quickly turned away and gone back to my seat. Letting the words sink in, if Gladys had the depth to consider them.

So Much Assumed Privilege Is Simply an Unquestioned Habit

However, I didn’t speak up. Not on that occasion.

Because my husband was with me. Mitch has already has suffered from years of behavior where I would use every possible public situation to do exactly the things I’ve mentioned in today’s article. (Except for London Bus Conductor Effectiveness Part 3.)

Poor Mitch. Likewise my long-suffering son, Matt.

Fact is,  I’ve been London Bus Conducting for as long as they’ve known me. Really, living with me can be a trial for so many reasons. 😉

Usually I don’t ask either of these long-suffering guys to read my blog, but come to think of it, I’ll do it with today’s article. Because I don’t think I’ve ever before found words to explained why I’ve been doing this sort of thing.

And speaking of my Millennial son, here’s a solidarity message for all you who happen to be Millennials.

You Millennial London Bus Conductors, Go for It!

Plenty of you Millennials were shocked and saddened at this election. I’ve heard that many of you feel a calling now. Because you get it.

Trumpism isn’t just some fluke. Voting for Trump reveals the desires and pain of this nation. Half of this nation, anyway.

  • Definitely, the ugliness has risen to the surface. Millennials, this is your opportunity. You can become America’s greatest generations for centuries to come, if only you will help fix this.
  • Walk — or jog — in solidarity with your elders. Including fogies like me, who lived through the Civil Rights Movement. In American collective consciousness, that also was a time of spiritual awakening.
  • And many of us protested the Vietnam War. Not to disrespect our brave veterans but because, for us, this was a calling. Because this was a time of spiritual awakening, too.
  • Now is comes another one. Spiritual awakening in the making!

You beautiful, brainy Millennials. Best educated generation in the history of the U.S.!

Help to clean up this ugliness. And so many other Americans are ready to join you.

We have so much to do. We won’t clean up all this garbage in a day or a year. Or even four years.

Whatever! Let’s make a difference every single every day of our lives, until America becomes the country that we know it can be.

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  1. 1
    Rachel says:

    Love, love, love this post, Rose! I’m in 🙂

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    Thank you, RACHEL. I’m so impressed you actually read this long post.

    Took me all day to write it, but I couldn’t bear to break it up into normal-sized chunks.

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    Like you, RACHEL, inspiration along these lines comes from this man who was raised in the land of London busses:

    As quoted in The Washington Post, James Corden said on his TV show after the Trump election victory:

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    “This country isn’t about one election result. This country is about the people who live here. It’s you. It’s how you treat one another.”

    Thank you, reporters Emily Yahr and Bethonie Butler.

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    Sandra says:

    Rose, you are an inspiration.

    Love wins!

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    Isabella C. says:

    Loved every word, I will implement this immediately!

    I wonder why you suggest women not speak up in this way to men though?

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    Tricia says:

    I love this, Rose! Thank you so much. I see people feeling so defeated and powerless; this is a great way to contribute.

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    Thanks, all you commenters! ISABELLA C., use your judgment about speaking to anybody across the “Entitlement Divide.”

    Maybe you can make it work.

    You’d have no problem, I’m sure, as you have the equivalent of perfect pitch for discerning the human heart. (SANDRA, too.)

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    Jem says:

    Also, could we have a thread where we could discuss The New Strong?

    I just finished the book yesterday and would love to have a place to share about it with others who understand.

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    Jem says:

    I live in Australia, and care so deeply for all in the US.

    I recognise that right now, the climate in America is not something I can fully grasp, as I am not there. By climate I mean, how it feels to be there, what you guys are floating in.

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    Jem says:

    And I’m a recovering spiritual addict so I’m not going to spend time trying to tune in directly – as if I ever could fully understand.

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    Jem says:

    Listen, my loves. Let me be bold for a second, and let me ask what you think.

    As well as becoming Bus Conductors, if some of us are called, could we do things to begin solving the problems our fellow people are suffering with?

    For example, off the top of my head: work and money.

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    Jem says:

    Is it possible for Bus Conductors, where you are, to, say, use your backyard or an easily accessible space, to grow lots of veggies?

    Using permaculture, you can cram a LOT of food into a tiny space.

