Changing Friendships. As in, “What happened to my old friends?”
Social isolation is on the rise for many of us. In a way, that might be a good thing. For now. (To see why, keep reading.)
Overall I’m aiming to bring a fresh perspective — that’s the goal today.
Please know that this article is a Part One of Two. Together, these online conversations may help you improve your social life.
Changing Friendships for Gladys
Blog-Buddies, I promised Gladys I’d write these two articles. Because here’s her tale of surprise and sorrow:
For 20 years, I had a best friend, “Zena.” We could talk about anything.
Right from when we first met, it was special. How we clicked.
Not many things in life were sure. But one thing I was sure of: How we would be friends for life.
Except Zena just ended our friendship. Done. And she couldn’t even tell me why!
Especially upsetting for Gladys? Already she was going through a rough patch socially. Not only didn’t she have a best friend any more. Now she had no close friends. Whatsoever!
Hopefully, Blog-Buddies, you’re not going through such loneliness. But it wouldn’t be at all surprising if you too have had friendships just end. Inexplicably end! Particularly over the last year or two.
Changing Friendships for Nearly Everyone
Sociologists and psychologists could busy themselves studying nothing but:
Worth acknowledging, sure. But here let’s take bring a perspective informed by RES Energy READING and Energy HEALING. My everyday conversations with clients like wonderful Gladys. Who, clearly, would be a treasure for any friend.
So what’s with that zany Zena?
Changing Friendships in The Age of Awakening
In your friendship life, you may aim for business as usual. But your not living on earth as usual.
The Shift into The Age of Awakening changed everything. Even if Dec. 21, 2012 is long gone. Was widely heralded, back in the day. And even more widely ignored.
We humans have a new vibrational freedom. Struggling to use it. Mostly clueless about what to do with it.
Each of you, smart Blog-Buddies, are an exception. Insecure though you may sometimes feel, you benefit from living The New Strong. Consequently, you’re not likely to shift, gradually, into:
- Spiritual Shutdown
- Spiritual Addiction
- Or the many socially available ways to get stuck in personal growth. Popular ways that propel unsuspecting folks into either of these two consciousness lifestyles.
Changing Friendships Because You’re Still YOU
Rejection hurts. Especially if you’re aiming to be friends for life. And you’re still there for Zena. Like Old Faithful.
But Maybe Others Are No Longer Terribly Interested In Being Themselves
What takes precedence? Here are just some of the popular pulls:
- Oh, the allure of a cult! Like (pardon my saying) the huge megachurch in your neighborhood “everyone” loves.
- Alternatively, consider the allure of the CrossFit crowd. Or anything health-related that’s “so good for you.” Providing instant intimacy due to shared interests.
- Check out today’s stats on making marijuana your new best friend. (Even if weed isn’t billed as such.)
- One can always make friends just like in “Cheers” — the beloved classic TV series. Starring sexy, funny alcoholics. Not so much the people you’ll really find in bars. More like the kind of people those bar regulars imagine themselves to be.
- Even finding consolation in opioids. Amazingly, in 2016 alone… Opioids have killed more Americans than the number of soldiers who died in the Vietnam War.And the number of addicts continues to rise.
You Manage to Avoid All Those Traps But Then…
Zena still dumps you as a friend. And that hurts.
“Congratulations!” I could have told Gladys. Or you, Blog-Buddies, if you’ve been in a similar friendship fix.
Well done, if you don’t have all those instant friends due to previously mentioned Pulls 1-5. Making your tried-and-true friends “disposable.”
Changing Friendships Because of Different Speeds, Growing
Here’s another reason why, on reflection, you might feel good. Yes, good. About certain lost friendships.
With The Age of Awakening, we’ve got wonderful opportunities for rapid spiritual evolution. (For instance, check out this recent article about a guy who’s sailed through three virtual reincarnations.)
Gladys is evolving fast. Like you. However, many people are not. Some are dawdling, others deeply stuck. Which won’t necessarily show, unless you learn energetic literacy.
Guess what? Who’s going to be uncomfortable in the following scenario:
Suppose you’re like Gladys. Due to various choices, you have gained a great deal of spiritual awakening in 2017. Integrating it beautifully. Not having to talk about what you do for your Technique Time. Just quietly doing it. Otherwise talking about the usual topics with your friend Zena.
While Zena doesn’t just talk the same topics. She’s trying to party like it’s still 1980. Or, at least, pursue the same interests. Resisting significant growth. Even if, to her credit, she’s managed to avoid traps like cults and opioids.
So which friend is more likely to dump the other?
Changing Friendships. The Cranky Factor
Zena, of course.
Because Gladys is becoming increasingly big-hearted, powerful, living zestfully.
While Zena can’t help but notice… subconsciously. Since everyone is impacted by knowledge from auric modeling. How our auras tell all… subconsciously.
Although Zena doesn’t want to envy her friend. Or act cranky. She just can’t help herself.
Please Don’t Blame Yourself for Changing Friendships
Blog-Buddies, please comment below. It’s not wallowing if you share your experiences. The strangeness of being dumped. Or having people you approach for friendship… freeze up in a way that makes zero sense to you.
Changing friendships for those of us in the early, discombobulated years of The Age of Awakening.
How have you handled this?