Social engagement in these early years of The Age of Awakening? Such a mess!
Today’s post aims to help you to improve social engagement, helping yourself and maybe also helping others.
Since now it’s confusing. Maybe related to how many of us are struggling to live in this Age of Awakening which has crept up on us.
So many of us are finding our way with difficulty. Unaware of what appropriate social engagement would even look like! Let alone knowing how to pursue it.
Yet that’s a conversation we can begin with today’s article.
Social Engagement — Do We Even Know What We’re Missing?
What is social engagement, anyway?
Social engagement refers to one’s degree of participation in a community or society. (Similar terms are social involvement and social participation.)
You could say, social engagement is a combo of paying attention and using decent manners.
Before we go into exploring appropriate social engagement, let’s add one more important definition. What is The Age of Awakening. A big-deal change, impacting you and everyone else on earth. It began with the Shift into this Age of Awakening.
What if you don’t know anything more than that, except maybe that leftover term from the sixties, “Age of Aquarius”? Please read this article. And maybe also read this book, which helps you to make the most of living now. All that said…
Some Social Engagement Today Is Way Too Small
Don’t you have stories about this, Blog-Buddies? Crazy-making incidents, where you’re left scratching your head and going “Huh? Did this just happen?”
Like some people you talk to. Folks right in front of you. Even while you’re talking to them, somehow they don’t appear to hear you. Nor do they, apparently, feel the need to respond to you in any way.
Recently I shared the story of my friend Joe, who did a big grocery shop, then planned to take Uber home. After the car arrived, he placed his bags of food on the left side of the passenger seat, closing the door.
Walking around the back of the car to get into his own seat, Joe was quite startled to see the car take off and drive away. Fortunately, the car returned after “only” 20 minutes. Apparently clueless about social engagement, the Uber guy drove all the way to Joe’s home before realizing that no human passenger had entered his car.
Happy ending! Mr. Uber picked up Joe, reunited him with his groceries, and drove them both home.
You can see an equally outrageous story from DAVID B. if you click on Comment #25 at a conversation that didn’t even begin… with the aim of lamenting the lack of appropriate social engagement.
Some Social Engagement Is Way Too Big
At the opposite extreme, have you noticed all the TMI lately? Way too much information!
TMI isn’t appropriate social engagement. No matter which technology you’re using.
If you play on Facebook, you can find random examples of TMI that will stop you in your scampering tracks.
Especially if, like me, you’ve got loads of FB friends, some of whom you know and others who are relative strangers.
It’s awkward enough when a near-stranger decides to “share” the details of his psychological mess-up. But what do you do when the TMI comes someone you know and care about (outside of engagement in social media).
Honest to goodness, this is what “Gladys” sent out this year:
“My adoptive Dad is finally at peace. He died. He was a pedophile and rapist. I forgave him in August when I cut his fingernails and toenails. [Many more highly personal details follow.] I have come a long way in my recovery from a traumatized childhood.”
Notably, Gladys isn’t one of the folks who conducts much of her real social life on FB, carefully culling her small list of friends.
Hardly! Gladys is in the “Thousands of FB Friends” game. All of us were treated to this? Along with FBs usual food porn and humble-bragging and cute little jokes.
Again, outrageous stories, anyone? (Blog-Buddies, I’m not asking for details of your traumas. Rather, have you been startled by TMI shares on social media?)
Seeking Enlightenment Is No Substitute for Social Engagement
God will never fail you. I agree.
Yet this Enlightenment Coach has found a fascinating link between people who don’t like their human lives and folks who seek spiritual awakening.
Higher states of consciousness don’t arrive because we’re disgusted with human beings.
And following a path of detachment may come naturally to those who struggle with social engagement. Yet that’s not a path to bring you either to Age of Awakening Enlightenment or to Traditional Enlightenment.
Doesn’t that make sense?
Appropriate Engagement — A Vibrational Perspective
“Irresistible” has been getting good press these days. Adam Alter’s important book deserves to become a bestseller. Although I haven’t read it yet, I’ve read enough about it to applaud Alter. He’s alerting consumers of technology and social media that we might be wise to back off.
But the main problem isn’t just our technology and how it’s purposely made to be as addictive as possible. To this Enlightenment Coach, a bigger problem involves how badly most people are adjusting to today’s new vibrational freedom.
Can you remember when it became socially acceptable to share unbelievably intimate details of one’s personal history? Who comes to mind?
Thank You, Oprah Winfrey
America’s most popular TV talk show… ever… happened during the New Age Years. Not exactly 1980 – Dec. 21, 2012. But awfully close.
Oprah’s reign on TV lasted for 25 seasons, from September 8, 1986 to May 25, 2011. During those years of spiritual awakening, leading up to The Age of Awakening, America needed someone like Oprah.
Many of you Blog-Buddies may be grateful to her. She was part of an opening up of public conversation, helping people to acknowledge their own subconscious fears and emerging energy sensitivity.
But now that we’re finally in The Age of Awakening, it’s time to get a grip. A grip on reality. On good manners. On appropriate social engagement.
7 Ways to Upgrade Social Engagement
Might I suggest?
- To improve conversations, stop with the Boundary Talk, already. Don’t analyze anyone’s subconscious patterns, or ask them to help you with the boundaries in your relationships. Just speak up for what you want the other person to say or do in human reality.
- Use social skills, like talking to people out loud. Or saying, if they ignore you, “Excuse me? I’m talking to you right now.”
- Notice what people say and do. At mealtime, ask your companions to turn off that mobile phone!
- Distinguish human-talk from the astral alternatives. Yes, it’s possible to bring conversations back to human vibrational frequencies. Not only good for you but good for others as well!
- Right-size your social engagement. Don’t talk to a total stranger, on FB or elsewhere, as if you were sharing with your best friend.
- Empath Empowerment® skills sure can help. (And here I’ll put in a plug for the once-a-year live workshop for empaths, this coming weekend, March 25-26.)
- Energy HEALING sessions of RES can help when you want to change behavior but, somehow, can’t. Each of these RES experts has real skills to help you on your path of personal growth and spiritual awakening.
And do you Blog-Buddies have any other tips or resources to share for fixing the massive problem of today’s social engagement?