Friending God? Sweet! Except what if you’re not sure that your prayer skills are “perfect”?
Well, your relationship with God need not depend on prayer. Or [any other one thing].
(Fill in that blank with any religious obligation that occurs to you. What do you think might be a requirement for having It? The relationship of your dreams. Like the closeness you have wished for, a lively and productive and very personal relationship with God.)
Friending God. Both You And God Are Good At That.
Already that relationship might be better than you think.
But do you realize how easy it can be, friending God in a new and wonderful way?
- Historically you might have had a somewhat tortured, guilt-ridden relationship. Well, if you continue being stuck in that manner, consider. That’s on you. Go change it.
- Okay, maybe a certain insecurity in your relationship with God was caused by your upbringing. Might I suggest? If you, as an adult, continue to relate to God just as you were taught as a child… only you can change that. Otherwise, pardon my saying again, that’s on you.
- You might find some relief in a session of Rosetree Energy Spirituality (RES) with the intention “To improve my relationship to God.” Many skill sets are available to an RES expert. Including (but not limited to) cutting your cord of attachment to God.
Receiving great love from God is available to you as easily as sending a FRIEND REQUEST on Facebook. Or finally clicking on ACCEPT.
Always, always, always, you can have instant success at friending God!
Also, Here’s a Consoling Thought
If, like me, you do go onto Facebook sometimes, you can appreciate this reassuring truth. Whatever the nature of your friending with God so far, even if sometimes you worry about the perfection of that relationship, guess what?
Friending God will never, ever turn out like one of those icky relationships on FB. You know, where a “friend” sends you strange leering messages that begin, “Hi. What are you doing?”
Really, why wouldn’t the essence of goodness and love be well behaved?
Today’s post fits into an ongoing series on prayer, with links to our earlier articles provided at the end of this one.
Now let’s explore practical aspects of your relationship with God. Because it’s cruel to pressure yourself with the common notion, “If I’m not really sure how to pray, I feel a little weird. Because deep down I might have no true connection to God… in the way that other people do.”
Ouch! This Enlightenment Coach has encountered so many sad misunderstandings, including this one. Let’s inspire your spiritual awakening with a bunch of ideas for friending God. They’ll work, no matter what.
Friending God Idea #1. Choose the Intensity that Works for You Now
You really do have say-so. Insecurity isn’t God’s problem. Therefore, don’t worry about whether your side of the friendship will be acceptable.
Friending God, you are the one who chooses whether to get close or stay casual. On any given day. Or period in your life. Always, you’re the one to choose.
But what about that so-called prayer requirement? So many of us feel weird about that, like some guilty secret. Suppose that prayer means “Connecting directly with God in the most personal way.” Well, maybe you’re into that now. Maybe not.
Please know that prayer need not define your relationship.
You’ve got other options. Like talking to God occasionally. Engaging in public prayer through religion. Yelping, “Oh, God!” when upset. Or simply knowing that God is there when needed.
Friending God Idea #2. Don’t Ask Any One Friend to Meet All Your Needs
Not possible. No human friend can do that. Hello, neither can God.
Paradoxically or not, that’s one of the limitations of Almighty God.
Why, why, why? Because you are human, and living on earth.
Have you failed if friending God doesn’t solve all your problems, especially your human problems?
No, that would really not count as a failure in your relationship with God.
As noted in my how-to book about co-creating with God, you do not have to live as God’s begging child. You can become God’s grownup.
As a grownup, you can strive to solve your own human problems. And learn, in the process.
Friending God Idea #3. Discover Every Day What That Relationship DOES Give You
A true relationship is fresh, right? Constant but also ever-changing.
Yet what’s the most confusing thing about friending God? It might be all the expectations delivered by religion. Here I’m not just referring to the Sunday School classes you took (maybe) back in the day. Unrealistic expectations are rife in collective consciousness. For sure, you’ve been taking that class every day of your life. Ugh!
Pop culture expectations about God can be cartoonishly dramatic, unrealistic, outright lies, even exaggerations designed to manipulate people who care about God. Plus the usual suspects, ever-appealing cult-like ideologies. In my experience, personally and also from what I’ve learned so far as an Enlightenment Coach:
God is not a rapist.