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    Jem says:

    You might need people to help you work the garden, and you might sell the produce at a farmers market or the like, and the people might get a few bucks and some work and some community and who knows what that might open up?

  15. 15
    Jem says:

    What about…. building things out of recycled materials?

    Construction, collaborating, creating. Let’s help each other practically.

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    Jem says:

    These may be silly ideas I’ve proposed here, but I’m sure better ones could come.

    Could we reach out to the disenfranchised in our community and offer them a place to be, to work, to do, to recover broken hearts?

    And be Bus Conductors in THAT scenario?

    How about if humans become independant of governments to solve things and use our resources to just, simply, fix things ourselves?

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    Isabella Cates says:

    Rose, I’m still a little confused, if you wouldn’t mind clarifying. I got so much from this post, I don’t want to be missing or misunderstanding something here. Hope you don’t mind.

    “Do not say a thing to a person of color, not if you appear to be what is called “white.”

    Do not say a thing if that person is male, not when you appear to be what is called “female.””

    Seems to be the second one should be the other way around, unless I’m missing the point.

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    Sweet, JEM!

    As for setting up a separate location for discussion of “The New Strong,” I don’t think so. It is far too easy for things to become distorted, then gather momentum that way.

    For instance, meaning no disrespect, you referred to yourself in Comment #11 as a “recovering spiritual addict.” I would never, not at all, recommend that any of you — that nice JEM included — refer to yourself that way.

    Search at this blog on terms like “SPIRITUAL ADDICTION.” You’ll never, ever find that I take a 12-step approach to this, as in “Hello, fellow members of AA. I am Joe. An alcoholic.” N-E-V-E-R. Spiritual addiction is overcome in ways that I write about here and, mostly, in “The New Strong.”

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    However, you can easily comment at this blog whenever there is an article with a reference to “The New Strong.”

    Just search on it by typing “NEW STRONG” into the search box.

    Then add your relevant comment.

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    That’s as close as I can come to helping in an online format at this time.

    Personal sessions continue to be available for mentoring.

    But beyond that, think about this from my point of view, JEM. Opening up a forum, I would be in a position of letting any random person on line comment on-or-off the point about whatever I’ve written. Or else risk having to rewrite my published books in little chunks, tutoring people at the blog. (My idea of hell.)

    And that way I couldn’t write the new books for you, right?

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    ISABELLA C., I’m laughing. Thanks for that Comment #17.

    How about this? You speak up — and other Blog-Buddies speak up — when YOU deem it appropriate.

    One situation at a time. Here I was just offering ideas in a general way. You’ll know best.

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    Isabella Cates says:

    By the way, right after reading this and deciding to implement it, I felt much happier. My mood lifted considerably.

    Then I went out and had a few more conversations and lots more “eye contacts” than I would have had otherwise. Made my evening more fun. Thanks!

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    Isabella Cates says:

    Will do, Rose.

    Still confused, but I’ll survive with 98% reading comprehension score. 🙂

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    Lilian says:

    Completely agree with you Rose. It’s not hard to create a circle of acquaintances and to find ways of spending time with people…

    I might not have nuclear family stability, but I’m always interacting with a large spectrum of folk. It’s educational.

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    Lilian says:

    I would caution you against assuming millennials are the privileged ones though… That girl might have just finished a 10-hour minimum wage shift while juggling college and still be getting in debt. You never know. I find it’s best to approach people with curiosity.

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    Lilian says:

    (That girl could have been me in my late teens and 20s: not far from homelessness most of the time.)

    I would say part of the “Entitlement Divide” can include older people feeling entitled to lecture strangers who are young people. :-p Here is some humour about the challenges they face.

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    LILIAN, I know your comments were well meant. And I know a bit of the story of how you have suffered.

    Let’s keep in mind, I was in the subway car observing this woman, not you.

    And is it really necessary for you to instruct me to try to have curiosity about people?

    The D.C. Metro cars, like many of America’s public areas, are trashed, ripped up, and in a shocking state. Yes, I call that disrespect.

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    Unless somebody is disabled (in a way I’ve never yet seen or imagined) nobody, in my opinion, has the right to casually sprawl onto four seats, and place her legs and shoes on the subway seats. Even drunks don’t do that.

    Note added later: This sprawler later returned to normal sitting position, with no signs of pain whatsoever.

