False Confidence. Today let’s explore when confidence is authentic versus an illusion or even a trap.
Perspective comes from my research with energetic literacy. Which brings us clarity about what really work. Versus what doesn’t.
Research done on self-actualizing RES clients. Who are parlaying their spiritual awakening into positive progress.
Possible for you, whatever your path. Since a faster rate of progress is available now, in The Age of Awakening.
Definitely, what you don’t know about true confidence versus the false kind… Can wreck the outcome of your goal setting.
Today’s exploration will expand upon our first discussion of misguided goal setting. With excellent comments from some of you Blog-Buddies. Check it out here.
What’s Confidence Supposed to Help, Anyway?
Such an illusion! Considering the pursuit of self-confidence… as the ultimate fix-it.
What causes a lack of confidence? Sometimes it’s inexperience. As if Gladys told you:
“I’ve just started singing lessons. So next month I’m trying out for “American Idol.” Except I just don’t have confidence, for some reason. I’m trying hard to work on my confidence.”
Blog-Buddies, you wouldn’t fall into that sort of trap, would you? Because you know better than to confuse objective reality with subjective reality.
As in, lacking actual vocal skills, no wonder Gladys feels a bit uncomfortable.
False, fakey self-confidence won’t substitute for developing actual skills.
Usually, (False) Confidence Is Supposed to Fix Inner Problems
Such as? What Joe wrote in the previous post. Where he set himself this goal:
“To have all the confidence I need (and then some!) to live from this day forward unafraid to experience my whole human life.”
As you may know if you’ve read about RES Energy HEALING, what’s stuck in Joe? Why wouldn’t he live with unabashed curiosity and verve?
Literal, astral thingies: STUFF. Which, through no fault of your own, gets stuck in your subconscious mind. And mine. And Joe’s.
But does your conscious mind know specifics about what’s stuck there? That’s impossible.
Nope, in terms of your aura, STUFF means astral-level energy garbage. In terms of your mind, STUFF means emotional debris withing your subconscious mind.
And yet, supposedly, all you need to is put a big fake smile on your face. Seeming confident. Feeling confident. And that will fix everything. Vanquishing STUFF.
Such a Widespread Illusion!
Blog-Buddies, I’m going to list a few cliches and feel-good songs that come to mind. Where “being positive” or “pretending to feel confident” are proposed as GREAT ADVICE. Have they influenced you?
- Fake it ’till you make it.
- “I Whistle a Happy Tune“
- “Smile Though Your Heart Is Breaking” (Here I’ve linked to a gorgeous performance of the song by Josh Groban. Almost enough to send me into a trance of belief. But not quite. 😉 )
Blog-Buddies, where else have you heard this kind of idea? So ridiculously popular!
And why do you think that is? Please share below.
Uh-Oh. False Confidence Doesn’t Budge STUFF
And even if you did know about all your inner problems… Even if you analyzed those problems meticulously… That still wouldn’t budge the STUFF that you have stuck within you, both subconsciously and energetically.
Sessions of RES Energy HEALING aren’t the only effective way to move out STUFF. But they do work. And so can certain self-healing skills you might learn.
On the other hand… Does positive thinking budge STUFF and build authentic confidence? What do you’ all think.
This is why it’s important to recognize how… When people speak of confidence as a goal… Usually it’s an illusion.
Even Worse, False Confidence Can Be a Trap
Why? Because we can’t progress when we’re busy persuading ourselves that a lie is true.
As discussed in a recent critique of some pretty disgusting techniques that are offered to empaths. The blind leading the blind!
And it gets worse. Just because…
We’re Living In The Age of Awakening Now
Whether you call it the Shift Age or the Aquarian Age or the Age of Aquarius, same deal. Fake confidence just doesn’t work any more.
Living in The Age of Awakening, you’re energy sensitive by now, right? Everybody who wants to be is.
Especially if you are energy sensitive, how great do you think it is, lying to yourself?
The end (self-actualization) just doesn’t justify the means (false confidence or other lies). Plus that means won’t work. Ironically, pushing false confidence will set you back.
Even for honest people… Trying to have something that you really don’t have is, simply, fake.
Yes, even for big idealists, like me and (probably) you.
True, somebody in Enlightenment may possess a quiet confidence. But you sure don’t move towards Enlightenment by copying that quiet confidence.
Cart before the horse? Not a great way to travel!
Setting Goals, It’s Easy to Avoid Lying
After all, don’t you know whether or not you’re lying to yourself? Not as a perpetual form of torture, lie-detecting yourself. More like occasionally wondering, “Does that feel right?”
Particularly when writing down personal goals.
- Does that ring true?
- And does that make sense?
- Or even, does that look right or not?
- Perhaps you prefer my fave: Does that pass the sniff test?
What’s Better than Resolving to Feel Confident?
Choose honesty. A comfortable, everyday honesty.
That allows your everyday experiences in life to become informative! Interesting! Even spiritually evolutionary!
So here’s to having exactly as much confidence as you happen to have! And, with that, use the skills you’ve developed.
Because, in The Age of Awakening, integrity matters far more than confidence.