God is not going to carry you off in some other intense, weird manner.
That’s wouldn’t be friendship, really, would it?
Granted, some people do have an intense spiritual calling. Yet even that need not involve drama. It’s personal, negotiated between that soul and that soul’s creator.
In real life today, in this Age of Awakening, people are not obligated to make human sacrifices. Not of small animals. Nor sacrificing large animals. Nor sacrificing humans. And also not making your own life into a sacrificial offering.
Although sacrifice and high drama have not been required since Old Testament days, many of us were taught outdated ideas that God requires big sacrifice. Not true.
Also not true? That friendship with God gives you — or anyone — the right to blame.
Friending God Idea #4. Avoid Blaming God for Human Problems
Suppose that you have a good friend, Joe. He’s a great friend, and he really loves you.
Is it Joe’s fault that Trump just became president?
What if you’re struggling with an addiction, or financial loss, or emotional turmoil? Does it make sense to blame Joe?
No problems that you or I have while living here at Earth School… are God’s fault.
God is the Creator. God is with you right now, and can be with you as strongly as you wish the friendhip to be.
However God’s job is not to play The Almighty Rescuer in some co-dependent fantasy. Including the (so-easy to sentimentalize) search for miracles.
Fortunately, God’s “miracles” include human helpers, including health professionals, mental health professionals, and experts in the emerging profession of RES.
Turn to humans to help you solve human problems. Demanding that God fast-track you to solutions… isn’t the purpose of prayer. Nor does this count as appropriate friending, right?
Friending God Idea #5. Have a Think. Then a Talk.
If you like, this could become your prayer project, just for today: Fine-tune your relationship with God.
Alternatively you could walk around anywhere and talk to God out loud. Just as if God were there in the air. Or sitting on your favorite armchair. (Just so long as you’re not currently sitting on that same chair, which would be way too confusing.)
- Right from the moment when you say or think God’s name, you are connected. Trust that.
- So why not describe what you’d like? And maybe feel God’s non-human, energetic, right-sized response.
- You could go on to celebrate that relationship. Express gratitude. Or whatever else is on your mind.
- Afterwards, expect your human life to go on. Bolstered by a bit of glow, a softness, a sense of loving-kindness.
- Not that you will be given some obvious sign, like a lollipop. Or a miracle. And, supposedly, otherwise you’ve failed.
What is the proof of a successful prayer or spiritual exercise? Something subtle. Really, don’t expect that now God will give you a pony.
Friending God Idea #6. You and God Set the Terms of Your Relationship, Nobody Else
Forget what other people have said or bragged about their own relationships with God. Including their notions of spiritual awakening or Enlightenment. That personal relationship is nobody else’s business. It’s private.
Clearly, as an Enlightenment Coach, I believe that it’s possible for my clients to evolve spiritually. That’s why I’ll give clients help during a personal session. Specific help, based on the energy READING skills and the energy HEALING skills of RES. All of which involve co-creating with God. With a hearty helping of encouragement for my client’s self-authority.
Beware any spiritual teacher who doesn’t offer both:
- Something that really helps you. Helps. YOU.
- Respect for your spiritual self-authority.
During the years when I studied with Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, and worked for him, my guru taught me a lot that was true. And his Transcendental Meditation did help me for the first couple of years. (Afterwards, maybe not so much.)
In retrospect, he sure did make fun of prayer for people who were not in Enlightenment yet. “It’s just mood-making,” he’d say.
Sadly, this is one of the ways that Maharishi turned on a dime, dipped into moral culpability, slipped from being an authentic spiritual teacher into becoming the leader of a cult.
Whatever your level of consciousness, or degree of perfection (however your ideals cause you to calculate that), whatever! You can always have a relationship with God.
- Gently empowering.
- Bringing stability.
- Refreshing the screen of your consciousness with sublime mystery.
Friending God Idea #7. Appropriate Expectations Would Sure Be a Plus
Because friends don’t control your mind. Like some kind of wierdly mutated, out-of control, GPS.
Your relationship with God right now… is what it is. You share it. That friending is for real.
And it will keep on growing. So, in a world with many problems, may worrying about your relationship with God be the least of your problems.
Friending God might already be the sweetest of your many blessings.