    Based on body language I’ve observed over the years, this kind of behavior demonstrates either active disrespect or entitlement. In Gladys’s case, I’m reasonably certain it was entitlement.

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    Lilian says:

    And yes, context is key, which is why talking in person is much better than talking on blogs and the internet.

    I’ve not seen places in the UK that are in quite the state you’ve described. Even while living in the poorest areas of Glasgow, it was all pretty livable.

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    Lilian says:

    Just wanted to make a point at not assuming too much about entitlement… (Another millennial thing: not making too many assumptions.) Maybe not to you personally, but also in general.

    That’s not just about me, or my particular circumstances.

    From my combined experiences of my family, friends, boyfriends, colleagues etc it’s shocking how little we can understand each other, unless we make the effort!

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    Lilian says:

    We kind of in agreement, that we’re not to instruct each other on how to act on our own goodwill.

    What’s important is to continue to feel brave enough to make connections and to interact.

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    Adam McIntosh says:

    Personally, I don’t feel like civil inattention is lame, or a form of pretence.

  33. 33
    Adam McIntosh says:

    For example, as a large man, I believe my civil inattention helps women in public feel more comfortable around me. I am sending a message with it – I am not about to hit on you, leer at you, or do anything to make you feel nervous.

    I believe that for men to send such a message is valuable.

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    Adam McIntosh says:

    I don’t think it is for the person sitting next to me on a train to decide that I should be available for conversation.

    Generally, I don’t want my civil inattention to be smashed by others. I want them to respect it unless there is an appropriate reason to break it.

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    Adam McIntosh says:

    In my opinion, the bus conductor can effortlessly and pleasantly smash civil inattention because it is part of their job, and therefore a totally appropriate thing for them to do.

    People expect to break their civil inattention for the conductor, and so it happens naturally.

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    Adam McIntosh says:

    Rose, do you think that reading a book on the metro is bad behaviour? I personally don’t think it is – and I don’t see the difference between that and looking at your phone in this situation.

  37. 37
    Adam McIntosh says:

    I am a big believer in part 3, though. Also a big believer in putting away your phone when talking to anyone, at checkouts etc.

  38. 38
    Adam McIntosh says:

    I also totally agree with your section on privilege, another reason I am such a fan of part 3.

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    Jem says:

    Hi Rose,
    I’m sorry my communication wasn’t clear. When I said can we have a new THREAD to discuss The New Strong, I should have called it a blog post dedicated to that. That’s what I meant. I think that could be incredibly valuable as we discussed the nuances of our experience, for newcomers to see then rush out to buy the book. I didn’t mean a different location, forum, any of that. When I search, the last blog posts I can find are from months ago.

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    JEM, your communication was very clear to me. And I think it is great that you would like me to teach you more.

    I am in the process of developing online workshops, and when they will go live, you will be informed at the blog and my main website.

    That will be your opportunity. 🙂

  41. 41

    LILIAN, I really liked your Comments #29-31.

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    ADAM, thank you for all these perspectives. I’m really looking forward to doing a bit of teaching and sessions in your part of the world. So I can experience your special excellences in that Land of My Future.

    As LILIAN said today, talking in person can reveal so much more.

    From what I’ve seen from my clients in Australia and New Zealand, you really do live in altogether different parts of the world. Major American cities like mine might as well be on Mars, for all that an observer of people would recognize.

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    For instance, you described yourself as “a large man” and expressed concern about giving the impression of leering.

    ADAM, it’s hard to imagine that mobile and expressive face of yours, brimming with sensitivity, doing a leer.

    Neither can I imagine your brilliant and refined wife, KATHLEEN, leering. 😉

    The day that either of you seems like the scariest person on earth, we may well be living in Heaven!

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    Although each nation must have its specialized forms of crudeness, I must tell you this. I’ve ridden in subways in England, France, Japan, and Canada.

    Compare that to subways in my native New York, Chicago, San Francisco, and the Washington, D.C. areas.

    Granted, I love my country. Really I do. Yet I’ve never seen elsewhere so many carelessly (ok, horribly) dressed people; such rude behavior; and such a degree of self-absorption.

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    So I seriously doubt that the civil inattention you praise Downunder is comparable to the astounding lack of consideration that is more often the norm in America that I have seen.

    To gaze at a fellow passenger, in my part of the U.S., now… might be quite different from what you find.

    It could be fun to have some of you Blog-Buddies describe the friendliness and civility that you observe in public places these days. Maybe my view is skewed.

    Certainly, it is only appropriate to play London Bus Conductor by doing what you consider appropriate.

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    Regarding your Comment #34, I routinely smile and say (literally) “Hi” when somebody sits next to me. Just “Hi.” And that’s all I was recommending here.

    Which doesn’t mean I presume to have a conversation. Although sometimes that happens.

    Where you travel, isn’t it customary to look in the person’s direction? Maybe give a small nonverbal acknowledgement: “This is a fellow human sitting next to me.”

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    In this post, I was decribing how, seems to me, there is practically NONE of that now. For years I’ve been noticing a trend in that direction, and now we’re there.

    Equally distressing, here’s how it seems to me. Most subway riders over 35, when travelling alone, look tired and sad. Except for many of those who, signalled by their dress, are relatively affluent. That sadness, maybe they cannot help. But behavior includes free will, right?

    Figuratively and literally, many of us subway riders who share the same space… are nonverbally demonstrating “man’s inhumanity to man.”

    To me, just me, that’s not right. Also, I don’t think anybody has shown offense when I’ve given a brief friendly look in their direction.

  48. 48

    About reading books, hooray! You stopped me right there.

    People. Reading. Books. For joy!

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    Seriously, this perpetual observer of people does find a difference with readers of print books and newspapers. Seems to me, people who read books non-electronically will look up more often.

    By contrast, what I notice in subways now is mostly this: If alone, people stand or sit hunched over their devices. Highly focused. Fingers sometimes texting madly. And pretty much zero attention being paid to anything not electronic.

    Folks might as well be surrounded by a “big, beautiful wall.” 😉

    Your thoughts to share on this, Blog-Buddies! What have you noticed?

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    Kylie says:

    I’m with Adam on this. People on the subways in Boston are for the most part friendly, and use civil inattention.

    To me it is a respectful thing.

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    Kylie says:

    I have noticed that many people seemingly not paying attention to others are alert to the possibility of someone needing aid.

    Should I drop something, several people will reach to pick it up.

    Also, should there be a child on the train, people become more outgoing.

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    Kylie says:

    However, this post did encourage me to be even more non verbally friendly than usual.

    I am definitely noticing many very depressed people on the train, post election.

  53. 53

    KYLIE, that’s the whole point of this post. To be more non-verbally friendly than before.

    And also to speak up when we feel it’s appropriate.

    So I’d say you’re with ADAM and also with me. Be any sort of London Bus Conductor you like. Just do it. That’s my invitation to you.

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    Kristine says:

    This is a real opportunity to grow up. As kids you’re taught to go tell an adult when you see something wrong or dangerous (in some cases not taught this). We are now the grown ups.

    I’m sure some people never had to be encouraged to speak up – it’s second nature. For others it’s more of a challenge. Part 1 and 2 may be preferred, but I’m sure every option will make a difference.

    I used to smile and speak more often. But it got tiring realizing how rude “some” people were – either ignoring me altogether or barely making a response. I’ll give it another go. After all, this wasn’t the case all the time.

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    Kristine says:

    And just to clarify – the comment about growing up is not directed at millenials. It’s something I just had to think about – at what point does it click that “I am the grown up in the room.” It doesn’t come with a magic age. It’s how you approach problems, make suggestions, have difficult conversations, make progress, get results. How you help someone. How you do your job.

    Some people have been grown up in that regard for a very long time. Others are just getting started. And age won’t tell you who fits in which category.

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    Jnana says:

    Good article Rose. And I get exactly what you are saying.

    I’ve started modifying my behaviour and am surprised at how positive the response from others has been.

    Will be very careful though if I ever consider trying Part 3.

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    Jnana says:

    My ears have pricked up ever since you said Australia.

    I’m hoping end of the year means December.

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    Isabella Cates says:

    Interesting what you noted about electronic devices vs. books.

    A book or newspaper is a good alternative, because I am certainly not going to sit looking around at people on the metro for an hour. I like people watching, but that’s a bit much. XD

    A head nod, some bits of eye contact, talking to children (my favorite, like the little boy at the grocery store the other night who was wondering why I was buying so much chocolate, LOL).

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    Lilian says:

    Kristine: I’ve had similar thoughts. We all have a big responsibility, especially those of us with the privilege of experience.

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    Lilian says:

    As a borderline millennial, I do have compassion for those in their teens and 20s. They need more actual grownups to take the weight of all of this.

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    Lilian says:

    (lol, you’re a grown up in your 20s… but you still need time to mature in that role. I’m just thinking about if this all happened 10 years ago.)

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    Jem says:

    off topic but I don’t know where else to put this:
    Rose, please accept my huge THANK YOU.
    Your books have helped me so, so very much.
    I am so grateful for you and your work.

  63. 63

    Oh, how sweet, JEM.

    You’re welcome. If I might ask a favor — to you and anyone else here who has been helped by my books — please do a review at

    That’s pretty much the biggest favor you could do me. Because Amazon is the main place where readers find me.

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    Adam McIntosh says:

    Kathleen and I are super pumped at the prospect of having you here! It will be amazing to finally meet in person.

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    Adam McIntosh says:

    Depending on where you are in Australia, there is significant variation in terms of how civil inattention works. For instance, Sydneysiders (population 4m.) generally want you to keep your eyes to yourself.

    In Brisbane (population 2m.), they are a bit more relaxed about looking at each other, and every now and then you might say hi to someone on the street (not super often but it’s not considered as weird as it is in Sydney).

    In country towns, you are considered rude if you won’t at least give someone a nod in passing, and a quick “owyergoin” (however compressed and slurred-sounding that reads to non-australians – double it) is a nice pleasantry.

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    Adam McIntosh says:

    I have been thinking about my visits to Japan during this conversation. I got the impression that civil inattention was held in high regard there, particularly on the subway. On the train, breaking civil inattention by talking loudly, looking at people, horsing around etc seemed like it was deeply frowned upon. Yet, one of the things I have always enjoyed about Japan is the sense that people are very aware of everyone else.

    When entering a store, for instance, you really don’t have to look at or talk to anyone else (and honestly, I love that). But, the second you give the impression of wanting help or having a question, someone is there to help ASAP. Nearly every restaurant I’ve ever eaten in in Japan, irrespective of price point, has had better service than all but the most expensive Australian restaurants I’ve been to. I never had to work hard to flag down a waiter there – I would just put down my menu and look around.

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    Adam McIntosh says:

    Thank you for your kind words in comment 43! Something that doesn’t come across on Skype video is that I am 6’6” tall.

    I know I’m not dangerous, but someone alone in an elevator with me won’t necessarily take that as read. As a man, I do think it behooves me to signal non-threateningly with my body language. We men are frequently signalling some very different and unpleasant things.

  68. 68
    Adam McIntosh says:

    A couple of nights ago, I looked out my window and saw a few young white men walking down the street. As soon as one of them saw me, he immediately bellowed “F*** YOU!!!!”. I’m in my own living room, here.

    Now, this is not the most common occurrence in Canberra, but I think it aptly illustrates some of what makes people nervous about young white men. Collectively, we’re not known for our amazing behaviour (a rep we really didn’t improve on November 8). So I do what I can to signal that I’m not going to behave like that.

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    Adam McIntosh says:

    On consideration, I think you are right about the difference between books and phones. Books don’t grab my attention quite so tightly as my phone does. I have certainly never seen someone disrespect a cashier by reading a book 🙂

  70. 70
    Adam McIntosh says:

    This conversation has caused me to notice more about how much we notice each other here. It’s very interesting to look at it through this lens. Thank you for this, Rose!

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    Brianne says:

    Adam, re #33, I speak for myself (and possibly many other women also) when I say that I appreciate your respect and civil inattention.

    It is not uncommon for me here in Canada to encounter strangers, generally men, who expect that since I am a (youngish) woman I will be available for smiles and greetings and small talk whenever they choose.

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    Brianne says:

    It is unpleasant, particularly since refusing to comply requires me to first gauge my safety and consider potential emergency exits. Not fun.

    I appreciate all those men who send a different message.

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    Brianne says:

    “That’s the whole point of this post. To be more non-verbally friendly than before. And also to speak up when we feel it’s appropriate.”

    Rose, this way of putting it in #53, I very much support.

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    Brianne says:

    This is something that varies a lot depending on the situation and the people involved.

    I think it is really important to consider from multiple perspectives (perhaps even some we aren’t used to thinking about) what our words and actions communicate.

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    Amanda says:

    Hello Rose and all,

    One of the things I noticed when I moved from London back to East Anglia was how friendly everyone was.

    It took me a couple of years to get used to it.

    There were no smartphones then but in London it was still the norm to ignore the cashier at the checkout desk.

    I almost jumped out of my skin when the cashier at the local supermarket remarked on the weather outside!

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    Amanda says:

    That particular town, Thetford, is poor and rather unlovely-looking (a 60s concrete misery of a town centre), with a huge immigrant population and a bad reputation from a couple of sink estates.

    However, it’s a place that epitomises the London Bus Conductor effect as you describe it.

    People nod and smile in passing and as Adam describes it so well, they are aware even if they aren’t speaking.

    There’s a kindness that I love.

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    Amanda says:

    I had a terrible cold once and went to get a coffee. I was leaving when the barista called me back. He’d made me a honey and lemon drink.

    I agree that this kind of treatment is priceless. It erodes those walls.


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    Adam McIntosh says:

    Brianne, I’m just sorry you have to deal with our trash behaviour.

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    Emily T says:

    Thanks for this Rose! Been putting it into practice as a Bus rider and a tube passenger and at work!

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    Leo says:

    Rose, I quite like this post.

    The gist of “treat others with respect and like PEOPLE” was a good reminder for me to wake up and engage in daily life.

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    Leo says:

    I’ve been limiting cell phone use and making more eye contact in public and I’ve felt happier and more connected.

    Really focusing on human vibrational frequencies!

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    Leo says:

    Also, I quite liked comments 46 – 50. The state of public transit in the United States, with a few exceptions, is jarringly bad compared to just about everywhere I’ve been, even “undeveloped” countries.

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    Leo says:

    Returning from Europe I’ve been a bit disturbed to remember that Americans are in average sort of visibly unhappy and physically disheveled even though we’re much richer on average than our continental cousins.

    America is certainly an experiment, and when I travel I conclude that our “success” has certainly come with paying the price in many ways.

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    Oh, no! When I first learned of the “London Bus Conductor Effect” it was the 1970’s.

    Times may have changed a bit, because…

    I just got a link to an article about the 17 occupations with the highest rate of depression. According to the authors of this study, guess which job came out as the worst of all?

  85. 85

    Maybe it’s time for us bus passengers, customers at the car mechanic’s, and folks who know any BOOK PUBLISHERS (ahem!) to spread a bit of Christmas cheer.

    Like… all year long.

    Whatever we’ve got.

    Hey, nobody honest ever promised us that Earth School would always be easy, right?

  86. 86
    Morgan says:

    Rose – I loved this post!

    I would love to help people become more sensitive/aware by educating them on how their behavior disregards concern for others but I can’t do it without a feeling of disgust in my heart and mind…so I would no doubt acquire bad karma in doing this.

    I guess the solution would be a hypnosis session with intention “get rid of feelings of disgust toward other”. Correct?

  87. 87
    Rose Rosetree says:

    Thanks, MORGAN. Actually, this article (and RES in general) does not advocate giving yourself the job you just described, helping people become more sensitive and aware.

    Another term for that is “unsolicited advice.” You’re not helping anyone.

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    Rose Rosetree says:

    If you do an inappropriate job, that leads to a whole cascade of problems. Better not to go there.

    As for how I can help you in a session, for any kind of emotional and spiritual (and social) growth… first set up a phone or Skype session for 55 minutes.

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    Rose Rosetree says:

    Together we’ll figure out an appropriate intention for your session.

    I don’t discuss your (personal) intention for a session on the blog. (Something else that isn’t appropriate to do, actually.)

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    Rose Rosetree says:

    Another point of possible interest. You don’t book sessions of Soul Energy Awakening Hypnosis(R) until you’ve had at least one current session of RES Energy HEALING or RES Energy READING.

    Why is that? To make sure that past-life regression is appropriate for you at this time. The success rate for these sessions is dazzling, and taking this precaution is one reason why.

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